Sistas Do You Still Love Black Men???

[CT's Finest]

You are an upstanding black man. I commend you for what you do. My post was meant for two things. I was a poor kid from a rough neighborhood but I over came that mostly for me and to meet a respectable black man Every one I meet come across as bogus people. I dont ask for much other than loyalty honesty and trust. I am now at a point when where a nice looking respectable man approaches me for what i accomplished and allows me to do the same for him. My opinion will then change about black men. Hopefully one day will come that allows that to happen. So far its been one heartache after another. It makes me think of all the good blessed things i have accomplied in my life why wont black men take a chance to be honest and enjoy things with me.

Hang in there. Right now is about you getting your stuff together. Concentrate on that and do what you need to do in order to be happy. When the time is right a man will come along and the two of you will be able to build something special... I noticed your location being NC. From the tone of your original post I thought I might have to find you and put a foot in your ass. I was about to jump and the whip and cruise the streets looking for Caramelcute to straighten her out ... Anyway, like I said things will work out for you, but you have to get yourself together first. This is something we all have to do in preparation for the things we want. The first part is mental, after that everything else will fall in to place...

 

[Chicutie]

You are an upstanding black man. I commend you for what you do. My post was meant for two things. I was a poor kid from a rough neighborhood but I over came that mostly for me and to meet a respectable black man Every one I meet come across as bogus people. I dont ask for much other than loyalty honesty and trust. I am now at a point when where a nice looking respectable man approaches me for what i accomplished and allows me to do the same for him. My opinion will then change about black men. Hopefully one day will come that allows that to happen. So far its been one heartache after another. It makes me think of all the good blessed things i have accomplied in my life why wont black men take a chance to be honest and enjoy things with me.

I know this is directed to CT but I just wanted to comment on something. I think I can probably speak for a lot of women when I say that is not easy to find a respectable black man today (and the same can probably be said about women). But with that being said, I know they are still out there.

And though it may seem rare at times, it doesn't take away for the love I have black men like my grandfather. Who told me every day when I was a child that was beautiful. Or a man like father, who raised me like I was his own even though I wasn't, because he was a strong black man.

So when I see black "males" who have not yet formed into black men I don't let that reflect a negative image upon what I know a strong black man truly is. You shouldn't either.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

You are an upstanding black man. I commend you for what you do. My post was meant for two things. I was a poor kid from a rough neighborhood but I over came that mostly for me and to meet a respectable black man Every one I meet come across as bogus people. I dont ask for much other than loyalty honesty and trust. I am now at a point when where a nice looking respectable man approaches me for what i accomplished and allows me to do the same for him. My opinion will then change about black men. Hopefully one day will come that allows that to happen. So far its been one heartache after another. It makes me think of all the good blessed things i have accomplied in my life why wont black men take a chance to be honest and enjoy things with me.

 

[Robeson]

What bullshit this all is. Why do ya'll waste my valuable time reading this bullshit when I need some fucking inspriration???? Where are DA's asscheeks when I need them?

 

[bigirl]

WOW
speechless

 

[bgque12]

I don't deal with no babylon witch doctors and a marriage where the people sleep in separate beds and stay together only for the child and both people fuck around anyway is just a word. You know where you can shove your sanctimonious bullshit.

truth hurts!

 

[bigirl]

truth hurts!

I don't give a flying fuck about you and your judgements. You don't know me, you don't know he, you just don't know. Now run along and stick your dick in the garbage disposal. make sure its on

 

[bgque12]

I don't give a flying fuck about you and your judgements. You don't know me, you don't know he, you just don't know. Now run along and stick your dick in the garbage disposal. make sure its on

I do know that you were fucking a married man and that makes you a ho! Don't get mad at me for your low moral standard.

 

[caramelcute]

I know this is directed to CT but I just wanted to comment on something. I think I can probably speak for a lot of women when I say that is not easy to find a respectable black man today (and the same can probably be said about women). But with that being said, I know they are still out there.

And though it may seem rare at times, it doesn't take away for the love I have black men like my grandfather. Who told me every day when I was a child that was beautiful. Or a man like father, who raised me like I was his own even though I wasn't, because he was a strong black man.

So when I see black "males" who have not yet formed into black men I don't let that reflect a negative image upon what I know a strong black man truly is. You shouldn't either.

Thanks sweetie. I love my father alot along with my late grandfathers and brother. I shouldnt give up because of a bunch of bad seeds but I tell ya when you keep running into ones who cannot be honest with you, it annoys the hell out of me. I have such limited trust anyways because of it.

 

[caramelcute]

Sorry for how I came across. It was abrasive.

 

[bigirl]

I do know that you were fucking a married man and that makes you a ho! Don't get mad at me for your low moral standard.

