Fam, you're right, I'm slowly realizing this! Seriously, its been bothering me all week.Admirable, but ultimately it shouldn't fall on your shoulders to be the "surrogate husband" for the women in your family. There is only so much energy you have to give that should be for your own spouse & kids. That shit will burn you out and leave you unable to be that person in the household that YOU establish. Cold as this seems, they make/made their choices.
Leading by example for the women in your family? No doubt.
Calling you expecting you to cancel your weekend because they want you to move furniture around in their house? No bueno.
They want me to do their yards, and even though they're willing to pay me, I know it'll only lead to me doing extra shit for them that I don't charge for, and it's only so many hours in a day. I cut grass for a living and barely have time to cut my own.
Sometimes I gotta say, "no".