If you had to make the awful decision, what would you do?

[femmenoire]

I am piggybacking on this tragic thread:

http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=223956


But what would you do if your child/spouse/parent was rendered virtually a vegetable and the doctor says you need to make a decision whether to keep your loved one on life support or not?

Does it make a difference if the loved one was a child? A parent? A spouse?

What if other relatives are against your decision?

What would you want your family to do if it were you?

 

[bigirl]

A child I would probably leave on as they have a better chance of some new technology coming to bring them back. Someone older I would probably let go. As for myself I really would wish to be allowed to go to my peace. I know theres something you have to do DNR or something and I need to do it.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

In the case of the girl in the other thread who was completely helpless I would probably let go.

She "died" a long time ago. Keeping her body functioning is just hurting yourself more than her at that point.

It would be hard to do though still.

 

[black again]

Had to do it years ago. Dad was on life support following a massive stroke. The decision was easy as hell. I did what he'd have wanted..pulled the plug. The docs knew they couldn't do anything for him. I'd want someone to do the same, for me. If I don't live another day, I've had an incredible life, and I'm ready to go....kinda.

 

[ladyscorpio]

Done this already. My little nieces mother was on support and the decision had to be made. Had no real choice. We all sat down discussed it and made the decision together.
Its not the easiest of decisions when you have to be the one to try to explain to two lil girls their mummy will be going to sleep and she's not going to wake up.

 

[HoneyDip]

A child I would probably leave on as they have a better chance of some new technology coming to bring them back. Someone older I would probably let go. As for myself I really would wish to be allowed to go to my peace. I know theres something you have to do DNR or something and I need to do it.

Co- Sign. I already told my mom that if something like that was to happen to me then just let me go. If it were one of my parents I would do the same. I would hope that they could come up with something to help the child but only hope for so long

 

[DLateshow]

Quality of life has to mean something. I have told my parents and wife that if I am ever in this situation and 3 doctors have confirmed that I am not coming back please pull the plug. I watch my grandmother slowly wither away from alzhiemers. Later in her life she had no idea who are kids are grandkids where. I never want to live like that. Once the mind is gone take the rest. I would be ready to go home.


Dlateshow

 

[femmenoire]

Wow, the responses are surprising.

I can't say that I'd know what to do. I don't want to have to make that call.

 

[DLateshow]

Wow, the responses are surprising.

I can't say that I'd know what to do. I don't want to have to make that call.

Would you be keeping that person alive for you or for them. Thats the question you need to answer.

Dlateshow

 

[femmenoire]

Would you be keeping that person alive for you or for them. Thats the question you need to answer.

Dlateshow

I wouldn't want to cheat them of the possibility of coming back.

You've read the stories. Man awakens after a 20 year coma. What if their loved one pulled the plug?

 

[Noir]

But what would you do if your child/spouse/parent was rendered virtually a vegetable and the doctor says you need to make a decision whether to keep your loved one on life support or not?

Does it make a difference if the loved one was a child? A parent? A spouse?

What if other relatives are against your decision?

What would you want your family to do if it were you?

It's one of the most difficult and painful decisions one would have to make, and one cannot know how someone else feels in that situation without having been in it yourself. Both my parents are gone, but went quickly, so I was spared such a situation.

I have always felt that the quality of one's life weighs more heavily than just "being alive". I have told my family that if I was in such a situation, to disconnect all of the artificial life support. It would be hard enough to see my family under such emotional anguish, but I do not want to literally cripple my entire family with the cost of keeping me "alive" and I am not even cognizant of being alive.

I am not married, nor have children, but would hope my spouse would feel the same way about her life. If we had a child, I cannot imagine making that decision, but would do it though...

 

[Noir]

I wouldn't want to cheat them of the possibility of coming back.

You've read the stories. Man awakens after a 20 year coma. What if their loved one pulled the plug?

I think that a coma is different than being in a vegetative state. Being in a coma, a person generally can breathe on their own, doctors can still detect higher brain and body functions (women have actually been pregnant and given birth while in a coma), but for some reason the person is not conscious.

In a vegetative state, the body is just about totally supported by machinery. There is little to no brain function, and respiration and other normally autonomic functions are handled by machines.

 

[Star]

You need to work in a Hospital , for even a week or two.

So that YOU can see all the VERY old people being keep breathing and Breathing is about all they are doing, Some need machines just to breath.

All because their children are Guilty of something

Their own Children will not let them die.

 

[femmenoire]

You need to work in a Hospital , for even a week or two.

So that YOU can see all the VERY old people being keep breathing and Breathing is about all they are doing, Some need machines just to breath.

All because their children are Guilty of something

Their own Children will not let them die.

See my mom is a nurse. She tells me about that stuff all the time.

But I think if I was responsible for a death. I'd live with guilt all my life. And that's not a reason to let someone suffer, I'm just saying.

 

[ladyscorpio]

I wouldn't want to cheat them of the possibility of coming back.

