What are some ways to keep the relationship exciting?

[NinjaspiT]

Been dating her for about 5 months now and for some reason,although were both in school and working, it feels like it isnt exciting anymore. I love her a lot and shes very patient,but i feel like im too relaxed sometimes. Is it just my personality,or am I overeacting?

 

[Cybts1]

Waiting on the knowledge...

 

[Mo-Better]

Turn off the computer and the TV then go out and do things together. Eating out, walks in the park, movies, visit families and friends, you can even work out together. Basically get out the house.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Turn off the computer and the TV then go out and do things together. Eating out, walks in the park, movies, visit families and friends, you can even work out together. Basically get out the house.

And cut your phones off while you're doing it.

Whatever you're doing, stop and do something else.

5 months and it's already dull? Break up. The first 6 months+ should fly by. She might be nice but this sounds like a "rent, don't buy" situation.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Break up. You're in school, you should be focused on other shit anyway.

 

[Naha-Nago]

Your LOOKING for drama? Cause that's where a bulk of the "Excitement" in relationships come from. Try...

Cheating on her

Whooping her ass for no reason

Using hard drugs

Slashing her tires

Etc,


And PRESTO CHANGEO we have excitement...


You don't know how good you got it FAM...


*two cents*

 

[NinjaspiT]

I shouldve known id get negative responses from a forum full of relationship-less females.

Thanks for the few positive responses. Dave and Mo, we are fairly active on our off days. We do a lot of activities, but shes the girl who was very sheltered and still is by her parents. Any ideas for how to bring her out of her shell?

 

[Alderuhen]

Give her some paper or buy her some presents and be nice. Bitches love money

 

[Noir]

What hobbies or activities does she like? Try to get involved in some things that she likes, try to get her to get involved in some activities you like - and most importantly, discover/create new activities you both like.

do something spontaneous, walk in a part of the city you never went to, try a new style of food not done before. Jump in the car and just drive aimlessly and then look for a nice spot to see the leaves change color.

Most of all communicate and find out what she is into and what her mindset is. It is kind of hard to bring an introvert and homebody out of their shell, it will take time and patience.

 

[Jay Ringo]

5 months and ur already in love? are u sure?



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[wetlioness]

Have date night a least once a week no phones or talking about school or work even meet there and pretend you are meeting for the first time (role play)

 

[Upgrade Dave]

I shouldve known id get negative responses from a forum full of relationship-less females.

Thanks for the few positive responses. Dave and Mo, we are fairly active on our off days. We do a lot of activities, but shes the girl who was very sheltered and still is by her parents. Any ideas for how to bring her out of her shell?

Mo might, he's a smart guy but I have nothing. I don't have any experience with sheltered women like that. I tend to attract and be attracted to more outgoing women.
I meant what I said though. If you're already feeling like you're in a rut, break up or at least take your relationship down a notch. Don't ignore signs.

 

[J.E.T.S]

This dude knows if he's in love or not.. plus why would he break up with her?... he can focus on school and have a girl if he want. Who da fuck are ya'll?... besides he didn't ask ya'll to critique his relationship decisions or capacity to love... he asked how he can improve it. Mothafuckas ain't trying to be lonely and miserable like some of ya'll.

Listen to the people that recommend weekly dates... it helps build up conversational topics quickly too. Travel together.. little out of town/state trips if your income allows it. Good luck.

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[Upgrade Dave]

This dude knows if he's in love or not.. plus why would he break up with her?... he can focus on school and have a girl if he want. Who da fuck are ya'll?... besides he didn't ask ya'll to critique his relationship decisions or capacity to love... he asked how he can improve it. Mothafuckas ain't trying to be lonely and miserable like some of ya'll.

Listen to the people that recommend weekly dates... it helps build up conversational topics quickly too. Travel together.. little out of town/state trips if your income allows it. Good luck.

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He can do whatever he wants, nothing anyone here can or wants to do about it. But while some of you offer bandaids for a bullet hole, I'm looking ahead to the bigger, more substantial issue.
They already go out and he's still bored so what next? No is doubting his feelings but he's young and will be "in love" again and hopefully with someone who doesn't bore him in the first 6 months.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

He can do whatever he wants, nothing anyone here can or wants to do about it. But while some of you offer bandaids for a bullet hole, I'm looking ahead to the bigger, more substantial issue.
They already go out and he's still bored so what next? No is doubting his feelings but he's young and will be "in love" again and hopefully with someone who doesn't bore him in the first 6 months.

Weird ass guys around this bitch. Everyguy on this board will claim what a mack pimp cold hearted never love them hoes ass guy. But when you tell the guy to do something naturally beneficial to him because of experience and just general knowledge - lol you're negative. How can you tell him to leave her?

