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Women's Infidelity

Famous1 said:
Yep...... I detect bitterness in this little one.... shiiiyyaaattt let me wander over to Sol and say something against women.... you think I would be perceived as bitter?
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Go ahead you won't find me over there. So its ok you can say as you please here or there, Coco really don't care....how is that for more bitterness :)
 
phanatic said:
A poster a while back commented on someone's wife wanting to go to NBA All Star weekend, that if you have to worry about your chick cheating, you shouldn't even be with her.

Women are a strange creature indeed. If you do everything they want to make them happy, they wonder if they could be happier with some strange...if you treat them poorly, they will use your behavior as grounds for her stepping out. At the end of the day, we guys get blamed for women cheating rather than them just calling it what it is...she's a ho...and there is nothing wrong with that, but don't make yourself a victim.
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You cannot make a woman happy.

You cannot make another person happy.

Happiness comes from within.

Either you are a happy person or an unhappy person.

Treating them good will move them from uncomfortably unhappy to comfortably unhappy.

They still damn unhappy.

Stay away from unhappy people


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Spoke said:
didn't sound bitter to me since it was a bacially a case study, all that is really being stated is what cats on BGOL have been saying for years.......Women cheat just like men, people get tired of each other and that's coming from a male perspective , women make it a little more complicated.
after all who are all these people supposed to be cheating with anyway if not with other married people and some singles ? All that is being said is that both sexes creep when the situation is rightbut in the past the perception was that it was only the male.
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:yes: I guess women feel that because of the so called "confusion/indecisiveness or just the emotional roller coaster" about the situation, they should always be given credit to NOT being considered as bad about cheating as a man... Men are attracted to physical. Women are attracted to the chase, the trying, over obstacle overcoming. Simply put, Mannnn, they don't like you, hell they barely like themselves..... With guys it's simple, she's fine, and we can get along, it's a win.... With women, you have to have value in others eyes, her friends, all the other females in the club, etc so she can come off as the individual that has the goods to have or contain you....she doesn't like you! Most guys don't want others dudes lusting sexual thoughts ove their girl.....most women need others to lust over her guy or she feels there is a need for more, the problem lies, she wants all these others after you but doesn't want the guy to react....well if these are bad ass bitches after her guy, the visual aspects are real for her guy's own internal desires. That's where the bullshit collides....:yes::yes:
 
kayanation said:

You cannot make a woman happy.

You cannot make another person happy.

Happiness comes from within.

Either you are a happy person or an unhappy person.

Treating them good will move them from uncomfortably unhappy to comfortably unhappy.

They still damn unhappy.

Stay away from unhappy people


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Well said
 
kayanation said:

You cannot make a woman happy.

You cannot make another person happy.

Happiness comes from within.

Either you are a happy person or an unhappy person.

Treating them good will move them from uncomfortably unhappy to comfortably unhappy.

They still damn unhappy.

Stay away from unhappy people


:smh::smh::smh:
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Happy women are a minority in my experiences... I truly treasure them whenever i find one.
 
redcee said:
Women's relationships today follow
a very predictable pattern:

They push men for commitment

They get what they want

They lose interest in sex

They become attracted to someone else

They start cheating

They become angry and resentful

They begin telling their partners that they need time apart

They blame their partners for their behavior...and eventually, after making themselves and everyone around them miserable for an indefinite, but usually, long period of time, they end their relationships or marriages.



If you're a male, like most other males, you would probably never suspect that your partner is cheating, not only because of your wife’s or girlfriend’s seeming disinterest in sex; but also because you have the belief that your wife or girlfriend is a “good girl.” Unfortunately, males are frequently left/divorced by their wives and girlfriends without ever knowing about their wives' and girlfriends' infidelities.

If you’re a female, like most other females, prior to cheating on your partner you always proclaimed yourself to be "not the type" who would ever cheat. However, also like most other females, after they have cheated, you're shocked and appalled by your behavior; but at the same time you can't stop cheating.

