Who are you calling a B1cth

[Imhotep]

Here something thought I'll share, via Mr Swagger's blog. Enjoy

Ladies…we’ve all heard it, and we’ve all said it… “all the good men are either married or gay,” or the classic, “I don’t need a man, I’m handling my own business.” Now those statements may be legitimate and have some semblance of truth behind them. But ladies, let’s get real…the fact is that while there are plenty of fellas out there with @$$hole potential, there just as many ladies out there with b@#ch tendencies, and because of that, ladies, we sometimes miss the good man that is staring us right in our face, or even worse, treat him like $#it and destroy a potentially good relationship. Go ahead and “do you,” but don’t diss him in the process.

Illustration time ladies – let’s assume that you are young professional…a lawyer perhaps, and the guy you are dating is just out of school and starting his first job working in sales for a cable company. You guys have been involved for almost two and a half years. You’ve met each other’s family, taken vacations together, and spend every night together (either his place or yours). You have a good man and you two crazy kids are in love!! Now, a few months into his job, he gets laid off.

After three months of pounding the pavement looking for a new job, he is still unemployed. What do you do in this situation? Well, let me tell you what I have seen often happen in this situation…the man begins to feel insecure because his woman is making the lion’s share of the money. The woman starts hiding things from her man and she starts using phrases like “my money.” He gets depressed and discouraged, and she’s telling her friends that he’s a lazy bum. Then whammo – now you’re fighting all the time and then the relationship ends. Another good man bites the dust.

So what should happen…ladies
1) remember that this is harder on him than it is on you and you should uplift and support him,

2) stop using phrases like “my money” or telling him you’re going to do something for yourself because he can’t – just because you can floss, doesn’t makes it okay to be a b$#ch, and

3) stop perpetuating the stereotype (i.e. if he can’t even take care of me, what good is he?). A relationship is a partnership.

Now don’t get it twisted…I know that there are still those little boys running around out there thinking it's hot to rack up as mush @$$ as possible and dog women out. But let’s be real…there are still those little girls out there who think that $#it is cute and allow that type of behavior to be okay (to be clear…that behavior is not okay). But those aren’t the fellas or ladies I’m trying to enlighten. I’m talking about the fellas with swag and the ladies with flava that are doing their thang.

So to those ladies, I say, when you find that good man, treat him with the same dignity you should damn well want for yourself. And to those good men out there, try to be patient with those sistas who still have a little bit of that “dumb little girl” mentality, because one day they will grow up and realize that the $#it ain’t cute and it’s not okay. Has this happened to you and men what do you think?

Source
http://www.mrswagger.com/search/label/Life Lessons

 

[BrownTurd]

There are a lot of good brothas in this world. Women tend to keep all of the good men as their friends. Being a woman's best friend is not always in the best interest of a man. In life we make decisions based off two simple factors...one is emotions and the other is logic. Women are conditioned to make decisions based off emotions. Good men tend to always be placed in the "friend Zone". Women talk all the time about how they want a man who is genuine, honest, caring and their best friend,

Most women are conditioned to make decisions based off their emotions. A woman will meet a new guy one day. They will hang out, and have long conversations until early in the morning, they will share the same interest and morals and goals...Seems like they have everything in common right? She will also send pictures of this new guy to her girlfriends and talk about how great he is. Now the woman is waiting on this guy to make his move. Even though she is not ready to have sex with him...and has every intention of telling him no. If this new guy truly believes in friends before lovers or truly getting to know one through the eyes of their soul he is doomed for failure.

Women will become confused and a bit of her insecurities will set in. Keep in mind that this woman has only known this guy for a few weeks. Women say they want a honest guy...but they tend to force men to lie in order to validate their emotions. Women want to feel love in their mans touch, words and his actions. Logic states that it is impossible for anyone to fall in love within a few weeks. So if a man was saying all those nice things (game) that most of it would be a lie...but women don't care because they desire affection so badly. So if this new guy is being honest with her and not saying or doing things just to make her happy...she will distant herself from him and place him in the friend zone...because a man should want her and say certain things to her right?

Attraction is what gives us that warm feeling inside when we meet someone new in our lives. It makes us smile just to think about them throughout the day. Attraction gives us that feeling of wanting to stay on the phone even when we have to get up at 6am in the morning to go to work. Most people confuse love with attraction. Attraction is conditional. That feeling will eventually pass away. Love is unconditional because you love a person for their strengths, weaknesses and flaws. Women are very guilty of confusing attraction with love. Just because a man is not eagerly trying to get in her panties, use her, or spitting game...she will place a perfectly good man in the friend zone that would have provided everything she wanted and desired in a man if given the opportunity.