is it possible to get out of the "Friendzone"?
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i dont know. this is a branch from this thread http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=238497
ive been talking to the chick. one night she was a lil drunk and she was real with me and said "I think your cute but i only see u as a friend". but the was she acts attracts me more to her because no girl ever been so nice.
one night i was flirting with her a bit and massaging her feet and whatever, while she was rubbing my face
. but shes always telling me about some guy she used to mess with and how she be talking to these other guys and whatever and its annoying to the point where i wana 
. last nite she was chatting with some dude on AIM for hours
.i at times i feel like cutting her off but i like how she makes me feel, because she always keep me company when im studying and shes invite me to eat with her ans syht.
i dont know. this is a branch from this thread http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=238497
ive been talking to the chick. one night she was a lil drunk and she was real with me and said "I think your cute but i only see u as a friend". but the was she acts attracts me more to her because no girl ever been so nice.
one night i was flirting with her a bit and massaging her feet and whatever, while she was rubbing my face
i at times i feel like cutting her off but i like how she makes me feel, because she always keep me company when im studying and shes invite me to eat with her ans syht.
Don't even play yourself. Tell her what the deal is, when she's not drunk, and if she is not feelin you then leave it alone. If you feel you can't maintain the friendship as is then leave it alone. No use in making both of you upset.
i dont know. this is a branch from this thread http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=238497
ive been talking to the chick. one night she was a lil drunk and she was real with me and said "I think your cute but i only see u as a friend". but the was she acts attracts me more to her because no girl ever been so nice.
one night i was flirting with her a bit and massaging her feet and whatever, while she was rubbing my face
i at times i feel like cutting her off but i like how she makes me feel, because she always keep me company when im studying and shes invite me to eat with her ans syht.
I think that you should be more aware of all the signs she is giving you. If she was really interested, I don't think she would talk to you about other guys or tell you that she only sees you as a friend. Clearly she likes the attention you give her and that's why she wants you to keep her company and eat with her. Maybe you should be a little less available. You're too predictable right now, and she knows that. Keep your options open and let her know that your options are open too.
i dont know. this is a branch from this thread http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=238497
ive been talking to the chick. one night she was a lil drunk and she was real with me and said "I think your cute but i only see u as a friend". but the was she acts attracts me more to her because no girl ever been so nice.
one night i was flirting with her a bit and massaging her feet and whatever, while she was rubbing my face
i at times i feel like cutting her off but i like how she makes me feel, because she always keep me company when im studying and shes invite me to eat with her ans syht.
^^^Bruh, you need to make like that Chigurh dude in your avatar and straight get her to flip a coin.
In fact better still, bounce from that emotional spot she got you tied down in and remove yourself to more receptive climates.
You don't need to be no chicks emotional pillow.
Real talk.
will it actually help? because this chick likes my company and i do too. anytime im studying she always come to my table.
i think im seperate myself a lil bit. she wanted me to go to the gym with her today, she even said please but i didnt because i had work to do. and on friday she wanted me to go to a pool party with her but she got madd a bit and called me a dork,
because i didn;t go.
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this post makes me mad - major intervention is needed here 
well for me personally...it depends on what part of the friendzone your in...lol
some of my friends can EASILY move out of the friendzone...they are in there for circumstantial reasons
whereas
others are in there cuz they are cool ppl and i'm not attracted to them in that way
but for you....she's playing with you. give her ass a choice...the red pill or the blue pill
ok seriously
let her know how you feel, and the mixed singles she is giving off. if she keeps playing...keep it moving, even if she tries to be on some just friend shit...keep it moving....y? cuz u feelings are only escalating and trust being in a "friendship" with someone you have growing feelings for can be PAINFUL so let it go.
goodluck
some of my friends can EASILY move out of the friendzone...they are in there for circumstantial reasons
whereas
others are in there cuz they are cool ppl and i'm not attracted to them in that way
but for you....she's playing with you. give her ass a choice...the red pill or the blue pill
ok seriously
let her know how you feel, and the mixed singles she is giving off. if she keeps playing...keep it moving, even if she tries to be on some just friend shit...keep it moving....y? cuz u feelings are only escalating and trust being in a "friendship" with someone you have growing feelings for can be PAINFUL so let it go.
goodluck
anything is possible, but it is very difficult.
