Let's Flip the Script! On the How Long Question! Why Not Women Make The First Move?

[Mo-Better]

PainInDAss started a great thread asking, "How long before you gave it up?" We men are expected to make the first move. So the question is, when is the right time for us to make the move? Is there are right time to make the move? Do you even know if there's a right time?

Men cannot read your minds ladies, so we take the chance then you say no. If we don't take the chance then your disappointed. But don't fool yourselves ladies you know you want the man, so why the games? Most women know within minutes they want a man. You may know you want the man before he knows he wants you. Be it through conversation, appearance whatever the reason you already know. So again why the games? Why should we have to determine when is the right time? Better yet why don't you make the first move? Why can't two mature people be able to agree and say "we're going to get together and do it, this evening"

 

[YouLikeMyStyle]

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1. Yall like the chase...I dont care what yall say lol

2. Women, especially black women, are conditioned to allow the man to make the first move

3. Women don't want men to think they're fast. Unfortunately, a lot of men are still in the dark ages and if the woman is aggressive he thinks she's some type of hoe (this is more common than a lot of men think)

4. For a naturally submissive woman like myself, I like to see men take charge; it turns me on

 

[swiftandsilent]

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1. Yall like the chase...I dont care what yall say lol

We also like to watch sports on a quiet sunday afternoon, but we don't all was get that either.

2. Women, especially black women, are conditioned to allow the man to make the first move.

This is a STONE AGE way of thinking and we thought women had come further thatn that.

3. Women don't want men to think they're fast. Unfortunately, a lot of men are still in the dark ages and if the woman is aggressive he thinks she's some type of hoe (this is more common than a lot of men think).

If you like the man and He likes you, then he is not from the dark ages.

4. For a naturally submissive woman like myself, I like to see men take charge; it turns me on

Yeah I have heard that one before. Let a brotha take charge too much and see how that changes

Just My 2 Cents

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

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I like making the first move because it allows me to go after who I am attracted to rather than having to deal with a man approaching me who I wouldn't mess with. But alot of men dont like when the woman is the aggressor

 

[black again]

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I can't speak for other men, but I DON'T like the chase, never did. In my experiences, women don't like to make the first move because they're afraid of rejection, like men...duh! And I truly believe that they feel rejection is worse for them than for men. Men are expected...conditioned to take chances and sometimes get rejected. When a woman is rejected sexually, I imagine it may affect her a lil deeper. So some women are really good at giving off signals. If you can read the signals..if you're paying close attention to her on a date, you'll know when to make a move. I don't even listen to WHAT she's saying as much as her body language. People typically pick their words somewhat carefully. But on the flipside, they often are totally oblivious to their body language.

 

[gonzo8402]

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Women should take the initiative, also. Sometimes i'm already in a relationship but wouldn't mind meeting someone new, but not to disrespect my relationship i don't holla at other women...but if they holler'd at me it'd be all good

 

[AlexandMorgan]

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I like making the first move because it allows me to go after who I am attracted to rather than having to deal with a man approaching me who I wouldn't mess with. But alot of men dont like when the woman is the aggressor

Aggressor and overly aggressive are too different things. No man wants a woman who overpowers him and takes his dick forcibly.




















Well some do.

 

[bigirl]

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It seems that alot of men think you are a hoe if you do that. It really seems to backfire more than it seems to work.

 

[harlem1nyc]

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It seems that alot of men think you are a hoe if you do that. It really seems to backfire more than it seems to work.

not true hun.....not true

 

[bigirl]

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not true hun.....not true

if its not a hoe then its something like they get vex cause they wanted to make the first move or whatever

 

[Ziongate]

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This thing about guys thinking a woman who approaches a man about their feelings for him is a hoe is a MYTH.

 

[bigirl]

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It has worked once and only once in my 37 years.

 

[Iron]

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It has worked once and only once in my 37 years.

What kind of men are you dating?

I like agressive women.

Men need to feel wanted too.

And it's hard trying to decipher your words and body language. Help us out a little.