Women's relationships and marriages will continue to follow this same pattern unless we develop an accurate understanding of females ─ particularly in regard to their sexuality. In fact, after researching women's sexuality for more than ten years, I can honestly say that most of our societal beliefs about females are grossly distorted and many are completely erroneous.

The media has finally begun to acknowledge, albeit to a small degree, the widespread problem of female infidelity. Recently, several books and articles have attempted to explain why women are now cheating as much as men. However, none were successful in their attempt. All of them left out very important pieces to this extremely complicated puzzle. I believe the majority were simply unable to find all of the information necessary to figure out the problem. Although, I'm certain that some were just afraid to disclose certain key pieces of information because the truth, quite frankly, is so contrary to our current beliefs. Unfortunately, without these missing pieces, it's impossible to understand, and to subsequently fix, the real problem occurring in relationships today.



My story:

Shortly after my 27th birthday, I began to feel very different. I had been happily married for 4 years and then, suddenly out of nowhere, I began feeling bored and unhappy. In an attempt to figure out what was causing my unhappiness, I looked for answers in books, tried to talk to my Mother and eventually went to see a psychologist. All of the information I received attributed the way I was feeling to my husband, and similar to the majority of women, I began to view my husband as the culprit too.



Currently, women are initiating 70 - 75% of all divorces



Later, through my own research, I discovered that what I was experiencing was quite normal. In fact, women are the most likely to divorce in their late twenties and thirties after an average of 4 years of marriage. During this time, it's quite common for women to experience a pre-midlife crisis, which is similar to the male midlife crisis, only with an important difference - a difference that can actually make women more likely to cheat than men.





The "stages" that women often experience during the course of their long-term relationships

Several years into my research I was able to identify distinctive patterns and behaviors in the women I interviewed. I categorized these into four separate “stages” that women often experience during the course of their long-term relationships. The stages begin with a loss of sexual desire.



Stage 1

Women at Stage 1 feel as though something is missing in their lives. They have all the things that they wanted—a home, a family, a great husband—but they feel they should be happier. Over time, many women in this stage begin to lose interest in sex. It is not uncommon for them to spend a great deal of energy trying to avoid physical contact with their husbands because they fear it might lead to a sexual encounter. They frequently complain of physical ailments to avoid having sex and often try to avoid going to bed at the same time as their husbands. They view sex as a job, not unlike doing the dishes or going to the grocery store. Some women in Stage 1 claim they feel violated when their husbands touch them. Their bodies freeze up and they feel tightness in their chest and/or a sick feeling in their stomach. The majority of women in Stage 1 feel as though there is something wrong with them, that they are in some way defective. They are also fearful that their disinterest in sex will cause their husbands to cheat, or worse yet, leave them.



Stage 2

Women at Stage 2 experience reawakened desire stimulated by an encounter outside the marital relationship. Whether these encounters with a "new" man involves sex or remain platonic, women will typically give a tremendous amount of emotional significance to these encounters.

Many women in this stage haven't felt any sexual desire for a long time. Many experience tremendous guilt and regret, regardless of whether their new relationships are sexual, merely emotional, or both. Most begin to experience what could be termed an identity crisis—even those who try to put the experience behind them. Constant reminders are everywhere. They feel guilt when the topic of infidelity arises, whether in the media, in conversations with family and friends, or at home with their husbands. Women in this stage can no longer express their prior disdain for infidelity without feeling like a hypocrite. They feel as though they have lost a part of themselves. Reflecting society’s belief that women are either “good” or “bad,” women will question their “good girl” status and feel that they might not be deserving of their husbands. Many will try to overcome feelings of guilt by becoming more attentive toward and appreciative of their husbands. However, over time many women will move from appreciation to justification. In order to justify their continued desire for other men, women will begin to attribute these desires to needs that are not being met in their marriage, or to their husband’s past behavior. Many women will become negative and sarcastic when speaking of their husbands and their marriages and it is not uncommon for an extramarital affair to follow.



Stage 3

Women at Stage 3 are involved in affairs, ending affairs, or contemplating divorce. Women who are having affairs experience feelings unlike anything they have experienced before. They feel “alive” again and many believe they have found their soul mates. These women are experiencing feelings associated with a chemically altered state, or what is typically referred to as being in love.

