They choose each other. A person won't get chose, if they don't want to be chosen. I had 2 women choose me 33 years ago. I didn't want to be with the first chick that chose me, but I saw a chick with the most amazing legs dancing by herself on the dancefloor at Club 112 and I chose her. She chose me back, and we've been together for 33 years and counting. For one night stands, yeah, women might choose the men, but for lifelong shit, men & women choose each other. Both have skin in the game. If you choose me, that means I have to do your bidding. The same for the other side. When we choose each other, we have a mutual plan for this shit. It ain't that complicated if you're grown.