Nothing To SAY!!!!!

[Mo-Better]

I just wanted to know if someone could tell me why when you confront a dude about relationship problems they tend not to have anything to say?

A lack of response or being despondent is usually an indication of problems within the relationship. How do you approach him when your looking for answers? Are you aggressive demanding answers? Argumentative? That is an immediate turnoff for most men.

Why not just turnoff the TV, get his undivided attention, sit down and talk things out? Then ask him the hard questions, don't be scared because the way it seems you have little to lose. You need to know what the problem is and you both will either feel better about the relationship or it will be time to go your seperate ways.

 

[mcguyver]

I try to just sit down and talk with him but that doesnt seem to work. then i get mad and that sure doesnt work either. i'm tired of trying to make things right by myself. i dont know any other way to communicate with him.



I expect him to change because he is so use to being alone that i need him to realize that he is no longer alone. he no longer has to shut people out of his life but that seems to be all he knows. hes stuck in his ways and i dont think its healthy. he already pushed me away but it seems like we're gonna get to the point where we dont speak at all

Ah HA! Yo ass. I know whats up......I think. I used to be, still am this guy kinda. He does express his feelings and that shit is killing you. But he is who he is and you are who you are. Just like you are comfortable and happy talking being up front about everything. He is comfortable being.......lets call it with drawn. We all settle to be with who we are with. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. You probably knew this about him from the beginning but attached yourself to other qualities he has that you like. Bottom line either you accept him as who he is or move on. You are unhappy from what i get from the vague question cause he is not open.

 

[HoneyDip]

I guess i'll have to just stop tryin to make him change. I did acknowledge the things that he did for me that i asked and was grateful for it. I was just tired of arguing with him and i know he felt the same. It doesnt make sense to argue when the same thing is being said over and over but nothings bein done about it. I appreciate all the advice from everyone especially the men

 

[mcguyver]

So this means no more naggin? WOW that was too easy.

 

[Pure Game]

this isn't a reply to homegirls situation, but...

Most of the time the stuff women are complaining about, has nothing to do with the REAL problem, that they let slide and said nothing about, but get mad about that same thing everytime the guy does anything, so most of the time we don't know what your talkin about, cuz act mad about something little, when it's really about something else

The best thing to do in any relationship is to say what is bothering you right at the time it's bothering you so you can get it out the way and it's not a problem anymore

Women do this all the time something that happened weeks, months ago they want to bring it up later after one it happened and we can't do anything about it and two it has no relavance on the current situation, instead of talkiin about it when it was relavent

 

[ContinentalTea]

Because usually yall have the problem in your head. We don't know what the Fuk yall be talking bout.

co-sign

 

[thighsneyez22]

Its time to do the

on that hoe!

1. heisman

a.Noun: A rejection given to a member of the opposite sex, a job, or anything no longer wanted. Named after the Heisman trophy, which depicts a football player giving a stiff-arm block to a tackle.

b.Stiff-armed pose, based on the Heisman Trophy, given to a suitor or potential suitor with the goal of minimizing or avoiding contact.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=heisman

 

[Pussy Krook]

Its time to do the

on that hoe!

1. heisman

a.Noun: A rejection given to a member of the opposite sex, a job, or anything no longer wanted. Named after the Heisman trophy, which depicts a football player giving a stiff-arm block to a tackle.

b.Stiff-armed pose, based on the Heisman Trophy, given to a suitor or potential suitor with the goal of minimizing or avoiding contact.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=heisman

Thats funny.

 

[thighsneyez22]

Thats funny.

I dont make these things up... I just perpetuate them:

Song:
[flash]http://www.youtube.com/v/TYTkRVROgI0&rel=1[/flash]

Dance:
[flash]http://www.youtube.com/v/heaNukZkEMg&rel=1[/flash]

Fast forward a year later & you get this:
[flash]http://www.youtube.com/v/D7halZEqk8E&rel=1[/flash]


as for the Original Poster... unless you live with him (and its more complicated) you really need to commence the Heisman... and straight Reggie Bush him. Save face because, as guys have already pointed out, he has really commenced the Heisman on you... you just need to complete it. Your self respect is at stake...

 

[black again]

I just wanted to know if someone could tell me why when you confront a dude about relationship problems they tend not to have anything to say?

I nor do most men I know want to be CONFRONTED about ANYTHING.
COMMUNICATION not confrontation

 

[APOPHIS]

You SOL ladies have been having a tough week, huh?

First it was Bigirl, then Onyxfemme, and now Honeydip.