These women are also typically in tremendous pain, the pain of choosing between their husbands and their new love interests. They typically believe that what they are doing is wrong and unfair to their husbands, but yet are unable to end their affairs. Many often try several times. Prior to meeting with their lovers, they will vow that it will be the last time, but they are unable to stick with their decisions.

Unable to end their extramarital relationships, women at Stage 3 conclude that their lovers are soul mates because they are unaware that they have become addicted to the high caused by chemicals released during the initial stages of a relationship. Many live in a state of limbo for years. “Should I stay married or should I get a divorce?” this is the question continuously on the minds of women at Stage 3 - it is also common for women at this stage to attempt to initiate a separation. In most cases, husbands of women at Stage 3, will launch futile attempts to make their wives happy by being more attentive, spending more time at home and helping out around the house. Regardless of women’s past and present complaints, the last thing women at Stage 3 want, is to spend more time with their husbands.

The reason many women will give for their desire to separate is a “search for self.” They convince their husbands that they might be able to save their marriage if they can just have time to themselves. They tell their husbands that time apart is the only hope of improving their current situation. Women at this stage want to free themselves of the restrictions of marriage and spend more time with their lovers. Most think that eventually their confusion will disappear. They think they will eventually know with certainty whether they want to stay married or get divorced and be with their lovers. Separation allows women at this stage, to enjoy the high they experience with their lovers without giving up the security of their marriages. Husbands of Stage 3 women are often unaware that their wives are having affairs. Their lack of suspicion is typically due to their wife’s disinterest in sex and in their belief that their wife is a “good girl.”

Women at Stage 3 may also be experiencing the ending of an extramarital affair, and the ending may not have been their decision. They may have been involved with single men who either lost interest because the relationship could not progress or who became attracted to another women who was single. Women whose affairs are ending often experience extreme grief. They may become deeply depressed and express tremendous anger toward their husbands. They are typically unaware that they are experiencing chemical withdrawal due to sudden changes in their brain chemistry. As a result, many will feel that they have missed their chance at happiness due to their indecisiveness.

Believing they have become more aware of what they want and need from a mate, women at this stage will often place the utmost importance on finding a "new" relationship that will give them the feeling they experienced in their affairs. A new relationship with a new partner will also represent a clean slate, a chance for these women to regain their “good girl” status. Some women will search for new partners during their separations. Others will return to their marriages, but not emotionally and still continue to search. Some women will resume sporadic sexual relations with their husbands in an effort to safeguard their marriage until they make a decision. Although they are often not sexually attracted to their husbands, desire is temporarily rekindled when they suspect their husbands are unfaithful, are contemplating infidelity, or when their husbands show signs of moving on.



Stage 4

The women in stage four included those who chose to stay married and continue their affairs and those who chose to divorce. Some of the women who continued their affairs stated that marital sex was improved by maintaining the extramarital relationship. Some thought the lover was a soul mate, but for one reason or another did not leave their husband and did not feel torn between the two. Others realized that their feelings were intensified by not sharing day-to-day living arrangements with their lover. Almost all of the women in this latter category were having affairs with married men. They believed their affairs could continue indefinitely without disrupting either partner’s primary relationship.

The women who chose divorce and were in the beginning stages of a new relationship typically expressed relief at having finally made a decision and reported feeling normal again. Many of the divorced women who had remarried and were several years into their new marriages seemed somewhat reluctant to talk about the specifics of their past experiences. However, they did mention feelings of guilt and regret for having hurt their children and ex-spouses only to find themselves experiencing similar feelings in the new relationship.



Female infidelity will not only continue to be extremely common but it will also continue to be on the rise women's infidelity

Women are cheating and relationships are ending because men and women lack necessary information. Today's relationship problems are not only solvable, but many can be easily solved ─ once you understand what the real problem is. The information in Women's Infidelity should be common knowledge to couples, both married and unmarried, and to dating males and females. Trying to have a relationship today without the information in this book is like to trying to read without knowing the letters of the alphabet. This is not an exaggeration ─ it's a fact.

http://www.womensinfidelity.com/


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Exellent find and a damn good post:bravo:
 
What is the website that was posted on this board earlier that had married woman venting about all their unfaithful ways and trying to justify why they were cheating on their husbands :smh: ..... sombody please link that site!!
 
kayanation said:
Interesting book........




