Dilemma: Could U EVER Be A Stay-At-Home Dad?

[playahaitian]

Hypothetical...

Your wife/significant other gets a BIG promotion...

You just got laid off due to the economic hit your company took...

She is now making just enough to cover all household expenses...

rent/mortgage, utilities, credit card, insurance, etc.

You have a 1 year old...

for some personal reasons she dont want a nanny...

your parents can't watch the kid...

you have experience with kids growing up raising your siblings...

She asks YOU to stay home just until the child turns 3 and can go to preschool...

She even offers to pay for school if you want to go back...

WHAT DO U DO???​

Pt. 2

How would U explain the 2 years being a DAD on your RESUME???

Oh wifey looking like this...

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

i'm doing the daddy daycare thing right now, i have a few more months of it, then back to my business.

thats the only way i can see you getting thru it with ease, to run your own shit.

and btw, it is VERY VERY STRESSFUL.

men arent designed to do this shit, and your support system isn't in place the same way women have theirs.

oh yeah, let me google that Alia Star vid. she fine as hell.

 

[playahaitian]

i'm doing the daddy daycare thing right now, i have a few more months of it, then back to my business.

thats the only way i can see you getting thru it with ease, to run your own shit.

and btw, it is VERY VERY STRESSFUL.

men arent designed to do this shit, and your support system isn't in place the same way women have theirs.

oh yeah, let me google that Alia Star vid. she fine as hell.

OK i cant argue with u...

explain run your own shit...?

I'm thinking how tough can it be to watch a 1 year old all day...

no disrespect...

I aint saying its easy

but a little cooking and cleaning, the kid probably gonna sleep for like 10 - 12 hours a day right???

EDIT:

I didn't mean it like that...

Of course raising a child at any age is not easy especially under 4.

It is very very challenging and I salute ALL those Male and Female how do it.

 

[BigATLslim]

Without hesitation.

 

[4North1Side2]

i'm doing the daddy daycare thing right now, i have a few more months of it, then back to my business.

thats the only way i can see you getting thru it with ease, to run your own shit.

and btw, it is VERY VERY STRESSFUL.

men arent designed to do this shit, and your support system isn't in place the same way women have theirs.

oh yeah, let me google that Alia Star vid. she fine as hell.

I disagree, I have 2 boys 4 and 2 years old and I took up nightshift jobs for the past 4 years so that my Wife and I could hold prominent roles in their lives instead of passing them off to daycare.

Even after a long ass tiring shift, coming home trying to catch some sleep while rasising them during the day I found it easy. I guess it depends on how patient of a person you are.

 

[THREAD_CRITIC]

Fuck no..can't have my wife support me...

 

[4North1Side2]

Fuck no..can't have my wife support me...

It ain't about your Wife supporting you, it's about your child's well being but if you weren't so upset with men fucking your Wife you would see that.

 

[Dirty Hubcaps]

you've been listening to those patrice o'neal podcasts, haven't you....

 

[4 Dimensional]

Its interesting.....

I do it when I am out of school in between semesters, so wifey can put in more hours at work. I have a 3 year old and she is CRUNK ALL DAY LONG. I'm cool with that though because she is getting the necessary daddy exposure, which is very essential for little girls. Sometimes I need moments, but I get those when she goes to sleep at night.

 

[NewyorkRealTalk]

She's sexy as hell. But yeah I could. Depending on how long.

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[playahaitian]

you've been listening to those patrice o'neal podcasts, haven't you....

RIP

 

[playahaitian]

She's sexy as hell. But yeah I could. Depending on how long.

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For TWO YEARS...

 

[THREAD_CRITIC]

It ain't about your Wife supporting you, it's about your child's well being but if you weren't so upset with men fucking your Wife you would see that.

If you weren't out fucking married women you might still have a job and not on bgol asking about a try to get my job back letter...................

 

[Pootypoot]

It ain't about your Wife supporting you, it's about your child's well being but if you weren't so upset with men fucking your Wife you would see that.

What the fuck?

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

I disagree, I have 2 boys 4 and 2 years old and I took up nightshift jobs for the past 4 years so that my Wife and I could hold prominent roles in their lives instead of passing them off to daycare.

