Ladies, i need your help...what do you concider cheating?

[whoalilmomma]

i'll fully agree with that statement if you fully agree with this statement:

a woman with her back to the wall will have sex to get out of the predicament.

translated. you have 3 kids, not a crumb in the house, no one will hire you and the sherriff is there to evict you out on the street. you have no where to go the shelter is full and someone comes along and offers you 10k for consentual sex.

do you

A. take the money have sex pay your back rent get some food in your house

or

B. stand on your morals take your kids and sleep on the park bench in the snow that night in hopes of room at a shelter tomorrow?

When did this thread become about women and what they will or won't do to feed their kids?

Let's get back to the main point: DUDE FUCKED UP. Regardless of the woman's intentions, HE was the one that had a girl, HE was the one that went over the house, HE was the one that inquired into why she was sweaty (if that ain't some shit....), He was the one that sent his girl to fucking voicemail, HE was the one that let some trifling broad slob on his knob.

What else is there to it?

 

[PrincessC]

any attractive woman knows they can seduce a man easily.

i've seen the most hardened church goes get broken down by pussy. it's not a morals thing or respect thing. it's a nature thing.

No it's not a nature thing... it's a lack of self control thing.

 

[YouLikeMyStyle]

1. Don't tell her. No reason to let this broad mess up your relationship. By telling your girl it makes this other chick important. Obviously she set out to break you two up or she wouldn't have done what she did.

2. Did you tell your girl you were going to this chick's house in the first place? If you didn't, this makes you waaaayyy more guilty.

 

[thismybgolname]

i consider that entrapment, more then i consider it cheating.

co-sign.

And if this brother is anything like me then he probably really thought it was innocent up until the point that the bitch was half naked.

I will give you credit for leaving.

 

[Mr. Lawng]

Damn kid you came to the wrong board looking for sympathy
But, I feel you though, you fucked up. Shit happens, especially when you're in a relationship. When you in a relationship it seems like pussy be coming at you from everywher, no matter how much you mind your own business. All you could do now is stay away from ol' girl because to quote a previous board member "she is triflin".

 

[somebodyshome]

i have a situation i got my self into recently, i must say im normally a good dude i dont cheat, i do a hell of alot of flirting but never cross the physical barrier.

my problem came from this chic i work with, she knows im into computers and what not and hooking up ipods, so she asks me to come over to her house because her daughter's lpod touch would freeze whenever she plugged it in, I agreed to come take a look but when I got to the home the script was completely flipped!

I was a lil shocked when i got there and the kid was not there, but i went on in like a dummy. babygirl was wearing a sports bra and some tight assed workout pants...(should have know something was up cuz her nipples were hard as helll and visible through her bra) anyway she shows me around the house a lil and then asked if i wanted a drink, i say im cool she ask agian i say ok ill have some water so i have a seat in front of the computer and watch her walk out of the room her back still glistening with sweat from her work out. a few seconds later i hear her say..."I see you trying to ignore me"

im like Huh? she was like you heard me, so i quickly tried to change the subject cuz my mind was already starting to lose a lil blood...the lil head was taking over. so i ask what was for in here doing before i came in you all sweaty and shit. she said "wanna see?" my dumb ass say yeah...

she pulls a hula hoop from behind her couch and begins this ignorantly sexy dance with it saying this is how she been keeping in shape. by this time i am visible erect and she knows it, i say girl you crazy and turn around to the comp to try and calm down. she said "I aint done yet" and turn the chair around with her foot, dropped the hula hoop and started dancing in front of me saying you like my routine. im like that the kind of shit that can get both of us in trouble! I try to focus on the problem at hand and tell her i dont see nothing wrong with this ipod she say "i know" and climbs on my lap and starts grinding on me, my dick was hard as calculus.

