To Tell Or Not To Tell...

[Andeyhollawho]

The no snitching phenom has gone too damn far.

Ex-girlfriend hit me up this afternoon. Out of the blue and unexpected. Crying. No one else to talk to. Whatever. One of her friends has been dating a dude that I know of for about 5 years. He is kind of how we hooked up. Ex is good friends with him. Long story. Again whatever.

She tells me that her friend came to her and asked her for money to help get an abortion. The kicker is she don't want to ask dude for the money because nine times out of ten THIS BABY IS NOT HIS!

She goes on to tell me how she has been knowing she been creeping for a while. She has had clues here and there. Again this is HER friend...the guy and the girl...her friends. Now I <-------Me <----------I am now a fall guy in this shit.

She don't want to tell ol' boy cause she don't want him to leave her friend. So she trying to guilt trip my ass into doing it. Fucked up thing is it's working. For the simple fact that if this girl is pregnant then she let somebody hit it raw (probably) and no telling what she could have gave ol' boy. He need to know right? He need to get checked out at least.

But I don't know this dude like that. We cool, but what in the fuck main. This is why I left her manipulating ass in the first place. Goddamn it.

Should I leave this shit alone or just tell this man and get it over with.

 

[doggish_098]

stay in your lane and leave it alone.

 

[AlexandMorgan]

If he catches something or kills someone over the trifling cheating ho will it bother you?

If not ignore it, but as to giving a woman or lending her money to perpetuate or to hide her dirty deeds you will be putting yourself smack dab in the middle of it. Let her or her friend use their credit card mayne.

You aint the bank of andey.

 

[kjxxxx]

If he catches something or kills someone over the trifling cheating ho will it bother you?

If not ignore it, but as to giving a woman or lending her money to perpetuate or to hide her dirty deeds you will be putting yourself smack dab in the middle of it. Let her or her friend use their credit card mayne.

You aint the bank of andey.

Well said.

I see where the original poster is coming from also but dude may not want to know either or he may suspect she creeping but letting it slide. When friends and others around him start bringing it back to him then he may start going crazy. She may make him happy enough to overlook her cheating. But then when others get involved that shit will quickly escalate to anger.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Well said.

I see where the original poster is coming from also but dude may not want to know either or he may suspect she creeping but letting it slide. When friends and others around him start bringing it back to him then he may start going crazy. She may make him happy enough to overlook her cheating. But then when others get involved that shit will quickly escalate to anger.

My thing is cuz if she creeping hard enough to get preggo...no telling what she bringing home.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

If he catches something or kills someone over the trifling cheating ho will it bother you?

If not ignore it, but as to giving a woman or lending her money to perpetuate or to hide her dirty deeds you will be putting yourself smack dab in the middle of it. Let her or her friend use their credit card mayne.

You aint the bank of andey.

No money Alex. I'm not going that far.

 

[Shadow]

See that dotted line in the middle?

Don't go on the left of it....

 

[greygoose]

walk away.

i never get involved in other people's bullshit. when that ship starts to sink trust me you'll be caught in the crossfire. its best to be ghost like swayze on this one.
and why is your ex crying anyway? she aint the one with the kid nor is she the one dating the dude....?

i gotta roll with alex on this one

 

[caramelcute]

Man coming from a female, leave that alone. You had nothing to do with how the situation started, you should have nothing to do with how the situation ends.

 

[bgque12]

TELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if the shoe was on the other foot you know the woman would sprain her tongue telling the shit. Besides, it's not like she's your wife, hell, she's not even your girl.

 

[mrjody]

The only thing you get from getting mixed up with a bitches shit
is stinky peanuts...

 

[Noir]

Why is your ex perpetuating a false relationship based on infidelity and deception by not wanting the guy to know that his girlfriend has not only been cheating, but has been having unprotected sex, and has gotten pregnant? If it was the other way around, the guy would have been raked over the coals and had his nuts handed to him in a second.