Even after a long ass tiring shift, coming home trying to catch some sleep while rasising them during the day I found it easy. I guess it depends on how patient of a person you are.

ninja you better make sure you stay getting checkups, cause if you aren't you may be a ticking timebomb.

and no it IS NOT easy.

kids between the ages of 7 months and 3 years need all kinds of attention.

 

[playahaitian]

ninja you better make sure you stay getting checkups, cause if you aren't you may be a ticking timebomb.

and no it IS NOT easy.

kids between the ages of 7 months and 3 years need all kinds of attention.

wow...

a co-worker just saw I wrote it aint that hard and called me a damn imbecile

reporting this dude to HR

 

[4 Dimensional]

ninja you better make sure you stay getting checkups, cause if you aren't you may be a ticking timebomb.

and no it IS NOT easy.

kids between the ages of 7 months and 3 years need all kinds of attention.

The man ain't lying. My 3 year old called my name 174 times within the first 2 hours after waking up. Daddy x 174

Daddy can you this, daddy can you that. Daddy daddy daddy!

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

a co-worker just saw I wrote it aint that hard and called me a damn imbecile

 

[4North1Side2]

ninja you better make sure you stay getting checkups, cause if you aren't you may be a ticking timebomb.

and no it IS NOT easy.

kids between the ages of 7 months and 3 years need all kinds of attention.

lol Man I love and cherish these times with my children because before I know it they'll be hitting me with the stiff arm when it comes to spending time together.

Their is only one time I can think where I almost lost it with my oldest Son. He was 3 months and kept crying all fucking day long about nothing wherea's I was tired, hungry, and depleted of energy. It helped me understand how some people lose it with their children and stuff them in a garbage bin because I know I was ready to!

You men who spend quality time with your children would be amazed at the things they accomplish and pick up at amazing speeds all because they were under the guidance of a man.

 

[woodchuck]

i'm doing the daddy daycare thing right now, i have a few more months of it, then back to my business.

thats the only way i can see you getting thru it with ease, to run your own shit.

and btw, it is VERY VERY STRESSFUL.

men arent designed to do this shit, and your support system isn't in place the same way women have theirs.

oh yeah, let me google that Alia Star vid. she fine as hell.

Did it when I started going back to school. We don't have small kids, but it is stressful. THIS IS NOT WHAT WE DO!!! My wife is all, "Don't worry about it. I make 6 figures. We're good." She don't understand that I need my own shit, and we (at least me) weren't built for this. We're home builders, not home makers.

 

[MYSTIC]

i would def do it

 

[Deezz]

I could. The biggest hurdle is having a secure woman that wouldn't feel like just because she earned more money, she was wearing the pants.

You can still be a "man" without being the biggest earner.

BTW...That also means you as a man needs to be secure with yourself.

 

[woodchuck]

I could. The biggest hurdle is having a secure woman that wouldn't feel like just because she earned more money, she was wearing the pants.

You can still be a "man" without being the biggest earner.

BTW...That also means you as a man needs to be secure with yourself.

I totally agree, but there will come a time where you'll want to make your own money. Mentally, it's an adjustment. The one thing that makes it better for me, is that I worked 3 jobs while she earned her degree that now allows her to make 6 figures. But still....

 

[Deezz]

I totally agree, but there will come a time where you'll want to make your own money. Mentally, it's an adjustment. The one thing that makes it better for me, is that I worked 3 jobs while she earned her degree that now allows her to make 6 figures. But still....

Exactly. It's about balance.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

i'm doing the daddy daycare thing right now, i have a few more months of it, then back to my business.

thats the only way i can see you getting thru it with ease, to run your own shit.

and btw, it is VERY VERY STRESSFUL.

men arent designed to do this shit, and your support system isn't in place the same way women have theirs.

oh yeah, let me google that Alia Star vid. she fine as hell.

Running business from home is awesome. You get to be around the kids all the time. And work.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Fuck no..can't have my wife support me...

This is the view of many men in this family as well. My husband was like that. He found a compromise.

 

[THREAD_CRITIC]

This is the view of many men in this family as well. My husband was like that. He found a compromise.

