Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U Cope?

Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

I applaud your courage in answering, but how do you turn it off. The nerve endings are still there and if they're being stimulated, especially orally you must have felt something. Is it that you psychologically wont allow the sensation to register?
Your bravery is truly impressive.

These sickos that rape actually think the women are feeling pleasure. Its why its not a crime of sex but violence

On some real shit, you really need to stop.:hmm:
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

It would happen after school. I did sports too and the building was basically empty except for the kids who did sports and the coaches. My locker was at the end of a hall in the corner near the bathrooms and they would roll up on me 6 and 7 at a time and shove me in the bathroom and if i didn't do what they wanted they would flush my head in the toilet. I tried to report it a few times but nothing ever came of it. Thats why I started training martial arts.

damn it happen multiple times, i aint think that
i dont mean to be rude or nothing but why did u keep going back or just move your locker
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Am speaking from a medical standpoint

Ok thats all well and good, but thats gotta be a traumatic experience, to make comments like that are insensitive and unnecessary. If you cant understand that, then I dont know what to tell you.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

I was by my stepfather when I was a little girl and then by this gang of hockey player whiteboys at school. I am fine about it now except thats why I feel sick when I see a whiteboy and I can't have any man cum in my mouth. I was a late bloomer tho when it comes to sex I didn't want anything to do with it for a long time and would just try and avoid it.

Could it be why you don't like seeing cum on woman's faces in porn.
It is a power thing really and it's all too real for you :smh:
Man sorry to hear that, kids should be allowed to be kids and grow up free from those type of drama. :angry:
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Ehhhhh, I was gonna bypass this one, but I've done opened up my mouth so much on here, so I might as well. It's happened twice: once when I was 5, by my baby-sitters 19 y.o. son. I was in the middle of "nap time" and I felt fingers where they shouldn't be. Two days later he played that "come sit on my lap" shit when my baby-sitter went downstairs to pick up the PM kids. Me being the quiet person I am didn't tell anyone, partly because I thought it was my fault. He did it to some other girl and she told. He got arrested, was back out in 5 years, and winked at me every single time he saw me in the hood. :smh:
Second time was with some dude I was cool with. Our parents knew each other, but my mom never really like his ass. One day I got out of class early, he happened to be around, and we went to his place with two of my homegirls b/c we weren't expected to be home for a while. I went to his room to pick up some CD's I left the last time I was there, and he shut the door behind us. Fool ripped my skirt in half in his damn frenzy and the only thing that stopped him was my vice grip on his nuts. My friends had no idea till I came out b/c they were on the balcony. Didn't press charges on his ass. To this day I wish I had, b/c he doesn't deserve to be where he is right now.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

I was by my stepfather when I was a little girl and then by this gang of hockey player whiteboys at school. I am fine about it now except thats why I feel sick when I see a whiteboy and I can't have any man cum in my mouth. I was a late bloomer tho when it comes to sex I didn't want anything to do with it for a long time and would just try and avoid it.

This disgusted me to no end :angry:, I love kids and when I hear stuff like this it just pisses me the fuck off. Nobody should be terrorized or disrespected like that and people who abuse children are the scum of the earth...

Stay strong Bigirl
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Ehhhhh, I was gonna bypass this one, but I've done opened up my mouth so much on here, so I might as well. It's happened twice: once when I was 5, by my baby-sitters 19 y.o. son. I was in the middle of "nap time" and I felt fingers where they shouldn't be. Two days later he played that "come sit on my lap" shit when my baby-sitter went downstairs to pick up the PM kids. Me being the quiet person I am didn't tell anyone, partly because I thought it was my fault. He did it to some other girl and she told. He got arrested, was back out in 5 years, and winked at me every single time he saw me in the hood. :smh:
Second time was with some dude I was cool with. Our parents knew each other, but my mom never really like his ass. One day I got out of class early, he happened to be around, and we went to his place with two of my homegirls b/c we weren't expected to be home for a while. I went to his room to pick up some CD's I left the last time I was there, and he shut the door behind us. Fool ripped my skirt in half in his damn frenzy and the only thing that stopped him was my vice grip on his nuts. My friends had no idea till I came out b/c they were on the balcony. Didn't press charges on his ass. To this day I wish I had, b/c he doesn't deserve to be where he is right now.
I'm sorry :(
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Ehhhhh, I was gonna bypass this one, but I've done opened up my mouth so much on here, so I might as well. It's happened twice: once when I was 5, by my baby-sitters 19 y.o. son. I was in the middle of "nap time" and I felt fingers where they shouldn't be. Two days later he played that "come sit on my lap" shit when my baby-sitter went downstairs to pick up the PM kids. Me being the quiet person I am didn't tell anyone, partly because I thought it was my fault. He did it to some other girl and she told. He got arrested, was back out in 5 years, and winked at me every single time he saw me in the hood. :smh:
Second time was with some dude I was cool with. Our parents knew each other, but my mom never really like his ass. One day I got out of class early, he happened to be around, and we went to his place with two of my homegirls b/c we weren't expected to be home for a while. I went to his room to pick up some CD's I left the last time I was there, and he shut the door behind us. Fool ripped my skirt in half in his damn frenzy and the only thing that stopped him was my vice grip on his nuts. My friends had no idea till I came out b/c they were on the balcony. Didn't press charges on his ass. To this day I wish I had, b/c he doesn't deserve to be where he is right now.