Fucking twilight zone.

 

[Jay Ringo]

just asking if it was love or lust. how can u be bored already if its true love? but anyway ive been with my wife 16 yrs and movie nights or dinner or shooting range , or just chilling with other couples seems to work for us but to each is own. good luck



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[NinjaspiT]

Thanks a lot for the positive responses. The truth is, we are so similar in the way we were bought up. A sheltered over religious household. She a bit younger than me. I guess its just going to be up to me to become more spontaneous of a person with my personality to make things exciting. Our similarities are fucking frightening, honestly. Thanks for the positive responses though, Ill definitely work on those pointers. I especially like the role play one. I shouldnt have said its gotten boring. I worded that wrong. Weve just been swamped with school and work lately so It seems like we havent been seeing much of each other lately,thats all. Thanks again everybody.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Weird ass guys around this bitch. Everyguy on this board will claim what a mack pimp cold hearted never love them hoes ass guy. But when you tell the guy to do something naturally beneficial to him because of experience and just general knowledge - lol you're negative. How can you tell him to leave her?

Fucking twilight zone.

I know.

Thanks a lot for the positive responses. The truth is, we are so similar in the way we were bought up. A sheltered over religious household. She a bit younger than me. I guess its just going to be up to me to become more spontaneous of a person with my personality to make things exciting. Our similarities are fucking frightening, honestly. Thanks for the positive responses though, Ill definitely work on those pointers. I especially like the role play one. I shouldnt have said its gotten boring. I worded that wrong. Weve just been swamped with school and work lately so It seems like we havent been seeing much of each other lately,thats all. Thanks again everybody.

Okay. Good luck to you. I'm a big fan of Black people in love but only when it's positive and uplifting to both parties.
If the both of you are so busy, you should look to wind down a notch. Not break up but slow it down and be in a less serious relationship and the commitment and pressure included.

 

[J.E.T.S]

You sure you want to talk sideways Legacy?

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[turboether]

I shouldve known id get negative responses from a forum full of relationship-less females.

Thanks for the few positive responses. Dave and Mo, we are fairly active on our off days. We do a lot of activities, but shes the girl who was very sheltered and still is by her parents. Any ideas for how to bring her out of her shell?

Fuck Her In The Ass!

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I know.



Okay. Good luck to you. I'm a big fan of Black people in love but only when it's positive and uplifting to both parties.
If the both of you are so busy, you should look to wind down a notch. Not break up but slow it down and be in a less serious relationship and the commitment and pressure included.

smh I'm very against relationships while in school and trying to achieve. It's a distraction.

You sure you want to talk sideways Legacy?

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Absolutely.

 

[militantmidget]

Been dating her for about 5 months now and for some reason,although were both in school and working, it feels like it isnt exciting anymore. I love her a lot and shes very patient,but i feel like im too relaxed sometimes. Is it just my personality,or am I overeacting?

Depends on what city you in but theirs lots of things to do:

Salsa Dance Lessons

Jazz Concert

Picnic for two

Football game

Soccer game

Basketball game

Skiing

Bed and breakfast

Quick Caribbean getaway (depends on your money situation)

wine tasting event

beer tasting event

new/different restaurant in town

Theatre

ice skating

cook her a nice meal maybe mediterranean (chicks luv mediterranean)

Yoga class

Kickboxing class

 

[Rick Ronson]

start over with a new one every six months or so.


fresh

walk away after the third petty argument or the second time she says no.


none of mine ever denied me sex.......i don't play that shit at all.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

smh I'm very against relationships while in school and trying to achieve. It's a distraction.

I hear you.

 

[J.E.T.S]

I don't hear her. I had bitches while I was in school.. didn't affect me at all because I don't let these knucklehead hoes worry me. Legacy is a lesbian... you'd be quite the fool to listen to CERTAIN, not all, things that she advise. When speaking on this subject, her "knowledge" is based on HER experience. MY and some other people experiences may suggest other possible outcomes. She can get da fuck on with all that bullshit... who is her or anyone to straight up tell dude to straight up break up with the girl. Wish his ass luck and keep it moving... he obviously wants to work on things.

Goddamn it.

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[Upgrade Dave]

I don't hear her. I had bitches while I was in school.. didn't affect me at all because I don't let these knucklehead hoes worry me. Legacy is a lesbian... you'd be quite the fool to listen to CERTAIN, not all, things that she advise. When speaking on this subject, her "knowledge" is based on HER experience. MY and some other people experiences may suggest other possible outcomes. She can get da fuck on with all that bullshit... who is her or anyone to straight up tell dude to straight up break up with the girl. Wish his ass luck and keep it moving... he obviously wants to work on things.

