For the ladies: Have you ever been "The Other Woman"?

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What was it like?

I am listening to an audiobook about a man who is getting married but because all he's done is sleep with married women, he has no trust.

So this question isn't just for the ladies. Gentlemen, have you ever been the "other man"?
 
yes twice. once because i was lied to and the other time cause i just didn't give a fuck. never again.
 
bigirl said:
yes twice. once because i was lied to and the other time cause i just didn't give a fuck. never again.
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Yeah in my 20's I just dated alot and it didn't matter if they were married or not.

Now I did mess with a married man in my early 30's and that was just awful. Never again.
 
femmenoire said:
What was it like?

I am listening to an audiobook about a man who is getting married but because all he's done is sleep with married women, he has no trust.

So this question isn't just for the ladies. Gentlemen, have you ever been the "other man"?
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I've been the other man twice. In retrospect it was a waste of my time and life and I will try and avoid it at all costs.
 
Unknowingly, and please believe that I was not happy about it. I enjoy peace of mind, and when she found out about me the emails and phone calls didn't stop, and when I immediately found out who she was I called it quits with him, and the emails, phone calls, and just randomly showing up to my house didn't stop either.

I've also be the main woman, and found out about the other women.
 
MissStarKitty said:
Unknowingly, and please believe that I was not happy about it. I enjoy peace of mind, and when she found out about me the emails and phone calls didn't stop, and when I immediately found out who she was I called it quits with him, and the emails, phone calls, and just randomly showing up to my house didn't stop either.
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this is exactly what happened to me with the one who lied. dumb ass cracka bitch starts calling my phone and hanging up. i shut that shit down with the quickness. i called back restricted id and she answered and i said "yeah you just called my phone and hung up. what do you want". i heard her nearly choke and she hung up.
 
MissStarKitty said:
Unknowingly, and please believe that I was not happy about it. I enjoy peace of mind, and when she found out about me the emails and phone calls didn't stop, and when I immediately found out who she was I called it quits with him, and the emails, phone calls, and just randomly showing up to my house didn't stop either.

I've also be the main woman, and found out about the other women.
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i've been in both those situations before. i was talkin to this guy and he got locked up so i decided we could only be friends. the messed up part was that he still called me from the jail. while he was locked up he told me he had a baby moms and thats a no no :smh: i told him i dont do those situations. that didnt stop him from callin me though. then all of a sudden the baby moms started callin me on dumb shit. unfortunately we ended up fighting due to one of my stupid associates.... he found out and apologized though. in terms of the other situation i caught this dude i was dating in the mall with some other chick holdin hands and all so i ran up on HIM (NOT HER)and choked the shit outta him lol... he was livin wit me though so that made it worst. i kicked him out though.
 
femmenoire said:
What was it like?

I am listening to an audiobook about a man who is getting married but because all he's done is sleep with married women, he has no trust.

So this question isn't just for the ladies. Gentlemen, have you ever been the "other man"?
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In the past all of the time! Never did the deed in their home... That would be stupid!
I was 19 & 20 and most of them just wanted some dick and I was happy to be of service.
:cool:
 
HoneyDip said:
i've been in both those situations before. i was talkin to this guy and he got locked up so i decided we could only be friends. the messed up part was that he still called me from the jail. while he was locked up he told me he had a baby moms and thats a no no :smh: i told him i dont do those situations. that didnt stop him from callin me though. then all of a sudden the baby moms started callin me on dumb shit. unfortunately we ended up fighting due to one of my stupid associates.... he found out and apologized though. in terms of the other situation i caught this dude i was dating in the mall with some other chick holdin hands and all so i ran up on HIM (NOT HER)and choked the shit outta him lol... he was livin wit me though so that made it worst. i kicked him out though.
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He was not a man! He was living with you and not his place… And the guy that was locked up… Don’t take the calls…
My cousin got out and saw me one day and asked me why I would not take the calls and I told him I just don’t… He went on with “but man I needed you” and I still don’t take calls from jail.

In short, don’t put up with that kind of shit… Have that bruh come correct or not at all!
:cool:
 
Yeah I've been the other man and it was great while it lasted. She was sexually frustrated her man simply wasn't getting the job done.

She had married this cat right out of high school. She was a virgin had been married 4 years had 2 children. Hubby had never had oral sex with her and had never given her an orgasm. She had heard other women talk about the joys of sex and knew she was missing out on something.

Well eventually I moved on, She gained her self esteem and she divorced the man. We sometimes still get together.
 
fourth.hung said:
as mizz jones would say "that bitch" lol.
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I've had this convo at least three times this week. I've been "that bitch" far too many times than I'd like to think about. I attract those dudes that wanna have their cake and eat it too. Mind you, I always ask what their relationship status is, but it's always the same response, "I'm just chillin," I"'m single," etc. Then when it comes to light I hear "She don't do X, Y, & Z for me." That shit ain't none of my concern and now you got me in the middle of some stupid shit.
 
