13 reasons for a single man not to date a women with kids!

[the flash]

lol at onxyfemms response,women like her get offended

 

[Chicutie]

It won't be discussed by me, because I don't have kids, so I could care less how ya'll feel about it quite honestly. I don't date men with kids for my own personal reasons. Some people don't mind it, some do; to each his/her own. There were a few good points in that article though.

Cosign.

 

[maynard]

A-cup tits are the shit.....we call em' Mosquito bites. I prefer small tits with a big ass.

FUCK YES

 

[LoneStar29]

Well I have a child ... alot of that list doesn't apply to me ... I wont lie a couple of them do though ... if a man doesn't want to date me cuz I have a son I say he's entitled to his own opinion so it's all good ... it's funny though ... cuz one time this guy dissed me cuz I have a son ... a year later he also become a single parent ... CHARMA ... you gotta love herI wonder if it's hard for him to find a date now

 

[onyxfemme]

lol at onxyfemms response,women like her get offended

Naaah not offended, but confused because I cant when people stereotype.
ETA: Women like me? Partna you dont know anything about me. Check around you'll see I am not for any bullshit.

 

[the flash]

Naaah not offended, but confused because I cant when people stereotype.
ETA: Women like me? Partna you dont know anything about me. Check around you'll see I am not for any bullshit.

lol,no offense to you but i feel no single person should date a person with more than one kid in todays enviroment

and tell me whats so immature about that?

 

[LoneStar29]

lol,no offense to you but i feel no single person should date a person with more than one kid in todays enviroment

and tell me whats so immature about that?

I can't speak for OnyxFemme but to me it sounds immature cuz it feels like you are dismissing every other positive attribute this person has because they are a single parent ... for me ... it's hard enough that I'm in this situation ... I mean this is not how I planned my life to be ... then a man comes along and is like well fuck you and everything else you have to offer cuz you have a child??? It's kinda mean too But my son is my best friend and I wouldn' trade him for all the hot boys in the world

 

[LeroyDibiase]

I can't speak for OnyxFemme but to me it sounds immature cuz it feels like you are dismissing every other positive attribute this person has because they are a single parent ... for me ... it's hard enough that I'm in this situation ... I mean this is not how I planned my life to be ... then a man comes along and is like well fuck you and everything else you have to offer cuz you have a child??? It's kinda mean too But my son is my best friend and I wouldn' trade him for all the hot boys in the world

You should be thankin ur stars Flash has eliminated you.

 

[theprojectboy]

what

 

[Areanabell]

Mr. Flash,

Its good to see you looking out for the brothers. And that you have set your sights high.

But why not post 13 reasons why we should not date men with kids or better yet 13 questions to ask a man that has kids that you would like to date.

1. Why are you not with your child's mother
2. Did this child result from a one night stand.
3. Did you step up to the plate before or after she took you to court for child support.
4. What made you think the baby wasn't yours.
5. If you had to do it all over again would you have worn a condom.
6. How many baby mamas do you have?
7. How often do you see or talk to your kids?
8. Do your kids have their own space in your house. i.e their own room?
9. What is the name of your child's homeroom teacher.
10. What is the name of your child's bestfriend and where do they live.
11. What is your child's favorite color?
12. If you were to remarry and your child's mother where to die, what would be your first reaction.
13. You sit here and say you have reasons why you dont date women with children, give me 13 reasons why I should date you.

You can only except what you give. Love has no boundaries, the love of your life may have no children, four healthy kids or one handicap, in the world we live in today, these kids need as many people for them as they are against them.

Any woman that can hold down a good job, kids, her finances, and still have time to look fly, have friends and a life. You'd be a fool to pass up on.

 

[Imhotep]

Good thread, why is it in SOL?

 

[Goyaoboya]

As you get older,it's harder to find a woman with no kids. Funny how so many of these thoughts are the same of my own. Espcially number 10. I meet so many fine ass women who are a bad judge of character. You break up with them after you see the signs and check on them after time has passed and you see they make the same damn mistakes.

13 reasons for a single man not to date a women with kids! and the same applies to women also!

By Peezy Head (aka Jumpig Mack Flash)


1) Baby Damage - Birth has a traumatic effect on the female form. Pregnancy leaves stretch marks, saggy breasts, and c-section scars. I've also heard that the nookie is even stretch out and it isn't the same anymore. Then there's the weight gain. Most women NEVER LOSE IT or they never get their former hot shape back.

