I had to, I ain't joked on him in a min.
How many don't communicate with their parents?
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Man fuck the cowgirls. @D-TOWN REP is the homie but during football season Cowgirls fans know we gon' get these jokes off
Least he ain't a hoe bout it like other people..... Colts fans ....
I only talk baseball with the old man, plus I got work lined up for him. Nigga 65 and still doin kitchens
Do you ever talk to anyone about how you feel? Serious question.Well my dad passed 10 years ago but our relationship ended on a sour note(not even touching this), I literally hate my own mother because she fucked me over so badly back in 2011, I don't even know where to start on that one.
Even if you don't talk to anyone, try writing it down. It doesn't have to be sent or read by anyone, just write down your thoughts and let the pen bleed.
I feel frustrated sometimes when I think about all I didn't get from either parent.... I find myself trying not to think about it, prolly part of why I keep so busy with work.
Actually I did and it helped me out a lot. I threw away some good material years ago out of frustration but I keep a notebook now and I'm more calm.
Considering cutting my dad out.
On one hand, he's been there for me. Gave me a lot of help and advice in life. Even paid my way through school and helped with my immigration. The little I have in life is mostly thanks to him and I will always be grateful for that
That being said, when my wife died three years ago my father in law stole my daughter from me. I asked my dad for help so he called him up and now the two of them are best friends.
He even gives him money to pay for her upbringing. On one hand I'm glad she's okay, but on the other that money gives him an even bigger incentive to keep her from me. When I confronted my dad about it he told me to be patient and let him work his plan.
I don't know what this "plan" is, but after three years I wouldn't even recognize my daughter if I passed her on the street. Meanwhile my ex-father-in-law flies down to my dad's house once a year to hang out. My whole family comes over to smile and take pictures with him.
A couple months ago I stayed with my dad for a few days to help him recovery from surgery. He remarked that I had "calmed down" quite a bit and invited me to come for my daughter and ex-father-in-law's upcoming visit. I told him "hell no". He then asked when I was going to settle down and start a family. I reminded him that I already had one.
The craziest part is that he made absolutely no effort to see my daughter when my wife was alive. At one point he even said he didn't need to meet her. Since she died that's his favorite grand kid.
Maybe I'm the one that's wrong and just need to get over it. On the other hand it feels like my dad might be on it.
I don't know fam. Am I tripping?
On one hand, he's been there for me. Gave me a lot of help and advice in life. Even paid my way through school and helped with my immigration. The little I have in life is mostly thanks to him and I will always be grateful for that
That being said, when my wife died three years ago my father in law stole my daughter from me. I asked my dad for help so he called him up and now the two of them are best friends.
He even gives him money to pay for her upbringing. On one hand I'm glad she's okay, but on the other that money gives him an even bigger incentive to keep her from me. When I confronted my dad about it he told me to be patient and let him work his plan.
I don't know what this "plan" is, but after three years I wouldn't even recognize my daughter if I passed her on the street. Meanwhile my ex-father-in-law flies down to my dad's house once a year to hang out. My whole family comes over to smile and take pictures with him.
A couple months ago I stayed with my dad for a few days to help him recovery from surgery. He remarked that I had "calmed down" quite a bit and invited me to come for my daughter and ex-father-in-law's upcoming visit. I told him "hell no". He then asked when I was going to settle down and start a family. I reminded him that I already had one.
The craziest part is that he made absolutely no effort to see my daughter when my wife was alive. At one point he even said he didn't need to meet her. Since she died that's his favorite grand kid.
Maybe I'm the one that's wrong and just need to get over it. On the other hand it feels like my dad might be on it.
I don't know fam. Am I tripping?
My Moms annoys the shit out of me sometimes but we speak regularly. I can never pay her back for being my pops and mother. We even own some properties together which is fun. I trouble shoot her computer remotely at least twice a month. I plan to take care of her until one of us kicks the bucket
Used to never really talk to my pops, nothing ever....
But once I got married and had my own?
Inseparable.
But then he had a stroke and never really recovered.