"The problem isn’t that women don’t want to have sex, the problem is that women don’t want to have sex with their husbands, which is very similar to the widespread problem we have been hearing about for years: men not wanting to have sex with their wives.

Many married women have lost their primary motivation— fear.

Like I said before, up until recently, sex was a married woman’s job. Many women were afraid to decline their husbands sexually because to do so could jeopardize their financial security.

Women felt as though they had to fight to keep their husbands. The media reinforced this belief. Books, articles, television, movies—advice on how to hold onto a husband was everywhere.

Give him sex whenever he wants it, always wear make-up, don’t make him wait for dinner, fuck him at the door! Women were inundated with advice on how to keep their husbands, and it was pretty much just accepted that men couldn’t be faithful to them.

Women also had to live with the constant fear of being traded in for a younger model.

It has been ingrained into women’s heads that men like younger women; being left for a younger woman is a fear that many women have to this day."

:lol::lol::lol:
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Some women don't judge men off looks and convo but of leadership income and the ability to lead and be a family man, while noble this mentality usually fails.

In other words she wasn't attracted sexually to her husband from day 1
 
Stick2dascript said:
Some women don't judge men off looks and convo but of leadership income and the ability to lead and be a family man, while noble this mentality usually fails.

In other words she wasn't attracted sexually to her husband from day 1
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Agreed

Love and marriage have been romanticized throughout history but it's purpose has ALWAYS been much more practical.

Sexual attraction to the husband is probably one of the LAST factors that leads to/led to marriage.
 
It aint cheating if you tell your significant other when, how and why your gonna do it. :hmm:
 
Again,

What is the website that was posted on this board earlier that had married woman venting about all their unfaithful ways and trying to justify why they were cheating on their husbands.......
 
Justa Thought • 22 hours agoReport Abuse
Loved it - that hopeless woman deserved it. My ex wanted to get laid by a new man had made a profile online & left it open on her computer. So I rewrote it far, far less flattering & changed her password.
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Pocketraisins • 22 hours agoReport Abuse
I found my now exwife was cheating on me after twenty three years of marriage. I was working all the time and she was cheating. I divorced her and bought her out of EVERYTHING (house, cars, furniture etc...) for three grand so I lucked out.
I played "the understanding friend" until she moved out. I even helped keep her and her "boyfriend" together when they had a fight. He wanted her so I made dang sure he was going to get her, lol!
Then I told her lose my number and I didnt want to hear from her or hear her name unless it was to tell me she was dead. So far, no such luck.....no one has contacted me to let me know she is dead. :(
I am still good friends with my ex inlaws. They are great people, but their daughter(s), MAN! What wastes of skin!
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The Conservative • 22 hours agoReport Abuse
My ex wife went through the roof after I closed her credit card account, and had her car repossessed while she was driving to work. I have an unwritten clause that I use in all of my contracts (written, or verbal). The minute I find out she's on her back with someone else all of my monetary contributions are VOID. Her reaction? Priceless.
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OWU • 22 hours agoReport Abuse
My ex-was constantly telling every one I was fooling around on her but all the while shed been havening sex with her high school seat heart through out our marriage. I ended up loosing friends and even kicked out of the church because I was living in sin. After she kicked me out and disgraced me she married her new lover the boy friend, and the church that kicked me out gave them a free wedding. I lost all my friends because she brainwashed them to believe I was living a double life. I have lived alone with a debt I cant pay off and she was clean of debt, should I go on? Most woman when they are caught turn around and claim abuse that get them all the attention. Ohh just so you know I never laid a hand on her but I have a nice scar in my crotch from her stabbing me with a knife, over an argument she had been fooling around on me.
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TL • 21 hours agoReport Abuse
I'm going through a divorce right now and I know how you feel. Hey, it's not always the man cheating. Women out there cheat just as much. I'm a victim of being cheated on as I also found multiple evidence and confrontation.
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jobe • 1 hour 9 minutes agoReport Abuse
The best revenge for a cheating wife is to let the poor sap she is cheating with keep her.
Worked for me and Ive never been happier. He on the other hand has learned a hard lesson years later. A woman willing to cheat on her husband with you is not a quality woman...and will do the same to you someday as well.
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J.E.T.S said:
No one cares because men, happy or sad, are not checking for old, used up, and high mileage farts... Such as yourself. :)