2) "I Can't Find A Baby Sitter" - Women will use this as an excuse to get out of date with you or they may legitmately can't find a baby sitter. Either case it isn't your problem and you shouldn't have to deal with it.

3) Babies Interrupt Sex - I've had this happen to me. I was banging a woman and her kid interrupted my sex. Needless to say I was pissed. If some kid is going to interrupt the meanest head you've ever gotten, that kid should have your last name.

4) Baby's Daddy - When your dealing with a woman and your getting know her, you shouldn't have to deal with kid's father. Some guys can't get over the fact that their ex has moved on. Before he was an un-attentive jerk and didn't give a jolly damn about her. Now that you've entered into the picture, the dude wants to be the ideal boyfriend and a "father of the year," nominee." The guy stars stalking her and wants to fight you. Even if the woman and guy are on good terms, the guy feels as if he can always smash. He knows her. He knows what she wants to hear and what makes her happy. The next know you your having this conversation- "I've decided to try and make it work with Jimmy's dad". Best way to avoid the situation is to avoid single moms.

5) Rent-A-Daddy - Realizing her mistake, realizing that kids (especially boys need fathers,) The woman gets desperate, any and every guy has the potential to be "daddy." You're out trying to get some, not inheirit a family.

6) The Kids Are Still Up - This is only a problem if your trying to pursue something other than a booty call. Wanting to spend time with you, but not wanting to bring strange men around her kids, you find yourself only seeing this female after 10 or 11PM. You want to move forward, but she has to make sure your the "one." This could take months. I suggest dealing with women that are readily available to hang out.

7) Double Heart Break - You are with the woman, then everything falls apart. You not only do you have to deal with losing the woman, but you've formed a bond with lil' Jimmy. You and Jimmy play HALO together, watch the Wizards' hoop it up, go to the zoo, and things dads do with sons or daughters. On top of maybe missing the woman, you miss the kid.

8) Your Not My Dad. - You hook up with the woman, eventually the issue of discipline is going to come up. Some kids being resentful or just being a bratty prick is going to eventuallly pull the "YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! YOUR NOT MY DAD!!!" card. Personally if I did date single mothers and some dumba$$ kid pulled that stunt on me, I would say, "Your right. I'm not your father. Since I have no authority over you and you refuse to listen to me, you need to pack your sh*t and go live with your dad." This would be a deal breaker for me. In addition some mothers or the dad would have problem with you disciplining their kid. I'm sorry, if some kid broke my laptop, I'm whooping his a$$.

9) You Know What She Going To Do - She already has one kid, if you knock her up, it's safe to assume she's going to have another one.

10) Bad Judge of Character - This female got knocked up by somebody that she was "supposely in love with." Not only is she a bad judge of character, she's GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guy that's an a$$hole now, is the same guy she thought the world of and had unprotected sex with.

11) Unneccessary Expeditures - Eventually you'll get to meet the kid(s.) Soon those dates turn into family outings. Instead of paying for two people, your paying for three or more. The same goes if you move in with her.

12) You'll Never Be #1 - When your trying to build a relationship with somebody, you should be the focus of the woman's life. It should be about you and her. If she has a kid, you'll NEVER BE #1!!! That's not a bad thing either, but it's something I don't want to deal with. Neither should you.

13) Tag, Your It! - This should be the BIGGEST deterrent to EVER dealing with a single mother. In some jurisdictions, I think California is one of them, if you start dealing with a female with kids, move in with her and things go south. THE FEMALE CAN SUE YOU FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!!! She can claim that the her and child have "become a customed to you supporting the child." YOU COULD END UP POSSIBILY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A KID THAT ISN'T EVEN YOURS! Imagine being extorted money because you were doing what you thought was the "right thing." The state doesn't give a rat's a$$ about the relationship being over or you being a "good guy." They just don't want the chick on welfare. So as far as your concerned, it's "TAG, YOUR IT!"

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Mr. Flash,

Its good to see you looking out for the brothers. And that you have set your sights high.

But why not post 13 reasons why we should not date men with kids or better yet 13 questions to ask a man that has kids that you would like to date.

1. Why are you not with your child's mother
2. Did this child result from a one night stand.
3. Did you step up to the plate before or after she took you to court for child support.
4. What made you think the baby wasn't yours.
5. If you had to do it all over again would you have worn a condom.
6. How many baby mamas do you have?
7. How often do you see or talk to your kids?
8. Do your kids have their own space in your house. i.e their own room?
9. What is the name of your child's homeroom teacher.
10. What is the name of your child's bestfriend and where do they live.
11. What is your child's favorite color?
12. If you were to remarry and your child's mother where to die, what would be your first reaction.
13. You sit here and say you have reasons why you dont date women with children, give me 13 reasons why I should date you.