You an get out of the 'friendzone'. What's a bitch is tryin' to get back into it. I got out of it with a woman and after we kicked it for about six months, I saw that we couldn't be like that. man, that shit was crazy. She just couldn't come to terms with the fact that after we had sex that I didn't think she was who i wanted to be with forever and ever. She was like truly offended. I had to pretty much tell her to get over herself. we're cool now. It took her a minute to get right.
cosign
I agree. Don't be so available. let ol' boy that she kickin' it with on AOL rub her feet. YOU go rub somebody's feet that wants to rub yours too.
well for me personally...it depends on what part of the friendzone your in...lol
some of my friends can EASILY move out of the friendzone...they are in there for circumstantial reasons
whereas
others are in there cuz they are cool ppl and i'm not attracted to them in that way
but for you....she's playing with you. give her ass a choice...the red pill or the blue pill
ok seriously
let her know how you feel, and the mixed singles she is giving off. if she keeps playing...keep it moving, even if she tries to be on some just friend shit...keep it moving....y? cuz u feelings are only escalating and trust being in a "friendship" with someone you have growing feelings for can be PAINFUL so let it go.
goodluck
cosign like a mizzle fizzle.
i dont know. this is a branch from this thread http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=238497
ive been talking to the chick. one night she was a lil drunk and she was real with me and said "I think your cute but i only see u as a friend". but the was she acts attracts me more to her because no girl ever been so nice.
one night i was flirting with her a bit and massaging her feet and whatever, while she was rubbing my face
i at times i feel like cutting her off but i like how she makes me feel, because she always keep me company when im studying and shes invite me to eat with her ans syht.
Bruh, I don't think she has you in the friend zone. I think she has you in the 'in case of emergency, break glass to get to dick' zone. like one of the females that replied said, don't play yourself Homie.
LoneStar29
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Alright ... I know you're just starting out in the "game of love" so I wont be too rough on you ... but Noir, Andeyhollawho, Crown&Coke, SuperGenius and myself all told you in that last thread you started that homegirl is playing you and to cut her off (which you said you were gonna do but haven't done obviously)I don't wanna hurt your feelings but she is spending all that time with you cuz you are showing her the attention that homeboy who dissed her isn't .. I mean she is in counselling over another man for crying out loud ... she's treating you like a rebound and you shouldn't stand for that
So when you see her, or she calls you, or she comes to your study hall, or she asks you to dinner, or she wants her feet rubbed or anything else that involves her ... anytime she tries to get at you ... do this
PERIOD
you can close the thread now
I don't wanna hurt your feelings but she is spending all that time with you cuz you are showing her the attention that homeboy who dissed her isn't .. I mean she is in counselling over another man for crying out loud ... she's treating you like a rebound and you shouldn't stand for thatSo when you see her, or she calls you, or she comes to your study hall, or she asks you to dinner, or she wants her feet rubbed or anything else that involves her ... anytime she tries to get at you ... do this
PERIOD
you can close the thread now
Homie, I've seen peeps in this situation tons of time..been in it a few myself. This is what u do, plain an simple.Do not occupy your time with her. Go find someone else and ease up on the time spent wit her. If a woman is not giving you what you want, then you need not to waste your precious time on em..friend or not. She knows u like her meaning she has the upper hand. She will mess u up real bad if you continue trying to chase her, ..so i suggest you act like you aint diggin her like that anymore and keep it movin. She already told you she like you as a friend...so play that role and put some distance on her.
Even tell her bout the new chcik your messin with, to even out the playing field.
note* usually when u stop paying them mind..they come around. If she dont, then it wasnt meant to be.
Have some pride and some self worth
Even tell her bout the new chcik your messin with, to even out the playing field.
note* usually when u stop paying them mind..they come around. If she dont, then it wasnt meant to be.
Have some pride and some self worth
You got it bad right now man. She is really just using you. Getting what she wants out of the situation with no regard for what you want. You need to man up and take situations into your own hands. Granted you enjoy her company but it is not the kind of company that you want from her. Is it worth hearing her escapades about other dudes and feeling like you are lacking? I don't think so. You have to nip that shit in the bud. Let her know straight up what you want, and you can be smooth about it, but if she ain't with it then you need to keep it moving.