I fell for it head first, we did a little kissing and she sat back and pulled the bra off, them titties were looking so damn good, i couldn't resist i started kissing he neck and sucking on those titties, she stood up and was like "damn you see what you doing to me" her pussy was so wet it was soaking through her pants...

she pulled them off and got back on my lap and started reaching for my dick. i let her pull it out, then it dawned on me what i was doing, i was like hold up i cant do this, i tell her to get up she did but didnt let my dick go she kept stroking it, i stand up and pushed her hand away, she said I just want to feel it i aint gonna tell anyone" and drops to her knees and started serving my dick the sht felt so damn good...just as i was getting ready to say "FUCK IT" my phone rang....guess who it is my MF'n girl, i send it to voicemail and she calls right back i had to answer.

i tell ol girl to stop and be quiet she did just long enough for me to answer my phone, and she got right back to it here i am with my dick halfway down this chic throat trying to explain to my girl why im late to pick her up. my girl is like what are you doing, i tell her i just jumped out of the shower to answer the phone she buys it and says "hurry up" I hang up and started to feel like shit i pushed ol girl off my shit ad put my dick up grabbed my jacket and jetted.

I have a feeling my girl already know! what are the chances of her calling me right as this shit was going down. I know i am wrong and i dont want to tell her but my questions is in this situation was i cheating? would you leave you dude if he told you this?

You shoulda been out right about here (bolded print)! ......But forreal you need to tell ya girl because the longer you wait to tell her, the madder she'll be. Y'all dudes kill me!! Its always some (most cases) less attractive, highly DESPERATE female y'all fall for, as if y'all don't have any standards. ..and I don't know about the rest of the ladies in here, but a man with medium to low standards is one hell of a turn-off!!! Ain't nothing get my pussy wetter than if a man comes in tells me what "just happened" and how he told that whore "I do appreciate the offer, but I can get my dick sucked by my lady....In a matter of fact I'm scheduled to beat the pussy in in abooouuut 20mins. Thanks, see ya later...and good-bye!! Now if your girl is anything like me, she will look at you different (when you tell her) and preparing her knee pads for...someone else, not YOU!!

 

[somebodyshome]

1. Don't tell her. No reason to let this broad mess up your relationship. By telling your girl it makes this other chick important. Obviously she set out to break you two up or she wouldn't have done what she did.

2. Did you tell your girl you were going to this chick's house in the first place? If you didn't, this makes you waaaayyy more guilty.

It doesn't necessarily make the other chick important, but it makes the situation important...and it is! Either it will make the relationship stronger or not. Think if the situation was reversed, what would you like to be done to you. Do you want HER to tell you if she fucked up, or not?? Depending on your answer is what you should do.

 

[YouLikeMyStyle]

It doesn't necessarily make the other chick important, but it makes the situation important...and it is! Either it will make the relationship stronger or not. Think if the situation was reversed, what would you like to be done to you. Do you want HER to tell you if she fucked up, or not?? Depending on your answer is what you should do.

I wouldn't want to know something like this. He's not leaving me for her, and he did leave. I don't think everything is meant to be told. There are times to be 100% honest, but this aint it. This will ruin their relationship and will not add to it being stronger

 

[jucurious]

I wouldn't want to know something like this. He's not leaving me for her, and he did leave. I don't think everything is meant to be told. There are times to be 100% honest, but this aint it. This will ruin their relationship and will not add to it being stronger

so your saying it's more comfortable for you to be living in the dark in a relationship?

he prolly wouldn't have left if he didn't get that phone call. whose to say they wont fuck next time...i mean they work 2gether and everyone knows it easy to go back to something u already had.

i mean you go to his job this chic is smiling in your face after she just made UR man send UR message to voicemail

and then he prolly gonna smile in her face talkin bout i love u...pft bullshit.

relationships built on lies and secrets have faulty foundation and what happens in the dark will soon come to light.

iono, maybe its just me but the longer u take to come clean the more i'm going to be pissed at u. if u did something yesterday and you just blurted it out cuz u looked me in my eyes the next day and felt hella guilty versus u tellin me years later makes a big difference in whether its gonna be a simple assault or manslaughter (j/k) but you get my point.

