because she lives here.
Before i lived here, there are certain words that had no meaning in the american context, words like "chiney", "dougla", "redman", "apache" etc...
soon as i came here, it was a different sensibility and the understanding that it is easy for a majority group to project itself on a minority group
the minority group then sometimes form a defense mechanism by taking on the role.
my cousin was a "chiney" in our country but when we both came here, we understood the dynamics and context and I stopped calling him that.
she lives here.
she should know the context just as i understood the context
And the others around her are also guilty.