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Is this just an excuse?!?

Harlem's Angel said:
Bring that shit up whenever u wanna bring it up! If he's serious about the relationship he'll answer you and be willing to talk no matter what just happened. HE DIDNT WIN THE SUPERBOWL!! HIS ASS IN ON THE COUCH WITH HIS FRIENDS! :angry: If he's been doing this for awhile its just an excuse and you need to move on.:yes:
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its better for men to respond to the OP ....NOT YOU!:smh::smh:
:yes:
 
Mt. Yukon said:
Alright, first off, shit like that gets talked about in person not over the phone and for damn sure not after the Superbowl. You need to talk in person because you cant really read people over the phone that well. After a big ass game like the Superbowl where he was probably hootin and hollerin the whole night, a question like that puts you in a bad place and yes Im sure someone has said it... But the man has probably started seein someone else. Not such thing as strong relationships, and a long distance one has little chance of working for the longterm because theyre too much hassle and not enough rewards of dealing with it. On the real ask yourself why are you goin through all this??? for who??? Him or you??? You say your from Charlotte, simply put NY aint like VA or SC where you can drive every other week, and once a month??? In NYC??? Yeah babygirl hes atleast got his eye on someone, no he wont tell you, cause theres no need to fuck up something you dont have to. The next time you see him if he doesnt want to talk about it, then you have your answer, just be adult enough to accept it. Often times we ask questions for confirmation, but we already know what the answer is deep down... Its been said over and over again that long distance relationships dont work, you need to be with that person enough, and talkin on the phone doesnt count, you need that persons presence otherwise WTF is the point of it all. Im havin a bad day I need my baby to rub my waves and tell me we'll get through it or some sappy shit, that'll make me feel better, thats why you need a GF for shit like that, and if your not there then why bother right??? How can you as a women deal with him not being there???... But on another note, wwhat part of Charlotte do you live in???:D
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Niggas...lol...Southpark...
 
LDR's are not that much different than dating a man in jail with conjugal visits on the weekends.

Nip it.
 
JofromthaNO said:
So, yesterday, after the game, my boyfriend and I are talking...we've been doing this long distance thing for a while, and I asked him a question about how long can we really keep things up like this. Personally, it is just a drain and, financially, its crazy always shelling out money to fly and see each other at least once a month.

His response was why would I bring such a thing up at a time like this (it was about an hour after the superbowl game, he's in NY, and he had previously finished saying goodbye to his boys he had invited over)...my gut feeling is that he may be trying to avoid talking about it because he is confused. However, is "this is bad timing" really a viable excuse?

For more details about it, I feel he, overall, avoids discussing long term plans for us... but, I try to "back off of him" and not nag him about it too often.
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to tell you the truth, my girl's doing the same thing, we're doing that long distance thing and I don't cheat on her, but damn if I AM nervous/confused about what I want with her. I am cool with making plans but something has to pop off. I've been looking for jobs and I can't find them out where we want to live in. I mean, if I can't find a job, what else can I do. I'm in school and willing to transfer if I find the right job that won't put us under. I am looking for a good job, not a job at WalMart. I've got a fulltime now and i get paid decent enough to live off of this.

I'd say talk to him about what's gonna happen. if he's not in school then he should atleast look for a job out where you're at or vice versa(though if you're in NC, I'd prefer the South). there should be no reason to not want to move in with you if he loves you.
 
Noir said:
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If you are starting to feel that you are "nagging" him about it, then your instincts are starting to tell you that you have second thoughts about the whole relationship. Yes, talking about it after the Super bowl may have been bad timing on your part, but the situation about your relationship remains hanging in the air.

You need to talk to him calmly and ask him to set a time when the two of you could talk about the relationship and where it is going. The main thing is to not talk about it over the phone, but in person, together, without any other distractions. If he hedges and hesitates, then let him know he is doing that and it doesn't inspire confidence about his committment to the relationship. Unfortunately, at that point you'll have to seriously consider if this person is for you.
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MAN, WHAT THE FUCK ARE PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT "BAD TIMING AFTER THE SUPERBOWL"

JESUS, IT'S A FUCKING GAME, did he lose his apartment after the game. did his house catch fire or something.?
 
^^^^^ simple right?

I guess Harlem Angel would want some tension-fraught relationship talk on V-Day.

:rolleyes:

Seeing as how her man gotta be down for relationship talks ANYWHERE, ANYTIME. :D

Is that the case, Ms. Angel?
 
DaleMabry said:
^^^^^ simple right?

I guess Harlem Angel would want some tension-fraught relationship talk on V-Day.

:rolleyes:

Seeing as how her man gotta be down for relationship talks ANYWHERE, ANYTIME. :D

Is that the case, Ms. Angel?
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I know, right?