Goddamn it.

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Let it go.
You have your experience and base your opinions on them, same as everyone else.
You had "bitches" and "hoes" but I doubt Ninja sees this woman in that light.

 

[J.E.T.S]

Let it go.
You have your experience and base your opinions on them, same as everyone else.
You had "bitches" and "hoes" but I doubt Ninja sees this woman in that light.

You know what I mean while you trying to be a smart ass. How bout you just Upgrade yo ass out of my face David.

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[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I don't hear her. I had bitches while I was in school.. didn't affect me at all because I don't let these knucklehead hoes worry me. Legacy is a lesbian... you'd be quite the fool to listen to CERTAIN, not all, things that she advise. When speaking on this subject, her "knowledge" is based on HER experience. MY and some other people experiences may suggest other possible outcomes. She can get da fuck on with all that bullshit... who is her or anyone to straight up tell dude to straight up break up with the girl. Wish his ass luck and keep it moving... he obviously wants to work on things.

Goddamn it.

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And i bet if he focused he could accomplish 7x's more than he would thinking about this. It has nothing to do with lesbian you troglodyte. It's about being a young black man(I'm assuming he is) In the world with everything in front of him with all the potential in the world and letting minor distractions divide his focus.

So because i eat pussy. Means that the information that successful men who've been through this life and accomplished things they've wanted. Is Somehow is moot? Because that's all i'm telling him, what they themselves say and tell the young men my husband mentored himself. You dudes try to hard and you come off MAD ignorant sometimes. He's grown. He'll do what he wants. He wanted to come here and get petted after saying he was BORED with his chick after JUST 5 months. gtfo.

And you take this shit way to personal greg.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

You know what I mean while you trying to be a smart ass. How bout you just Upgrade yo ass out of my face David.

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No, I don't know what you mean, I know what you said.

Way too hostile over someone else's business.

 

[J.E.T.S]

Lol.. I ain't reading nahn one of ya'll shits.

Next.


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[cb71109]

Dope her up with xtacy

 

[NinjaspiT]

Ahhh so thats why the only female in this thread gives the negative response. She wants me to break up and "embrace the homosexuality inside of me." LMAO!

Honestly, this woman is the dopest female I have ever met. She grew up with a father and mother, is intelligent,allows me to take the lead,knows how to be a LADY,and is DRAMA fucking free. I have found a jewel and I KNOW IT. I know im a lucky ass dude for wedging myself into her life and vice versa. Compared to the other women I have ever dealt with, this is definitely new experience for me, not having to deal with negative,ignorant materialistic bulllshit that MOST females are all about. She told me when we first went out that she doesnt need to be in a relationship to be happy about her or anything else in life. I knew from there she was a keeper.
So, NO, I am not intending to break up with her just because we are both busy and have plans in this world! I was merely asking for people to chime in if any of you have ever been through this situation but clearly msot if not any of you have. Thanks for the comments both negative and positive though,because ultimately, I dont look at them as being bad,nor good.

Peace.

 

[turboether]

Did you fuck her in the Ass Yet?

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Ahhh so thats why the only female in this thread gives the negative response. She wants me to break up and "embrace the homosexuality inside of me." LMAO!

Honestly, this woman is the dopest female I have ever met. She grew up with a father and mother, is intelligent,allows me to take the lead,knows how to be a LADY,and is DRAMA fucking free. I have found a jewel and I KNOW IT. I know im a lucky ass dude for wedging myself into her life and vice versa. Compared to the other women I have ever dealt with, this is definitely new experience for me, not having to deal with negative,ignorant materialistic bulllshit that MOST females are all about. She told me when we first went out that she doesnt need to be in a relationship to be happy about her or anything else in life. I knew from there she was a keeper.
So, NO, I am not intending to break up with her just because we are both busy and have plans in this world! I was merely asking for people to chime in if any of you have ever been through this situation but clearly msot if not any of you have. Thanks for the comments both negative and positive though,because ultimately, I dont look at them as being bad,nor good. Peace.

Good because you shouldn't.
Older, more experienced folk have a different viewpoint and some of us try to help people avoid mistakes we've made or seen others make.
I'm sure she's great but it's easy to be "drama free" (which DOES NOT EXIST) when you're in essentially a part time relationship. My wife and I were younger than you when we met and probably when we got married but we were around each other constantly, even working together for several years and I was never "bored" or anything related to it in the first 6 months. Even with that being not exactly the word you wanted to use in hindsight, you must be somewhere in that range and that's serious and shouldn't be ignored because it's uncomfortable.