well...lemme ask then damnit
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I got my popcorn ready D. Let's see what happens...
AlexandMorgan
Banned
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Me i want to be treated with respect. Try listening to all of what i have to say instead of hearing what you want to pick out and attack. Do not blame me for the fools that went before me. Stop talking about sex with your ex or his dick like it belongs in a shrine. Do not hold me to standards that you yourself or no man you have ever been with could not achieve.
Look at the size of my heart and not the size of my wallet. If you have a problem communicate it to me and not your family and girlfriends. Talk to me not at me.I have no problem with you having male friends but if they invite you out and not us as a couple you can go and have fun but do not expect me to be there when you get back home.
If that helps. 
Me i want to be treated with respect. Try listening to all of what i have to say instead of hearing what you want to pick out and attack. Do not blame me for the fools that went before me. Stop talking about sex with your ex or his dick like it belongs in a shrine. Do not hold me to standards that you yourself or no man you have ever been with could not achieve.
Look at the size of my heart and not the size of my wallet. If you have a problem communicate it to me and not your family and girlfriends. Talk to me not at me.I have no problem with you having male friends but if they invite you out and not us as a couple you can go and have fun but do not expect me to be there when you get back home.
If that helps. 
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Me i want to be treated with respect. Try listening to all of what i have to say instead of hearing what you want to pick out and attack. Do not blame me for the fools that went before me. Stop talking about sex with your ex or his dick like it belongs in a shrine. Do not hold me to standards that you yourself or no man you have ever been with could not achieve.
Look at the size of my heart and not the size of my wallet. If you have a problem communicate it to me and not your family and girlfriends. Talk to me not at me.I have no problem with you having male friends but if they invite you out and not us as a couple you can go and have fun but do not expect me to be there when you get back home.
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[sarcasm]Only unattractive poor persons complain about not being treated right.
If you look good enough, in America, you always have options. If you have enough money, buy yourself a new one.[/sarcasm]
If you look good enough, in America, you always have options. If you have enough money, buy yourself a new one.[/sarcasm]
I think with this whole "I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T, do you know what it means" movement, some women have forgotten trying to meet the basic needs of men, period. If women stay thinking, they don't have to clean, cook, put in ANY work and it's all based off of their attributes (i.e., hair, body shape, etc.), they are fooling themselves. Once a man gets tired of the sex and looking at your "fine ass", if he can't get anything else out of you and you can't bring anything else to the table but your looks, he's gone...
yall neglect to make sense.....when you get into an argument it seems as if being rational gets thrown out the window..why cant women just accept that you cant be right all the time and after us men prove that your wrong you still wont admit it
and some women need to learn how to cook hint: (thats how you get to a man's heart)...iam not sayin cook everyday but damn can i at least get one scrambled egg
and some women need to learn how to cook hint: (thats how you get to a man's heart)...iam not sayin cook everyday but damn can i at least get one scrambled egg
PREACH! Ladies please take note of this. The best part of this is that it came from a woman...
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Me i want to be treated with respect. Try listening to all of what i have to say instead of hearing what you want to pick out and attack. Do not blame me for the fools that went before me. Stop talking about sex with your ex or his dick like it belongs in a shrine. Do not hold me to standards that you yourself or no man you have ever been with could not achieve.
Look at the size of my heart and not the size of my wallet. If you have a problem communicate it to me and not your family and girlfriends. Talk to me not at me.I have no problem with you having male friends but if they invite you out and not us as a couple you can go and have fun but do not expect me to be there when you get back home.
There are some good points in here. Right now, I don't know what else to say, but if/when I do, I'll come back something...
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Me i want to be treated with respect. Try listening to all of what i have to say instead of hearing what you want to pick out and attack. Do not blame me for the fools that went before me. Stop talking about sex with your ex or his dick like it belongs in a shrine. Do not hold me to standards that you yourself or no man you have ever been with could not achieve.
Look at the size of my heart and not the size of my wallet. If you have a problem communicate it to me and not your family and girlfriends. Talk to me not at me.I have no problem with you having male friends but if they invite you out and not us as a couple you can go and have fun but do not expect me to be there when you get back home.
very interesting...
i think us as women are programed to be on the defense...so we stay in attackmode
i cant speak for every woman...but i know alot of those things u mentioned are a result of not wanting to be hurt
based off what u said i heard a few things more than once
1. being able to cook
2. being respectful
3. stay focused on your man...not other people
am i right?
please keep them coming
Nawww it isnt that. It is just that there are so many youngins on this board that they havent came across a real grown sista..They are too busy chasing after the video girl w/ a big ass....You know..Not getting to know a sista's character
I agree.
As for how to treat a man correctly,
Just let the man be the man.
