Black men and depression
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When I hear people talk about depression one of the constant factors is how other's feel about them. I'm blessed to be able to live my life truly not giving one single fuck about what people may think of me. Grandma taught me if you don't love yourself no one else will. Everything starts with you. If you don't feel good about yourself it will be damn near impossible to feel good about others or anything else in life. Self love is very vital in being healthy mentally. 
When I hear people talk about depression one of the constant factors is how other's feel about them. I'm blessed to be able to live my life truly not giving one single fuck about what people may think of me. Grandma taught me if you don't love yourself no one else will. Everything starts with you. If you don't feel good about yourself it will be damn near impossible to feel good about others or anything else in life. Self love is very vital in being healthy mentally.
Beautifully Stated, Fam
On point and 1000% the Truth.
Yeah it’s a chemical Imbalance not some this is how I feel today. It’s not controllable based off any reason.
Exactly and some people still don’t understand that.
Beautifully Stated, Fam
On point and 1000% the Truth.
Sadly that has nothing to do with depression. Self confidence yes, depression no.
I wonder if there's any correlation between inactivity, heavy drug use, and constant exposure to social media that's feeding a lot of depression.
Thanks. My mother suffers from depression and at 71 she can tell you exactly Word for word the mean things the kids in the 6th grade said to her. See, my mother got straight A's in school. I'm not even exaggerating she never knew what a C looked like and if she got a B she did extra to push it to an A. A real genius. I had to explain to my mother that those other kids probably were getting their asses beat at home for their bad grades and were jealous of you getting good grades. They didn't know how to ask you for help with stuff. Instead they made fun of you and bullied you to make themselves feel good about themselves and their situation. All the wile they wish they were you. My mother told me in all the years going to therapists they never broke it down to her like that. My mother held onto that 6 grade stuff and always worried about what others said or what she thought felt about her. It eventually snowballed into a chemical imbalance in her brain. Which lead to weight gain, no self confidence, not able to concentrate playing the piano and not being able to make friends of finish being a pediatrician at N.Y. University. It's really sad because my mother is one of the nicest people on the planet. But I learned from what she went through. I wish I would give two fucks about what anyone thinks about me. I wish da fuck I would.Beautifully Stated, Fam
On point and 1000% the Truth.
You learned this at FAMU premed?
I learned from studying your mom
This is true but you need to be shown love before you even know how to love yourselfWhen I hear people talk about depression one of the constant factors is how other's feel about them. I'm blessed to be able to live my life truly not giving one single fuck about what people may think of me. Grandma taught me if you don't love yourself no one else will. Everything starts with you. If you don't feel good about yourself it will be damn near impossible to feel good about others or anything else in life. Self love is very vital in being healthy mentally.
that comes from family
And that’s when u realized u like Lil boy toy ping pong shape pie face looking bitches
I guaranfuckingtee your wife and her mom mom looks like rocky dennis
This is true. You can win the lottery or get promoted at work or find a new "dream" job and still be depressed if your social situation is still the same. Clinical depression is triggered by external factors. They do have an effect on your chemical imbalance. A person can get rid of their depression if their social situation changes. For most people, especially black people, it never does.
That’s when you lost
How wide is your wife face
-....Some people just have it harder than other's,it's like one bad thing after another.
Things in their life that they've never forgot about,people they've never forgiven,dissappointments,actions of other's or lack there of .
-Grown adult behavior of acting out and doing things that you always regret doing later,fucking up everything positive you've might of worked hard for,pushing the reset button to often in your life.
-They say whatever you go through makes you stronger but sometimes it doesn't,it's something that comes and goes,like the seasons.
-I realized that hurt people hurt people and there's a lot of hurt people,old and young,motherfuckers you wouldn't believe are hurt and go out of their way to hurt someone else for the smallest infraction,things you wouldn't even think about judging some on they do.Just another way of not dealing with themselves or their issues....talking about he,she or them,but what about you?
Things in their life that they've never forgot about,people they've never forgiven,dissappointments,actions of other's or lack there of .
-Grown adult behavior of acting out and doing things that you always regret doing later,fucking up everything positive you've might of worked hard for,pushing the reset button to often in your life.
-They say whatever you go through makes you stronger but sometimes it doesn't,it's something that comes and goes,like the seasons.
-I realized that hurt people hurt people and there's a lot of hurt people,old and young,motherfuckers you wouldn't believe are hurt and go out of their way to hurt someone else for the smallest infraction,things you wouldn't even think about judging some on they do.Just another way of not dealing with themselves or their issues....talking about he,she or them,but what about you?
Our problem now is that we are trying to live by the white man's standard (money and greed are the answer to everything) as opposed to the way we used to live (not giving a fuck about their standard and creating our own standard of happiness).When I hear people talk about depression one of the constant factors is how other's feel about them. I'm blessed to be able to live my life truly not giving one single fuck about what people may think of me. Grandma taught me if you don't love yourself no one else will. Everything starts with you. If you don't feel good about yourself it will be damn near impossible to feel good about others or anything else in life. Self love is very vital in being healthy mentally.
Even rap was created because we were not included in the new (Bee Gee's/Saterday Night Feaver, water down white version) Disco and their clubs openly filtered out poor blacks.
Even when you look at that Good Times picture posted below, you can see poor blacks with very little money, but if you look at it we appeared to be much happier then than the whites at the time, or even many of the blacks today with all our money and so much material junk that we've been told to love and adore.
How many times have we seen black rappers with all that money but not know what to do with it who look depressed and not happy? Until we go back to enjoying being with ourselves, loving ourselves, and socializing with ourselves, we will remain in this state of trying to emulate the happiness portrayed to us on rap videos, movies, commercials, and other forms of media, this is a state of lies and pretentiousness!
