Would I be wrong for not getting into the exchanging gifts this year for christmas?

[pikotrain]

Merry Christmas to all!!..... Would I be wrong or selfish for not getting into exchanging gifts this year for Christmas? I did not get nobody nothing for Christmas including family. It wasn't because I was broke or anything but the commericalism of Christmas is a turn off. I am buying gifts throughout the year instead.What's your thoughts? I hope nobody post something like this before.

 

[Jam_Jam]

Re: Would I be wrong for not getting into the exchanging gifts this year for christma

You would not necessarily be wrong, but I don't feel comfortable accepting gifts and not supplying a gift in exchange. I already know who will get me a gift, because it's the same people every year, so I make it a point to buy gifts for them. I buy those same people birthday gifts also. If your friends and family are understanding about your feelings then it shouldn't be an issue, but if they feel shortchanged, a gift would be in order.

 

[femmenoire]

Re: Would I be wrong for not getting into the exchanging gifts this year for christma

No, if you don't celebrate and they do why would you feel bad.

If those who gave presents try to make you feel bad then you know they aren't genuine and don't follow the supposed traditions of the holiday to begin with and you can call them out for the frauds that they are.

 

[mk23666]

Re: Would I be wrong for not getting into the exchanging gifts this year for christma

I have come to view it like my granddaddy did .... I give a card with money. Let them figure out what they really want instead of me giving something they don't want.

 

[RashaansGirl]

Re: Would I be wrong for not getting into the exchanging gifts this year for christma

On a side note... I opted-out of the Annual Family grab bag 3 years ago. They've been heated with me about that decision ever since.

I chose to get out because it had become a "showcase" of sorts. And it was no longer fun for me, personally. More than anything, it seemed like a competition. Even though we had put a cap on the price, niccas went and spent more money just to get a "reaction" from the crowd... And to me, that was stupid! I was like, "Hell, you a grown ass Bitch!!! ...you can buy your own fuckin Coach purse! I 'ont like you like that!!"

I digress. To answer your question, piko, you're never wrong for doing whats best for you. Never.

If exchanging gifts is a tradition in your family, it's a little late (and unfair to the rest of the family) for you to opt out now. Good luck with that! (Maybe you can get some last minute Target gifts cards, or something else really useful.) But the only thing I advise is that you honestly-but-politely inform the family that you won't be exchanging gifts in the future. After you tell them, they can't say they didn't know. If they STILL choose to give you a gift, it will be a personal choice theyve made. No harm, no foul.