Wow, I just hate to hear these stories. And we never do anything about it.:smh:
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

damn it happen multiple times, i aint think that
i dont mean to be rude or nothing but why did u keep going back or just move your locker
i asked the school if i could move it and they wouldn't let me they said all the lockers were taken and i had to go to my locker to get my backpack and coat and stuff i didn't really have a choice in the matter.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

i asked the school if i could move it and they wouldn't let me they said all the lockers were taken and i had to go to my locker to get my backpack and coat and stuff i didn't really have a choice in the matter.

oh i understand its crazy how people dont take people seriously when they say something but the people who dont say shit they always want to know why the been aint say nothing
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

I'm pissed and saddend at the same time when reading these awful experiences...I applaud the courage you ladies have for coming out and sharing, but I can't help being pissed off when reading about the actions of these cowardly males, cause they're not men.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

This disgusted me to no end :angry:, I love kids and when I hear stuff like this it just pisses me the fuck off. Nobody should be terrorized or disrespected like that and people who abuse children are the scum of the earth...

Stay strong Bigirl

:( Breaks my heart.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Well I guess its my turn? :smh:

Happened to me before. One was my neighbour, dirty old man....just the thought brings back the smell. I don't know how old I was but I was not past 12. There was no penetration he put his hands on me.And he made me touch him. I remember him telling me not to ever say anything. He touched me a few times. Then I started not going to check on the old man. Thats what you did in the West Indies you know checked up on the shut ins.
I don't think I have ever felt so dirty. The thing is my mother had always told me if any one ever touched me let her know. I was so afraid though that she would blame me. I mean who ever thinks a "nice" old neighbor would ever harm a child.
I remember he would always holler over and ask my grandparents how the granddaughter was. And I would be asked to take him some food. I would go get a couple of my friends and take with me so I wouldn't be alone.

I remember as I got older he seemed to get dirtier. I never went back over because I could say no now with more conviction. He scared the living daylights out of me one last time. He grabbed me from behind one day while I was picking cherries from my back yard. I dont know why I couldnt scream but I could taste his smell...it was in my throat and I knew that there was no way in hell he was getting me to go anywhere...he was old dammit.....

Anyways I remember pushing him back and pretty much telling him to not ever f with me again or I'd kill him.



I don't know if any of this helps any one but....




Peace
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Well I guess its my turn? :smh:

Happened to me before. One was my neighbour, dirty old man....just the thought brings back the smell. I don't know how old I was but I was not past 12. There was no penetration he put his hands on me.And he made me touch him. I remember him telling me not to ever say anything. He touched me a few times. Then I started not going to check on the old man. Thats what you did in the West Indies you know checked up on the shut ins.
I don't think I have ever felt so dirty. The thing is my mother had always told me if any one ever touched me let her know. I was so afraid though that she would blame me. I mean who ever thinks a "nice" old neighbor would ever harm a child.
I remember he would always holler over and ask my grandparents how the granddaughter was. And I would be asked to take him some food. I would go get a couple of my friends and take with me so I wouldn't be alone.

I remember as I got older he seemed to get dirtier. I never went back over because I could say no now with more conviction. He scared the living daylights out of me one last time. He grabbed me from behind one day while I was picking cherries from my back yard. I dont know why I couldnt scream but I could taste his smell...it was in my throat and I knew that there was no way in hell he was getting me to go anywhere...he was old dammit.....

Anyways I remember pushing him back and pretty much telling him to not ever f with me again or I'd kill him.



I don't know if any of this helps any one but....




Peace

:(

This thread is...wow...
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

I don't know if any of this helps any one but....


Peace

It does ladyS. All the telling helps because its the silence that allows it to continue. People underestimate how common it is (Da Don mentioned it) Most people that abuse others were abused themselves. Nobody helps them and so they go on to become sick, distorted versions of the men they could have become and hurt other little people.