 

[Mo-Better]

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I like making the first move because it allows me to go after who I am attracted to rather than having to deal with a man approaching me who I wouldn't mess with. But alot of men dont like when the woman is the aggressor

See it's not a matter of a woman being "the agressor." There's nothing wrong with a woman asking can we talk. It all depends on how its done. That's class! Now if you come at me like, "Yo MF I need to get off tonight I need some dick," then my answer is NO! You will need to find someone else, I'm jettin'!

 

[Mo-Better]

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It seems that alot of men think you are a hoe if you do that. It really seems to backfire more than it seems to work.

Bigirl I've never thought that of a woman. (I know you said alot not all) If a woman starts up a conversation then its just that. Where it goes from there is our decision. But to look at someone as a ho is crazy yet I know there's plenty of simple minded people in the world.

 

[bigirl]

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Bigirl I've never thought that of a woman. (I know you said alot not all) If a woman starts up a conversation then its just that. Where it goes from there is our decision. But to look at someone as a ho is crazy yet I know there's plenty of simple minded people in the world.

Oh starting a conversation is no problem I do it every day. I am talking about when we been talking long time, several times and I decide to kiss him or something. Turns out very badly usually.

 

[Izayoi]

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I can't speak for other men, but I DON'T like the chase, never did. In my experiences, women don't like to make the first move because they're afraid of rejection, like men...duh! And I truly believe that they feel rejection is worse for them than for men. Men are expected...conditioned to take chances and sometimes get rejected. When a woman is rejected sexually, I imagine it may affect her a lil deeper. So some women are really good at giving off signals. If you can read the signals..if you're paying close attention to her on a date, you'll know when to make a move. I don't even listen to WHAT she's saying as much as her body language. People typically pick their words somewhat carefully. But on the flipside, they often are totally oblivious to their body language.

C/S BA

I think rejection for some women is bound up in feelings of attractiveness...seems like some men are a bit more resilient. A man's "worth" in society is much less bound to his physical appearance than a woman's is.

I can't say ever made the first first move (like just meeting someone)...but the first move for sex if we are already on a date and the chemistry is good- YES.

 

[jucurious]

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But don't fool yourselves ladies you know you want the man, so why the games? Most women know within minutes they want a man. You may know you want the man before he knows he wants you.

^ yeah imma need him to know that he wants me before i say something...or have a possible inkling.

I can't speak for other men, but I DON'T like the chase, never did. In my experiences, women don't like to make the first move because they're afraid of rejection, like men...duh! And I truly believe that they feel rejection is worse for them than for men. Men are expected...conditioned to take chances and sometimes get rejected. When a woman is rejected sexually, I imagine it may affect her a lil deeper. So some women are really good at giving off signals. If you can read the signals..if you're paying close attention to her on a date, you'll know when to make a move. I don't even listen to WHAT she's saying as much as her body language. People typically pick their words somewhat carefully. But on the flipside, they often are totally oblivious to their body language.

^ smart man!


lol

but yeah..

1. i like the chase
2. i tried the whole first move when i was younger and it didn't work out to well..yeah i'm still tramautized by it....so i don't do the first move anymore
3. one thing i WONT do is send of contradictions between my mouth and my body language (i've had to str8n up my body language once when i had this HELLA fine prof. and then i saw this dude around campus, sometime later, i was introduced to him by my friend...he was her husband ...lol)
4. if you flat out ask me while im chillin one day am i feelin you...im not gonna lie..imma tell you the truth

 

[whoalilmomma]

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I think rejection for some women is bound up in feelings of attractiveness...seems like some men are a bit more resilient. A man's "worth" in society is much less bound to his physical appearance than a woman's is.

C/S Izzy.

Plus, I've seen a lot of men who give off all types of "I'm feeling you" vibes, only to act all brand new when the girl expresses interest in taking it past a friendship level. That's a negative. Sometimes women do that as well, but usually when a woman doesn't want a guy she makes it pretty obvious through her body language and those closest to her can tell she's not feeling him like that. I've seen a lot of guys who act so interested that even their friends are surprised when they reveal they're not feeling the girl.

But whatever, you and me baby ain't nothing but mammals so let's do it like they do on the discovery channel!

