Ladies...giving your number
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A women isnt gonna give a dude shes not interested in (initially) her number. Like many have said, you can talk your way out of a sure thing. So if you call or text and you get off on the wrong foot, then its a wrap. Happens, just put it out of your mind and move on. Every chick isnt gonna feel you like that. But dont be that guy to ignore all the signals and keep callin and textin, know when to let it go.
After so many years, I don't know why men don't get it.
It's simply a "shoo fly, don't bother me" reaction without saying "shoo fly, don't bother me".
It's simply a "shoo fly, don't bother me" reaction without saying "shoo fly, don't bother me".
You cant be serious??? Why even invite more irritating flies into your world, you aint feelin him, TAKE HIS!!! Dont give him yours. Thats some dumb shit, you know hes gonna call you, some kats have no sixth sense and really think your always busy
Give her your number and keep it moving.
Ditto, Herbsman Slip the # and gone on to next buzzard in the club or down the street! If you cast in different spots you're bound to reel in a few fish
LoneStar29
Banned
I know this is gonna sound dumbbut I've given my number to a couple guys I wasn't interested in ... they couldn't take the hint from my actions that I wasn't feelin' them ... and they kept buggin' me for the number ... I don't know how to tell a man I'm not interested in words ... cuz I've had a couple very upset brothas when all I said was no thank you I'm not interested ... so I give them my number ... not a wrong number so I can avoid that confrontation if I see them again somewhere ... and when they call I never pick up cuz I'm "busy" ... that's the excuse if I see them again ... eventually they stop calling ... some in couple weeks ... some alot longer than that ... I know
at me
... WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO LET A GUY KNOW YOU AREN'T INTERESTED
but I've given my number to a couple guys I wasn't interested in ... they couldn't take the hint from my actions that I wasn't feelin' them ... and they kept buggin' me for the number ... I don't know how to tell a man I'm not interested in words ... cuz I've had a couple very upset brothas when all I said was no thank you I'm not interested ... so I give them my number ... not a wrong number so I can avoid that confrontation if I see them again somewhere ... and when they call I never pick up cuz I'm "busy" ... that's the excuse if I see them again ... eventually they stop calling ... some in couple weeks ... some alot longer than that ... I knowat me ... WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO LET A GUY KNOW YOU AREN'T INTERESTED
I know this is gonna sound dumb
I dunno... SAY YOUR NOT INTERESTED!!!
Ive been called gay because Ive told females Im not really interested, so it couldnt be that bad on your end.
It's just as stupid as men who say they love a woman when they don't.
Conceding is easier than confronting.
It's normal human behavior. Don't make it bigger than it is.
Conceding is easier than confronting.
It's normal human behavior. Don't make it bigger than it is.
LoneStar29
Banned
I dunno... SAY YOUR NOT INTERESTED!!!
Well it's not that easy to tell a man in the T.Dot that you're not interested ... those 3 words almost got me into a physical altercation on like 3 different occassions ... now I just lie and say I have a man
Well it's not that easy to tell a man in the T.Dot that you're not interested ... those 3 words almost got me into a physical altercation on like 3 different occassions ... now I just lie and say I have a man
Thats the best way to go in today's age....say u gotta man and u not interested instead of just a flat out "Im not interested"....thank em for tryin or whateva if u feel the need to...cuz some niggaz dont care...u just sayin "Im not interested" or "I have a man" just wont cut it...its gotta be both..I think
That's just the thing. I'm NOT that guy. If a girl isn't interested I leave her the hell alone.
But I had a chick who I tried to date decide she wasn't interested...gave me the bullshit "Just friends...I didn't lead you on, did I?" speech. So of course I stopped calling.
Now nearly a year later she gets in my face talking about "call me" and "let's go out?" Keep in mind I've seen her a couple of times since I stopped calling but of course made no moves on her (what would be the point?)
Women and y'all silly ass games...
That's just the thing. I'm NOT that guy. If a girl isn't interested I leave her the hell alone.
But I had a chick who I tried to date decide she wasn't interested...gave me the bullshit "Just friends...I didn't lead you on, did I?" speech. So of course I stopped calling.
Now nearly a year later she gets in my face talking about "call me" and "let's go out?" Keep in mind I've seen her a couple of times since I stopped calling but of course made no moves on her (what would be the point?)