If we asked this question on the men's board how many would answer? Not many, but it has happened to them to.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Well I guess its my turn? :smh:

Happened to me before. One was my neighbour, dirty old man....just the thought brings back the smell. I don't know how old I was but I was not past 12. There was no penetration he put his hands on me.And he made me touch him. I remember him telling me not to ever say anything. He touched me a few times. Then I started not going to check on the old man. Thats what you did in the West Indies you know checked up on the shut ins.
I don't think I have ever felt so dirty. The thing is my mother had always told me if any one ever touched me let her know. I was so afraid though that she would blame me. I mean who ever thinks a "nice" old neighbor would ever harm a child.

This scares the shit out of me. I've told this to my child over and over and I still worry sometimes that she would not say shit. If only because on some level she might know I'd catch a murder charge and have my ass locked up for 20 years if I found out. Maybe I need to read up on some law books and figure out the most violent charge with the least amount of jail time, cause I will become extremely violent if I....well who knows what I would do, let me shut up.

Ladies Im sorry for your pain and I applaud your courage in moving forward with your lives... :(
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

wow

It is a shame how many ladies have experienced attacks like this. It makes me sad and a little scared and angry... would never want someone to go through something like this...
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

This scares the shit out of me. I've told this to my child over and over and I still worry sometimes that she would not say shit. If only because on some level she might know I'd catch a murder charge and have my ass locked up for 20 years if I found out. Maybe I need to read up on some law books and figure out the most violent charge with the least amount of jail time, cause I will become extremely violent if I....well who knows what I would do, let me shut up.

Ladies Im sorry for your pain and I applaud your courage in moving forward with your lives... :(

Dale I can tell you from my experience. I knew my mother would have killed him. I also knew that, I didnt want to ever get in trouble for it, and I as i got older I realised that if I did tell here she may as my mother feel inadequate. I didn't ever want to place that burden on her. I carried it alone.

All I can say is with your daughter continue to let her know that no matter what you will always be there for her. No matter what
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

You know, something did happen to me when I was 4-5 but I never considered it as abuse, even though technically speaking it was.
It made me too curious about sex way too early though and I paid for it :smh:
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

You know, something did happen to me when I was 4-5 but I never considered it as abuse, even though technically speaking it was.
It made me too curious about sex way too early though and I paid for it :smh:
another male friend of mine told first told me he was abused at age 7 but didn't discuss any details. then like a year later he was asking me about mine and then i asked about his and he said "huh? that wasn't abuse that was RIDING and I loved it a lil man like me fucking this big woman and it felt good an i felt like a big man"

so he sounded pretty well healed about it. i hope its like that for you too.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Bigirl, on the real, you may not care or want my sympathy, but you have it. This goes for all of the ladies that have been through the personal tragedies also.:smh::smh:
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

You know, something did happen to me when I was 4-5 but I never considered it as abuse, even though technically speaking it was.
It made me too curious about sex way too early though and I paid for it :smh:



Damian I too like Bigirl said hope that you are healed from this. Its unfortunate that any one has to go through this.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

another male friend of mine told first told me he was abused at age 7 but didn't discuss any details. then like a year later he was asking me about mine and then i asked about his and he said "huh? that wasn't abuse that was RIDING and I loved it a lil man like me fucking this big woman and it felt good an i felt like a big man"

so he sounded pretty well healed about it. i hope its like that for you too.

Well I never took it as abuse;
What happened is that I had caught my maid having sex with one of my uncles, so after he left, she came to me and told me if I was quiet, she would do the same for me, and she started sucking me from that day on.
That part was fine, but problem is I tried having sex with my playmate around 5 just before I left and got hurt in the process badly because frankly my little peepee was not going in at all and it got ripped in the process. :confused: Hospital and stitches later I was still trying to have sex. :smh:
Way too young!
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Damian I too like Bigirl said hope that you are healed from this. Its unfortunate that any one has to go through this.

Yes I am healed, literally speaking, (read above).
But this thread made me reflect on my actions growing up and how this event has affected my way of life.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

I dated a woman that was raped by her older cousin when she was 14. Dude held her down, pulled her tampon out and fucked her while she was bleeding. His cousin!!

She told someone that told her parents. Dude lied and said he didn't do it. It hurt her because her family was still dealing with him. Just this past September she confronted her parents cause he showed up at the family's house after her sisters wedding like nothing had ever happened and she SNAPPED!