I just had to do the same thing recently. I wasn't to the point where I was rubbing feet and shit. But I was definitely chasing.
I just had to do the same thing recently. I wasn't to the point where I was rubbing feet and shit. But I was definitely chasing.
i couldnt have said it better myself.
soon as she finds out you're seeing someone it will open up the available dominoe effect and you'll know whats really up. either way, keep things moving, and do you without concern for what her plans are.
and dont even try to hide the fact that you're dating chicks in case you're afraid she'll cut herself loose. people in the friend zone always try to hide the fact that they're dating in an attempt to say "im single and ready for you" which usually backfires.
date, date, date and she'll realize you got no time for her games she can step up if she wants or step back and YOU can put her in the friendzone. too many women that are willing to be into you for you to be concerned about one that isn't. when you realize that you'll be aight
Your wife should always be your best friend, I remember Farrakhan saying that we should mate from the neck up and not the navel down.
[FLASH]http://www.youtube.com/v/yG3NQE0ONJs[/FLASH]
(7:59 onwards)
If she is not your friend she is your ho
So keep her as a friend - Romance may blossom later.
[FLASH]http://www.youtube.com/v/yG3NQE0ONJs[/FLASH]
(7:59 onwards)
If she is not your friend she is your ho
So keep her as a friend - Romance may blossom later.
Everybody has told you what to do. You know what you need to do but you wont do it. So I can careless now......Cant help somebody that dont wanna be helped
It's hard as fuck to but its very possible if your lucky. If the competition eliminates itself (like in my case) then your good to go after that. This shit is so funny I still laugh about this shit. I was in worse than the Friend Zone, I was in the Brother Zone got damn that's that ETHER son. All you need is a little bit of luck, whole lot of prayer and determination. Don't be wacking off so much man that wastes ya mojo and you need that shit. 
This shit is so funny I still laugh about this shit. I was in worse than the Friend Zone, I was in the Brother Zone got damn that's that ETHER son. All you need is a little bit of luck, whole lot of prayer and determination. Don't be wacking off so much man that wastes ya mojo and you need that shit.
thanks for the advice ya'll epically noir, Crown&Coke, SuperGenius and lonsestar29. ima keep my distance from her and start approaching other females.
i just needed some advice, cause i was never in this situation and i never been treated like this by a female before. shorty ask me "how was your day?" everyday, no female be asking me that syht.
I swear BGOL is the syht
i just needed some advice, cause i was never in this situation and i never been treated like this by a female before. shorty ask me "how was your day?" everyday, no female be asking me that syht
. I swear BGOL is the syht
thanks for the advice ya'll epically noir, Crown&Coke, SuperGenius and lonsestar29. ima keep my distance from her and start approaching other females.
i just needed some advice, cause i was never in this situation and i never been treated like this by a female before. shorty ask me "how was your day?" everyday, no female be asking me that syht
I swear BGOL is the syht
No doubt! shawty stringing u along. Next time she ask u your day..just say this shorty bagged you. Make up some story but no too far fetched....then slowly distance yourself. (hopefully you would have bagged a new chick already .but anyway) Start answering her calls less, stop calling her, etc..
Watch what happens....trust!
shorty just text messaged me to see if i want to eat. i didnt reply back. hope this works.
Your wife should always be your best friend, I remember Farrakhan saying that we should mate from the neck up and not the navel down.
[FLASH]http://www.youtube.com/v/yG3NQE0ONJs[/FLASH]
(7:59 onwards)
If she is not your friend she is your ho
So keep her as a friend - Romance may blossom later.
that some interesting syht.
I let it be known from the jump, that I am always a threat to fuck. That way there won't be any surprises when I get the urge to try her. I'm not an asshole about the situation, but it is clear that I am a threat at all times. I have a number of female friends and they all respect the fact that i'm honest about my situation/stance.
The friend zone happened to me once.
I'am very selective, straight forward and determined.
So when I choose a female to pursue and she's playing hard to get or the you're just a friend routine I get kinda offended.