Women and y'all silly ass games...
She wasnt with it, when you were so its no longer about her. Dont play that shit with her. Females want what they want when THEY want it, and usually whenever you stop showing interest is when They want you. But it usually isnt genuine. They just wonder why the hell you aint simpin for them and wanna see if its them, or you. Most females cant stand the fact that a guy aint feelin them like the others.
See IMO three is twice too many. Like you said, in the days of cell phones and caller ID, I call or text one time, its up to her to get at me the next time. If I call and your busy, cool. If you really wanna talk youll call me back. Shits a chess match, I dont make another move until you do.
I got to agree. Ladies why not say, "Sorry, I have someone I'm just having a night out?" Any old excuse, rather than give someone a number you don't want to be with or talk with. Why invite aggrivation into your life?
Is this a new trend or are women that lonely they now just hand out phone numbers to anyone that ask? Why not just print flyers with tearoffs on the bottom?
There's a million and one reason why a women or a man for that matter gives there number to someone who is trying to hollar who they are not truely interested in. Get over it dude, seriously, the more you ponder why this person was not honest in the first place the more you'll fustrate yourself. Consider what she did to you a favor...would you really want anything to do with someone who lies about something so minor. For now on Dont Ask for Numbers!!! If she offers, fine, but otherwise hand her your card. If she's interested she'll call and that prevents any mix-ups or signal crossing.
For now on Dont Ask for Numbers!!! If she offers, fine, but otherwise hand her your card. If she's interested she'll call and that prevents any mix-ups or signal crossing.
I got to agree. Ladies why not say, "Sorry, I have someone I'm just having a night out?" Any old excuse, rather than give someone a number you don't want to be with or talk with. Why invite aggrivation into your life?
Is this a new trend or are women that lonely they now just hand out phone numbers to anyone that ask? Why not just print flyers with tearoffs on the bottom?
If a woman tells me that im gonna say "What ya man gotta do wit me, Im not tryin to hear dat see"
I know this is gonna sound dumb
You asked a good question. Most guys, whether they admit it or not are sensitive...that's why they keep asking, they don't want to be turned down. Use the ABC's of turn down instead of I'm not interested...cause that's a sure way to get called a bitch. But why?, because a man is more complex than a general answer...I'm not interested to us means....she doesn't know what's interesting about me, thus she really doesn't know what she wants and she didn't say she's NOT single.
A = Affirmation
B = Be Brief
C = Confirmation
Example...."Hi my name is charles", "charles", "yea charles"
= (Affirmation.) You called him by his name, which means even if you're not interested, you were polite enough to acknowledge him.
"Charles, you really caught me at a bad time, without going into details...I'm not available to date or make new acquaintences right now"...
Charles's response..."when would be a good time" your response, " When I know, You'll know"
Charles's response..."How will I know without your number"...your response..."I'll find you, I promise".
= (be brief without being harsh)
"Thank you charles for taking the time to speak with me...enjoy your night"
= (Confirmation) Thanks but no thanks...nothing open ended, no promises....
Hope this helps.
If you do this, try to remember who the hell she is. No problem unless you've given your number to a dozen women and they start the call with "Hi, do you remember who this is?"
welllll
i agree...if you have no intentions of calling dude, then yeah say ur not interested BUT you have to be careful...well at least where i'm from
you have dudes ranging from teenagers to GROWN GROWN GROWN ASS "MEN" asking you for your number and usually they get the following response:
-naw im good
-i'm taken
-my boo wont like that
-i'm gay (and this 15 yr girl got killed over that
)
-i
-i'm str8
now some dudes will say aight cool, but a lot of them will go into the:
-is your man treating you right
-i'm saying, we can just be friends
-WHAT? well fuck you bitch with you stuck up ass
-or they will grab on you
and i don't do fake numbers cuz just my luck i will run into their ass again.
