Yo. Women seem to overlook a lot of shit when the chedda is right! How important is it. Peace.
Women... Money... How much does it matter to you in a relationship
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I don't care how much money you have, i wouldn't over look a man who beats on his woman.
Or a man who lives a life of crime.
But as long as we're in the same income bracket, I don't see a problem.
Or a man who lives a life of crime.
But as long as we're in the same income bracket, I don't see a problem.
Yo. Fem? A lower income bracket would cause a problem? 
Peace.
Peace.
As much as some women will say this Miss Femme some men will never believe it. Unfortunate but true.
I am with you right there, it really doesnt make a difference to me how many $$ you have. More to life man.
Have you ever been in the position of having a broke ass man that you have to carry and you can't do anything unless you are paying for both? It gets real old real quick.
I think the reality of that situation and answering the question here on this thread, in my opinion will get two different responses from some women.
I'm sure that some of the ladies here that answered this question wouldn't be too happy paying for most things when you're going out with a man on a date.
I'm sure that some of the ladies here that answered this question wouldn't be too happy paying for most things when you're going out with a man on a date.
Yo. Fem? A lower income bracket would cause a problem?
My income bracket is a wide range.
For me lower would mean someone who is entry level. Now if he's starting a new career and made money and saved money to start another one. I'd be ok with that.
But if he is someone who is just getting out of college and took on a mailroom job, then no.
If he was a marketing associate and now wants to start his own firm, I may help support him financially.
WOMEN TELL THEMSELVES THIS IN ORDER NOT TO FEEL SHALLOW!
Money Matters!!
First you say it does not matter, then you say same income bracket.
So you see, it does matter on some level.
Can you honestly seeing yourself dating a bum w/ no steady income?
the problem comes when you want to go out to eat or see a show or take a lil trip or whatever and you can't unless you pay for both as he as no money. just hanging out around the house all the time really gets old quick. in worst case scenarios I have witnessed, I couldn't even go buy guinness or wine when I wanted some because he would drink it up quicker than me. couldn't lite a fucking spliff cause I didn't want him to know I had any. then after he been eating up all my food, i start cooking rice and peas or pasta ONLY. whatever the cheapest shit I can find is. thats when its time to kick him to the curb.
I am the one who likes to go dutch. If the man can't pay his half then it is a problem
Bigirl,
I hear on that one. I have no qualms with anyone willing to go dutch when going out on a date. My query was with those who said that they wouldn't mind dating a man who was broke.
Just to answer the original question. Its just my view that those who have stated that they don't mind whether the man is broke or not, for how long would they really hold that view?
I've been there. For 2.5 years and the dude was an abusive asshole. I walked around one of the coldest winters in Atlanta without a coat while his ass stayed home.
Never again.
I guess all the materialistic women must live in Cali.
and I will never forget when I lived with him in a 4th floor walkup loft(double flights of stairs) and had to go run around with very heavy baggage while I was on cruthes and didn't even get help carrying it down the stairs while he lay around in a robe like a fucking prince. i left him soon after that.
Bigirl, you're problem is you give too many chances and opportunities to the struggling, broke-ass, sleep-all-day and drink-all-night artist types who give you great conversations about music, culture, and art.
You know what I mean.....
I can totally imagine what kind girl you are due to your taste in music and interests you've previously discussed.
Lemme guess, big hair, pro-black attitude, pot smoker, funky colorful apparel, spoken word, vinyl collection..?
.... am I getting warm?
Bigirl, you're problem is you give too many chances and opportunities to the struggling, broke-ass, sleep-all-day and drink-all-night artist types who give you great conversations about music, culture, and art.
You know what I mean.....
I can totally imagine what kinds girl you are due to your taste in music and interests you've previously discussed.
Lemme guess, big hair, pro-black attitude, pot smoker, funky colorful apparel, spoken word, vinyl collection..?
.... am I getting warm?
except that the big hair is locked now you did a very good character assessment. are you in school for psychology or something?
Yes but when I as a MAN....make the same statements in regards to how I don't feel a man should feel obligated to pay a woman's way........I GET CURSED AT BY THE WOMEN........what gives?
Nope, business. But I should be though.
I know because it takes one to know one.
I'm also guilty of all those character traits
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DigitalAngel2007
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How does that song go....
"No romance without finance.... You got's to have a J.O.B if you wanna be with me..."
If he doesn't have it at the time we meet he should be on his way to making consistent paper in the near future (hence; obtaining a degree, promotion ect.)