You can only except what you give. Love has no boundaries, the love of your life may have no children, four healthy kids or one handicap, in the world we live in today, these kids need as many people for them as they are against them.

Any woman that can hold down a good job, kids, her finances, and still have time to look fly, have friends and a life. You'd be a fool to pass up on.

Those aren't reasons, those are questions. Maybe you should come up with reasons or start a questions thread.

 

[xfactor]

None son. I have a husband and 3 kids..Now what?

My bad. I should've said -

So how many of the 13 reasons applied to you?

lol at onxyfemms response,women like her get offended

Yeah... That's why I asked her how many did she check off on

 

[onyxfemme]

How could any of that bullshit apply to me? The post is titled "13 reasons for a single man not to date a women w/ kids" None of that ghetto scenerio shit applies nor applied to me ever. But again keep stereotyping. Again I ask...Women like me?
Yep I am done here.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

How could any of that bullshit apply to me? The post is titled "13 reasons for a single man not to date a women w/ kids" None of that ghetto scenerio shit applies nor applied to me ever. But again keep stereotyping. Again I ask...Women like me?
Yep I am done here.

How is it "ghetto" to not be able to find a babysitter?? I don't deal with what you would call "ghetto" women and that has come up. What's "ghetto" about the kids not liking you because you aren't their real father? Or what's "ghetto" about the kids not going to sleep which cuts into your alone time?

 

[xfactor]

How could any of that bullshit apply to me? The post is titled "13 reasons for a single man not to date a women w/ kids" None of that ghetto scenerio shit applies nor applied to me ever. But again keep stereotyping. Again I ask...Women like me?
Yep I am done here.

How is it a stereotype?

All I know, is the time line don't match up. Take it for what it's worth.

How is it "ghetto" to not be able to find a babysitter?? I don't deal with what you would call "ghetto" women and that has come up. What's "ghetto" about the kids not liking you because you aren't their real father? Or what's "ghetto" about the kids not going to sleep which cuts into your alone time?

Man, just let her continue to make herself look silly.

She already called herself out with her initial response and she's just making it worse.

 

[Adam Knows]

13) Tag, Your It! - This should be the BIGGEST deterrent to EVER dealing with a single mother. In some jurisdictions, I think California is one of them, if you start dealing with a female with kids, move in with her and things go south. THE FEMALE CAN SUE YOU FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!!! She can claim that the her and child have "become a customed to you supporting the child." YOU COULD END UP POSSIBILY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A KID THAT ISN'T EVEN YOURS! Imagine being extorted money because you were doing what you thought was the "right thing." The state doesn't give a rat's a$$ about the relationship being over or you being a "good guy." They just don't want the chick on welfare. So as far as your concerned, it's "TAG, YOUR IT!"

one of the scariest reasons. in ohio if they live with you for more then180 days she can file for spousal support and child support, since the courts see you as a common law marriage.

 

[the flash]

How is it a stereotype?

All I know, is the time line don't match up. Take it for what it's worth.



Man, just let her continue to make herself look silly.

She already called herself out with her initial response and she's just making it worse.

lol

 

[the flash]

one of the scariest reasons. in ohio if they live with you for more then180 days she can file for spousal support and child support, since the courts see you as a common law marriage.

and onyxfemme you say this is immature and ghetto men protect yourself from unwanted exspendetures!!!!

 

[the flash]

As you get older,it's harder to find a woman with no kids. Funny how so many of these thoughts are the same of my own. Espcially number 10. I meet so many fine ass women who are a bad judge of character. You break up with them after you see the signs and check on them after time has passed and you see they make the same damn mistakes.

bro im thirty and the woman i date is 25 with NOkids!

 

[the flash]

Good thread, why is it in SOL?

why not iwant women to see how men feel about multiple kids and the resposibility of raising them throught other cats responses on this board

all of us are not going to save you or accept responsibilty for your mistakes. i might and i said i might date a woman with one kid but it is all in how she carries herself,and hey if you are offended women with kids look at this way you have prferences to what you like and dont like i just gave 13 reasons i would date a woman with kids

 

[the flash]

How could any of that bullshit apply to me? The post is titled "13 reasons for a single man not to date a women w/ kids" None of that ghetto scenerio shit applies nor applied to me ever. But again keep stereotyping. Again I ask...Women like me?
Yep I am done here.

and another thing why is onxyfemme replying after all she is married with 3 kids so this does not apply to her! i say women like her get upset cause they see stuff like this and focus no matter what there scenero is the fact that it says dont date women with kids if you are single!

