Suicide of an Uber engineer: Widow blames job stress

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Suicide of an Uber engineer: Widow blames job stress
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Zecole Thomas and sons Eze kiel, 7 (center), and Joseph, 9, moved out of state after her husband shot himself.

Joseph Thomas thought he had it made when he landed a $170,000 job as a software engineer at Uber’s San Francisco headquarters last year. He and his wife, Zecole, had just bought a Spanish-style house in Pittsburg, where they were living the American dream with their two young sons. A handsome and accomplished man, Thomas reminded some people of Tiger Woods for both his good looks and his drive to succeed.

But his time at Uber turned into a personal tragedy, one that will compel the ride-hailing company to answer questions before a judge about its aggressive work culture.

Always adept with computers, Joseph Thomas worked his way up the ladder at tech jobs in his native Atlanta, then at LinkedIn in Mountain View, where he was a senior site reliability engineer. He turned down an offer from Apple to go to Uber, because he felt he could grow more with the younger company and was excited about the chance to profit from stock options when it went public.

But at Uber, Thomas struggled in a way he’d never experienced in over a decade in technology. He worked long hours. He told his father and his wife that he felt immense pressure and stress at work, and was scared he’d lose his job. They urged him to see a psychiatrist. He told the doctor he was having panic attacks, trouble concentrating and near-constant anxiety. All suggested that he leave his job, but he was adamant that he could not.

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Family photos of Zecole Thomas and her late husband are on display in the Cary, N.C., home where Zecole and their sons moved after the suicide, fleeing California’s high cost of living.

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Joseph (left) and Ezekiel Thomas lost their father less than five months after he started his job as an Uber software engineer.

“He was always the smartest guy in the room,” said his father, Joe Thomas. But while working at Uber, “he went down the tubes. He became someone with very little confidence in himself. The guy just fell apart.”

“It’s hard to explain, but he wasn’t himself at all,” said Zecole Thomas. “He’d say things like, ‘My boss doesn’t like me.’ His personality changed totally; he was horribly concerned about his work, to the point it was almost unbelievable. He was saying he couldn’t do anything right.”

One day in late August, Zecole came home from dropping their boys off at school. Joseph was sitting in his car in the garage. She got into the passenger seat to talk to him.

Then she saw the blood.

Joseph had shot himself. He died in the hospital two days later, a week before he would have turned 34.

His father and widow are convinced that the work environment and stress at Uber triggered his suicide. Zecole Thomas has filed a workers’ compensation claim seeking to hold Uber accountable for her husband’s mental decline.

“If you put a hard-driving person on unrealistic tasks, it puts them in failure mode,” said the elder Joe Thomas, who said his son described a sort of brainwashing at Uber. “It makes them burn themselves out; like driving a Lamborghini in first gear.”

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Family photos of Zecole Thomas and her late husband are on display in the Cary, N.C., home where Zecole and their sons moved after the suicide, fleeing California’s high cost of living.

Joseph Thomas, who was African American, may have experienced racism as well, according to his loved ones and their lawyer. Like many Silicon Valley companies, Uber employs only a handful of black people in technical jobs. Blacks account for 1 percent of its tech workers and none of its tech leaders, according to Uber’s first diversity report, released in March.

Uber declined to comment on the legal dispute and said Thomas never complained to the company of extreme stress or racial discrimination.

“No family should go through the unspeakable heartbreak the Thomas family has experienced,” said Uber spokeswoman Eva Behrend. “Our prayers and thoughts are with them.”

Uber’s work culture has come under scrutiny after explosive revelations about the world’s most valuable startup. In February, software engineer Susan Fowler wrote a blog post about sexual harassment and sexism at Uber and said its human resources department ignored complaints.

At least three former employees have filed lawsuits alleging sexual harassment or verbal abuse from Uber managers, according to the New York Times, which said other current and former employees were also considering legal action.

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Zecole Thomas and son Ezekiel, 7, cross the road to go to the park in Cary, N.C.

Even early investors Freada Kapor Klein and Mitch Kapor posted an open letter to Uber blasting it for “a culture plagued by disrespect, exclusionary cliques, lack of diversity, and tolerance for bullying and harassment of every form.”

Uber said it took the allegations seriously and hired former U.S. Attorney General Eric Holder to investigate its workplace for issues of sexism, diversity and inclusion. That report is pending.