You've read the stories. Man awakens after a 20 year coma. What if their loved one pulled the plug?

I think in those situation though Femme its not life support they are on. More times than not they are breathing on their own and showing some small sign of brain activity. I could be wrong. Hopefully someone can enlighten me if I am.

With the girl's mother they said that her brain was shutting down. Support was slowing down the process. We didnt think it was fair to her, her parents and especially the children to drag it out. I did not want them to have to keep visiting mummy in the hospital everyday waiting for her to die. It was best to take her off and let her body take over.
The thing is the most difficult part was the after. She held on for the whole night. Passed away in the morning. When the body can't handle it anymore there is nothing one can do about it.

 

[trick20]

i would pull the plug....

 

[DAHITMAN]

I would wait it out and hope for a miracle.

 

[Mo-Better]

A child I would probably leave on as they have a better chance of some new technology coming to bring them back. Someone older I would probably let go. As for myself I really would wish to be allowed to go to my peace. I know theres something you have to do DNR or something and I need to do it.

I got to agree. No sense trying to keep someone alive that is subject to not have any quality of life. I would waant it done for me. As for a child yeah you have to try and give them a chance.

 

[kissmyazz]

if my people left me a veggie i would snap out of it just too kill they ass.

 

[KW13537]

If it was just machines keeping them alive, I would pull the plug. I look at it this way; If they weren't on life support, God would just take them. Keeping them on life support is selfish in that it's more for the family than it is for the patient. As much as it would break my heart, I'm their father and it's my responsibility, for better or worse.

 

[femmenoire]

if my people left me a veggie i would snap out of it just too kill they ass.

You add no value to any thread. My take is this is an indication of your true value in life.

 

[Adam Knows]

pull the plug.....

why hold on to a hope?

 

[kissmyazz]

You add no value to any thread. My take is this is an indication of your true value in life.

drop the you won't fuck act, yall 30 year olds are easy .

 

[Adam Knows]

drop the you won't fuck act, yall 30 year olds are easy .

you need a time out for 7 days....

goodbye.....

 

[femmenoire]

^^^Thank you.

 

[Mo-Better]

Ray Charles could see this one coming. Nice job.

 

[deezchocnuts4ru]

Yo. Let them go. Keeping them here is selfish. Peace.

 

[doggish_098]

Pull the plug nobody should have to suffer through that pain. It is not all about the physical pain either you have to suffer through watching your loved ones come in day in and day out crying over the persons body and all kinds of other stuff. When this happens it is usually one persons shelfishness that keeps this stuff going on for months and years at a time. If you believe in a higher being you have to believe that everything that happens to you happens for a reason. I tell my peoples all the time pull the plug on me, no tee shirts saying bring _______ back, no roadside death markers if i die in a car wreck or something, i dont even want people crying at my funneral. That is just my personal opinion on it.

 

[Raptor ES]

A child I would probably leave on as they have a better chance of some new technology coming to bring them back. Someone older I would probably let go. As for myself I really would wish to be allowed to go to my peace. I know theres something you have to do DNR or something and I need to do it.

DNR is a Do Not Resuscitate order.

What is needed are medical power of attorney and living will.

A living will spells out what you want done, when and how.

A medical power of attorney gives someone you trust the power to make decisions for you if you are incapacitated.

 

[BS2011]

I am piggybacking on this tragic thread:

http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=223956


But what would you do if your child/spouse/parent was rendered virtually a vegetable and the doctor says you need to make a decision whether to keep your loved one on life support or not?

Does it make a difference if the loved one was a child? A parent? A spouse?

What if other relatives are against your decision?

What would you want your family to do if it were you?

My mom suffered a ruptured brain aneurysm and the doctors pretty much wrote her off and stated that she would a vegetable if she survived. I was being encouraged to remove her from life support but I declined. That was the best decision I've ever made. My mother survived and is recovering and is probably 70% now.

 

[Cleopatra_J]

I think that a coma is different than being in a vegetative state. Being in a coma, a person generally can breathe on their own, doctors can still detect higher brain and body functions (women have actually been pregnant and given birth while in a coma), but for some reason the person is not conscious.

In a vegetative state, the body is just about totally supported by machinery. There is little to no brain function, and respiration and other normally autonomic functions are handled by machines.

Definitely a big difference. A lot of people are also ignoring the financial burden of keeping someone on life support. If they are in a coma, there is no doubt to leave them be if they have brain function and can breathe on their own. but it is selfish and costly to keep someone on life support, insurances don't always cover it, and hospitals are extremely costly. If you do decide to keep them, at least put them in hospice care.

But I think if I was responsible for a death. I'd live with guilt all my life. And that's not a reason to let someone suffer, I'm just saying.

People on life support are in all actuality already dead. They can't survive without the machine, and thats no way to live.


Quality of life... i mean really, if someone was in a coma/vegetative state for 20 years, when they wake up, their life is going to lack the same quality it had. They will be shocked, look at how people aged, they have to learn to walk and all that stuff again... is it better to hold out for something that might not happen??