 

[the flash]

Mr. Flash,

Its good to see you looking out for the brothers. And that you have set your sights high.

But why not post 13 reasons why we should not date men with kids or better yet 13 questions to ask a man that has kids that you would like to date.

1. Why are you not with your child's mother
2. Did this child result from a one night stand.
3. Did you step up to the plate before or after she took you to court for child support.
4. What made you think the baby wasn't yours.
5. If you had to do it all over again would you have worn a condom.
6. How many baby mamas do you have?
7. How often do you see or talk to your kids?
8. Do your kids have their own space in your house. i.e their own room?
9. What is the name of your child's homeroom teacher.
10. What is the name of your child's bestfriend and where do they live.
11. What is your child's favorite color?
12. If you were to remarry and your child's mother where to die, what would be your first reaction.
13. You sit here and say you have reasons why you dont date women with children, give me 13 reasons why I should date you.

You can only except what you give. Love has no boundaries, the love of your life may have no children, four healthy kids or one handicap, in the world we live in today, these kids need as many people for them as they are against them.

Any woman that can hold down a good job, kids, her finances, and still have time to look fly, have friends and a life. You'd be a fool to pass up on.

read the text 13 reasons for a single man not to date a women with kids! and the same applies to women also!

single women shouldnt date men with kids either!

 

[LoneStar29]

bro im thirty and the woman i date is 25 with NOkids!

why not iwant women to see how men feel about multiple kids and the resposibility of raising them throught other cats responses on this board
all of us are not going to save you or accept responsibilty for your mistakes. i might and i said i might date a woman with one kid but it is all in how she carries herself,and hey if you are offended women with kids look at this way you have prferences to what you like and dont like i just gave 13 reasons i would date a woman with kids

I think I've been pretty cool with this shit up until now ... HOW DARE YOU refer to anyones child as a mistake ... that's the rudest and most inconsiderate thing I think you could have ever said ... and you're 30??? I genuinely thought we were supoposed to be having a mature discussion about this but when you start throwing around your words like they don't mean anything it goes to show YOUR actual level of maturity ... and this is why I DO like to date a man with at least one child ... cuz it helps him to GROW UP... and easy on the implying your girl is somehow better than another cuz she doesn't have a child ... I'm just as much woman and have just as much to offer as her with or without a child

 

[TheLoneGunMan]

While some of these may apply to some situations, it was hilarious to read this list.

I personally marrid a woman who had children by someone else. I have only had on problem with baby daddy but after the a$$ shipping I gave him, he shows nothing but respect for what my wife and I are trying to accomplish with the children.

As far as interrupting the head/bed action, none of that went on until my wife and I had our own child together. she used to be in the bed with us so much she had her own spot in the bed...right in the dayumn middle.

 

[mrjody]

Well I have a child ... alot of that list doesn't apply to me ... I wont lie a couple of them do though ... if a man doesn't want to date me cuz I have a son I say he's entitled to his own opinion so it's all good ... it's funny though ... cuz one time this guy dissed me cuz I have a son ... a year later he also become a single parent ... CHARMA ... you gotta love herI wonder if it's hard for him to find a date now

Women throw pussy at single fathers.
You just gotta be careful, cause they
sizing you up for the broom jump.

(Settled) Women are naturally more accepting of children.
THink about it CHicks even accept babies niggas make OUTSIDE of the relationship. THey dont scoff at the ones that came before her.
No skin off her cooch...

 

[LoneStar29]

I've been living on my own sine I was 19 years old ... I've held down a full-time job and went to school part-time ... my home is so clean you can eat the food right off the floor ... I can cook ... never missed a bill payment ... I'm independent to my core and pay for ALL my own stuff ... I stay fly ... all this while being a single mother and making sure that my son goes to a good school ... after school programs ... park everyday ... take him to Wonderland, Ontario Place, CNE you name it ... big birthday parties for him every year ... we spend quality time together everday ... he's my best friend ... AND YOU HAVE THE NERVE TO SUGGEST A LITTLE ITTY BITTY GIRL WITH NO LIFE EXPERIENCE IS BETTER THAN ME CUZ SHE DOESN'T HAVE A CHILD??????? Try having her do all the above AND THEN come to me and tell me she's better than me ... the number one benefit to having a woman with a child is watching her persever through it all ... I'm every woman homie in every sense of the word and I'm not going to let you or any one of these little boy minded fools take that away from me cuz I have a child and the next bird doesn't