In the case of Joseph Thomas, medical records from two East Bay psychiatrists he visited in the weeks before his suicide show that he reported job-related “high anxiety,” panic attacks, difficulty concentrating and insomnia.

About a month before his suicide, Joseph Thomas disclosed his work stress in a Facebook chat to a close friend of more than a decade, Neil Mirchandani.

“Man words can’t really describe. I’m not dead but I wouldn’t describe myself as ok,” Thomas wrote, according to screenshots of the chat provided by Mirchandani.

“The sad thing is this place (Uber) has broken me to the point where I don’t have the strength to look for another job,” Thomas wrote.

“Joseph was such a strong personality,” said Mirchandani. “But he was a softie on the inside; when he was around a small dog or my daughter, he’d melt like a little kid. He was the last person I would ever think would” commit suicide.

Uber denied the benefits claim through its insurance carrier. In California, workers’ compensation usually does not cover psychiatric injuries until after six months of employment. Joseph Thomas had worked slightly less than five months at Uber when he killed himself.

But there is an exception to the six-month rule. It doesn’t apply “if the psychiatric injury is caused by a sudden and extraordinary employment condition,” according to California law.

San Francisco attorney Richard Richardson, who represents Zecole Thomas and her sons, said Thomas’ situation may be one of those exceptions.

“We think it was stress and harassment induced by his job, between him being one of the few African Americans there, working around the clock and the culture of Uber,” Richardson said. “And he couldn’t talk about it to anyone because of nondisclosure agreements.”

The case is still in early stages. Uber refused Richardson’s request to depose Thomas’ immediate boss, but in mid-April an administrative law judge who oversees workers’ compensation cases said the supervisor must submit to a deposition. Unlike cases in a court of law, cases before California’s Workers’ Compensation Appeals Board are not public record.

The benefits could amount to about $722,000, part as a lump sum and part in weekly checks of $1,100 until both boys, currently ages 7 and 9, are 18, Richardson said.

For Zecole Thomas, mourning the loss of the husband she met in 11th grade, it was “baffling and confusing” to be denied workers’ compensation. “He had a great work ethic; he devoted his life to work,” she said. “I was sure they would reciprocate.”

Exacerbating that, Thomas’ life insurance policy will not pay out because he died by suicide.

She sold their dream house — the first they’d owned — because California was too expensive, and moved to North Carolina. She’s working as a project coordinator with a small company and pursuing a master’s degree in analytics and cybersecurity. “I’m trying to rebuild my life and generate enough income to provide for my two children,” she said.

“I just don’t understand it. He was young, successful, smart; he had everything going for himself. I never in my life thought I would be without him. It’s devastating.”

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Would love to say its the fault of the company and corporate politics, but this is the way of the world. I used to be a manager at a grocery store and you shoulda seen all the bullshit I had to go thru due to racism, ignorance, and the im better than you because I make more or more tenured than you bullshit, sounds like buddy just wasnt good at handling everyday politics, thats was weakness on his part. Sorry dude went out like that but people have to understand that a corporate job may seem like you have status bit really its not meant for the faint of ❤.
 
He bought into the illusion...once you buy into the illusion, it becomes real...as smart as he was, he coulda moved to NC with his family, get a job paying less but still afford a decent lifestyle...he made the opinion of his boss become a barometer of how he feels about himself...everything in life is about perspective...he couldn't value himself beyond corporate perspective...shame he took his own and left the family out there like that
 
Would love to say its the fault of the company and corporate politics, but this is the way of the world. I used to be a manager at a grocery store and you shoulda seen all the bullshit I had to go thru due to racism, ignorance, and the im better than you because I make more or more tenured than you bullshit, sounds like buddy just wasnt good at handling everyday politics, thats was weakness on his part. Sorry dude went out like that but people have to understand that a corporate job may seem like you have status bit really its not meant for the faint of ❤.

Im sayin especially corporate culture in the I.T sector, that shit is filled with all types of smile in your face back stabbin muthafuckas...

bruh obviously didnt have too many other brothers he could talk to...

he appeared to be very wet behind the ears when it comes to true corporate culture....

many bruhs couldve let him know what to expect and how to deal with it....

if only he was a member here...
 
Stress, huh???
Unlike the stores of raising his seeds alone, one salary, after burying him and life insurance doesn't pay out due to the suicide??? He hurt his entire family from siblings to seeds. Over a job??? Nah, homie did for another reason.