If you wish to help:

1) Tell your ex to bring her friend to a Planned Parenthood clinic or other similar organization where she can have an abortion for free or for low cost.

2) Next, tell your ex to bring her friend to a public health clinic where she can be checked for STDs. If heaven forbid she has an STD, the public health clinic can anonymously notify the boyfriend (and dude she was creeping with) that they have been exposed to an STD (though he may figure out it was her if he has been monogamous for awhile).

3) If this girl suddenly decided to "keep the baby", I would then break silence and advise the guy to definitely get a paternity test before he puts his name on a birth certificate or commit to taking care of the child.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

walk away.

i never get involved in other people's bullshit. when that ship starts to sink trust me you'll be caught in the crossfire. its best to be ghost like swayze on this one.
and why is your ex crying anyway? she aint the one with the kid nor is she the one dating the dude....?

i gotta roll with alex on this one

I think she crying to me goose trying to get me to do her dirty work. She feeling bad about the shit so she want me to feel bad about it too so I will tell. I'm gonna try to just walk on this shit though.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Why is your ex perpetuating a false relationship based on infidelity and deception by not wanting the guy to know that his girlfriend has not only been cheating, but has been having unprotected sex, and has gotten pregnant? If it was the other way around, the guy would have been raked over the coals and had his nuts handed to him in a second.

If you wish to help:

1) Tell your ex to bring her friend to a Planned Parenthood clinic or other similar organization where she can have an abortion for free or for low cost.

2) Next, tell your ex to bring her friend to a public health clinic where she can be checked for STDs. If heaven forbid she has an STD, the public health clinic can anonymously notify the boyfriend (and dude she was creeping with) that they have been exposed to an STD (though he may figure out it was her if he has been monogamous for awhile).

3) If this girl suddenly decided to "keep the baby", I would then break silence and advise the guy to definitely get a paternity test before he puts his name on a birth certificate or commit to taking care of the child.

Good advice cuz. I won't let it get to that level of him thinking he daddy to another man child. I just couldn't do that to him. But she putting him at risk. If it wasn't for that I probably wouldn't give a damn either way.

But if my girl was out being unprotected with her disrespect then I would like to know. But as stated above it's not my place. That clinic thing sound good. In fact i'm gonna try to convince my ex to tell her that the STD test is mandatory and see how it go.

 

[Cleopatra_J]

Trifling ass hoes!!!! They make it bad for women everywhere!!!!!


If you gonna step out on ya man, at least protect ya self... Sheesh!!!

Andey... I say stay the hell out of it.. it's not you're place, you said you and the guy aren't really that cool... Tell the girl to stop bringing you in shit that you don't belong in... she had an agenda when she called you, don't feed into it...

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Quick update...

Ol' girl has been trying to get me and ol' boy together all week. Remember this is my EX here. Not the current girl I am talking to. She been calling the crib, talking to my new girl on some...Me and "Andey" got business what's it to you shit. Now I got to explain the situation to new girl who is very soon to be ex girl part 2 if I don't handle this shit.

New girl don't understand and don't want to. Ex calling crying talking about she need me is not a good damn thing at all in her eyes. I tend to agree. I think she is trying to paint me in a corner, but I'm not going. Ya'll are right and I'm not touching this shit.

 

[Noir]

Quick update...

Ol' girl has been trying to get me and ol' boy together all week. Remember this is my EX here. Not the current girl I am talking to. She been calling the crib, talking to my new girl on some...Me and "Andey" got business what's it to you shit. Now I got to explain the situation to new girl who is very soon to be ex girl part 2 if I don't handle this shit.

New girl don't understand and don't want to. Ex calling crying talking about she need me is not a good damn thing at all in her eyes. I tend to agree. I think she is trying to paint me in a corner, but I'm not going. Ya'll are right and I'm not touching this shit.

You are correct, your only concern now should be with your current girl and making her understand that you do not want anything to do with your ex and her fucked up situation she's trying to get you involved in. Cut the bitch off quick.