Women, do you use sex to show gratitude?

Harbinger

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Here's the deal. I helped a young lady that worked for me as a temp, get a job she really wanted at an engineering firm. I couldn't hire her because of budget contraints (hell, I'm still firing people). A month or so ago she comes to me saying she was having trouble getting hits on her resume' and would I take a look at it.

So I revamp her resume', we do a couple of mock interviews, I give her some pointers, call a few people I know, write her a reference letter and provide a phone reference, bada bing, she gets the job.

She's worked for me for over a year, she's a good worker, great attitude, and good skills, so she deserved it, and I was happy to help.

Anyway, we meet for lunch (she buys) so she can say thank you. Then she says I'd love to show you how appreciative I really am, and she starts talking about hot oil massages, hot tubs, and orgasms that would curl my toes. I tell her no, I'm a "pay it forward" kind of guy. Someone helped me, I help you, now you help someone else, and so on. And she says, that's great, she will, but can she at least give me some head, cuz she's REALLY grateful, and wants to show me. Again I say no, not necessary.

But this made me think, I do this sorta stuff a lot, I helped many people get jobs, I've done taxes, cleaned up credit, written contracts, business plans, fixed sump pumps, blah, blah, blah. And many times the women involved have offered me sex to show their gratitude.

So my question again, do you offer sex to show gratitude? If so, why?

Sorry for the long post, but you all tend to have longer attention spans, than we men.
 
I can’t believe any women that wants to be taken seriously will make any attempt to involve sex in to a professional relationship.
 
I can’t believe any women that wants to be taken seriously will make any attempt to involve sex in to a professional relationship.

I know, and have seen plenty. I have actively worked to remove these type of women from my area of direction, or the companies that I've worked at entirely. They end up being trouble.

But, this woman and I were no longer professionally involved, and I wasn't asking what the women would do to GET something, I'm asking them why do they do it AFTER they've gotten something, if they do it.
 
I know, and have seen plenty. I have actively worked to remove these type of women from my area of direction, or the companies that I've worked at entirely. They end up being trouble.

But, this woman and I were no longer professionally involved, and I wasn't asking what the women would do to GET something, I'm asking them why do they do it AFTER they've gotten something, if they do it.

You use the word “they”. Are you sure you are not generalizing?
 
I know, and have seen plenty. I have actively worked to remove these type of women from my area of direction, or the companies that I've worked at entirely. They end up being trouble.

But, this woman and I were no longer professionally involved, and I wasn't asking what the women would do to GET something, I'm asking them why do they do it AFTER they've gotten something, if they do it.

I'ma gonna get my azz beat for this one...but the hell with it...Playa...U be missin' da whole f'ing point...It is not grattitude on a whole as it is...ready?...EGO...See, you played Pimp and you don't even know it...You helped a Sista...good...and when you was helping her, she was expecting some slime shit from ya, like alot of men that help women, we have a tendency to look for azz as a repayment (reference Chris Rock)...BUT...when you kept it real and spiritual...I like what you said, "someone helped me and I am helping you."see, that is what makes the world go 'round...but I digress...When you kept it on the professional level and showed the Sistas that you are not slime...your stock shot thru the roof...A brotha (i assume) that knows how to handle dough and is not scum is a major catch!!!

And that you showed that you are NOT thirsty for the panties...only interested in the good and the welfare...made you oh-so the more desirable...Plus the fact that you did not push up, makes women wonder what is wrong with them...Ego.

So there the panties get thrown like you are Prince rockin' a show in Miami.

No math my man...Just the facts.

Now I won't offer you no azz, but in return you can help me with credit!!!

Be good and stay Blessed!
 
You use the word “they”. Are you sure you are not generalizing?

In the context of women offering sexual favors for advancement being trouble, no I am generalizing, "they" do end up being trouble.

Within the context of my question, "they" are the women that read this, IF "they" do it. So yeah, I am generalizing, but only IF they do it, which I would then NOT be generalizing.

ouch, that hurt.
 
In the context of women offering sexual favors for advancement being trouble, no I am generalizing, "they" do end up being trouble.

Within the context of my question, "they" are the women that read this, IF "they" do it. So yeah, I am generalizing, but only IF they do it, which I would then NOT be generalizing.

ouch, that hurt.

So within the total sphere of women, you have encountered more than one or possible two women that use sex as gratitude. Damn chief, that sounds like a statistical outlier of an outlier!
 
I'ma gonna get my azz beat for this one...but the hell with it...Playa...U be missin' da whole f'ing point...It is not grattitude on a whole as it is...ready?...EGO...See, you played Pimp and you don't even know it...You helped a Sista...good...and when you was helping her, she was expecting some slime shit from ya, like alot of men that help women, we have a tendency to look for azz as a repayment (reference Chris Rock)...BUT...when you kept it real and spiritual...I like what you said, "someone helped me and I am helping you."see, that is what makes the world go 'round...but I digress...When you kept it on the professional level and showed the Sistas that you are not slime...your stock shot thru the roof...A brotha (i assume) that knows how to handle dough and is not scum is a major catch!!!

And that you showed that you are NOT thirsty for the panties...only interested in the good and the welfare...made you oh-so the more desirable...Plus the fact that you did not push up, makes women wonder what is wrong with them...Ego.