Like you said it's hard because you enjoy spending time with her but you've got to start pulling yourself away from her and spending your time on something or someone else.
Just follow the advice being given o you in this thread and you'll be ok.
I'am still mad about that girl.
"The one that got away."
I agree with this.. I prefer friends w/benefits than being in an exclusive monogamous relationship..
Problem is there are no benefits for homeboy besides his "time" he is spending with this chick
Alright ... I know you're just starting out in the "game of love" so I wont be too rough on you ... but Noir, Andeyhollawho, Crown&Coke, SuperGenius and myself all told you in that last thread you started that homegirl is playing you and to cut her off (which you said you were gonna do but haven't done obviously)
So when you see her, or she calls you, or she comes to your study hall, or she asks you to dinner, or she wants her feet rubbed or anything else that involves her ... anytime she tries to get at you ... do this
PERIOD
you can close the thread now
Real
Yes you can get out of the Friend zone. Currently she is playing the game "Best Of Both Worlds" She has a man that is loving, caring,intelligent, financially stable, and provides emotional support to her.(You) On the other side she has the other guy who does not provide all those things. When the other guy is not doing what she would like she runs to you to fill that void.
Getting out of the friend zone you have to understand how a woman thinks in order to turn the situation around. Most woman are emotional creatures. Some women can't distinguish the difference between emotions and logic. Her emotions tells her that the other guy can change..logic would tell her you are providing everything she desires out of a mate.
Women often justify choosing men on the basis of their "intuition" or "emotions" or because "their body knows." Usually this means she will choose the worst possible guy then will rationalize her decision, or try to "change" him, a process which inevitably leads to years of frustration and worse. In the meantime, the same woman will reject an otherwise decent, witty, responsible, intelligent guy whom if she had given him a chance would have provided one of those loving caring relationships women talk about.
Things to do
Tell her how you feel. Let her know that you understand that she is involved but you would like to explore the opportunity with her if possible. Let her know how special she is to you
STOP TALKING ABOUT THE OTHER GUY----when she brings him up change the subject. When you are with her make it all about you. When she talks about him simply say...while looking into her eyes "I want you to relax. I took you out so that you can escape your problems and feel free for at least a couple of hours."
Stop being available---You have to distance yourself from her. She needs time to compare you to the other guy. Believe me she will compare the two. talking and spending time with him will be like night and day compared to you. Currently she has the best of both worlds so she is having her cake and eating it also.
Use her friends-----her friends are a good way to get in. Her friends have a huge say so in who she talks to. They have the most impression on her
When she calls don't answer or call right back. When she text you don't text right back. Reply on your time. When she ask you to go places with her tell her YOU HAVE A DATEand you will catch up with her another time.
Getting out of the friend zone you have to understand how a woman thinks in order to turn the situation around. Most woman are emotional creatures. Some women can't distinguish the difference between emotions and logic. Her emotions tells her that the other guy can change..logic would tell her you are providing everything she desires out of a mate.
Women often justify choosing men on the basis of their "intuition" or "emotions" or because "their body knows." Usually this means she will choose the worst possible guy then will rationalize her decision, or try to "change" him, a process which inevitably leads to years of frustration and worse. In the meantime, the same woman will reject an otherwise decent, witty, responsible, intelligent guy whom if she had given him a chance would have provided one of those loving caring relationships women talk about.
Things to do
Tell her how you feel. Let her know that you understand that she is involved but you would like to explore the opportunity with her if possible. Let her know how special she is to you
STOP TALKING ABOUT THE OTHER GUY----when she brings him up change the subject. When you are with her make it all about you. When she talks about him simply say...while looking into her eyes "I want you to relax. I took you out so that you can escape your problems and feel free for at least a couple of hours."
Stop being available---You have to distance yourself from her. She needs time to compare you to the other guy. Believe me she will compare the two. talking and spending time with him will be like night and day compared to you. Currently she has the best of both worlds so she is having her cake and eating it also.
Use her friends-----her friends are a good way to get in. Her friends have a huge say so in who she talks to. They have the most impression on her
When she calls don't answer or call right back. When she text you don't text right back. Reply on your time. When she ask you to go places with her tell her YOU HAVE A DATEand you will catch up with her another time.
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