I see him once a week clockwork and as soon as I am about to leave he remembers who I am, then he forgets and the next week same thing been like that for over a year now.
Then I call ma dukes and give her the updates.
Try to mend those fences if you can family.
But once I got married and had my own?
Inseparable.
But then he had a stroke and never really recovered.
I see him once a week clockwork and as soon as I am about to leave he remembers who I am, then he forgets and the next week same thing been like that for over a year now.
Then I call ma dukes and give her the updates.
Try to mend those fences if you can family.
Wow. I talk to my mom pretty much daily (I'm trying to ween her off of that because she expects me to be available all the time to her) she doesn't call my sibling as often cause my sibling is much less patient with her. We usually have dinner all together at least once on the weekend. My dad talks to me about lotto, sports and will occasionally offer commentary on my hair. He's mad lowkey. I think both my parents are a little crazy, but I love them what can you do lol
Peace,
First of all, I'm sorry about the loss of your wife. I would be a broken man if anything were to happen to my wife.
Your dad sounds manipulative, or a designer of the most convoluted revenge scheme since Hamlet. But there seems to be a lot missing from this story.
Given that I'm operating in the dark, I'll refrain from offering advice. The one thing I will say is that you should seriously and honestly reflect on what you're doing/have done to exacerbate your problems. Often, in our anger, we act as our own worst enemies.
First of all, I'm sorry about the loss of your wife. I would be a broken man if anything were to happen to my wife.
Your dad sounds manipulative, or a designer of the most convoluted revenge scheme since Hamlet. But there seems to be a lot missing from this story.
Given that I'm operating in the dark, I'll refrain from offering advice. The one thing I will say is that you should seriously and honestly reflect on what you're doing/have done to exacerbate your problems. Often, in our anger, we act as our own worst enemies.
My heart goes out to anyone whose parents are alive and they dont have a healthy relationship with them.
I cussed my ex-father-in-law out after my wife died, but nothing angrier than that. I told my dad in no uncertain terms what an evil lying asshole the man is which is, understandably, why he never invited me to those visits. That is fine with me though because I would never want to see my daughter under those conditions anyway. For starters, it would take the strength of Buddha to be civil to my ex-father-in-law. Even if I could put on a fake smile and pretend that everything is okay my daughter is going to wonder where I've been all her life. At that point I either have to lie out my ass or tell her the truth which would destroy her entire world. If she's happy without me then she's better without me.
Since then I've left the man, his family, and most of my wife's mutual friends alone. I don't talk to them and they don't talk to me. I even stopped talking shit about him to my dad because I realized it was pointless. Their minds are made up and there isn't a damn thing I can do about it. That's probably why my dad thinks I've "calmed down".
My life isn't as together as I'd like, but it's better than it was. I have stable shelter and steady employment. Don't drink. Don't use any drugs beyond the occasional blunt. I obey the law and have a monogamous relationship with a square girlfriend. Despite my flaws I was considered good enough to pass an immigration interview so there's no reason I shouldn't be allowed at least some access to my own daughter.
Hopefully she'll seek me out one day. If she doesn't I'll probably never see her again.
I haven't spoken to my father since I was 16, which was 22 years ago.
Think 10 years with my dad, man he's a real dick. Dude got issues and me too. Lucky we haven't fought to the death yet
I never trolled you
nor do I hate you and I've made up my mind that I'll go see my dad and get close to him like I'm going to give him a hug then choke the living shit out of his funky ass that's the LEAST I can do for him being such a bastard all his life. Now, I'm fucking sleepy
Well I'm hoping my dad hurry up and get there so I can tell that motherfucker from the dust you came and to the dust you shall return you ol bastard
rot in hell sonavabitch
U crying about $102 for 4 pple
Stop being cheap
I never trolled you
Did you have drinks while typing this?Well I'm hoping my dad hurry up and get there so I can tell that motherfucker from the dust you came and to the dust you shall return you ol bastard
Where are you with your situation? Talking to family yet?
