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Which would hurt you more??

AlexandMorgan

AlexandMorgan

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A lot of people fear it and try their best to avoid it but we all face it in some form of the other. The horn aka a cheating partner.

My question is this which in your opinion hurts you more. Finding out your partner is fucking someone of the same sex or someone of the opposite?

Most guys will say that finding your woman in bed with another means twice as much pussy for you but it does not always work out that way. She could be a big mannish butch lesbian as well.

As a man, for me it is pretty simple cheating is cheating but to find out my wife/girlfriend is munching on another woman's rug is gonna kick me in the stomach a lot more, than finding out some guy is giving her the bone.

The only thing which would upset me more is if it is being done in my home and in my bed.

And one more thing if you know that you have been fucking around as well can you forgive it when you find out your partner has been doing it as well?
 
Cheating is cheating and it makes no difference what sex your partner is cheating with. So if you think it will hurt less if your woman is cheating with another woman. It will not!
 
Actually i did say for me the idea of losing out to a woman hurts my pride more than it being a man in the bed with her.

Think peer pressure and every body you know finding out that you lost your partner to someone of the same sex. You already dealing with the emotional upheaval over that and now you have to deal with ridicule, pity and lots of laughter at you.

A girl i knew did that to a guy and he nearly had a mental breakdown.
 
AlexandMorgan said:
I can respect that. I started this topic with some guys and even though all of them fuck around on their women(yes all) they would rather a woman than a man and they could not forgive.
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You know we (men) are 95% ego and a woman providing your spouse something that you couldn't is a huge ego deflater. I (on the other hand)would be thinking that she was a dyke the whole time and I never had a chance...
 
SWATLANTA said:
You know we (men) are 95% ego and a woman providing your spouse something that you couldn't is a huge ego deflater. I (on the other hand)would be thinking that she was a dyke the whole time and I never had a chance...
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Actually that is what would piss me off more, a woman committing to me knowing to herself that she preferred women.
 
Real Talk...If I found out my man was fucking another man I would probably go into a deep depression. It would really fuck me up. If it was another woman, I would cry..Then laugh and divorce him because I would realize he is/was the fool to lose a good thing like me.
But again if it was man, I would probably have to get on prozac or somthing...Just being honest:smh:
 
Real talk this is about someone whom u have committed to whether it be wife/husband, baby momma/father. You have committed and you are betrayed.
 
I had a girl cheat on me before with another man and it hurt. And I was just as mad as I was hurt because the whole time she was accusing me of cheating and swearing any female that came near me was a woman I was fucking. My mindset now would be just to let it go and not waste any energy on it, probably wouldnt get too mad about it.

I dont know about other guys but what makes me more mad than anything is a woman wasting my time. The girl I just wrote about had cheated before and cried to me about how she wanted to work it out and then she cheated again. If she was gonna do that, she could have went on about her life and not wasted my time.

If I had a girl cheat with another girl, I would be more confused than mad. Unless she was tryin to incorporate the other woman in our relationship. If that was the case we would work it out. If not, then go head about your business.

Damn my bad Colin. . .​
 
OnyxFemme said:
Real Talk...If I found out my man was fucking another man I would probably go into a deep depression. It would really fuck me up. If it was another woman, I would cry..Then laugh and divorce him because I would realize he is/was the fool to lose a good thing like me.
But again if it was man, I would probably have to get on prozac or somthing...Just being honest:smh:
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I don't know if it would be considered a depression for me if he went with another man. I know I would become a very angry person. It would take me a while to gather strength to move forward from that. I would definitely feel the need to hurt him. :smh:

I wouldn't take pills though. I probably wouldn't even talk to anyone about it. I have a habit of keeping things in...which usually doesn't bode well for others. :hmm:
 
OnyxFemme said:
Real Talk...If I found out my man was fucking another man I would probably go into a deep depression. It would really fuck me up. If it was another woman, I would cry..Then laugh and divorce him because I would realize he is/was the fool to lose a good thing like me.
But again if it was man, I would probably have to get on prozac or somthing...Just being honest:smh:
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ladyscorpio said:
I don't know if it would be considered a depression for me if he went with another man. I know I would become a very angry person. It would take me a while to gather strength to move forward from that. I would definitely feel the need to hurt him. :smh:

I wouldn't take pills though. I probably wouldn't even talk to anyone about it. I have a habit of keeping things in...which usually doesn't bode well for others. :hmm:
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I agree about the taking of pills. Everyone looks to a bottle for a quick fix to a problem or ailment. People in the best relationships can stray, grow apart from each other, lose focus. But to jump onto the medicine bandwagon is not the answer.

Onyx if your all you say you are you need to be stronger than that. (Of course if this event became reality.)
 
Crown&Coke said:
I had a girl cheat on me before with another man and it hurt. And I was just as mad as I was hurt because the whole time she was accusing me of cheating and swearing any female that came near me was a woman I was fucking. My mindset now would be just to let it go and not waste any energy on it, probably wouldnt get too mad about it.