- Do not snap, crackle, and pop your fingers at him
- Cook him a homemade meal to fill and satisfy his stomach
- Aid him in obtaining his life's goals and ambitions
- Do not belittle him in front of his children
- Comfort him in his times of needs
- Do not forget he is forged in the likeness of the creator
- Do not question his love unless given reason
- His strength is your strength and vice versa
- Remind him of his most glorious moments
- Do not put your friends ahead of him
- If married, adopted his last name as a show of respect
Yes, especially not doing the bolded one in front of his friends, your friends, his children, ANYONE. You may have your disagreements and raise your voice at him, but no one else needs to be in your business like that. Keep your relationship business between the two of you and no one else. It's ok to ask for advice from time to time, but no one needs to know the blow-by-blow of how things are occurring...
AlexandMorgan
Banned
very interesting...
i think us as women are programed to be on the defense...so we stay in attackmode
i cant speak for every woman...but i know alot of those things u mentioned are a result of not wanting to be hurt
based off what u said i heard a few things more than once
1. being able to cook
2. being respectful
3. stay focused on your man...not other people
am i right?
please keep them coming
I want respect but i do not want worship. If you have an opinion that differs to mine let me hear it instead of getting angry at me for mine. I am willing to listen but if i always wanted to fight i would be a boxer or a wrestler.
I have a fundamental problem with your friends occupying all of our time and your conversation. I did not drive over here to spend time with you so i could watch you talk to your girlfriends on the phone. I do not care that your neighbor is cheating with an ugly woman or that his wife is bi-sexual.
I do not expect a full course meal but i expect you to have the basics in the kitchen when we are hanging out sometimes. A simple home cooked meal shows more care and love than an expensive restaurant. I know how to cook and so should you.
I am out for now.
<----- Treated Like A Man Should Be In His House 24/7
In my opinion a relationship is like a dance. There are times when it is necessary to lead and there are times to be lead. This is true in any situation, but in thinking about male/female interaction I think it's especially important. There have been several good points made in this thread, but I think the dance concept is useful because it highlights the importance of both parties working together. If I'm dealing with a woman I feel that I have to bring certain qualities, skill sets, etc. to the table. She has to do the same thing and together we have to find a way to balance our situation. As I mentioned we have to know when to let the other one lead without being letting our egos/pride get in the way of progress and success in the relationship. I want a woman who can and will allow me to treat her they way she claims to want to be treated. What I mean by this is if she has certain expectations for our interaction she has to act in a manner that is deserving of that treatment. She can't expect to be treated as my Queen if she is not willing to treat me as her King...
-Treat me with respect
-No double standards, dont do anything you wouldnt want me to do
-Learn the difference between an argument and a discussion, I rarely argue
-Dont talk at me or down to me
-Dont be mad becuz my opinion on something might be different
-Dont assume the worse about me without reason
-I can cook and clean, so you should too, I will do it sometimes and you can do it sometimes
-Be open minded, willing to try new things
-Dont talk like you running shit to try to look good in front of your friends
-Be there when I need you to be there for me
-No double standards, dont do anything you wouldnt want me to do
-Learn the difference between an argument and a discussion, I rarely argue
-Dont talk at me or down to me
-Dont be mad becuz my opinion on something might be different
-Dont assume the worse about me without reason
-I can cook and clean, so you should too, I will do it sometimes and you can do it sometimes
-Be open minded, willing to try new things
-Dont talk like you running shit to try to look good in front of your friends
-Be there when I need you to be there for me
Sez who???
Says me, so STFU!
I don't expect a sexually confused androgynous fucktard like you to understand it.
Well my man never told me what he wanted I guess cuz we were both young maybe he didn't know exactly what he wanted but I would say that some ppl don't take interest in their mates interests.
Like he likes to play video games so I started playing games. He likes to eat so I learned to cook. He likes technology so I read engadget.com. And its not just because he likes it, I actually enjoy these things now so we can enjoy them together.
Take interest, be respectful, listen, be understanding, and BE HONEST. Some don't get that. Both men and women.
Like he likes to play video games so I started playing games. He likes to eat so I learned to cook. He likes technology so I read engadget.com. And its not just because he likes it, I actually enjoy these things now so we can enjoy them together.
Take interest, be respectful, listen, be understanding, and BE HONEST. Some don't get that. Both men and women.
LoneStar29
Banned
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Me i want to be treated with respect. Try listening to all of what i have to say instead of hearing what you want to pick out and attack. Do not blame me for the fools that went before me. Stop talking about sex with your ex or his dick like it belongs in a shrine. Do not hold me to standards that you yourself or no man you have ever been with could not achieve.
Look at the size of my heart and not the size of my wallet. If you have a problem communicate it to me and not your family and girlfriends. Talk to me not at me.I have no problem with you having male friends but if they invite you out and not us as a couple you can go and have fun but do not expect me to be there when you get back home.