so what happens if he turns down the chic the next time and she finds some way to contact his girl and tell her what happened....the he REALLY gonna get his ass whooped

 

[ladyscorpio]

so your saying it's more comfortable for you to be living in the dark in a relationship?

he prolly wouldn't have left if he didn't get that phone call. whose to say they wont fuck next time...i mean they work 2gether and everyone knows it easy to go back to something u already had.

i mean you go to his job this chic is smiling in your face after she just made UR man send UR message to voicemail

and then he prolly gonna smile in her face talkin bout i love u...pft bullshit.

relationships built on lies and secrets have faulty foundation and what happens in the dark will soon come to light.

iono, maybe its just me but the longer u take to come clean the more i'm going to be pissed at u. if u did something yesterday and you just blurted it out cuz u looked me in my eyes the next day and felt hella guilty versus u tellin me years later makes a big difference in whether its gonna be a simple assault or manslaughter (j/k) but you get my point.

so what happens if he turns down the chic the next time and she finds some way to contact his girl and tell her what happened....the he REALLY gonna get his ass whooped

Truth

 

[Rossini]

Fuck that shit, I woulda bust me a quickie before i went to pick da girl up, what she dont know wont hurt her, she prolly cheatin on you anyway

 

[swiftandsilent]

Here is the DEFINITION of cheating:



i have a situation i got my self into recently, i must say im normally a good dude i dont cheat, i do a hell of alot of flirting but never cross the physical barrier.

my problem came from this chic i work with, she knows im into computers and what not and hooking up ipods, so she asks me to come over to her house because her daughter's lpod touch would freeze whenever she plugged it in, I agreed to come take a look but when I got to the home the script was completely flipped!

I was a lil shocked when i got there and the kid was not there, but i went on in like a dummy. babygirl was wearing a sports bra and some tight assed workout pants...(should have know something was up cuz her nipples were hard as helll and visible through her bra) anyway she shows me around the house a lil and then asked if i wanted a drink, i say im cool she ask agian i say ok ill have some water so i have a seat in front of the computer and watch her walk out of the room her back still glistening with sweat from her work out. a few seconds later i hear her say..."I see you trying to ignore me"

im like Huh? she was like you heard me, so i quickly tried to change the subject cuz my mind was already starting to lose a lil blood...the lil head was taking over. so i ask what was for in here doing before i came in you all sweaty and shit. she said "wanna see?" my dumb ass say yeah...

she pulls a hula hoop from behind her couch and begins this ignorantly sexy dance with it saying this is how she been keeping in shape. by this time i am visible erect and she knows it, i say girl you crazy and turn around to the comp to try and calm down. she said "I aint done yet" and turn the chair around with her foot, dropped the hula hoop and started dancing in front of me saying you like my routine. im like that the kind of shit that can get both of us in trouble! I try to focus on the problem at hand and tell her i dont see nothing wrong with this ipod she say "i know" and climbs on my lap and starts grinding on me, my dick was hard as calculus.

I fell for it head first, we did a little kissing and she sat back and pulled the bra off, them titties were looking so damn good, i couldn't resist i started kissing he neck and sucking on those titties, she stood up and was like "damn you see what you doing to me" her pussy was so wet it was soaking through her pants...

she pulled them off and got back on my lap and started reaching for my dick. i let her pull it out, then it dawned on me what i was doing, i was like hold up i cant do this, i tell her to get up she did but didnt let my dick go she kept stroking it, i stand up and pushed her hand away, she said I just want to feel it i aint gonna tell anyone" and drops to her knees and started serving my dick the sht felt so damn good...just as i was getting ready to say "FUCK IT" my phone rang....guess who it is my MF'n girl, i send it to voicemail and she calls right back i had to answer.

i tell ol girl to stop and be quiet she did just long enough for me to answer my phone, and she got right back to it here i am with my dick halfway down this chic throat trying to explain to my girl why im late to pick her up. my girl is like what are you doing, i tell her i just jumped out of the shower to answer the phone she buys it and says "hurry up" I hang up and started to feel like shit i pushed ol girl off my shit ad put my dick up grabbed my jacket and jetted.

