Would you stay....

[ladyscorpio]

thought this was an interesting subject, all from a conversation I was having with MR P Krook.


Ladies would you stay in a relationship with a man who no longer made you happy because he was the father of your children?

 

[bigirl]

It would depend on the situation and vibe with the children and their age.
If they were young under 10 or so I think I would probably try and work something out with the father where we still lived under the same roof for the sake of the kids even it we weren't together. Not if we were fighting like cats and dogs tho. Thats no good for children.

 

[HoneyDip]

It would depend on the situation and vibe with the children and their age.
If they were young under 10 or so I think I would probably try and work something out with the father where we still lived under the same roof for the sake of the kids even it we weren't together. Not if we were fighting like cats and dogs tho. Thats no good for children.

totally agree... if they were teens though we would just have to sit them down and explain it to them. i mean i'm all for trying to work shit out but if its to that point then its not healthy for anyone involved. i wouldn't keep the kids from they dad though. i think thats rude

 

[femmenoire]

I would. I don't believe in divorce.

 

[mcguyver]

thought this was an interesting subject, all from a conversation I was having with MR P Krook.


Ladies would you stay in a relationship with a man who no longer made you happy because he was the father of your children?

You post too much.

 

[Lady-Wiz]

thought this was an interesting subject, all from a conversation I was having with MR P Krook.


Ladies would you stay in a relationship with a man who no longer made you happy because he was the father of your children?

no the last thing i would want would be for my kids to think their parents are together because of them

 

[SinaminDelite]

Nope. My mom is in the exact situation. Watching all the shit she went through while I was growing up, I swore that would never be me. I'd rather be a single mom and happy, then tied up to a man who sticks his dick in every willing hole.

 

[SinaminDelite]

no the last thing i would want would be for my kids to think their parents are together because of them

It's a HORRIBLE feeling. Me and my bro feel guilty that she only stayed around for us, because she felt she couldn't do it on her own.

 

[Shadow]

My ex-wife actually made that proposal to me. Hell to the NAW.

My daughter does NOT need to see some whit like that going on. It's too obvious, judging from Sin's responses.

I would rather my daughter be happy seeing me every chance I get than miserable with me there everyday, watching her mom act an ass.

 

[ladyscorpio]

You post too much.

hush yuh tail...


Any ways to answer the question it would be a no for me. I would not stay I mean if you've exhausted all avenues and you arent feeling it then one should not remain in the situation because of children. It doesn't benefit anyone if you stayed.



Peace

 

[sexylegz33]

Everything is not for everyone. I really do beleive in a strong black family. If it is workable, and you love your man, work it out for your sake, your man's sake, and your children. But if you know you won't be happy, your children won't benefit from you staying together. If mommy is happy, then the kids are happy. It is possible to still be great parents with out being together.

I can honestly say that I DID NOT stay for the children. I think it does have a lot to do with what the circumstances are. In my case I have to set an example for my son and daughter. I have to show my daughter that she does not have to tolerate or settle for disrespectful crap. I want to show my son the right way to love and respect a woman.

My fiance was cheating, I found out and had to end it. Hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. I am a firm believer in once a cheat always a cheat. Men cheat because we women let them. So, in a situation like mine, I had to leave.

But as I mentioned before, everything is not for everyone.

Good Luck!

 

[IntelligentDyme]

Nope. My mom is in the exact situation. Watching all the shit she went through while I was growing up, I swore that would never be me. I'd rather be a single mom and happy, then tied up to a man who sticks his dick in every willing hole.

I agree, even if you dont argue in front of them, children can sense your general unhappiness, and it sends the wrong message..."sacrifice yourself for the benefit of your children", i dont agree with that..show your children that you love yourself enough to not just settle for mediocre and an unhappy life...because if not you will only start a vicious cycle of women who stay with a man for the sake of everything else but love and themselves....I want my daughters and sons to know that mommy was happy... it is better for them to see you two happy apart than miserable together....when you are happier you can be a better parent and example.