Haven't talked to my mother since 2014. Don't really care either. She always plays the victim like she has no clue what she's done. Tried to play the I'm human/everybody makes mistakes card and won't own up to her BS. At a certain point, I just had to let that stress and worry go. Am I going to spend my Adult Hood trying to fix another persons willing fuckups?! Nah.
All that time chasing men when I was a youngin, moving around, different schools every year(K-12), socking me in the face because she was upset at her life, straight up beating the shit out of me. It's surprising that I'm not harder on bitches.
All that time chasing men when I was a youngin, moving around, different schools every year(K-12), socking me in the face because she was upset at her life, straight up beating the shit out of me. It's surprising that I'm not harder on bitches.
I'm sorry that you endured the abuse. Man hearing stuff like that makes me angry.
And stop being hard on females because of your mom. I tell people all the time parents really do form our relationships with others because they were the first person of the opposite sex we came in contact with.
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Next weekend is our first family reunion and the same family members I made this thread about is really making it challenging for us because of their issues. Now one of my cousins have gotten married to a white lady, which I did attend the wedding, but my aunt didn't know nor was invited, and my aunt is calling all us the devil. So my mom said you can take issue with your kids and name call but you won't do it to mine.
Needless to say she's saying she won't attend the reunion. She's saying for medical reasons, but actually no one from that family is coming.
Needless to say she's saying she won't attend the reunion. She's saying for medical reasons, but actually no one from that family is coming.
my pops off & on..... later in life I found a way to just accept the fact he wanst able to be a good parent to ME. He did a better job with my nephew, so Im happy about that. He passed away last year. I didnt see it coming. I just thought he was taking care of himself but his kidneys & a few other things just wasnt able to keep him going.
His mother , my grandmother made everything better.
His mother , my grandmother made everything better.
Nope.
In 2014, a sister I never knew about found me on Facebook (right before I deleted account) and we caught up, she was 39 at the time and still lived near Gary, Indiana. Ive been in Atlanta since I was 2 or 3. She is my dad's/father's (I don't know what to call him, I've never had either one) oldest and was born before he got married, he's got a daugher & son by his wife (I'm between them in age), and 2 younger sons(24 & 22) by his sister's best friend. Nigga got 6 kids, of only 2 by his wife, and ain't paid nann lick of child support.
: She was upset with him that he never told her about me. They had a sit down and she told me what was said and it just sounded like his reasons for keeping me at bay (I say that because based on all accounts, there were some intentional actions & decisions made to keep distance between us. Basically his wife is the wedge) were cop outs & there was no accountability on his part.
Oldest sister even explained to me that he seemed to put his daughter by his wife over her. She told me of different instances of how he handled similar situations differently for both (when daughter by wife's car is broke down on side of road he drops everything and/or makes calls to get her help, when oldest daughter is broke down & calls him... he asks her where her b/f is?
)Anyway, she seemed to be ok with his treatment of her or at least willing to deal with it... which also baffled me
because she said they were close. 
How are you his first born but he treat you second rate?
Anyway, she started pushing the agenda of the meeting him and didn't seem to understand that I didn't think I wanted to at that/this point, not only based on what I learned about him, but also because of me not seeing the value in meeting someone at 33 that is supposed to be immediate family.
I don't see what I stand to gain from that.
I talked to a counselor or therapist that said that the most important things that we get from our caregivers occur by age 5, she said if we font get them by age 6 then we usually don't ..
"If you share your success and not your struggle, you a fool/" -Nipsey Hussle
Even the counselor said that I pretty much raised myself... and now I'm getting a better idea of my worth as days go by. I and my journey are too valuable to share with anyone that didn't contribute in a healthy, positive way.
Didn't even remember this post. My dad has since died, but we managed to spend some amazing time together before he passed. No regrets
This!
Tragic thread continues with tragic stories. 
I'm really talking about the point where he tried to get two entrees and then brag about that she had lunch and till the end of the week. I've had lunch there a month before and 3 people was $28, so I was expecting something close to this.
In the end, people you don't like it doesn't take much to set you off
You need to beg her to come over and clean that filthy apartment you like in MITdropout.
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