I have a feeling my girl already know! what are the chances of her calling me right as this shit was going down. I know i am wrong and i dont want to tell her


Now you know

That was a waste of my time reading.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

I wouldn't want to know something like this. He's not leaving me for her, and he did leave. I don't think everything is meant to be told. There are times to be 100% honest, but this aint it. This will ruin their relationship and will not add to it being stronger

Wow. Some kind of woman. Not wanting to know that your man is gettin his rocks off elsewhere? Some relationships you must have.

 

[YouLikeMyStyle]

so your saying it's more comfortable for you to be living in the dark in a relationship?

he prolly wouldn't have left if he didn't get that phone call. whose to say they wont fuck next time...i mean they work 2gether and everyone knows it easy to go back to something u already had.

i mean you go to his job this chic is smiling in your face after she just made UR man send UR message to voicemail

and then he prolly gonna smile in her face talkin bout i love u...pft bullshit.

relationships built on lies and secrets have faulty foundation and what happens in the dark will soon come to light.

iono, maybe its just me but the longer u take to come clean the more i'm going to be pissed at u. if u did something yesterday and you just blurted it out cuz u looked me in my eyes the next day and felt hella guilty versus u tellin me years later makes a big difference in whether its gonna be a simple assault or manslaughter (j/k) but you get my point.

so what happens if he turns down the chic the next time and she finds some way to contact his girl and tell her what happened....the he REALLY gonna get his ass whooped

Wow. Some kind of woman. Not wanting to know that your man is gettin his rocks off elsewhere? Some relationships you must have.

everything ain't meant to be told. period. it's not like he cheated and wants to be with this woman. he expresses regret. he's gonna ruin his relationship over some BS. ain't worth it.

this relationship is not built on lies; he made an indiscretion.

honesty is not always the best policy and i learned this from experience. i had a bf in college and i kissed another guy. i told my man and it ruined our relationship forever. a KISS. i didn't want to be with the other dude, it just happened.

also, this decision shouldn't be made from "what ifs" or assmptions. clearly he is not getting his rocks of somewhere else, this was a one time occurrence from his story. every woman knows when their man is cheating. you don't need him to tell you. and if he's really cheating, you'll feel a disconnect and need to break up with him anyway.

And both of the above comments are basically saying that you both stay with men who cheat. Men who cheat and tell you. That's better?

 

[jucurious]

everything ain't meant to be told. period. it's not like he cheated and wants to be with this woman. he expresses regret. he's gonna ruin his relationship over some BS. ain't worth it.

this relationship is not built on lies; he made an indiscretion.

honesty is not always the best policy and i learned this from experience. i had a bf in college and i kissed another guy. i told my man and it ruined our relationship forever. a KISS. i didn't want to be with the other dude, it just happened.

also, this decision shouldn't be made from "what ifs" or assmptions. clearly he is not getting his rocks of somewhere else, this was a one time occurrence from his story. every woman knows when their man is cheating. you don't need him to tell you. and if he's really cheating, you'll feel a disconnect and need to break up with him anyway.

And both of the above comments are basically saying that you both stay with men who cheat. Men who cheat and tell you. That's better?

i was just about to ask if you had an incident because usually ppl who say they wouldn't want to know have done stuff that they didn't want their partner to know.

and ur dude broke up with you for what you felt was JUST a kiss but it obviously was more than JUST a kiss to him...i'm sure there were more circumstances...but that is neither here or there.

u said that they would feel the disconnect anyway, so y not come clean then?