I want respect but i do not want worship. If you have an opinion that differs to mine let me hear it instead of getting angry at me for mine. I am willing to listen but if i always wanted to fight i would be a boxer or a wrestler.
I have a fundamental problem with your friends occupying all of our time and your conversation. I did not drive over here to spend time with you so i could watch you talk to your girlfriends on the phone. I do not care that your neighbor is cheating with an ugly woman or that his wife is bi-sexual.
I do not expect a full course meal but i expect you to have the basics in the kitchen when we are hanging out sometimes. A simple home cooked meal shows more care and love than an expensive restaurant. I know how to cook and so should you.
In my opinion a relationship is like a dance. There are times when it is necessary to lead and there are times to be lead. This is true in any situation, but in thinking about male/female interaction I think it's especially important. There have been several good points made in this thread, but I think the dance concept is useful because it highlights the importance of both parties working together. If I'm dealing with a woman I feel that I have to bring certain qualities, skill sets, etc. to the table. She has to do the same thing and together we have to find a way to balance our situation. As I mentioned we have to know when to let the other one lead without being letting our egos/pride get in the way of progress and success in the relationship. I want a woman who can and will allow me to treat her they way she claims to want to be treated. What I mean by this is if she has certain expectations for our interaction she has to act in a manner that is deserving of that treatment. She can't expect to be treated as my Queen if she is not willing to treat me as her King...
I could do all the above
I could do all the above
Do not push me. I am one sec away from jumping on a plane to Toronto.
You had me...until the last one. I think the way a man wants to be treated is the same way a woman wants to be treated, which was basically everything on your list. But one question: is the last one really necessary? Is it a dealbreaker if she doesn't?
LoneStar29
Banned
It's a long way from a deal-breaker.
It's a matter of tradition, honor, and principle--a tradition longed practiced by many men who came before us and laid the foundations. No matter how hideous the name may sound, adopt it, honor it, and love it.
I could do all the above
Word. 29 that's what's up, any woman who's down to work with a brother is good with me...
I could do all the above
Really??? You DID read this part?
"Learn the difference between an argument and a discussion, I rarely argue"
In my opinion a relationship is like a dance. There are times when it is necessary to lead and there are times to be lead. This is true in any situation, but in thinking about male/female interaction I think it's especially important. There have been several good points made in this thread, but I think the dance concept is useful because it highlights the importance of both parties working together. If I'm dealing with a woman I feel that I have to bring certain qualities, skill sets, etc. to the table. She has to do the same thing and together we have to find a way to balance our situation. As I mentioned we have to know when to let the other one lead without being letting our egos/pride get in the way of progress and success in the relationship. I want a woman who can and will allow me to treat her they way she claims to want to be treated. What I mean by this is if she has certain expectations for our interaction she has to act in a manner that is deserving of that treatment. She can't expect to be treated as my Queen if she is not willing to treat me as her King...
OMG! I have heard this before. Someone told me "my love is a dance" and it took me a little while to understand what they meant.. so it's interesting that you said this... quite intriguing . . .
In my opinion a relationship is like a dance. There are times when it is necessary to lead and there are times to be lead. This is true in any situation, but in thinking about male/female interaction I think it's especially important. There have been several good points made in this thread, but I think the dance concept is useful because it highlights the importance of both parties working together. If I'm dealing with a woman I feel that I have to bring certain qualities, skill sets, etc. to the table. She has to do the same thing and together we have to find a way to balance our situation. As I mentioned we have to know when to let the other one lead without being letting our egos/pride get in the way of progress and success in the relationship. I want a woman who can and will allow me to treat her they way she claims to want to be treated. What I mean by this is if she has certain expectations for our interaction she has to act in a manner that is deserving of that treatment. She can't expect to be treated as my Queen if she is not willing to treat me as her King...
I'm with you, but I plan on just hyphenating since it seems like it's such a big deal to men. That way I keep my family name and also take his. I still don't get what the big deal is but it's one I'm willing to concede
*Goodnight everybody*
LoneStar29
Banned
I'm definitely gonna hyphenate. We discussed it and I wanna keep my last name but I don't want to disrespect him and I definitely won't ask him to take my last name, even though I'm sure that he would, because it'll be too much trouble...
Nawww it isnt that. It is just that there are so many youngins on this board that they havent came across a real grown sista..They are too busy chasing after the video girl w/ a big ass....You know..Not getting to know a sista's character
I have to agree Onyx...
I've slowly learned that even though I have my physical preferences, a sista's character and heart are the most important. She could be a straight dyme, and I'll leave her ass standing there if she's talkin' sideways out her mouth.
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