Peace to his family, but he simped his way out.
 
Stress, huh???
Unlike the stores of raising his seeds alone, one salary, after burying him and life insurance doesn't pay out due to the suicide??? He hurt his entire family from siblings to seeds. Over a job??? Nah, homie did for another reason.

Peace to his family, but he simped his way out.

yea who knows what happend but Im sure its more to the story then a little job stress.

who in corporate america doesnt experience that shit, especially if you a bruh..
 
Stress, huh???
Unlike the stores of raising his seeds alone, one salary, after burying him and life insurance doesn't pay out due to the suicide??? He hurt his entire family from siblings to seeds. Over a job??? Nah, homie did for another reason.

Peace to his family, but he simped his way out.
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Stress, huh???
Unlike the stores of raising his seeds alone, one salary, after burying him and life insurance doesn't pay out due to the suicide??? He hurt his entire family from siblings to seeds. Over a job??? Nah, homie did for another reason.

Peace to his family, but he simped his way out.

Sad story.

Says he was there for just five months and was very skilled at what he does. Shit was much deeper than that job. Wonder how much they paid for the house. Wonder if it was his idea or the wife to go all in, because I've seen quite a few wives forcing their husbands to spend that paycheck. That's the real pressure right there. The one that comes at home.

The job will be an easy scapegoat for it though. There's the family's narrative, the company's, and the truth is somewhere in the middle.
 
Sad story.

Says he was there for just five months and was very skilled at what he does. Shit was much deeper than that job. Wonder how much they paid for the house. Wonder if it was his idea or the wife to go all in, because I've seen quite a few wives forcing their husbands to spend that paycheck. That's the real pressure right there. The one that comes at home.

The job will be an easy scapegoat for it though. There's the family's narrative, the company's, and the truth is somewhere in the middle.

the truth is gonna come out, uber is gonna have their lawyers go hard gettin all the facts...
 
Painful read. I feel for this man and his fam.

Bomani Jones had a segment on 'The Right Time' in like late 2015/2016 he coined "You aren't your job". That 7-minutes gave me a perspective that helped me reframe the bullshit I was dealing with at my gig (BGOL fam gave valuable insight too).

Lowkey for all the jokes and ocking and clown ass cats like Pikestreet you deal with on BGOL; this venue is an outlet and release for MANY black men dealing with the same shit this cat encountered day in and out. As a vet since '97 whose seen the maturation of the board, I wish this man had found an outlet of brothas to get him thru. RIP.
 
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I don't want to sound inconsiderate but they're black people within the inner cities really suffering and they're not making 170k a yr. They're also dealing with some real shit from lack of opportunities to police harassment. This dude just wasn't built for the pressure that you're forced to learn within the hood. Rip to the brother tho
 
Would love to say its the fault of the company and corporate politics, but this is the way of the world. I used to be a manager at a grocery store and you shoulda seen all the bullshit I had to go thru due to racism, ignorance, and the im better than you because I make more or more tenured than you bullshit, sounds like buddy just wasnt good at handling everyday politics, thats was weakness on his part. Sorry dude went out like that but people have to understand that a corporate job may seem like you have status bit really its not meant for the faint of ❤.
I'm learning this right now...especially when you dont have an outlet..you want to be there for everyone and do everything 100%, and when you don't you can become depressed..
 
Painful read. I feel for this man and his fam.

Bomani Jones had a segment on 'The Right Time' in like late 2015/2016 he coined "You are more than your job". That 7-minutes gave me a perspective that helped me reframe the bullshit I was dealing with at my gig (BGOL fam gave valuable insight too).

Lowkey for all the jokes and ocking and clown ass cats like Pikestreet you deal with on BGOL; this venue is an outlet and release for MANY black men dealing with the same shit this cat encountered day in and out. As a vet since '97 whose seen the maturation of the board, I wish this man had found an outlet of brothas to get him thru. RIP.

Yeah thats what I come here for...can't wait for tomorrow when yall gonna be goin in about the draft...:lol:
 
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"But at Uber, Thomas struggled in a way he’d never experienced in over a decade in technology. He worked long hours. He told his father and his wife that he felt immense pressure and stress at work, and was scared he’d lose his job. They urged him to see a psychiatrist. He told the doctor he was having panic attacks, trouble concentrating and near-constant anxiety. All suggested that he leave his job, but he was adamant that he could not."

