I have some bitchassness going on at work. What are your thoughts on this

[Street-Muzik]

If you prefer not to read all this shit just scroll down to the POINT OF THE STORY.

sorry for any errors in grammar. I'm sort of rushing out the door as I'm typing this.

About 2 years ago..A high school friend of mine gets a job at the same company I work for (we both work in IT). I was at the job 4 months before he was hired and was happy for him when he landed the position.

Over in another department there was a chick who was hired right around the same time as me. I never had the opportunity to get to know her but she seemed friendly. I pretty much kept to myself but once my man came on board I opened up to the chick. I thought she would be good for my man so I tried setting up lunch date where we would all hang out and attempt to get to know each other. (we are basically the only black people at this job)

Fast forward... the chick and man get together. Things appear to be good and he's happy as can be. She makes more money than him and but she didn't seem to care about his pockets.

Fast forward again... suddenly things are changing between the two. [SIDEBAR---My man has never been the "baller" type. In fact he occasionally would use women for their money. Whenever he was in a jam he had one or two chicks he would call and they would throw him money "because they thought he wanted to be in a relationship with them." Mind you...these women were NOT very attractive]

THE POINT

So one day the dude calls me complaining about how the chick is treating him. He says "she swears up and down that I'm cheating." Real-talk, he wasn't. It starts to become apparent that this woman has MAJOR trust issues. However, the biggest shock came byway of her personal life. Ol'girl has 3 kids, by 3 DIFFERENT PEOPLE and one is a new born. My man has 2 boys of his own but I still tell him fall back.

Its too late. His simping is in full swing and the cape is on tight. Now a new problem has enter the picture. He thinks she is cheating on him and suspects it could be with ME! BGOL... none of you know me so I have nothing to hide... I NEVER EVEN MADE A PASS AT THIS CHICK! Simply not my type.

At my job we have an internal Instant Messaging system. So from time to time she would IM me about issues she was having with him. Talking about how he lies and never takes her out. I never made a move on that. I always tried to support the homie. But clearly she wanted more of a baller and his pockets aren't there.

However, this nigga tells her all kinds of things about me. Where I live. What I've been thought personally. He's a simp so its no telling how much she knows about me. I can only imagine after getting the pussy this nigga laying up in bed opening up about me. However, this nigga comes to me and says he doesn't like the IMing that goes on between me and her because we might be speaking about him.

So last week the 3 of us meet in the parking lot and talk it out. I say my piece and we push it to the side. I'm just interested to get other points of views on this situation. Did I do anything wrong? Is this just a simp doing what a simp does? Accusing his friend of smashin' his chick. And is there anything THAT attractive about a chick with 3 different baby daddies, late 30's and never been married? She doesn't provide this nigga with any money in a time of need and has big-time trust issues. Actually, they both have trust issues. It just seems like environment that HE created in the first place by speaking to his "chick" about me.

Needless to say... if I wanted to fuck I could. Easily because dude is not handling business. But that's suppose to be my friend so....

 

[mcguyver]

Point of the story is longer than the other shit.

 

[THREAD_CRITIC]

That's sensitive nigga is going to kill both of yall..

 

[mcguyver]

I only read the last sentence, don't lose your job over some pussy.

 

[Darrkman]

Man let the two of them hash that shit out without any input from you. Nothing good comes from being in the middle of foolishness.

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[RUDY RAYYY MO]

That's sensitive nigga is going to kill both of yall..

Wow ,lol

sent from your girls crib

 

[Dirty Hubcaps]

I only read the last sentence, don't lose your job over some pussy.

that you not even fucking. and stop talking about personal shyt on the job's servers

 

[dHustla]

Put 'em both on ice.

They grown as hell and you ain't they(their) daddy.

And when you do it, tell them both why...AT THE SAME DAMN TIME
Let it be because they BOTH have trust issues and don't have the space or energy to be dealing with other folks shit right now.

Tell em you'll be speaking, being cordial, and walkin away

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[popice]

Advice for you, your homie and everybody else. Never date or fuck a woman at your job no matter how good she looks, no matter how bad her body is, no matter how quiet and trustworthy she seems. It may be all good in the beginning but trust, that shit will eventually sour and backfire on your ass before it's all said and done.

 

[Cock Head Jones]

a.
dont shit where u eat. it was dumb of u to even set them up. the 3 of yall shoulda just stayed cool. hangout after work sometimes or whatever but kept the pussy offlimits. it woulda became clear that the bitch was bad news within a few months of bein cool w/ her.

b.
ur man is a sucka and the bitch is a nutcase so even tho u took a positive step and cleared things up in the parking lot... its gonna start up again soon. just hope u can steer clear of it. in fact since the bitch is jealous its not farfetched to think that she's using u to make him jealous. the economy is fucked by the way. looking for a new gig is prolly not gonna be fun.

c.
how can u work in IT and not know that people are prolly reading all ur IM's on the internal messaging software?

 

[World B Free]

MISTAKE ONE: You Playing Match-Maker, bad move.....if you create and cultivate it & when they break up, it will be your fault, then you will be the enemy. Leave the match making to a dating service

MISTAKE TWO: Your personal life is swaying into your work life, keep these two separate. Right now, you feel responsible for their relationship, THIS IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY, THESE ARE GROWN ASS PEOPLE. Let them be.....YOU ARE NOT DR. PHIL

 

[lexdiamonnyc]

first, you were wrong for even discussing your 'friends' business with his girl behind his back...........that's straight up bitch shit, period, point blank, no matter how you slice it!

friendly convo is cool but as soon as she started talking about their relationship, you should have put a stop to it right then and there!





your 'friend' is a fuckin idiot, and sometimes there's no way to save people from themselves.............and it sounds to me like they both have trust issues, if he suspect you're fuckin and you're supposed to be his friend then you know what kind of person he is...........he'd fuck your chick in a sec.........and he's emotional with trust issues.....


btw.....I'd place some of the blame for him suspecting you of fucking his girl on you!!! if you weren't having conversations behind his back there'd be nothing to even talk about..........but, since you wanted to be her 'friend'......there you go........talk to her about that shit now.

 

[big pimp]

Advice for you, your homie and everybody else. Never date or fuck a woman at your job no matter how good she looks, no matter how bad her body is, no matter how quiet and trustworthy she seems. It may be all good in the beginning but trust, that shit will eventually sour and backfire on your ass before it's all said and done.

^^^^

 

[Street-Muzik]

I appreciate all of your opinions and I do feel like I could have avoided some of the drama. Understand I knew this man for long time. (we went college together and have bagged plenty of women together) So I never would expect homie to simp out like that. I have left the situation alone. I don't even talk to her and me a him are still cool its just that shit hangs over my head.