Lick said:
He was not a man! He was living with you and not his place… And the guy that was locked up… Don’t take the calls…
My cousin got out and saw me one day and asked me why I would not take the calls and I told him I just don’t… He went on with “but man I needed you” and I still don’t take calls from jail.

In short, don’t put up with that kind of shit… Have that bruh come correct or not at all!
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I dont do anything like that now... I dont even answer private calls from my own moms lol... I've gotten older and learned not to tolerate dumb shit
 
No, I never have, or should I say not to my knowledge. So many liars out there, so you never know. But I never received a call or any indication that I was "the other woman".

I have, however, been the "wifey" finding out about another woman. I don't believe in causing childish drama. I will have a one woman to woman conversation if she does not mind speaking to me in order to get some information. She was in fact woman enough to tell me and she did not know about me. If his dumb ass was upfront about it, he might have gotten away with it.

But I do not understand when women get all irrate with the other woman. NO body put a gun to my man's head and made him step out on me. She didn't betray me, he did. He was the one that was suppose to be so in love with me and asked me to marry him. He's the one I have a problem with for betraying my trust, not the other woman. I mean, I aint trying to be her best friend or nothing. But I never understood why women get all pissed off at the other woman and want to go fight and belittle themselves.

Shieeeet, I'm a lover not a fighter. He was a grown ass man that knew right from wrong. Now mess with my kids, and dat's a different story!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh...my bad....you didn't ask me all of that. :lol:
 
I've been the other man many times. Being in the Military it happened all the time. Especially in the ATL where I went to club Hairstons and it seem like all the ladies were married and did not give a fuck. Some traveled all the way from Augusta just to get their freak on.

Ahhh those were the days!!!

Qould I do it now? Hell NAH!!!!
 
sexylegz33 said:
But I do not understand when women get all irrate with the other woman. NO body put a gun to my man's head and made him step out on me. She didn't betray me, he did. He was the one that was suppose to be so in love with me and asked me to marry him. He's the one I have a problem with for betraying my trust, not the other woman. I mean, I aint trying to be her best friend or nothing.
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C/s sexylegz. Women are so hard on each other. I guess its easier to project your hate on the devil you don't know than the one you married and are sleeping with. :confused:
 
ive been the "other guy" before... at 1st i didn't care that she was married but then she wanted to start controlling shit like we was "together"..talking bout she didn't want me going out to clubs and talking to other girls...my question to her was this: how u gonna ask/tell me not to do these things when u sitting here fucking me instead of ur husband?. needless to say she stfu after that. in hindsight tho i wish i wouldn't have done it, i was younger than i am now (29) and just didn't care.... great sex tho, she was the only girl i felt get so wet that i knew i couldn't be just the "other guy", i had to stop messing with her... she prolly woulda had me asking her to marry me.
 
When people say "never again", IMO, it is only genuine if they almost lost their life or severely got their ass kicked.
 
HoneyDip said:
i've been in both those situations before. i was talkin to this guy and he got locked up so i decided we could only be friends. the messed up part was that he still called me from the jail. while he was locked up he told me he had a baby moms and thats a no no :smh: i told him i dont do those situations. that didnt stop him from callin me though. then all of a sudden the baby moms started callin me on dumb shit. unfortunately we ended up fighting due to one of my stupid associates.... he found out and apologized though. in terms of the other situation i caught this dude i was dating in the mall with some other chick holdin hands and all so i ran up on HIM (NOT HER)and choked the shit outta him lol... he was livin wit me though so that made it worst. i kicked him out though.
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Got some spunk in you huh
 
sexylegz33 said:
But I do not understand when women get all irrate with the other woman.
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In my case it was simply for the fact that bitch I don't know you and you are calling my phone. That plus she was a cracka bitch and cracked the whip via her purse strings and basically bought him back with an imac and an expensive keyboard. Fucking devil cunt :angry:
 
I was and I didnt even know it. When I found out I broke it off and went back to my ex. The married guy turned physcho and started stalking me and threatening my boyfriend.......:smh:

It's a looooooooong story, but dude was nutz.

But the sex was good:D
 
sexylegz33 said:
But I do not understand when women get all irrate with the other woman. NO body put a gun to my man's head and made him step out on me. She didn't betray me, he did. He was the one that was suppose to be so in love with me and asked me to marry him. He's the one I have a problem with for betraying my trust, not the other woman. I mean, I aint trying to be her best friend or nothing. But I never understood why women get all pissed off at the other woman and want to go fight and belittle themselves.
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you know the game.

as for me, i LOVE being the "other" man as long as the lady keeps HIS bullshit away from my life.

hell, with some of you high maintenance women, i NEED the other man!!! yeah, i need him.

he's gonna have the shoulder for you to cry on.
he's gonna listen to all your highly emotional bullshit.
he's gonna go to the company christmas party with you.
he's gonna take your kids to disneyland.

i'm the secret dick supplier... just keep the cat away from me and my happenings with you.

i play my role and you play yours.

i left this high maintenance broad alone a long time ago. she said, "why did you leave me? i thought you wanted me all to yourself?"

i told her, "you get rid of your man, i'm leaving you cause i can't support you financially or emotionally-you're too much for me."

she left him. so i left her. i needed that dude in my life more than she did.

:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:
 
yea, i've been the other women... with a women. she has a boyfriend/fiancee. matter fact i'ma tryin to get out that drama now... this shit is crazy...
 
Never with a married man before. But I think a guy had a girlfriend before... but I couldn't prove it... I think a guy that I'm interested in now has a girlfriend... he says he's not committed, just dating... and I can be dense.. but I'm not stupid.. so I'm on guard
 
femmenoire said:
What was it like?

I am listening to an audiobook about a man who is getting married but because all he's done is sleep with married women, he has no trust.

So this question isn't just for the ladies. Gentlemen, have you ever been the "other man"?
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I've never been the other woman, but I had a suspicion that there was another woman. After my ex changed the way he was acting toward me...
 
Yes im currently in the other man stage. we have know each other since high school met back up and she wanted to fuck. so after a few sessions, im gettin dressed one day and she tells me that i cant come over next weekend and because her man is coming in town. he knows about me (found some dick pics on her phone) but he aint went nowhere yet or contacted me. we dont fuck anymore, we just have text sex.

the first time was when i was out of high school and i met a woman in her 30s we were having sex and there was a knock at the door. she told me to be quiet it was her man and he just got out. that was the last time i saw her on that one.
its cool in theory to be the other guy, but if you put your ego aside and think about who else she may be fucking and who he may be fucking while she out fucking, russian roulette of std's
 
Yes I have been the other woman knowingly I was. It lasted 3.5 years, and it worked for me at the time. I had just ended a long relationship and didn't want the commitment (although it turned into that). His wife called me, and we had a decent conversation, but we continued to see each other for another 2 years.

At that time I didn't give a shit. Anything I needed done around my house, he did it, anything I needed he was there, he was knew to never try to take it any further. If I wanted to see someone I did, he didn't like it, but that's how the game goes.

After a while I got tired. We parted on good terms, and we are still cool with each other.
 
cocobeauty36 said:
Yes I have been the other woman knowingly I was. It lasted 3.5 years, and it worked for me at the time. I had just ended a long relationship and didn't want the commitment (although it turned into that). His wife called me, and we had a decent conversation, but we continued to see each other for another 2 years.

At that time I didn't give a shit. Anything I needed done around my house, he did it, anything I needed he was there, he was knew to never try to take it any further. If I wanted to see someone I did, he didn't like it, but that's how the game goes.

After a while I got tired. We parted on good terms, and we are still cool with each other.
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I think in this situation he felt he had to help you out around the house. You held him down when his wife went snoopin'.
 
cocobeauty36 said:
Yes I have been the other woman knowingly I was. It lasted 3.5 years, and it worked for me at the time. I had just ended a long relationship and didn't want the commitment (although it turned into that). His wife called me, and we had a decent conversation, but we continued to see each other for another 2 years.

At that time I didn't give a shit. Anything I needed done around my house, he did it, anything I needed he was there, he was knew to never try to take it any further. If I wanted to see someone I did, he didn't like it, but that's how the game goes.

After a while I got tired. We parted on good terms, and we are still cool with each other.
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See, that's something a woman can do, fuck a man who is with someone for three and a half years, I was involved with a married woman for three weeks and I was pissed because she thought I was supposed to be exclusive with her...women don't look for maintenance men anymore, they are looking for replacement men...but if you cheated on him with me, what's next...




YBO
 
Firstly let me say that any man who has done time in the Military has been "the other man". For me it was during my very first tour and with an older enlisted man's wife. Man it messed me up sooooo bad 'cause I did exactly what she told me not to do, confuse good sex with being in love. In retrospect I realize that she taught me a great deal... all of which my wife of nearly 20 years has been the beneficiary of. I spent a year being quite literally this woman's sex toy 'cause as you all know an 18 yr old boy is ready to fuck when the door bell rings...when the faucet is turned on...when you open the car door...whenever...
 
I've been the "other man" at least 4 or 5 times that I can think of right now. I knew all of them were married. But I've never had any issues with their man. But I did have one chick that I had to act like I was calling the cops. She wanted to act like we were dating and I was like it don't work like that. I felt really bad when I found her man was deployed and she was sleeping with me and he called her and she was at my place about to fuck. So I know how that guy feels in that audiobook. I know karma is gonna come back for me. :(
 
Shadow said:
I think in this situation he felt he had to help you out around the house. You held him down when his wife went snoopin'.
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No, he didn't have to, because he wasn't obligated. I never said I lied to his wife for him. I was honest with her, at that time, I felt if he didn't care, why should I.

owl said:
See, that's something a woman can do, fuck a man who is with someone for three and a half years, I was involved with a married woman for three weeks and I was pissed because she thought I was supposed to be exclusive with her...women don't look for maintenance men anymore, they are looking for replacement men...but if you cheated on him with me, what's next...



YBO
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I know men that has done the same thing. It's not about gender, it's about individual. I was able to do what the the typical men do, have my cake and eat it too.
 
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