My oldest son tried suicide this morning, my middle son walked in and caught him. I’ve battled with depression and multiple attempts on my life as well, can’t help but think I’ve passed something to my son
Did I curse my son?
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Clinical depression does run in families, I’m glad to hear that your middle son caught him.
damn bro, this sounds serious
I know nothing about your condition and what your family is facing but please seek professional help
if nothing else helps, take a trip back to motherland and sit among your own to renew your energy
stay in the light
I know nothing about your condition and what your family is facing but please seek professional help
if nothing else helps, take a trip back to motherland and sit among your own to renew your energy
stay in the light
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no doubt about it, you children knows shit about you, you THOUGHT they aint even know,
your seed is going to be just like you...
Its important for you get everyone together, and ask for forgiveness,
say you love and will always love them... but the main thing is you ask
your whole family for forgiveness, tell them how much they mean to you...
and group hug time...
Its DEFINITELY A CRY FOR HELP.....
he needs to KNOW HIS FATHER IS STRONG, may have had a bout of weakness
BUT YOU SURVIVED STRONGER THAN EVER.. and MAKE A PROMISE TO YOURSELF
YOU WILL NEVER LET THEM DOWN AGAIN!!!
your seed is going to be just like you...
Its important for you get everyone together, and ask for forgiveness,
say you love and will always love them... but the main thing is you ask
your whole family for forgiveness, tell them how much they mean to you...
and group hug time...
Its DEFINITELY A CRY FOR HELP.....
he needs to KNOW HIS FATHER IS STRONG, may have had a bout of weakness
BUT YOU SURVIVED STRONGER THAN EVER.. and MAKE A PROMISE TO YOURSELF
YOU WILL NEVER LET THEM DOWN AGAIN!!!
You did say you were dealing with bipolar depression righ?If that's the case its hereditary,and it's some thing you and he will have to learn to manage. I cant exactly tell you how to deal with with it because im not walking in your shoes but maybe some research and experiences of people dealing with it pn youtube might be a start i have family dealing with it.
Good luck to you and your family. I wish you the best in solving this . You as an adult already know there's a problem with you. That's half the battle won. The other half is finding an everlasting solution. As for your son, you will need clinical help as soon as you can. You must not assume that this is your fault. if you do, it's a bottomless hole that will cause you more headaches. Goodspeed to you, brother.
That's rough Brah. Life is especially meaner and harder for us melanin rich folks called Blacks. He's no doubt been through the same hell as well. Talk with them regularly. As a parent I know you can ask them how they are doing everyday and they will say they are fine or OK. When they are not. Sometimes I gotta confront members of my brood with prying dialog to get answers.
all i can say is, i send peace and loving kindness your way. if you don't remember anything at all, remember this: "you are not your thoughts, you are not your thoughts, you are not your thoughts"
just keep that in the back of your mind whenever you feel yourself entering that dark space at the urging of the thoughts and voices in your head. Also, please do as one brother above suggested. Family therapy as well as hugs all around. Now is not the time to act macho at all. Now is the time to admit that you're just a man and human and that you are not alone in your personal struggles on this earth. Remember, you are not your thoughts.
just keep that in the back of your mind whenever you feel yourself entering that dark space at the urging of the thoughts and voices in your head. Also, please do as one brother above suggested. Family therapy as well as hugs all around. Now is not the time to act macho at all. Now is the time to admit that you're just a man and human and that you are not alone in your personal struggles on this earth. Remember, you are not your thoughts.
Yes. You set the blueprint. At least till they’re older
We are here for you brother
My brother is a clinical psychologist/counselor
If you need me to ask him anything on y’all’s behalf, let me know and I’ll call him ASAP. I know that therapists do virtual sessions now too, so let me know if you need me to ask him about that as well
My brother is a clinical psychologist/counselor
If you need me to ask him anything on y’all’s behalf, let me know and I’ll call him ASAP. I know that therapists do virtual sessions now too, so let me know if you need me to ask him about that as well
I just broke down and started crying after I left him at the er
He’s in the back for protocol ,I feel exactly what he’s feeling
Said he’s tired of messing up and hurting people. So if he kills himself, he can’t hurt anymore. That’s my same train of thought. I was so upset I was finna fight security at the hospital because of hire they was trying handle him
Idgaf if he’s 18, that’s my son, my baby
He’s in the back for protocol ,I feel exactly what he’s feeling
Said he’s tired of messing up and hurting people. So if he kills himself, he can’t hurt anymore. That’s my same train of thought. I was so upset I was finna fight security at the hospital because of hire they was trying handle him
Idgaf if he’s 18, that’s my son, my baby
The more I read this thread, bro is there anything in real life we can do to help. You and Him?
My advice is to find out what he is interested in as soon as he is better. Look into his hobbies, do something, maybe fishing, camping or take a long road trip where he can do things outside of his normal life. The key is giving him a new perspective in life and playing different music, not the regular music he is used to because even if he initially thinks its corny, he will associate it with a fresh new start and appreciate it in time.
Good luck bro, and keep on fighting the good fight!
Good luck bro, and keep on fighting the good fight!
He wants to be a music engineer and has gotten better with making beats
He’s osha certified so we’re looking into trying him into a trade school
He’s osha certified so we’re looking into trying him into a trade school
Tough situation, and my condolences. I've also had people that I am very close to walked down this path as well. It's devastating for both groups. Just try to be as present and understanding as possible while assuring them they have a shoulder to lean on despite feeling they have nothing to live for.