 

[CT's Finest]

Aight folks, we got off on a tangent for a minute, let's try to bring it back to the essence. I think it's good to try to help a sista get through her anger. Hopefully what we did in here will get Caramelcute to a good place in her life and relationships...

 

[caramelcute]

Aight folks, we got off on a tangent for a minute, let's try to bring it back to the essence. I think it's good to try to help a sista get through her anger. Hopefully what we did in here will get Caramelcute to a good place in her life and relationships...

Maybe, a big help came from NMP. Good guy

 

[CT's Finest]

Maybe, a big help came from NMP. Good guy

Good to hear that. I hope things work out for you...

 

[jucurious]

i was invited to this thread and i appreciate that

thanks CT

from the looks of the post above...i can't just jump in...i'm gonna have to read so i will be back after i go to the library and class

but in short....I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE BLACK MEN

 

[CT's Finest]

i was invited to this thread and i appreciate that

thanks CT

from the looks of the post above...i can't just jump in...i'm gonna have to read so i will be back after i go to the library and class

but in short....I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE BLACK MEN

Thanks for stopping by. Feel free to holla back when you get some time...

P.S. Don't study too hard in class and the library...

 

[jucurious]

So ladies, my question to you is do you still love us? Who are the (positive) men in your lives? How important do you think it is for young girls to have positive male role models? Holla back...

ok I'm a woman of my word...I'm back

there are soooo many things I want to comment on after reading the entire thread but I will just stick to the question.

Yes I still love black men because I love my father. He set the standard of how I am to be treated and what a man will do for his woman and his family. He showed me how a man can make a mistake (major) and fix it and work on the healing process. He talked to me about relationships in a real way, the power of forgiveness, and having a clear conscious; that love is not a game, and requires real work, causes real joy and sometimes real pain; the need for respect, honesty, compromise (not that idealistic 50/50 bull either) and dedication. Also, that materials aint everything and how you can be rich in soooo many other ways.

and I am a firm believer in children, not just young girls, needing to have a positive male role model in thier lives! The foundation needs to be set as to how you are supposed to interact and carry yourself.

I miss my daddy

ok back to the topic...my bad

even though sometimes, I wonder will I find someone who will fit my standards in my generation, I continue to keep my eyes on the prize...lol

but I will say this, through the recent years I have questioned whether I am denying myself happiness by not dating outside my race. I am soooo much for the black family, uplifting my community, black women having better relationships with black men and them making better choices that if I was to date outside of my race I would feel a lil hypocritical...just being honest. But if there is someone out there that is not black that can appreciate me, understand, stand by me, teach me, and love me....then why restrict myself....(just some thoughts that run through my head) and every time I have these thoughts i think of non-black guys that I think are nice, good people and attractive and I go...nahhhhhhhh lol

Maybe it is the dudes in my area, and I have checked myself on a couple of the vibes I have given out but the caliber of dudes in my area is not what's up. A lot of people told me that I need to mess with an older guy but that is not my thing. Also, I am still working on some of my biases caused by what I have seen in my family (on my mother's side) because if I see "warning signs" I wont even go there with that person but ehhh.


good things come to those who wait...yup that is what i'm telling myself

 

[CT's Finest]

ok I'm a woman of my word...I'm back

there are soooo many things I want to comment on after reading the entire thread but I will just stick to the question.

Yes I still love black men because I love my father. He set the standard of how I am to be treated and what a man will do for his woman and his family. He showed me how a man can make a mistake (major) and fix it and work on the healing process. He talked to me about relationships in a real way, the power of forgiveness, and having a clear conscious; that love is not a game, and requires real work, causes real joy and sometimes real pain; the need for respect, honesty, compromise (not that idealistic 50/50 bull either) and dedication. Also, that materials aint everything and how you can be rich in soooo many other ways.

and I am a firm believer in children, not just young girls, needing to have a positive male role model in thier lives! The foundation needs to be set as to how you are supposed to interact and carry yourself.

I miss my daddy

ok back to the topic...my bad

even though sometimes, I wonder will I find someone who will fit my standards in my generation, I continue to keep my eyes on the prize...lol

but I will say this, through the recent years I have questioned whether I am denying myself happiness by not dating outside my race. I am soooo much for the black family, uplifting my community, black women having better relationships with black men and them making better choices that if I was to date outside of my race I would feel a lil hypocritical...just being honest. But if there is someone out there that is not black that can appreciate me, understand, stand by me, teach me, and love me....then why restrict myself....(just some thoughts that run through my head) and every time I have these thoughts i think of non-black guys that I think are nice, good people and attractive and I go...nahhhhhhhh lol

Maybe it is the dudes in my area, and I have checked myself on a couple of the vibes I have given out but the caliber of dudes in my area is not what's up. A lot of people told me that I need to mess with an older guy but that is not my thing. Also, I am still working on some of my biases caused by what I have seen in my family (on my mother's side) because if I see "warning signs" I wont even go there with that person but ehhh.