Today instead of looking for our own brand of happiness, we are standing outside in the cold with a bag hoping the white man lets us into their exclusive boring establishment! It's so bad today, we cannot enjoy our own company without worrying about getting shot up or someone fucking with us, now ask yourself when and why did this start happening, because the answer to this question will lead to the answer to why we so many black people are depressed as shit!
Thanks. My mother suffers from depression and at 71 she can tell you exactly Word for word the mean things the kids in the 6th grade said to her. See, my mother got straight A's in school. I'm not even exaggerating she never knew what a C looked like and if she got a B she did extra to push it to an A. A real genius. I had to explain to my mother that those other kids probably were getting their asses beat at home for their bad grades and were jealous of you getting good grades. They didn't know how to ask you for help with stuff. Instead they made fun of you and bullied you to make themselves feel good about themselves and their situation. All the wile they wish they were you. My mother told me in all the years going to therapists they never broke it down to her like that. My mother held onto that 6 grade stuff and always worried about what others said or what she thought felt about her. It eventually snowballed into a chemical imbalance in her brain. Which lead to weight gain, no self confidence, not able to concentrate playing the piano and not being able to make friends of finish being a pediatrician at N.Y. University. It's really sad because my mother is one of the nicest people on the planet. But I learned from what she went through. I wish I would give two fucks about what anyone thinks about me. I wish da fuck I would.
Interesting, I find alot of bullies try to break someone psychologically before they realize how great they are, and often it is rooted in jealousy of some sort. Misery really does love company.
I think alot of depression is caused by people thinking they have less value because other people dont approve of them for whatever reason (appearance, intelligence, status, etc.)
Also, it seems like "people pleasers" suffer the most, because they define happiness from the validation of others, which is unhealthy.
One of the hardest things to do in life is to seek validation from within and not give a fuck about what other people think, which can be scary for family and friends in some situations.
Sometimes the result of seeking self-validation is ending long term friendships, marriages, and even permanently cutting off family members. However, if all of that is the cost of your happiness, then so be it.
On that note, Love yourself and always treat yourself when you accomplish something, even if its the smallest amount of progress
I agree with all of thisInteresting, I find alot of bullies try to break someone psychologically before they realize how great they are, and often it is rooted in jealousy of some sort. Misery really does love company.
I think alot of depression is caused by people thinking they have less value because other people dont approve of them for whatever reason (appearance, intelligence, status, etc.)
Also, it seems like "people pleasers" suffer the most, because they define happiness from the validation of others, which is unhealthy.
One of the hardest things to do in life is to seek validation from within and not give a fuck about what other people think, which can be scary for family and friends in some situations.
Sometimes the result of seeking self-validation is ending long term friendships, marriages, and even permanently cutting off family members. However, if all of that is the cost of your happiness, then so be it.
On that note, Love yourself and always treat yourself when you accomplish something, even if its the smallest amount of progress
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This here is the motherfucking truth! Thank you, sir.When I hear people talk about depression one of the constant factors is how other's feel about them. I'm blessed to be able to live my life truly not giving one single fuck about what people may think of me. Grandma taught me if you don't love yourself no one else will. Everything starts with you. If you don't feel good about yourself it will be damn near impossible to feel good about others or anything else in life. Self love is very vital in being healthy mentally.
Man, you brothers are on fire today. Thank you, sir.Interesting, I find alot of bullies try to break someone psychologically before they realize how great they are, and often it is rooted in jealousy of some sort. Misery really does love company.
I think alot of depression is caused by people thinking they have less value because other people dont approve of them for whatever reason (appearance, intelligence, status, etc.)
Also, it seems like "people pleasers" suffer the most, because they define happiness from the validation of others, which is unhealthy.
One of the hardest things to do in life is to seek validation from within and not give a fuck about what other people think, which can be scary for family and friends in some situations.
Sometimes the result of seeking self-validation is ending long term friendships, marriages, and even permanently cutting off family members. However, if all of that is the cost of your happiness, then so be it.
On that note, Love yourself and always treat yourself when you accomplish something, even if its the smallest amount of progress
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So why is it people are more depressed now than when we had less? Even the show Good Times was about us being happy in the midst of the struggle. People over 40, think back to the happiest times in your lives and tell me was it now with more stuff or back then when we had more families, and community?
this thread should be a sticky.
Our system is a honey trap of dept that reels you in with promises of happiness by offering material goods, that soon turn to junk in a few years with you holding the bill. This is the essence of where all the anxiety and depression come from.
Back in the day folks didn't get into thousands of dollars in debt, true they had less, but one thing they did have was peace of mind and a sense of security. Today most of us are living paycheck to paycheck, robbing Peat to pay Paul, and unless you are making close to 6 figures and a stable family, your existence is like that of a juggler, as soon as one bill is paid here comes the next one!
But hey we've brought into the system, and depression and anxiety are just a byproductsd of it.
That’s where it starts, King.When I hear people talk about depression one of the constant factors is how other's feel about them. I'm blessed to be able to live my life truly not giving one single fuck about what people may think of me. Grandma taught me if you don't love yourself no one else will. Everything starts with you. If you don't feel good about yourself it will be damn near impossible to feel good about others or anything else in life. Self love is very vital in being healthy mentally.
Not enough people know and believe that. I have this issue with my daughter and the kids I teach. The world revolves around what other people think about them and most aren’t even their real friends. Juxtapose this with adults and they bury themselves in shame if they are not where they particularly where they would want to be in life and over-value “what others might think about me.”
None of that shit matters. What matters is you. Fuck all that other shit…
I disagree. Trauma is the biggest cause of depression and anxiety. Lots of abused people faking it most of their life and they are unable to develop a way to deal with it long term.
Back in the day, people were abused, especially black folks.
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