I'm still trying to understand this resolve. Shit is emotionally draining....
I'm still trying to understand this resolve. Shit is emotionally draining....
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Mental health in TN is a joke
They either wanna put you in pills to make you a zombie or give cookie cutter therapy
I keep explaining to people those medications are hit and miss because they don’t really stop the thoughts, they give you more energy to follow thru with bad thoughts
They either wanna put you in pills to make you a zombie or give cookie cutter therapy
I keep explaining to people those medications are hit and miss because they don’t really stop the thoughts, they give you more energy to follow thru with bad thoughts
I wish I had a solution for people who go through this. It seems like such a battle to deal with these types of thoughts.
I hope you and your sons are able to get through this.
I hope you and your sons are able to get through this.
One of the biggest challenges I have with those suffering from depression is getting them to not beat themselves down. Changing how they talk about themselves. Because many of them have beat themselves down for so long, it became a habit to do it when they feel bad.
Whenever I hear a person beat themselves down, I try and stop them and get them to recognize what they are doing. It’s ok to be critical of yourself. It’s not ok to say things that make you feel worse.
You've been going through it brotha. I was going to say you have to seek out some help and talk to someone, but it looks like your options might not be ideal. That being said, I still think you need to reach out or maybe explore some virtual options as @YoungSinister pointed out.
We are here for you.
Hugs, walks, talk about life, dream, get out, travel. When you travel more and see the world, you realized damn you got it good! PULL YA SOCKS UP, LIVE, DREAM, MAKE A CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE OR SOMEONE ELSE!
SCREAM AT THE PERSON IN THE MIRROR.
This approach doesn’t work as well as I would like it too. The reason is because it’s hard for some to separate themselves from what they are dealing with to see what the rest of the world is dealing with.
Your approach is how I cope when I feel like shit isn’t going the way I want to. I look to the world and see a bigger perspective. But for those suffering from depression, what goes on in the rest of the world doesn’t matter to them. Only their feelings matter. And saying it could be worse is exactly where their mind goes anyway. Worse.
For me it’s a relief.
Greetings Brother, I pray that your son receives the help he needs.
My Brother committed suicide in 2009. He had a chemical imbalance that caused him to hear voices etc... Get your son some professional help.
I believe "ALL" Black men suffer from trauma... we're born with it, and we've inherited it from our ancestors. Not to mention our own daily life struggles in the U.S. which adds to it. That trauma strives to get out, and usually we find a way to suppress it. But sometimes, it'll leak out, and we become overwhelmed by it.
Both you and your son should go to a therapy session and witness what other men go through. Then if you feel up to it, participate in it when you're ready.
Wishing you two the best, Brother.
My Brother committed suicide in 2009. He had a chemical imbalance that caused him to hear voices etc... Get your son some professional help.
I believe "ALL" Black men suffer from trauma... we're born with it, and we've inherited it from our ancestors. Not to mention our own daily life struggles in the U.S. which adds to it. That trauma strives to get out, and usually we find a way to suppress it. But sometimes, it'll leak out, and we become overwhelmed by it.
Both you and your son should go to a therapy session and witness what other men go through. Then if you feel up to it, participate in it when you're ready.
Wishing you two the best, Brother.
This!!! Now that you know it exist. Get them the help that you never knew you needed as soon as you are able to man. And be there with them every step of the way. Your middle school aged boy will definitely need to talk to someone about what he saw as well.
Sending prayers to you and your boys. I hoping you all get through this. Stay strong good Brotha!!
I don't know anybody in my family to suffer from depression or bi polar, but I've had it at times. I dont think you should blame yourself. Just be the support for him that you didn't have.
There's something to what you're saying for sure. When I heard my internal monologue say I love you, instead of belittling myself, I knew I had made the necessary changes in my thinking. It was such a jarring change. I cried man. I really did.
From what I heard bi polar disorder can be hereditary at times. If I remember you Said you suffered from it. If so than you should definitely have all your kids evaluated to see if theres a chance they have it or could develop it. Definitely get professional help for your son that attempted suicide. Sorry to hear of your negative situation. The good news is hes still here and you have experience with dealing with them thoughts. You both could go to counseling and both go through the healing process together. Wish you the best on both cases your son and yourself
My son and I both diagnosed run bipolar disorder depression anxiety and manic episodes
We were in therapy together before I went to prison but with me being in the halfway house and him turning 18 things have changed
My ex wife has been going to the hospital and they’re not giving her any answers or letting her see him
We were in therapy together before I went to prison but with me being in the halfway house and him turning 18 things have changed
My ex wife has been going to the hospital and they’re not giving her any answers or letting her see him
u can start here also with usrself
why do u feel that way? is it true or not.
most people are depressed and dont know the reason
when u find the reason then there is an answer
I got so pissed off that my car didn’t start this morning I just went back inside and went to sleep. Usually that would start a chain reaction and everything would crash and burn. Today I just said fuck it and went back to sleep, it’s like I don’t care about nothing until I hear about my son
Fam, real talk, none of that matters. If anything, it's good to know that your boy has these problems before it's too late. You can relate to everything he's going through and you should encourage him to talk to you. Part of that needs to be you sharing your struggles. I mean really sharing. Tell him shit that you ain't never told anybody. That shit could make ya'll closer and it could help both of you cope.
Also, get some help. Both of ya'll. Ain't nothing wrong with therapy.
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