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[law]

i meet this woman at work only knew her for three weeks and she tells me she is a lesbian but she has been there for four months and she tells knowone until i start woking she confides in me thats wierd

 

[followup]

I have no clue what you are talking about... You mean she has not told any one else at work she is a lesbian?

 

[black again]

I usually can decipher most people's writing...I give up on this one, though...I have NO IDEA what you're trying to say.

 

[Rick Ronson]

When she sucks a clitoris,kisses a woman,plays with her titties,or grinds her vagina against another woman on the dance floor.

Those are signs.

By the way she probably sees something in you........like her tongue.

 

[kurrupt]

Your trying to figure out if she likes you as a friend or likes you as a ....fellow carpet muncher..is that what your askin?

 

[ladyscorpio]

i meet this woman at work only knew her for three weeks and she tells me she is a lesbian but she has been there for four months and she tells knowone until i start woking she confides in me thats wierd

The grammar is killing me.....



perhaps she sees something in you that either makes her think that she can trust you or that you could be a potential partner for her. I have never had to deal with lesbians before so I am merely speculating.






Peace

 

[Blunt]

I have never had to deal with lesbians before so I am merely speculating.

Maybe not that you were aware of.

 

[Blunt]

i meet this woman at work only knew her for three weeks and she tells me she is a lesbian but she has been there for four months and she tells knowone until i start woking she confides in me thats wierd

What's "weird" about her trusting you enough to think you could deal with her sharing a significant aspect of herself? I'm sure if you're straight you let people know it quickly by talking about the men you're interested in. Lesbians don't usually have that luxury.

 

[ladyscorpio]

Maybe not that you were aware of.

You would be correct Blunt.

 

[onyxfemme]

Ummmmmmmm what? Dude she just trusted you and wanted to make sure you knew what was up before.. in case you tried to holla at her.

 

[ladyscorpio]

Ummmmmmmm what? Dude she just trusted you and wanted to make sure you knew what was up before in case you tried to holla at her.

urmm Law is a female Onyx

 

[onyxfemme]

urmm Law is a female Onyx

Oooop oh well in that case...she trusts you and possibly wants some of your goodies


Like I want some of Lady Scorpio's

She is just playing hard to get

 

[law]

what i am saying is that it made me feel uncomfortable and what should i do because i don't want to here about her sexual nights cause i am not a lesbian.

 

[law]

also she has only told me

 

[Blunt]

what i am saying is that it made me feel uncomfortable and what should i do because i don't want to here about her sexual nights cause i am not a lesbian.

Do you tell her about your "sexual nights?" If not, then you should politely ask her to keep such things to herself.

Would you want to hear about her "sexual nights" if she was straight? Gay or straight, most folks don't wanna hear the details of someone's romantic life, unless they're good friends.

 

[followup]

Then tell her you don't want to hear about that.

 

[ladyscorpio]

what i am saying is that it made me feel uncomfortable and what should i do because i don't want to here about her sexual nights cause i am not a lesbian.

If it is something you find discomfort in simply tell her that this is a work environment and she is making you uncomfortable talking to you about these things. Nip it in the bud before she thinks that you are her buddy.








Peace

 

[jjUSTAZZ]

You should just tell her that you are uncomfortable listening to her tell stories about her sexual experiences and that you would prefer for things to stay professional.

 

[Blunt]

If it is something you find discomfort in simply tell her that this is a work environment and she is making you uncomfortable talking to you about these things. Nip it in the bud before she thinks that you are her buddy.

Nothing wrong with being "buddies." Lesbians can have platonic female friends.

 

[charlie dark]

i meet this woman at work only knew her for three weeks and she tells me she is a lesbian but she has been there for four months and she tells knowone until i start woking she confides in me thats wierd

Is written communication required for your job?

 

[ladyscorpio]

Nothing wrong with being "buddies." Lesbians can have platonic female friends.

Not in the work environment. Clearly the OP has a level of discomfort with the situation therefore she NEEDS to establish boundaries with the person in question before she believes that they have a "different" type of relationship.





Peace

 

[bigirl]

Uhm how and why does this law person have superstar status with 7 posts?

 

[HoneyDip]

Maybe she sees tendencies in you that she thinks suggest that you too are a Lesbian or maybe even Bisexual... Or maybe she just thinks your a laid back person that wont judge her and someone she can eventually become friends with

 

[Blunt]

Not in the work environment. Clearly the OP has a level of discomfort with the situation therefore she NEEDS to establish boundaries with the person in question before she believes that they have a "different" type of relationship.

So women can't be buddies with MEN in the work environment either, since we know they're always all about "getting some" with every woman they meet?

You handle unwanted lesbian advances (and I don't know that that even ocurred here) the same way you do unwanted straight male advances. "Thanks, but no thanks" and move on.

 

[LoneStar29]

I have no clue what you are talking about... You mean she has not told any one else at work she is a lesbian?

I usually can decipher most people's writing...I give up on this one, though...I have NO IDEA what you're trying to say.

You should just tell her that you are uncomfortable listening to her tell stories about her sexual experiences and that you would prefer for things to stay professional.

C/S ... but be careful how you say it ... she may think you are homophobic which is never good in a work environment

 

[ladyscorpio]

If the work environment isn't conducive for that type of relation or like i mentioned before where there might be ANY discomfort then one should ensure that the line is drawn clearly. Doesn't matter the gender.

This situation to me seems quite cut and dry. OP is uncomfortable with the sharing from the workmate. She should then be forward and shut it down before the workmate chooses to share some more.

So women can't be buddies with MEN in the work environment either, since we know they're always all about "getting some" with every woman they meet?

You handle unwanted lesbian advances (and I don't know that that even ocurred here) the same way you do unwanted straight male advances. "Thanks, but no thanks" and move on.

 

[musicchick]

she wont know she's making you uncomfortable unless you be upfront and tell her...

 

[Blunt]

she wont know she's making you uncomfortable unless you be upfront and tell her...

The question is whether her co-worker just being "gay" is what's making the poster uncomfortable or if it's actually some sort of "sexual advances" that are making her uncomfortable. BIG difference. Some people just assume they are the object of every gay person's desire (when they're not).

 

[LoneStar29]

The question is whether her co-worker just being "gay" is what's making the poster uncomfortable or if it's actually some sort of "sexual advances" that are making her uncomfortable. BIG difference. Some people just assume they are the object of every gay person's desire (when they're not).

This is a good point ... some people do assume just cuz a person is gay he/she wants to fuck everyone of the same gender when in all actuality he/she has a preference just like all of us do