good things come to those who wait...yup that is what i'm telling myself

Thanks for coming back and sharing you insights. I think you made some great points about the relationship between a father and his children (in this particular case, his daughters). You did mention missing your father, if you don't mind me asking, did he pass? If so, I'm sorry about your loss. Whether he's here in the physical or not, I think he'd be proud to know the young woman he raised has retained and applied so many of the lessons he taught her. I'm also glad to see that you are willing to take some responsibility for the situations you've been in. It can be difficult to honestly look in the mirror and assess oneself, but when that does happen it's possible to find out if anything needs to change from the inside out. Finally, you mentioned the men in your area. What area are you in and what kinds of places do you hang out in? You may need to find spots that are likely to attract the type of men you want. Anyway, keep doing ya thing out there and someone nice will come along...

 

[GET YOU HOT]

What up Iz? Are you asking where have I been in the sense that I didn't know that was GYH or that I haven't been around ? If it's the latter, I've been around... I've been here and on the main board. I've also been posting on the new BAS board...

That is me, I have had that avi up for a few months now and I think some ask, if it's me, to break the ice...

 

[bigirl]

good things come to those who wait...yup that is what i'm telling myself

No clue how old you are but I told myself the same and I been waiting a LOOOOOOONNNNNGGGGG time. Maybe i will find one before I reach 80

 

[GET YOU HOT]

I am a light skin, sweet, honest, caring, hard working black woman. I am height and weight proportionate. A college graduate. No kids. I drive an SUV and about to purchase a 3 bedroom 2.5 bathroom townhome. With that being said, I dont love black men. My father had his flaws but is the one I truly love. I hate most of the black boys of today. Liars and filthy ones at that. Have fifty kids they dont take care of. Wear slouchy clothes and overall just arent worth a damn. As of late even ones who dont follow that trend, are the same way. In fact I have just had yet another one to prove that point. I just think black men are completely stupid and hopeless. In fact, I have a sister and a friend who date white men who are encouraging me to try it. It may now become an option.

From reading your bio, seems as if you are posessive and introverted. One may need to be choosier about which black men, not boys, to be involved with. You seem to keep every black man on an even plane, on a personalized level, you might want to reserve romantic attatchmet to those who only subscribe to your needs...

 

[CT's Finest]

That is me, I have had that avi up for a few months now and I think some ask, if it's me, to break the ice...

I honestly didn't know that was you, but I see how that question can be used as an ice breaker. Since I did ask, let's consider...

...the ice broken. So what happens now?

From reading your bio, seems as if you are posessive and introverted. One may need to be choosier about which black men, not boys, to be involved with. You seem to keep every black man on an even plane, on a personalized level, you might want to reserve romantic attatchmet to those who only subscribe to your needs...

^^^This is good advice.^^^

 

[caramelcute]

From reading your bio, seems as if you are posessive and introverted. One may need to be choosier about which black men, not boys, to be involved with. You seem to keep every black man on an even plane, on a personalized level, you might want to reserve romantic attatchmet to those who only subscribe to your needs...

Thats really funny because you are right on with me being introverted. I am very. I rarely trust people enough to come into my world. If you do, then you better come truthfully because if I find one inkling that you arent being truthful to me, I will cut you loose quickly. I dont think I am possessive, more like a good person with good intentions who seems to not find the same thing from men. How hard is it to say, I do have a female I am interested in or I do have a female I am with. I dont want to be a sideline ho. I am better than that. I probably give the persona that I am some arrogant stank bitch and the truth is I am far from that. Okay that goes out the window when CAROLINA loses to PUKE DUKE. I am quiet, reserved and very shy. Very easy to get her feelings hurt. Which is why I ask for honesty up front. If you blow my main three items I look for in a person (loyalty, honesty or trust) you have more than likely blown your chances with me. As I told CTFineone (close wasnt I) my anthem is Most Girls by Pink cause I dont need a g to take care of me. I do that myself (hence me mentioning that stuff about me). I just want real love. Okay Ive rambled enough. I sent a PM to you. Look forward to hearing your reply.

 

[CT's Finest]

Thats really funny because you are right on with me being introverted. I am very. I rarely trust people enough to come into my world. If you do, then you better come truthfully because if I find one inkling that you arent being truthful to me, I will cut you loose quickly. I dont think I am possessive, more like a good person with good intentions who seems to not find the same thing from men. How hard is it to say, I do have a female I am interested in or I do have a female I am with. I dont want to be a sideline ho. I am better than that. I probably give the persona that I am some arrogant stank bitch and the truth is I am far from that. Okay that goes out the window when CAROLINA loses to PUKE DUKE. I am quiet, reserved and very shy. Very easy to get her feelings hurt. Which is why I ask for honesty up front. If you blow my main three items I look for in a person (loyalty, honesty or trust) you have more than likely blown your chances with me. As I told CTFineone (close wasnt I) my anthem is Most Girls by Pink cause I dont need a g to take care of me. I do that myself (hence me mentioning that stuff about me). I just want real love. Okay Ive rambled enough. I sent a PM to you. Look forward to hearing your reply.