i had a fake name i used and one of my friends called me by my real name one time and i was like "don't be callin me by my middle name...u know i hate that name" and she got the hint...lol
but if a dude keeps pushin up i will tell him, well give me ur number and then he goes thru all the motions and i say well i'll holla, cuz u aint givin up the number so u must don't really wanna talk...haha
aww man i got some stories about this crap...lol
so yeah, being honest is good but all dudes aint stable (some women aint stable either)
i agree...if you have no intentions of calling dude, then yeah say ur not interested BUT you have to be careful...well at least where i'm from
you have dudes ranging from teenagers to GROWN GROWN GROWN ASS "MEN" asking you for your number and usually they get the following response:
-naw im good
-i'm taken
-my boo wont like that
-i'm gay (and this 15 yr girl got killed over that
)-i
-i'm str8
now some dudes will say aight cool, but a lot of them will go into the:
-is your man treating you right
-i'm saying, we can just be friends
-WHAT? well fuck you bitch with you stuck up ass
-or they will grab on you
and i don't do fake numbers cuz just my luck i will run into their ass again.
i had a fake name i used and one of my friends called me by my real name one time and i was like "don't be callin me by my middle name...u know i hate that name" and she got the hint...lol
but if a dude keeps pushin up i will tell him, well give me ur number and then he goes thru all the motions and i say well i'll holla, cuz u aint givin up the number so u must don't really wanna talk...haha
aww man i got some stories about this crap...lol
so yeah, being honest is good but all dudes aint stable (some women aint stable either)
That's what I'm talkin about. I ain't callin NOBODY 3 times without a return call! When you meet a person, you can tell If she wants you to have HER number. You don't have to ask for it.
I hear ya playboy ,but I say 3 times ,because people do get busy .... plus ,she could be shy about calling you back
but dudes gotta be sensitive to whether a woman wants to talk to them .... usually I just give chicks my card
some call ,some dont
Always remember Woman are the Aggressors
Give him the number so he stops buggin the shit outta you in person. Then you don't answer the calls and eventually he will get the message.............................Hopefully 
But if you really want something, you make an effort to get it do you not. Either way, were not in highschool anymore, leave that shy shit there. My thing is this, you left a guy your number, you think hes worthy enough to give your number to, you tellin me you dont want to atleast get to know him better??? If you do and you see a missed call or text on your phone, you dont think to call or send a return text??? Hell out of shear curiosity Ill call a number I dont recognize back, dosent matter if I have or havent given out my number lately. Its just some shit, people shouldnt get the benefit of the doubt about, her being too busy or too shy to hit me back isnt one of them. The saying "opportunity knocks but doesnt bang" applies here. If women are the aggressors they need to step up and act like it sometimes.
If I'm not feeling the guy, he doesn't get my number, plain and simple. But some dudes just plain old don't get it. In that case they get the Rejection Line number: 212-479-7990. I tell them it's my home number and call it a day.
This whole number getting shit can be so cruel...I know when I ask for a woman's number, and she says, "Why don't you give me yours?", I know that 99 times out of 100, she's not gonna call...depending on my mood, I just say, "No, that's all right", and keep it moving, on to the next...but you never know...I'd rather a woman say to me that she's with someone than say no outright or play the why don't you give me your number crap...
I know this is gonna sound dumb
terrible you should be able to shoot a guy down after all you had no problem voicing your opinion in the not dating a woman with kids post
fellas the reason women give guys the number that they are not feeling is for attention some women like the attention of having there phone ring when they are among a crowd especially there girlfriends or some do this to make the next guy or there boyfriends jealous
trueness indeed
LoneStar29
Banned
STFU ... a boy like you knows nothing about women and what we think and why we do what we do ... there have been about 2 other women besides me who have said the same thing I did ... WTF makes you think you know better than us???
I know this is gonna sound dumb
Think of it in terms of business.. If you apply for a loan, sometimes you dont get a flat out decline. they give you outrageous terms that you wont agree too and if you do, more money for them and your an idiot.. How many people have said yes to $10,000 loan and once financing is done they have paid back $40k. so the next time you at the club, and dude step to you.. let him know, you need the bottle of Goose on the top shelf or the old school favorite from im gonna get you sucka, and tell him you "looking for mr right"... if they produce then you leave the club with a big dick muthafucka with some cash when you would have tossed them, its all profit
thats what you want me to do but i cant tell you what you want to hear ls you are trip
LoneStar29
Banned
WTF???
I just tell them I have a man now and call it a daythats what you want me to do but i cant tell you what you want to hear ls you are trip
Whatever that means ... I don't even know why I respond to your posts ... you never have anything well thought out or decent to say
WTF???
i say descent things all the time ,you telling them you have a man is a descent thing to say a descent let down
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