Ex advice needed

[icefuzion]

Me and my ex were together for 3 years. I went through a depression for 3 years and fucked around in college cuz my mom started using drugs and she left my dad.

My ex was decided to leave me also because she used some money from me, but i nagged her a lot about when she was going to pay me the money back. She owes me $4k. So she broke up with me, starting hanging out with a new friend. I called her a lot crying and trying to reason with her about me changing, but I know it will push her closer to him. She said she needs space, and wants to be single but why is she getting close with some other guy?

I pissed her off recently and she hung out with the dude again and kissed him. (she claimed it was a peck) I was going to give her a nice vday present on friday and give her some diamond earrings trying to swoo her, but now I dunno what to do. I a 23, she makes 23 in march.

Also, she will be done with college in may, but wont leave to go home to cali in sept. I would have finished school and then moved out there with her if we were together. What should I do? try to swoo her or let it go?

 

[bigirl]

Get your 4G back.

 

[icefuzion]

I will, she is suing some skate company because she hurt her foot in a dip they had. I was with her after she got her cast. I dont want to get myself hurt by running after her, but I do love her.

 

[Kaine3000]

Get your money back and leave that chick alone, even if she wanted to come back to you eventually you'd be back here starting another thread about how you got cheated on by the same chick


If you have proof that you let her borrow the 4gs...

 

[LoneStar29]

I don't know ... there seems to be alot of mix-up in this relationship ... I dont think I'd want to rekindle something with someone I've had so many issues with ... and it seems like she's already moved on with the new guy ... so if it was me I'd probably count my loses and move on ... seems like you've got other personal issues too that you need to work on ... maybe you should just work on yourself and let a good female come to you once you're all good again ... sorry to hear about your fams ... sounds tough ... I hope you get through it all

 

[icefuzion]

No real proof. I will get my cash and leave. It hurts though, but its time to man up.

 

[Steelwill2006]

Get your money back and leave that chick alone, even if she wanted to come back to you eventually you'd be back here starting another thread about how you got cheated on by the same chick


If you have proof that you let her borrow the 4gs...

 

[icefuzion]

Ive gotten over my depression and started doing what i needed to do in school. Oh well time to move on. I will show her the earrings and said u could have had these

 

[sizzlelater]

man that's a part of life, you got with a woman and got hurt. the reason why she really stop kicking it with you is because you lost your manhood and started nagging her. man you switched roles. man up, be real and tell her fuck her and give me my money back. when you do that you'll get your self-respect back. to be honest she don't give a fuck if your hurting or not. she's already with another dude, she probably been with him for a minute. she might of gave hat 4k to ole boy.

i'm not trying to be hard, but you got to move on.

 

[johnnycake]

let her go...though you should try to get your money back. Or it could be the cost of getting the bad things out of your life. How long did it take for her to leave after you gave her the money...if it's less than 4 months than you were getting used. Fuck it the shit hurts but to be honest you're getting used now...move on!!! Next time you talk to her wish her the best of luck and start focusing on you. O yeah, one more thought, asking for advice on a porn board, might be a questionable place...but what do I know I'm leaving a reply.

 

[kjxxxx]

No real proof. I will get my cash and leave. It hurts though, but its time to man up.

Do you have any proof that you gave her money. Like a note saying you loan her money and she was going to pay it back.

If you don't send her an email asking when she think she would be paying you back. When she respond to it. Make sure it has something in there saying she is going to pay you back. If any thing try to get at least $50 from her and give her a receipt and you keep a copy.

This is the cover your ass part so that if/when you break up you can sue her ass if you pissed off enough.

I have never been pissed off to sue anyone but any day I see one of them doing well and I am pissed off I definitely will.

 

[icefuzion]

I'll see what I can do. My original plan was to make some chocolate dipped fruit and give her the card I made, and then give her a massage to say I was sorry for the nagging. Then show her the earrings. I think I wil do everything cept the massage and earrings and then leave. Thats some old steve harvey type shit.

 

[Crown&Coke]

Dont worry about getting back with her but get your money back. She obviously aint gonna come back to you. Just let the relationship go but get your money back. I wouldnt even worry about the earrings and message, dont do anything except getting your money back.​

 

[LoneStar29]

Dont worry about getting back with her but get your money back. She obviously aint gonna come back to you. Just let the relationship go but get your money back. I wouldnt even worry about the earrings and message, dont do anything except getting your money back.​

C/S

 

[icefuzion]

Well I left her alone, but it really hurts so badly. I've been praying and asking God that take care of things. I'm just thankful to God that the pain I feel isn't as bad as what most people go through. It still hurts though, because I feel like a huge chunk of me is gone. I try to do things to take my mind of off her, but its hard. Sorry, just felt like sharing.

 

[keysersoze]

Well I left her alone, but it really hurts so badly. I've been praying and asking God that take care of things. I'm just thankful to God that the pain I feel isn't as bad as what most people go through. It still hurts though, because I feel like a huge chunk of me is gone. I try to do things to take my mind of off her, but its hard. Sorry, just felt like sharing.

How you feeling now?

you need to see this movie

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PsD0NpFSADM

 

[B-Witty]

man up find some new pussy get ur money back by pimping her and the leaving.....

shorty dont want u fam... Trust u wasting ur time

 

[Dannyblueyes]

She claims she wants to be single because in her mind it's a lot nicer than admitting she left for a different man. That 'friend' she's been hanging around with has been fucking her for a lot longer than you know. This will be her new boyfriend, if he isn't already. Also understand that when a woman says she 'needs her space' what she really means is that she needs the space between her legs filled by a different dick.

I know it's hard, but you need to cut her loose completely. Unless you desperately need the money then let the $4k go. it's not worth the trouble, heartache, and three years of depression you've gone through. You probably lost more than that by fucking around in college and failing classes.

I went through all of this when I broke up with my wife a few years ago. I've also had close family members that have similar issues to your mom's. All you can really do is pray for her, don't let her habit kill her, and hope that she wakes up.

 

[inflewence]

I don't know ... there seems to be alot of mix-up in this relationship ... I dont think I'd want to rekindle something with someone I've had so many issues with ... and it seems like she's already moved on with the new guy ... so if it was me I'd probably count my loses and move on ... seems like you've got other personal issues too that you need to work on ... maybe you should just work on yourself and let a good female come to you once you're all good again ... sorry to hear about your fams ... sounds tough ... I hope you get through it all

Realist shit right here, take heed!