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Maybe it's my age, but I've never met a happy woman. Truthfully, I don't care for happy women, I want a content woman.
 
Blackmayne said:
What is the website that was posted on this board earlier that had married woman venting about all their unfaithful ways and trying to justify why they were cheating on their husbands :smh: ..... sombody please link that site!!
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The dude who owned the site just put it up as a niche forum and never read any of the threads(he makes money off forums).One day he decided to read the threads because the site was getting a lot of people traffic and he claims what he read shocked him.
He was nad at himself because he felt he created an outlet for cheaters to share tips and do their spouses wrong, so he made the forum read only.
http://doccool.com/forum/d-day-dealing-with-the-experience-of-getting-caught/page-2/
 
Men will miss the thrill of the chase and initial conquest. They start wanting to chase new prey. Women will get bored when the chase is over and start trying to bait a new dude. This is our nature, We are not evolved for long term.
 
DaAssWatcher said:
The dude who owned the site just put it up as a niche forum and never read any of the threads(he makes money off forums).One day he decided to read the threads because the site was getting a lot of people traffic and he claims what he read shocked him.
He was nad at himself because he felt he created an outlet for cheaters to share tips and do their spouses wrong, so he made the forum read only.
http://doccool.com/forum/d-day-dealing-with-the-experience-of-getting-caught/page-2/
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white women


:smh::smh::smh::smh:
 
I went through that shit .
First time I begged her to come back home .
Second time I just stood up and disappeared , she still does not know to this day where I went to or who I was with .
I came back home a different man .
Now I am quick to punish and slow to reward .
I m not a fucking mind reader , if she can not express herself , I tell her straight go to your room until you know what you want .
.

I really don't give a fuck any more .she is begging daily for us to work things out ..
I have options that she knows about . I don't hide the fact other women want me .
I took back control of my sanity .
 
cocobeauty said:
You do know this could be said for men too?

Both genders cheat and men are the worst at it.

OP you sound bitter


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How you figure men are worst at it? That's the problem, women are doing it more and are more sneaky at that shit. Man it's always married broads chasing that hotdog in the name of 'romance' or saying their husbands don't pay 'attention' to them. Oh, it's plenty of brothers out there ready to put good mileage on their pussy and send them back to their husbands with dick breath. Yea, I was one of the borthers for a min. Feels good to fuck another mans trophy, yknow, slut her out and all. Dudes are real tough until somebody fuck the living shit out of their lady then shit gets real. They cry in the car.:rolleyes:

Morale of the story? Slap her with the dick often and take care of home or have her run upon Dexter, who will have her taking facials and swallowing monster loads of cum.:hmm: then be sent home thinking she in a romance but really getting dug the fuck out good.
 
I dropy kids off at school and all them thirsty house mom's in yoga pants and no panties be moist over a nigga. Staying home bored cutting off bread crust while their husbands are at work eating out their co workers in the bathrooms. They see a good looking mocha Adonis towering over them they will cheat. I'm about to have a play date with this Filipina and her son and mine. I'm going to work my way into her island panties.
 
I have no clue what would happen. He has thought I cheated in the past – before I ever had, before we were even married – and he still married me. But if faced with actual proof, I don't really think he would forgive me. And, quite frankly, I wouldn't want him to. I am not cheating for the thrill of it, or for "extra" sex. I cheat because I'm wholly unsatisfied in my marriage. The last thing I would want is to stay in it without my outlet. My affair keeps me sane.
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can you imagine a man offering this as an excuse? Women would crucify him but most women would rally around a woman saying this.:confused:
 

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