I don't know if she can have a normal relationship, she says that she is scarred and I believe her! She is hard to deal with!
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Well I never took it as abuse;
What happened is that I had caught my maid having sex with one of my uncles, so after he left, she came to me and told me if I was quiet, she would do the same for me, and she started sucking me from that day on.
That part was fine, but problem is I tried having sex with my playmate around 5 just before I left and got hurt in the process badly because frankly my little peepee was not going in at all and it got ripped in the process. :confused: Hospital and stitches later I was still trying to have sex. :smh:
Way too young!

ouch, but how she gon give a 5 year old head she prob still fucking kids now
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

I was by my stepfather when I was a little girl and then by this gang of hockey player whiteboys at school. I am fine about it now except thats why I feel sick when I see a whiteboy and I can't have any man cum in my mouth. I was a late bloomer tho when it comes to sex I didn't want anything to do with it for a long time and would just try and avoid it.
i'm glad u bounced back, but i hate they scarred u like that. man........:smh:
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Dude, If I met you face to face I would fuck you up for even coming at her like this.

Bitch ass.
i swear i feel u cuz.:smh: don't beef though
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

POWERFUL SHIT RIGHT HERE. GREAT STRENGTH. ATLEAST U HAD A CHANCE TO FACE YOUR DEMON BABY, BRAVO:hmm:
Well I guess its my turn? :smh:

Happened to me before. One was my neighbour, dirty old man....just the thought brings back the smell. I don't know how old I was but I was not past 12. There was no penetration he put his hands on me.And he made me touch him. I remember him telling me not to ever say anything. He touched me a few times. Then I started not going to check on the old man. Thats what you did in the West Indies you know checked up on the shut ins.
I don't think I have ever felt so dirty. The thing is my mother had always told me if any one ever touched me let her know. I was so afraid though that she would blame me. I mean who ever thinks a "nice" old neighbor would ever harm a child.
I remember he would always holler over and ask my grandparents how the granddaughter was. And I would be asked to take him some food. I would go get a couple of my friends and take with me so I wouldn't be alone.

I remember as I got older he seemed to get dirtier. I never went back over because I could say no now with more conviction. He scared the living daylights out of me one last time. He grabbed me from behind one day while I was picking cherries from my back yard. I dont know why I couldnt scream but I could taste his smell...it was in my throat and I knew that there was no way in hell he was getting me to go anywhere...he was old dammit.....

Anyways I remember pushing him back and pretty much telling him to not ever f with me again or I'd kill him.



I don't know if any of this helps any one but....




Peace
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

DUDE, SUNDAY MORING ME AND MY DAUGHTER HAD THIS SAME CONVO. I ASKED HER IF ANYONE TOUCHES HER PRIVATES WHAT WOULD SHE DO(I LET HER MAKE THE DECISION 1ST), SHE ANSWERED "TELL U DA DA."! SHE THEN ADDED U GOING TO SHOOT THEM WITH YOUR GUN IF THEY MESS WITH ME. I DONT KNO ABOUT THIS WORLD BUT I KNO MY 7 YR. OLD WILL BE A DECISION MAKER. THAT'S HOW I RAISE HER, WITH GUIDANCE NOT ORDERS UNTIL SHE MESSES UP, LOL!
This scares the shit out of me. I've told this to my child over and over and I still worry sometimes that she would not say shit. If only because on some level she might know I'd catch a murder charge and have my ass locked up for 20 years if I found out. Maybe I need to read up on some law books and figure out the most violent charge with the least amount of jail time, cause I will become extremely violent if I....well who knows what I would do, let me shut up.

Ladies Im sorry for your pain and I applaud your courage in moving forward with your lives... :(
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

WHAT UP DAMIEN, I REMEMBER U FROM OUR OLD CHATROOM DAYS, FUCKED UP SHE STOLE YOUR CHILDHOOD, THAT WAS TOO FUCKING YOUNG.

Yes I am healed, literally speaking, (read above).
But this thread made me reflect on my actions growing up and how this event has affected my way of life.
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

Well I never took it as abuse;
What happened is that I had caught my maid having sex with one of my uncles, so after he left, she came to me and told me if I was quiet, she would do the same for me, and she started sucking me from that day on.
That part was fine, but problem is I tried having sex with my playmate around 5 just before I left and got hurt in the process badly because frankly my little peepee was not going in at all and it got ripped in the process. :confused: Hospital and stitches later I was still trying to have sex. :smh:
Way too young!

Damn thats fucked up :smh: :(
 
Re: Serious ??? Ladies Have Ever Been Sexually Assualted Or Raped? If So How Did U C

It was supposed to be. Instead one held me down while the other one force himself on me anally.

It was a long time ago. I know that it was poor judgment on my part and that was it.

:(That's really fucked up. I don't see how a person can just force themselves on another person. It has to be a really fucked up mindset to do something like that. Sorry to hear about your situation femme..I am glad you had the strength and courage to move on with your life and not be paralyzed by what happened. I tried to date a female who had been molested before and she made it so hard to have a relationship with her. I constantly had to boost her self esteem by praising her and in effext being over protective of her to make her feel comfortable. She just could not come to grips and I was drained from all of the flashbacks and acting out she would do.
 
Back
Top