He should have realized he was not qualified and found a new job.
 
Like that clown at FOX News. We make these jobs that white people give us our lives, knowing in your soul that you'll never be on equal footing with them.

Then when they openly remind you, the depression seeps in.

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To his kids, keep your hand up. Fuck their parents.
 
Selfish bastard. At least he offed himself only, but tragic he left his family in a fucked up situation.

Fuck that got damn job. Scared to lose a job. Fuck a job. :smh:

I was just saying to myself today I'm probably working my way to getting fired because I won't conform to cooperate bullshit. And the more I rebel, the more they want me around. It's not suppose to work that way.
 
So instead of leaving the job he left life


yeah mofo

smart choice


:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

^^ Exactly. That doesn't make sense, imo

So this brotha could have left Uber to work for Apple.... But decides to kill himself, instead, huh? :hmm:

Bullshit. :hmm: I don't buy it. :smh:

[** Puts on Conspiracy Hat... And climbs way out on a limb**]

Personally, I think he's another casualty of the whole Trump/Russia scandal. :hmm:

Because I think this brotha probably found out exactly 'who drove' and 'who met with' Devin Nunes at the WH gates, the night he declared he got some 'disturbing information'. :yes:

Remember, multiple news reports claimed Nunes was traveling with his staff before he suddenly jumped out the vehicle in the middle of traffic... And hopped into an UBER :yes: that took him to the White House.

So that same Uber Driver probably SAW exactly who greeted Nunes when he got out of the car, but probably doesn't know anything about politics, so it's just an irrelevant minor detail to him. He sees people 'greet people' everyday, when passengers exit his vehicle. No big deal. On to the next customer.

(And I wouldn't doubt if said Uber Driver was quietly fired during the same week)

Reports also I indicated there were possibly 3 people who aided Nunes. (And 2 of them have been 'publicly identified' as low-level WH staffers.)

But here's the rub.... most of these Ubers have dashboard cameras, inside. (I'm sure the drivers themselves pay for & equip them... but ANY footage from that night was probably immediately 'seized' by Uber headquarters, when they fired him & told him to turn in any company equipment at the nearest Uber office. :rolleyes:)

Pretty sure that dashboard camera has footage of Nunes' accomplices. :yes: Recorded as the Uber Driver is approaching, and as he is Driving away. (God forbid it also has 'audio' and captured Nunes' discussions. :smh:)

So this brotha is probably one of the very few folks at Uber headquarters who has actually seen (or knows about the existence of) the dashboard footage from the Uber vehicle which clearly captured the 3 people that SIGNED Nunes in at the front gate. (Which probably includes Steve Bannon, or maybe Trump himself in the background :yes:)

The CEO of Uber... is a known Trump Supporter. :yes:

Ask yourself 'how far' he would go to protect him, if he knew Trump would absolve him (or his people) of any crimes. :rolleyes:

It's not a suicide... It's a cover up. :hmm:

This brotha probably got caught trying to search for & copy the footage off the Uber HQ servers... All by himself. :smh:

All the rest is just a smokescreen. :hmm:

Just my theory. :rolleyes:
 
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Selfish bastard. At least he offed himself only, but tragic he left his family in a fucked up situation.

Fuck that got damn job. Scared to lose a job. Fuck a job. :smh:

I was just saying to myself today I'm probably working my way to getting fired because I won't conform to cooperate bullshit. And the more I rebel, the more they want me around. It's not suppose to work that way.


That's exactly how it works.

They know that you know your worth

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Status and money driven person. I know the type. Even if its to the detriment of their own health, they have to pursue money and status. He just wasn't built for that pursuit.

Oh, well.

The planet won't stop rotating for a second when any of us die.
 
"But at Uber, Thomas struggled in a way he’d never experienced in over a decade in technology. He worked long hours. He told his father and his wife that he felt immense pressure and stress at work, and was scared he’d lose his job. They urged him to see a psychiatrist. He told the doctor he was having panic attacks, trouble concentrating and near-constant anxiety. All suggested that he leave his job, but he was adamant that he could not."

He should have realized he was not qualified and found a new job.

:rolleyes:

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Status and money driven person. I know the type. Even if its to the detriment of their own health, they have to pursue money and status. He just wasn't built for that pursuit.

Oh, well.

The planet won't stop rotating for a second when any of us die.



lack of historical context


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