and THIS situation was CLEARLY not a JUST A KISS situation...there were about 13 things that i pointed out that put it pass JUST a kiss. what happened was major...aint like as soon as he came in the door home girl pushed up on him and started tonguing him down and he pushed her off and said hell no u crazy i got a girl....no he noticed the signs visually, mentally and physically, even brought some of it on himself, and when a sign (the 1st phone call) came...he ignored it.

and no i'm not saying i would stay with that person.

but obviously your opinion is jaded because of somethin you did in the past so i don't expect you to see my point of view so we will just have to agree to disagree

 

[YouLikeMyStyle]

i was just about to ask if you had an incident because usually ppl who say they wouldn't want to know have done stuff that they didn't want their partner to know.

and ur dude broke up with you for what you felt was JUST a kiss but it obviously was more than JUST a kiss to him...i'm sure there were more circumstances...but that is neither here or there.

u said that they would feel the disconnect anyway, so y not come clean then?

and THIS situation was CLEARLY not a JUST A KISS situation...there were about 13 things that i pointed out that put it pass JUST a kiss. what happened was major...aint like as soon as he came in the door home girl pushed up on him and started tonguing him down and he pushed her off and said hell no u crazy i got a girl....no he noticed the signs visually, mentally and physically, even brought some of it on himself, and when a sign (the 1st phone call) came...he ignored it.

and no i'm not saying i would stay with that person.

but obviously your opinion is jaded because of somethin you did in the past so i don't expect you to see my point of view so we will just have to agree to disagree

what's interesting is that i thought just like you. always come clean, always tell the truth which is why i did it in my situation. when i told certain people, the first thing they asked was, "why did you tell him if u dont want to be with the other dude. you made it and the other guy important."

there is a certain amount of selfishness with coming clean. you're really doing it to get something off your own chest to make yourself feel better; it's certainly not for your partner to feel good.

 

[BitchI'llKillYa]

everything ain't meant to be told. period. it's not like he cheated and wants to be with this woman. he expresses regret. he's gonna ruin his relationship over some BS. ain't worth it.

this relationship is not built on lies; he made an indiscretion.

honesty is not always the best policy and i learned this from experience. i had a bf in college and i kissed another guy. i told my man and it ruined our relationship forever. a KISS. i didn't want to be with the other dude, it just happened.

also, this decision shouldn't be made from "what ifs" or assmptions. clearly he is not getting his rocks of somewhere else, this was a one time occurrence from his story. every woman knows when their man is cheating. you don't need him to tell you. and if he's really cheating, you'll feel a disconnect and need to break up with him anyway.

And both of the above comments are basically saying that you both stay with men who cheat. Men who cheat and tell you. That's better?

thanks ma for this, despite the biter beer face responses I ant looking for sympathy i was more looking for advice.

I'm not stupid, I ain't a dog, but i did fuck up. the way some of yall ladies sound i would have better off fucking ol girl and then coming clean then doing what i did...I am in no way trying to excuse my action but i do feel like i got tricked. but by leaving when i was trying to keep this a "simple assault not manslaughter!" Originally Posted by jucurious


as for the chic working with me,I didn't see it coming we never had sexual tension thing going on, when i went to the house i was expecting a 12 year old but i got

in reverse

at the end of the day, I want my chic, looking back although babygril is fine she really don't compare to what i had at home. I had a weak moment and i am not trying to loose my girl thats why i asked the original question

"would you leave your dude if he told you this?"

 

[LoneStar29]

"would you leave your dude if he told you this?"

YESI don't want to disrespect you but the fact that the other girl was coming on to you so strong and you didn't know what was going onis very unattractive to meyou really need to pay more attention to what's going on around you

And I hear you aplogizing and shit but it doesn't seem like you are taking 100% responsibilities for your actions which is also another big turn off for mestop blaming her for YOUR hard dick

 

[jucurious]

i guess we are just going to have to disagree b/c


1) his story was not a weak moment...it was a weak EVENT...he was there for some time. (see below definition of a moment)

mo·ment /ˈmoʊmənt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[moh-muhnt] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. an indefinitely short period of time; instant: I'll be with you in a moment.