So there the panties get thrown like you are Prince rockin' a show in Miami.

No math my man...Just the facts.

Now I won't offer you no azz, but in return you can help me with credit!!!

Be good and stay Blessed!

LOL, youse a funny dude. So you say all this boils down to ego, huh?

I've never really chased pussy, it's always been pretty available so there was no need, unless I was just bored and wanted to do something differently. And I NEVER mix sex and business, NEVER.

C'mon ladies, surely it has to be something other than just ego. Surely can can offer more insight, even second hand, or an opinion. The only female response wasn't even about the topic.

As far as your credit goes, it not as hard as it seems, just takes some effort and patience. You'd be surprised how much stuff will come off if you just dispute it. Also making the creditors verify the debt works wonders. (they usually can't, or don't take the time, too many others to get)

Ego..... now that would be arrogant. lol
 
It could have been a ploy or it could be that she's been attracted to you and found a way to express it.
 
So within the total sphere of women, you have encountered more than one or possible two women that use sex as gratitude. Damn chief, that sounds like a statistical outlier of an outlier!

Um, if there are actual studies for this, let me know. Otherwise, I'm not sure how you'd determine this is an anamoly, "chief". Perhaps it's never happened to you, or you know of no one it has happened to, ergo, you would not be the best person to answer the question.

Really, you're making it complicated than it is.

You said, "outlier" :lol:
 
It could have been a ploy or it could be that she's been attracted to you and found a way to express it.

Believe me, my ego would LOVE to think I'm just so irresistable, that these women just throw themselves at me, but my common sense, along with reality, sets me straight. I've spoken to other guys that have had similar experiences, and one or two, have called it the hero syndrome. Basically, you save someone, and they feel obligated. So it's not the person so much as it is the act.

I'd never asked any women and was just looking for a little insight.
 
I'ma gonna get my azz beat for this one...but the hell with it...Playa...U be missin' da whole f'ing point...It is not grattitude on a whole as it is...ready?...EGO...See, you played Pimp and you don't even know it...You helped a Sista...good...and when you was helping her, she was expecting some slime shit from ya, like alot of men that help women, we have a tendency to look for azz as a repayment (reference Chris Rock)...BUT...when you kept it real and spiritual...I like what you said, "someone helped me and I am helping you."see, that is what makes the world go 'round...but I digress...When you kept it on the professional level and showed the Sistas that you are not slime...your stock shot thru the roof...A brotha (i assume) that knows how to handle dough and is not scum is a major catch!!!

And that you showed that you are NOT thirsty for the panties...only interested in the good and the welfare...made you oh-so the more desirable...Plus the fact that you did not push up, makes women wonder what is wrong with them...Ego.

So there the panties get thrown like you are Prince rockin' a show in Miami.

No math my man...Just the facts.

Now I won't offer you no azz, but in return you can help me with credit!!!

Be good and stay Blessed!

See all that may be good in theory, but a woman who would push up on a brother like that in a professional situation is probably the type of female to tell all her friends(and anyone who will listen) that the OP is gay and she "threw it at him" and he bitched up. Not saying that is what happened, but those type of women who use sex as currency are more likely to feel scorned than say "oh, that brother's deep". You feel me?

Now in another environment, a woman pushing up on a man and him declining could be seen as how you described it above with the promising results.
 
Believe me, my ego would LOVE to think I'm just so irresistable, that these women just throw themselves at me, but my common sense, along with reality, sets me straight. I've spoken to other guys that have had similar experiences, and one or two, have called it the hero syndrome. Basically, you save someone, and they feel obligated. So it's not the person so much as it is the act.

I'd never asked any women and was just looking for a little insight.

Well I ain't never been that thankful. She wants dick. Plain and simple.

Power makes a man attractive you know. Especially a man who says he'll do something and delivers. It's very intoxicating to women.
 
Um, if there are actual studies for this, let me know. Otherwise, I'm not sure how you'd determine this is an anamoly, "chief". Perhaps it's never happened to you, or you know of no one it has happened to, ergo, you would not be the best person to answer the question.

Really, you're making it complicated than it is.

You said, "outlier" :lol:

Yes, but superhead can be dealt with. Complicated, this is a porn site!
 
Well I ain't never been that thankful. She wants dick. Plain and simple.

Power makes a man attractive you know. Especially a man who says he'll do something and delivers. It's very intoxicating to women.


Quid pro quo is common amongst employers/employees. I think the term is called prostitution
 
Well I ain't never been that thankful. She wants dick. Plain and simple.

Power makes a man attractive you know. Especially a man who says he'll do something and delivers. It's very intoxicating to women.

Yeah, you don't really seem the type to be thankful in that way. And I would guess there are some unhappy guys because you aren't. LOL.

The power thing does make sense, though.

Okay, and I must confess, I am officially in love with your lips.
:D
 
Yeah, you don't really seem the type to be thankful in that way. And I would guess there are some unhappy guys because you aren't. LOL.

The power thing does make sense, though.

Okay, and I must confess, I am officially in love with your lips.
:D

Well I wouldn't jeopardize my money.

But I'm no different than most women in that power is certainly an attractant.
 
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