I dont know about other guys but what makes me more mad than anything is a woman wasting my time. The girl I just wrote about had cheated before and cried to me about how she wanted to work it out and then she cheated again. If she was gonna do that, she could have went on about her life and not wasted my time.

If I had a girl cheat with another girl, I would be more confused than mad. Unless she was tryin to incorporate the other woman in our relationship. If that was the case we would work it out. If not, then go head about your business.

Damn my bad Colin. . .​
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ATLKingpin said:
Who knows women better than a woman? I wouldn't have as much of a problem with a lesbian affair...
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But we're still talking about cheating...to me, the crux of the problem is in the fact that they lied to you, intentionally misled you and maintained a relationship with someone else while making promises to you. If it were a same sex relationship, that's just an added blow cuz now you're dealing with two huge lies (if you didn't already know they were bisexual)...

SWATLANTA said:
Doesn't matter to me, cheating is cheating. I'm out either way...
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Word.
 
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ATLKingpin said:
Who knows women better than a woman? I wouldn't have as much of a problem with a lesbian affair...
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You wouldn't? Like hell! Put your fantasy to rest and be real. As I said in the beginning cheating is cheating and it hurts regarless of who your mate cheats with.

You need to be real about this matter. You might catch them in bed together but that doesn't mean your going to be invited over to join them. Then she ends up dumping your ass for this other woman. The hurt might be worse than you think.

Using your own analogy, what do you think her reaction would be if you hooked up with another guy? (no homo just the theme of the thread)
 
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cheating is cheating, we all can attest to that.

BUT what would hurt more is if my man is cheating on me with another man :confused::eek: :smh: Sorry, i would go in a state of relapse if i found out he was screw another man's ass and fucking me at the same time, that shit is scary, i cant fathom that idea. :smh:
 
Mo-Better said:
I agree about the taking of pills. Everyone looks to a bottle for a quick fix to a problem or ailment. People in the best relationships can stray, grow apart from each other, lose focus. But to jump onto the medicine bandwagon is not the answer.

Onyx if your all you say you are you need to be stronger than that. (Of course if this event became reality.)
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I am sorry call me an hipocrite but 2 women:yes: 2men:puke::smh:
Yes I am bi, I like women and men sexually. I like very feminine women and very manly men:confused: what can I say??? Sorry, that is just me.:D
 
OnyxFemme said:
I am sorry call me an hipocrite but 2 women:yes: 2men:puke::smh:
Yes I am bi, I like women and men sexually. I like very feminine women and very manly men:confused: what can I say??? Sorry, that is just me.:D
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uhmm but baby girl then why do you like urmm well umm u know.... i am not overly "feminine" am NOT a girly girl, never have been. Are you saying I am "U nique" ;) :eek: hehehe :cool:
 
ladyscorpio said:
uhmm but baby girl then why do you like urmm well umm u know.... i am not overly "feminine" am NOT a girly girl, never have been. Are you saying I am "U nique" ;) :eek: hehehe :cool:
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I am saying you are U-"NIQUE", Sexy & Cool:yes: And if I ever get the chance........Well you already know:D
 
Cheating is cheating, the sooner I find out, the faster I can get out of the relationship. I've cheated my entire life, I'm not going to get all mad, shit comes back eventually. So I move on and don't look back.
 
It would suck in both scenarios ,but if I found out my girlfriend cheated with another woman , I would get over it a lot faster for a few reasons.....
1. You may have been a better woman than me, but you can never be a better man.
2. If my girlfriend cheated with women, I would just think she's a lesbian and really aint into guys like that.

Seriously that shit happens all the time here in San Antonio, its a lesbian mecca or some shit. Albeit fat, ugly, dyke-types ,but they still pull some hot womem. As matter of fact I work with a girl that ran off with this guy's wife and was talking shit to the guy about nothing being able to please a woman. Long story short , she tauted him at his job and he broke her neck. That would be rule #1 on my list.:lol:
 
SWATLANTA said:
You know we (men) are 95% ego and a woman providing your spouse something that you couldn't is a huge ego deflater. I (on the other hand)would be thinking that she was a dyke the whole time and I never had a chance...
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Exactly. I would most likely conclude that rather than HIM having a bigger dick or wallet or any terms I could fathomably compete on, SHE had a pussy and tits and estrogen and... fuck it. Not my fight.
 
OnyxFemme said:
Real Talk...If I found out my man was fucking another man I would probably go into a deep depression. It would really fuck me up. If it was another woman, I would cry..Then laugh and divorce him because I would realize he is/was the fool to lose a good thing like me.
But again if it was man, I would probably have to get on prozac or somthing...Just being honest:smh:
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Me also.

It's bad enough to find out your man is cheating, but with another MAN?!?!? I would be furious.
 
Neither.. IF your partner is gonna stray nothing you can do about it..
...Dont make a difference whether she messing with a guy or girl..If we was married it would probably hurt more,but that's life
 

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