 

[DeSiRe]

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this is true

for the most part a woman does know from the moment she meets a guy if he can get it

men yall can tell if she was gonna let it go down from the jump by what kinda panties she is wearing or if she is freshly shaven

i think black women are so sexually opressed...moreso than any other women...we are so concerned about how our sexual choices "make us look"...thats why we hesitate

 

[Crown&Coke]

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I dont like the chase. If you are feeling me I dont feel like I should have to be jumping through hoops. It doesnt bother me at all when a woman comes up to me, that dont make her a hoe, it makes her somebody that knows what she wants.

But I do think women take rejection worse than men. I have had some women try to holla at me and I tell them no respectfully and they lose they mind. Some get rejected and call you gay, say you probably couldnt handle it or something crazy like that.​

 

[LoneStar29]

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I can't speak for other men, but I DON'T like the chase, never did. In my experiences, women don't like to make the first move because they're afraid of rejection, like men...duh! And I truly believe that they feel rejection is worse for them than for men. Men are expected...conditioned to take chances and sometimes get rejected. When a woman is rejected sexually, I imagine it may affect her a lil deeper. So some women are really good at giving off signals. If you can read the signals..if you're paying close attention to her on a date, you'll know when to make a move. I don't even listen to WHAT she's saying as much as her body language. People typically pick their words somewhat carefully. But on the flipside, they often are totally oblivious to their body language.

PREACH IT ... c/s all the above

This thing about guys thinking a woman who approaches a man about their feelings for him is a hoe is a MYTH.

Maybe not all guys are like that ... but alot of them are I think ... I've met alot of men who feel that way ... who say if a woman makes the first move she's too fast and shit ... that sucks for me ... cuz I naturally just go after what I want

 

[mrjody]

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1. Yall like the chase...I dont care what yall say lol

2. Women, especially black women, are conditioned to allow the man to make the first move

3. Women don't want men to think they're fast. Unfortunately, a lot of men are still in the dark ages and if the woman is aggressive he thinks she's some type of hoe (this is more common than a lot of men think)

4. For a naturally submissive woman like myself, I like to see men take charge; it turns me on

I was all ready to talk shit..
You gave the perfect answer.
Ima sit my ass down somewhere....

 

[CT's Finest]

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I like making the first move because it allows me to go after who I am attracted to rather than having to deal with a man approaching me who I wouldn't mess with. But alot of men dont like when the woman is the aggressor

^^^ Ladies pay attention to this. You can actually go after the guys you'd like to get to know instead of dealing with a bunch of fools you don't want anything to do with...Personally, I love to see a woman assert herself in that way, especially when it comes to her pursuing me.

1. Yall like the chase...I dont care what yall say lol

2. Women, especially black women, are conditioned to allow the man to make the first move

3. Women don't want men to think they're fast. Unfortunately, a lot of men are still in the dark ages and if the woman is aggressive he thinks she's some type of hoe (this is more common than a lot of men think)

4. For a naturally submissive woman like myself, I like to see men take charge; it turns me on

In most cases men are the ones who make the first approach, but I think women need to break out of the mindset that we have to do all the work. Ladies if you see someone you may like to get to know go for it. It's always funny to me that women will put themselves on the line for everything but meeting a man. Ladies I've seen you move to other cities for school, jobs, and many other things. Why not be that way when it comes to meeting new people (men)?

I can't speak for other men, but I DON'T like the chase, never did. In my experiences, women don't like to make the first move because they're afraid of rejection, like men...duh! And I truly believe that they feel rejection is worse for them than for men. Men are expected...conditioned to take chances and sometimes get rejected. When a woman is rejected sexually, I imagine it may affect her a lil deeper. So some women are really good at giving off signals. If you can read the signals..if you're paying close attention to her on a date, you'll know when to make a move. I don't even listen to WHAT she's saying as much as her body language. People typically pick their words somewhat carefully. But on the flipside, they often are totally oblivious to their body language.

True indeed. I think the thing that prohibits most women from approaching us is the fear of rejection. Black has stated that very well in this passage. Ladies as I have mentioned, I feel that you all should approach us more often. To me the best way to do that is by saying and doing what you would want us to do when approaching you. Real men can handle and appreciate a woman who is willing to make the first move. I love it, and wish it would happen more...Holla!