CTFineone (as in CT Fine one???), I am rather handsome ... Like I said Caramel, I'm gonna stop by for some cereal when I come to your neck of the woods. Make sure you got some fresh milk and a clean bowl for me. We'll chop it up and I'll try to restore you faith in the black man...

P.S. FUCK DOOK!!!

 

[caramelcute]

CTFineone (as in CT Fine one???), I am rather handsome ... Like I said Caramel, I'm gonna stop by for some cereal when I come to your neck of the woods. Make sure you got some fresh milk and a clean bowl for me. We'll chop it up and I'll try to restore you faith in the black man...

P.S. FUCK DOOK!!!

LOL Dont trust my cookin eh? LOL. I told you I know CPR and rescue breathing lol.

 

[jucurious]

You did mention missing your father, if you don't mind me asking, did he pass? If so, I'm sorry about your loss. Whether he's here in the physical or not, I think he'd be proud to know the young woman he raised has retained and applied so many of the lessons he taught her. Finally, you mentioned the men in your area. What area are you in and what kinds of places do you hang out in?

Yes, my dad passed labor day weekend of last year...two weeks after i graduated. thanks so much for your kind words.

also, I am from North Jersey and most of that I meet are in school...well at least they start off that way...lol. I do bar scenes, clubs and places like that. I hang out at school, comedy clubs, museums, bowling alleys & pool halls (even tho I suck @ both) and places like that. I don't drink or smoke...and I never thought I would hear a dude tell me that's NOT what's up..haha but I guess if you partake in that and your partner doesn't it can cause issues....well I know that from experience.

there is a culture around here...so maybe i just need a change of scenary.


come visit my vibes post and I'll get more into that...lol

No clue how old you are but I told myself the same and I been waiting a LOOOOOOONNNNNGGGGG time. Maybe i will find one before I reach 80

Don't scare me like that lol...i'm 24...will be 25 in the fall.

 

[CT's Finest]

LOL Dont trust my cookin eh? LOL. I told you I know CPR and rescue breathing lol.

You said the cooking was suspect, I'm just going off that. I'm sure you can get in there and hook it up. I'll take a chance on it. I don't eat pork though, so anything else is good with me. If things take a turn for the worst, it's good to know you'll be able save my life...

 

[caramelcute]

You said the cooking was suspect, I'm just going off that. I'm sure you can get in there and hook it up. I'll take a chance on it. I don't eat pork though, so anything else is good with me. If things take a turn for the worst, it's good to know you'll be able save my life...

I will try. Only god can save a life.

 

[bigirl]

Don't scare me like that lol...i'm 24...will be 25 in the fall.

I am 37 and still waiting...

 

[CT's Finest]

Yes, my dad passed labor day weekend of last year...two weeks after i graduated. thanks so much for your kind words.

also, I am from North Jersey and most of that I meet are in school...well at least they start off that way...lol. I do bar scenes, clubs and places like that. I hang out at school, comedy clubs, museums, bowling alleys & pool halls (even tho I suck @ both) and places like that. I don't drink or smoke...and I never thought I would hear a dude tell me that's NOT what's up..haha but I guess if you partake in that and your partner doesn't it can cause issues....well I know that from experience.

there is a culture around here...so maybe i just need a change of scenary.


come visit my vibes post and I'll get more into that...lol




Don't scare me like that lol...i'm 24...will be 25 in the fall.

Aight, I'll check it out...

 

[jucurious]

I am 37 and still waiting...

well don't passively wait...actively wait. I know I'm not

 

[bigirl]

well don't passively wait...actively wait. I know I'm not

I am always open and I try to look nice whenever I leave the house just incase. Trying to go meet guys in a club or bar is not really a viable option for me.

 

[caramelcute]

I am always open and I try to look nice whenever I leave the house just incase. Trying to go meet guys in a club or bar is not really a viable option for me.

We see eye to eye!

 

[CT's Finest]

I am always open and I try to look nice whenever I leave the house just incase. Trying to go meet guys in a club or bar is not really a viable option for me.

If clubs and bars don't work for you, you should find places that will attract the kind of men you're looking for.

 

[jucurious]

If clubs and bars don't work for you, you should find places that will attract the kind of men you're looking for.

well what about my situation? hmmmmmmm?