I work hard for mine and I only mess with guys who do the same.
"No romance without finance.... You got's to have a J.O.B if you wanna be with me..."
If he doesn't have it at the time we meet he should be on his way to making consistent paper in the near future (hence; obtaining a degree, promotion ect.)
I work hard for mine and I only mess with guys who do the same.
No I have not and please do not misunderstand. Some people base a whole relationship on monetary. I do NOT. Its not who I am.
I figure if a man can take care of himself within his means then its kool. I never said I would "carry" a partner.
Peace
alot of women feel the man should pay for everything. i have been cursed by some of them like they thought he should pay my round trip taxi and everything and they were like what you mean you bought a round of drinks. these women include my aunties, but my aunties are old school and it was like that then.
honestly, I refer to wives as "private whores" and if a man pays for everything there is a point and time where he is in fact owed something i overstand this and don't wish to owe anyone anything which is why i like to go dutch.
this way everyone knows everyone is there because they want to be and its a level playing field.
Nope, business. But I should be though.
I know because it takes one to know one.
I'm also guilty of all those character traits
I can tell
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DigitalAngel2007
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When I was in school my man paid for EVERYTHING, but now that I have my degree we split the costs. He still pays for us going out but we split mortgage, bills,I buy groceries ect.
It doesn't matter at all. Neither do looks. It's all just personality.
I would not have a problem with a women wanting to split costs on a date regardless of how long we had been dealing with each other.
My issue is when it becomes "understood" that I'm just going to cover everything because I'm a man.
There's more to a relationship than that.
My issue is when it becomes "understood" that I'm just going to cover everything because I'm a man.
There's more to a relationship than that.
No woman who is about her business is going to mess with a man who fits this description. But the specific income amount really doesn't matter to most women if a man is living within his means and living well. If a man is so poor that he doesn't know where his next meal will come from, he is a charity case, not someone I would date
I definitely feel like a man should do most of the paying during the dating stage, but not necessarily all. I just think that going dutch is a bit tacky when the receipt comes unless you're in a big group of people. I prefer to offer to pay for a movie, or dessert, and if we've been dating for a little bit, I'll even offer to pay for a date if I ask him out.
Wives are not private whores unless you call the man a private whore too. Unless the woman is a housewife, she is contributing to the household too so how can she be a whore? And even if she is a housewife, a good woman is taking care of the kids, making sure there's food on the table, keeping the home up... she might as well have a full time job.
But I thought once you were married, everything monetary is a 50/50 split
As far as dating is concerned, a lot of women like to be courted the traditional way but most of them aren't worth the expense of it.
If you can't date a man unless he comes out of pocket, you (women) need to check yourself. Makes you (women) seem like a bought out accessory, IMO.
Why do you feel like this? Why do you feel that you are entitled to something JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE A WOMAN?
Can you please list me what you believe are the UNIQUE responsibilities of the WOMAN are to the man during the dating process? Please do not say to "look nice" and be "presentable", or shit like that..........because the man is supposed to do that stuff too. I mean what GENDER SPECIFIC responsibilities do you believe the woman has to a man during the dating stage?
But I thought once you were married, everything monetary is a 50/50 split
As far as dating is concerned, a lot of women like to be courted the traditional way but most of them aren't worth the expense of it.
If you can't date a man unless he comes out of pocket, you (women) need to check yourself. Makes you (women) seem like a bought out accessory, IMO.
no never married. once lived with a guy for 5 years and it was like being married but we were not married. would i don it agian? HELL NO.
some really do feel "entitled" to it just because......
My only requirement when dating a women was that she had to be gainfully employed and owned a car. I never ask how much money she made because I really did not care. As long as she was a tax paying citizen and was handling her bills I was cool. I think when women put finances at the top of the list they are willing to ignore all the other shit that comes with it. A man who pays for everything all the time will get to the point where he feels like he owns you. I have seen it happen many times and the women pretty much sells her soul for cash. If a person is a lazy bum when you meet him he or she is not going to change unless they want to change. I will not be around long enough to watch this because expect for you be at least be able to take care of yourself.
Dlateshow
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[edit previous cosign]crap... i did cosign that statement...what I meant is that sometimes if a woman can be taken advantage of and considered a piece of meat/puppet that must do what the man says if she is not contributing equally financially...we all know that housewives do not get the due they deserve. but I mean being treated like this is possible in this scenario with not only housewives but all women that dont pay their share.[/edit previous cosign]
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