 

[LoneStar29]

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Well in the past couple of years I've tried twice and both times it didn't work out well for me to say the least ... LOL

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

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See it's not a matter of a woman being "the agressor." There's nothing wrong with a woman asking can we talk. It all depends on how its done. That's class! Now if you come at me like, "Yo MF I need to get off tonight I need some dick," then my answer is NO! You will need to find someone else, I'm jettin'!

But why, men talk about not beating around the bush. That statement lets you know what's up without dealing with too many details



But I do understand where you are coming from

 

[Mo-Better]

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1. Yall like the chase...I dont care what yall say lol

2. Women, especially black women, are conditioned to allow the man to make the first move

3. Women don't want men to think they're fast. Unfortunately, a lot of men are still in the dark ages and if the woman is aggressive he thinks she's some type of hoe (this is more common than a lot of men think)

4. For a naturally submissive woman like myself, I like to see men take charge; it turns me on

1. Chasing is one thing but if your always waiting for that man to make the first move you could miss the boat.

2. This is the 21st Century can we all please move on? There is nothing wrong with a woman starting a conversation. Its not like you reached over and grabbed his dick or patted him on the ass and said lets do it.

3. I agree a lot of us are still in the dark ages but as I said earlier every man is not going to think your a ho, if you approach them properly. I must ask what type of man would you be attracted to that would think of you as being as being a ho? That's kind of disturbing.

4. OK your a naturally submissive woman, and you like to see men take charge; it turns you on. We got that! So now that a relationship has been started, getting back to my original question, when is the right time for the move to the bedroom? You wouldn't want the man to think of you as a ho.

 

[osiris2600]

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What kind of men are you dating?

I like agressive women.

Men need to feel wanted too.

And it's hard trying to decipher your words and body language. Help us out a little.

I agree, I like when a women shows me she wants it. Men DEFINITELY like to feel wanted.

 

[Hellfish]

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What kind of men are you dating?

I like agressive women.

Men need to feel wanted too.

And it's hard trying to decipher your words and body language. Help us out a little.

cosign. I won't deny every once in a blue moon I like my ego stroked just a bit.

 

[JofromthaNO]

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In my current relationship (3+ years), I definitely was the aggressor when it came to asking him out, as well as sex. I think he enjoyed it, and it took less of the pressure off of him. Now, he was the aggressor when it came to asking to be my boyfriend, and I made him wait for that...lol

But, in the end, it doesn't matter. If you're feeling him, just go with it. Life is too short to be thinking about the what ifs...

 

[Mo-Better]

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But why, men talk about not beating around the bush. That statement lets you know what's up without dealing with too many details



But I do understand where you are coming from

I kind of figured you would know.

 

[Hollywoodheat]

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What kind of men are you dating?

I like agressive women.

Men need to feel wanted too.

And it's hard trying to decipher your words and body language. Help us out a little.

Basically

 

[thoughtone]

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C/S BA

I think rejection for some women is bound up in feelings of attractiveness...seems like some men are a bit more resilient. A man's "worth" in society is much less bound to his physical appearance than a woman's is.

I can't say ever made the first first move (like just meeting someone)...but the first move for sex if we are already on a date and the chemistry is good- YES.

Finally a female that admits that they have a paper thin ego. The reason why most females don’t make the first move is because they are afraid to be judged as they judge. Having to work for someone you desire is not in most female’s DNA. This why men will always run things.

 

[shywriter]

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What kind of men are you dating?

I like agressive women.

Men need to feel wanted too.

And it's hard trying to decipher your words and body language. Help us out a little.

OH SHANANANANAECANDIO GLORY! Preach, preacha!

Seriously, it's tough for guys like me (the first three letters in my screenname are there for a reason) to try and figure out what this action, means what that action means. I was told that if a woman touches you every time y'all see eachother she's feeling you. I asked one girl who was always caressing my arm and back and such if she wanted to go out, she said I wasn't her type. Ugh. So confusing.

 

[swiftandsilent]

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It seems that alot of men think you are a hoe if you do that. It really seems to backfire more than it seems to work.

SO NOT TRUE

At least to me.