Would you date someone who was incarcerated?

[femmenoire]

What if they were never going to get out?


What if you know they were innocent of whatever they were charged of?


What if they were guilty but you were already involved with them?

 

[PrincessC]

WTF.

There are plenty of guys walking around free right now. What is the purpose of even being with him if we will never even be able to live life together?
I would have to be really, really desperate.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

WTF.

There are plenty of guys walking around free right now. What is the purpose of even being with him if we will never even be able to live life together?
I would have to be really, really desperate.

So........yes?

 

[femmenoire]

WTF.

There are plenty of guys walking around free right now. What is the purpose of even being with him if we will never even be able to live life together?
I would have to be really, really desperate.

I agree but apparently this is something that is quite common so I'm asking.

 

[jucurious]

no

but


the innocent thing is complicated but that would prolly be more of a deep friendship than a relationship b/c of the strain (depending on the how long they are in jail) but if im single when they are hopefully acquitted then we can explore a relationship again

other than that....no

 

[Silver]

Phoo...tough one to call.

if the party is innocent:

I'm thinking that if there is a relationship that has been established prior to incarceration, then I would continue and push like hell to get her out (since I would want the door to swing both ways if it were me).

 

[Noir]

What if they were never going to get out?

Assuming she was proven guilty, then it would be done - breakup (if not married) or divorce (if married). Yes, marriage is supposedly for better or worse, but there are limits. Obviously she was not thinking about me, the marriage, our children (if any), or either of our families when she became involved in whatever lead to her being incarcerated.

What if you know they were innocent of whatever they were charged of?

If she was innocent of whatever she was charged with them I would have already been fighting as hard as possible to secure her release and would continue to do so.


What if they were guilty but you were already involved with them?

If I was already involved with her and then she was proven guilty of a crime, then see answer #1

 

[Mo-Better]

What if they were never going to get out?

What would be the point? I would still be their friend.

What if you know they were innocent of whatever they were charged of?

Yes and being they were innocent I would do what I could to get them released.

What if they were guilty but you were already involved with them?

No!

 

[PrincessC]

So........yes?

 

[onyxfemme]

Didnt read all of it just the title....and the answer is HELL TO THE NO!!!

 

[ClevelandDawg216]

 

[MTL]

NO

 

[geist]

*goes for some popcorn, soda and Lazyboy*

This is going to be good.

 

[followup]

Would I date someone already in prison: No

Would I stay with someone found guilty even though I knew he was innocent? How do I really know he's innocent unless I was with him at the time the crime took place? If I was 100% sure I would stay with him.

Would I start dating someone who had been in prison previously? Yes, depending on the crime. No rapists, armed robbers, kidnappers, murderers, etc...

And if they were locked up for life, no because my *future* kids need their father around

 

[voiceofthestreet]

Didnt read all of it just the title....and the answer is HELL TO THE NO!!!

i was employed at prison once in ga and the inmates had sooooo many women comming to see them and they would show me love letters that girls would send (i aint gona lie i was jealous a lil lol) mean while i went home to no fuckin body wtf

 

[SinaminDelite]

This topic came at a very funny time. My friend with benefits got locked up this past weekend, and it's been hell. I never understood why some girls are fascinated with a man in jail, but those chicks can have it. The frantic phone calls, setting up visits, trying to post bail, etc., that shit is nothing cute, yet they wear it like a badge of honor. Granted my friend only did a 3 day stint, but that was 3 days too much for me and him. I don't want to be put in this kind of situation ever again.