Baby, I know it's our anniversary, and I know we just ordered dinner, but yo head game is hella weak. Is there some way we can discuss this like adults? :lol:
 
Spunx said:
no you didn't! :lol:
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I'm serious and I poll every woman that I can about their feelings on our holiday.

Super Bowl Sunday is more of a holiday than V-Tines, think about it.

There is a parade.
Banks are closed.
School is closed.
Government offices are closed.
It's celebrated across the entire world.


I recall plenty of times being at school on valentines day but never have I watched the Super Bowl while at school.
:D
 
a girl from down south trusting a slick talkin ass new york nigga is bound to get played 9 times outta 10. too many girls in ny for a cat to be on the up and up with someone he aint ever physically around 95% of the time. nope, not happening. you dickwhipped shawty and it's gonna cost you. i am a man and if i loved my woman i would have thoroughly addressed that question when you asked because you are more important than the super bowl. lombardi trophies can't clap their ass and suck my dick.
 
DaleMabry said:
^^^^^ simple right?

I guess Harlem Angel would want some tension-fraught relationship talk on V-Day.

:rolleyes:

Seeing as how her man gotta be down for relationship talks ANYWHERE, ANYTIME. :D

Is that the case, Ms. Angel?
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:lol: @ "Miss" Angel

Ya'll cats kill me sometimes.

Just ignoring all the signs.
 
DaleMabry said:
^^^^^ simple right?

I guess Harlem Angel would want some tension-fraught relationship talk on V-Day.

:rolleyes:

Seeing as how her man gotta be down for relationship talks ANYWHERE, ANYTIME. :D

Is that the case, Ms. Angel?
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Well even I know better than that....

VDay is shut up and let's fuck day....

DUUUUUHHHHHHHH
 
destrehan said:
a girl from down south trusting a slick talkin ass new york nigga is bound to get played 9 times outta 10. too many girls in ny for a cat to be on the up and up with someone he aint ever physically around 95% of the time. nope, not happening. you dickwhipped shawty and it's gonna cost you. i am a man and if i loved my woman i would have thoroughly addressed that question when you asked because you are more important than the super bowl. lombardi trophies can't clap their ass and suck my dick.
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:yes:
 
Harlem's Angel said:
Well no disrespect to your sister but thats her not me! I take engagement a lil more seriously than that.

Oh and i'll let you know when we get married... I'll post some pics;)
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Naked? :D j/k

JofromthaNO said:
First off, it WAS after the superbowl game (at least an HOUR after the shit), so it wasn't like it was on at the time. He was alone, and so was I. He is NOT into sports like most guys, but was in the spirit cause his boys were in the spirit.

I do agree with the other posters when they say we need to talk about it in person, and not over the phone. I'm flying to him next weekend, so I, myself, said that's probably a good time to discuss things. I was not trying to be inconsiderate, and, please, he would NOT cut me off over something like this. If a man cuts a three-year long relationship over me asking a question "at a bad time," I wouldn't need to be with him anyway...
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Three years? I don't know the whole deal, but you've been in a long distance relationship for the whole 3 years? Just curious...

Looks like he didn't feel like talking about it...plain and
simple, and doing it over the phone was an easy out for him.

Seems as if he's just content with the way things are. When you see him in person you get to see his actions first hand. Seems like you're coming to a cross-roads in this relationship.
 
SuperGenius said:
Naked? :D j/k



Three years? I don't know the whole deal, but you've been in a long distance relationship for the whole 3 years? Just curious...

Looks like he didn't feel like talking about it...plain and
simple, and doing it over the phone was an easy out for him.

Seems as if he's just content with the way things are. When you see him in person you get to see his actions first hand. Seems like you're coming to a cross-roads in this relationship.
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No, we've been doing the long distance thing since August...before that, we were in the same city...
 
JofromthaNO said:
No, we've been doing the long distance thing since August...before that, we were in the same city...
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Oh, ok....Seems like you are ready to make a power move. If he's not willing to take a step forward, then maybe it's time to do you. You can wait for someone but for so long. It's easy to say, but hard as hell to do, especially when you put so much into it.
 
SuperGenius said:
Oh, ok....Seems like you are ready to make a power move. If he's not willing to take a step forward, then maybe it's time to do you. You can wait for someone but for so long. It's easy to say, but hard as hell to do, especially when you put so much into it.
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Agreed.
 
Yo. Stop fucking deluding yourself. Long distance simply means "I aint trying to make this shit permanent." If you can handle that, cool. If not, stop bugging that mufukka and find some permanency with another person. But please stop blaming him for your confusion. Peace.:smh:
 
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