2) he DID make the other girl important, important enough for her message to go to voicemail and for even to be calling because he was LATE picking her up cuz he was to busy getting freaky with another chic...and he chose to lie to her anyway about what he was doing as his reasoning as to y he was late.

but w/e i've explained myself enough

do what you will in your relationships; if yall gonna be together for a long time...she is gonna find out, one way or another, whether its from you or someone else, whether she lets you know that she knows or not.

moral of the story: if you can't tell your partner about it, don't do it; if you feel like something could happen between you and another who is NOT your partner, remove yourself from the sitatuation.

and if it is a portable device...tell them to bring that shit to work


peace

 

[BitchI'llKillYa]

YESI don't want to disrespect you but the fact that the other girl was coming on to you so strong and you didn't know what was going onis very unattractive to meyou really need to pay more attention to what's going on around you

And I hear you aplogizing and shit but it doesn't seem like you are taking 100% responsibilities for your actions which is also another big turn off for mestop blaming her for YOUR hard dick

ok ok i see your point. but since im 19 i been trying to convince myself that every female does not want to fuck me, before that anything a girl said to me i took it as a come on. i missed several sings and i made it worse by asking about the workout. but damn i was not expecting her to go left field on me. i had talked to ol girl on the phone several times helping her with settings and whatnot on her computer, thats the only real interaction we had outside of work. but it is what it is, either way im screwed so im gonna keep my mouth shut for the time being.

lol thanks laides for ur honesty, some of it was not easy to read but thats what i asked for yall opinion, i damn sure got it!

 

[PrincessC]

"would you leave your dude if he told you this?"

YES.

Question: would you leave your GIRL if she told you this?

I already know the answer.

 

[sexylegz33]

Yeah, you cheated. I know this is wrong but, don't tell your lady and don't let yourself fall into that situation again. If she never finds out, you better take it to the grave!

If my man did that, I'd be hurt and might not be able to get past it. That's why I'm telling you take it to the grave and never let it happen again.

Good Luck!

 

[LoneStar29]

Yeah, you cheated. I know this is wrong but, don't tell your lady and don't let yourself fall into that situation again. If she never finds out, you better take it to the grave!

If my man did that, I'd be hurt and might not be able to get past it. That's why I'm telling you take it to the grave and never let it happen again.

Good Luck!

I'm completely and totally shocked that this has been a common response from about half the ladies ... don't you women wanna know if you are with a loyal, faithful man or notI mean excusing the behaviour once will only give him an excuse to do it again ... TRUST ME ... I don't believe for one second that if we let it slide once it wont happen again ... and that goes for unfaithful women as well ... no disrespect to the OP but his girl should mos def know about this and make him pay for it as well ... entrapment or not ... he's gotta take responsibility for his actions which were time and time again feeding into this woman seduction

 

[Rossini]

All you can say to ur girl is... I know you caught me cheatin and ya tired of me lyin, ima be honest wit ya baby i know i crossed the line, if you dont wanna fuck wit me nomo then cool its fine, but b4 you go can we fuck 1 mo time

 

[somebodyshome]

It doesn't necessarily make the other chick important, but it makes the situation important...and it is! Either it will make the relationship stronger or not. Think if the situation was reversed, what would you like to be done to you. Do you want HER to tell you if she fucked up, or not?? Depending on your answer is what you should do.

Its up for him to decide....Not your situation! Whether he tells or not--he knows his girl better than any of us

 

[somebodyshome]

I wouldn't want to know something like this. He's not leaving me for her, and he did leave. I don't think everything is meant to be told. There are times to be 100% honest, but this aint it. This will ruin their relationship and will not add to it being stronger

Its up for him to decide....Not your situation! Whether he tells or not--he knows his girl better than any of us

 

[p5ych3]

if you wasn't into it, resisted, didn't enjoy it, felt bad afterwards, but gave in to get the chick off your back. you didn't cheat.