Yeah its not a knock on kats who are being supported by their wife....I just like having my own money and doing what I want when I want with it..hell my wife is the same way.

 

[NewyorkRealTalk]

I could. The biggest hurdle is having a secure woman that wouldn't feel like just because she earned more money, she was wearing the pants.

You can still be a "man" without being the biggest earner.

BTW...That also means you as a man needs to be secure with yourself.

Yeah that would be my worry.I've been in a situation. She made more and flaunted it once randomly when it came to us having children. obviously I'm not with her anymore lol.

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[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

If you weren't out fucking married women you might still have a job and not on bgol asking about a try to get my job back letter...................

 

[playahaitian]

I totally agree, but there will come a time where you'll want to make your own money. Mentally, it's an adjustment. The one thing that makes it better for me, is that I worked 3 jobs while she earned her degree that now allows her to make 6 figures. But still....

interesting...

i did the same and got clowned by my friends...

they are ALL divorced or paying child support now..

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

ninja you better make sure you stay getting checkups, cause if you aren't you may be a ticking timebomb.

and no it IS NOT easy.

kids between the ages of 7 months and 3 years need all kinds of attention.

It takes a village. We have 1 living with us pretty much. And something else i believe helps? Older kids. We have 17 - 3. And they all pretty much attend to each other. They keep each other occupied. They keep each other going and interested. The 17 yr old stays on top of them like 2nd mother. They obey her. She does the 2 littles one's hair in the morning for school.

If you don't another thing, something i was doing for my 3yr old. Is making her educational tapes. Vids. And giving her activities to do. Wrap her in what LI would call messy cloth. Give her washable paint. And let her go to work watching the educational tapes i made for her. And you'd think they'd get up and wander around and paint the walls. She never has. She'll sit there and do what the programs tell her to do.

We do that in 15 min - 30 min intervals. We have flash cards, and memory tapes. And she was talking and counting everything at 2. No dolls, till the grands got her dolls. Everything has an educational purpose to it. Right now at this moment she'd playing with her counting blocks. She can't play with her blocks until she could say the numbers. Another thing we do with her, is if you have a house, cordon off a play area for them outside. If you're fenced in? Get another little play fence inside for them. Put alot of outside furniture and play things outside. We even have a tv out there for her to turn on and she puts her tapes in and listens to her songs.

The key thing that i believe most people don't do, is that they don't start their childrens process early. They will wait till prek. Or 3. To start learning or controlling their childrens actions. Guiding is a better word. It starts day 1. before hubby passed she couldn't walk. But she could sit. And he'd sit her in his lap and he had several screens in his office. One 1 screen he'd be working. On the other screen would be her screen. She'd be listening to whatever he had for her there.

What else he'd do, was he'd group the kids up and take them off on daytrips. Just go out to different parts of the city and talk to them. Most learning is done just by talking and discussing in a relaxed setting. That's how he taught them really. He'd know the lesson plans and he'd apply problems to real world things the that children were seeing and doing while they were out and about.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Exactly. It's about balance.

While i do agree with the 2 of you. i also believe this sort of thing upsets the balance between man and woman. She is providing, where it's supposed to be your NATURAL place. You do have to be on a whole new level of security and thought process i believe to make this whole thing work.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

I could but I would still have to maintain some type of employment just to have something to talk about to her other than the kids (and I wouldn't even have that to talk about with our son being 14 and stays gone all the time). The job of the homemaker is to maintain stability and stay interesting.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

The key thing that i believe most people don't do, is that they don't start their childrens process early. They will wait till prek. Or 3. To start learning or controlling their childrens actions. Guiding is a better word. It starts day 1. before hubby passed she couldn't walk. But she could sit. And he'd sit her in his lap and he had several screens in his office. One 1 screen he'd be working. On the other screen would be her screen. She'd be listening to whatever he had for her there.

 

[avantastic]

glad i got a chance to do it with my son til his first day of school this year. it will amaze and fill u with pride how much more receptive kids are learning from dad than mom r/t plus u know the older they get the more dad is forgotten lol you teach them to run, throw, and catch etc and soon as they score a td or hit the game winning shot i love u mom is the first thing out their mouth lol plus getting back in the work force was not hard far as adjustment cause thats just what us men do