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

I've been living on my own sine I was 19 years old ... I've held down a full-time job and went to school part-time ... my home is so clean you can eat the food right off the floor ... I can cook ... never missed a bill payment ... I'm independent to my core and pay for ALL my own stuff ... I stay fly ... all this while being a single mother and making sure that my son goes to a good school ... after school programs ... park everyday ... take him to Wonderland, Ontario Place, CNE you name it ... big birthday parties for him every year ... we spend quality time together everday ... he's my best friend ... AND YOU HAVE THE NERVE TO SUGGEST A LITTLE ITTY BITTY GIRL WITH NO LIFE EXPERIENCE IS BETTER THAN ME CUZ SHE DOESN'T HAVE A CHILD??????? Try having her do all the above AND THEN come to me and tell me she's better than me ... the number one benefit to having a woman with a child is watching her persever through it all ... I'm every woman homie in every sense of the word and I'm not going to let you or any one of these little boy minded fools take that away from me cuz I have a child and the next bird doesn't

Why even explain girl?? There will always be an excuse some men will use to make it seem like that isn't enough

Check your pm Lone

 

[LoneStar29]

Why even explain girl?? There will always be an excuse some men will use to make it seem like that isn't enough

Check your pm Lone

Naw on the real I was really offended by the whole take care of your own mistakes comment he just threw around ... I can accept anyones opinion which I have done plenty times in this thread ... it's cool if he or any other man doesn't want to talk to a female with kids ... but you can't cross that line where you start insulting peoples children cuz that's when the guns get drawn(metaphorically speaking)... sorry if all the girls with kids he's met have been on some low tips but a woman like me stays strong and I KNOW I have my son to thank for that because he helped me to mature and become a better more responsible woman

 

[SWATLANTA]

Naw on the real I was really offended by the whole take care of your own mistakes comment he just threw around ... I can accept anyones opinion which I have done plenty times in this thread ... it's cool if he or any other man doesn't want to talk to a female with kids ... but you can't cross that line where you start insulting peoples children cuz that's when the guns get drawn(metaphorically speaking)... sorry if all the girls with kids he's met have been on some low tips but a woman like me stays strong and I KNOW I have my son to thank for that because he helped me to mature and become a better more responsible woman

Don't stress the cat who referred to children as mistakes. Truth be told, most of us were not planned. Calendar age doesn't always equate to maturity level. The reality (at least as I see it) is that there are a lot of trifling single mothers just as there are a hell of a lot of good women who happen to have kids.

 

[LoneStar29]

Don't stress the cat who referred to children as mistakes. Truth be told, most of us were not planned. Calendar age doesn't always equate to maturity level. The reality (at least as I see it) is that there are a lot of trifling single mothers just as there are a hell of a lot of good women who happen to have kids.

EXACTLY ... he shouldn't make such a narrow minded comment like avoid all women with kids cuz they're all bad ... and as I said before that's his opinion and it was all good until he started calling peoples children mistakes ... that's just ignorant

 

[itwazuntme]

Some of these are true, but for the most part, it truly depends on the woman. I date women with kids, because I have two children of my own and women with kids seem to understand the responsibilities that come with raising children. Secondly, just because a man is single, does not mean he does not have children too. He may not be taking care of those kids full-time, but it's not fair to assume that single means no children.

My rule of thumb is treat all women the same until they prove otherwise. A lot of times, women get stuck with these children because a man told them, "I'll always be there for you". Yea, it's a sucker line, but when you want to believe in something, it's easy to fall for.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

EXACTLY ... he shouldn't make such a narrow minded comment like avoid all women with kids cuz they're all bad ... and as I said before that's his opinion and it was all good until he started calling peoples children mistakes ... that's just ignorant

C/S

 

[LoneStar29]

Some of these are true, but for the most part, it truly depends on the woman. I date women with kids, because I have two children of my own and women with kids seem to understand the responsibilities that come with raising children. Secondly, just because a man is single, does not mean he does not have children too. He may not be taking care of those kids full-time, but it's not fair to assume that single means no children.

My rule of thumb is treat all women the same until they prove otherwise. A lot of times, women get stuck with these children because a man told them, "I'll always be there for you". Yea, it's a sucker line, but when you want to believe in something, it's easy to fall for.

C/S everything but that last part is THE TRUTH speak it please