 

[jucurious]

if you wasn't into it, resisted, didn't enjoy it, felt bad afterwards, but gave in to get the chick off your back. you didn't cheat.

*str8 walks out the thread*

 

[Crown&Coke]

if you wasn't into it, resisted, didn't enjoy it, felt bad afterwards, but gave in to get the chick off your back. you didn't cheat.

Tell that to your girl and see how she feels about it. Watch out for hot grits
​

 

[LoneStar29]

if you wasn't into it, resisted, didn't enjoy it, felt bad afterwards, but gave in to get the chick off your back. you didn't cheat.

Does the same rule apply if it was the other way around and his girl was on the receiving end of that seduction

And who fucks just to "get someone of their back"

Tell that to your girl and see how she feels about it. Watch out for hot grits
​

Tell me about it ... the excuses these boys come up with are just ridiculous

 

[p5ych3]

Tell that to your girl and see how she feels about it. Watch out for hot grits
​

i won't say anything. chalk it up to an experience/situation i was glad
to get out of and keep it moving. some woman are aggressive like that
and won't let you go until they get what they want. dude didn't want
to have sex with the girl. but he paniced and choose the best option.

 

[caramelcute]

What you did was cheating. I have the feeling if the misses hadnt called you would have went alot further.

If you have a good woman why cheat on her.

 

[Chicutie]

I actually agree with YouLikeMyStyle.

I could write so much to explain. . . . but this quote sums it all up.

As I have gotten older, being with one woman- as long as she has the sufficient freak quotient- is not really a problem (I still like to fuck everyday, though, and some women find that a problem). But when I was in my twenties, I THOUGHT MONOGAMY WAS THE MOST RIDICULOUS CONCEPT EVER INVENTED.. There are a lot of 20-something women on this board- Chi, HA, DA, etc. If your guys are under 30 also, you can fucking forget it. I don't care how you fuck em, how often, and how freaky - THEY ARE GONNA FUCK ANOTHER WOMAN AT SOME POINT IN TIME WHILE THEY ARE WITH YOU. That's just the way it is. I'm not condoning it; it's just how the male animal is designed.

Me? I could suck HA's titties or squeeze DA ass for the next 20 years and be perfectly content. But that's because I have had a ton of different pussy, and I KNOW that, bascially, as long as it's good it's all the same. Good fucking is good fucking- all different, but still good. Young cats don't know that, because their DNA tells them to nail everything breathing. Sorry girls. You think your coochie is magic, and I'm sure it is, but eventually he will want (and will get) some different- and in his still forming mind better- magic.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

everything ain't meant to be told. period. it's not like he cheated and wants to be with this woman. he expresses regret. he's gonna ruin his relationship over some BS. ain't worth it.

this relationship is not built on lies; he made an indiscretion.

honesty is not always the best policy and i learned this from experience. i had a bf in college and i kissed another guy. i told my man and it ruined our relationship forever. a KISS. i didn't want to be with the other dude, it just happened.

also, this decision shouldn't be made from "what ifs" or assmptions. clearly he is not getting his rocks of somewhere else, this was a one time occurrence from his story. every woman knows when their man is cheating. you don't need him to tell you. and if he's really cheating, you'll feel a disconnect and need to break up with him anyway.

And both of the above comments are basically saying that you both stay with men who cheat. Men who cheat and tell you. That's better?

Nice ASSumption...Too bad you're wrong. It just happened? Did you slip and fall on his dick too? Things dont just happen. Things happen because you didn't stop them from happening. The man got his dick sucked. It's cheating.

 

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I actually agree with YouLikeMyStyle.

I could write so much to explain. . . . but this quote sums it all up.

Wow, I actually have a supporter. Nice feeling after all the attacks!

I think the major issue in the disagreement on telling and not telling is figuring out what telling actually accomplishes. IT DOES NOTHING BUT HURT THE OTHER PERSON. Unnecessary if the person plans on staying in the relationship.