When is a relationship....
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When the good outweighs the bad
But if a relationship has deteriorated to the point of you questioning it's ability to be salvaged, wouldn't the bad outweigh the good?
Good point. I would say just try to look long term and really decide if you can get past the problems without any resentment and truly be happy.
Hmmmm another good point...
Well dayum...This is also a good point....
If you have to ask then it is probably not worth saving. If I've learned anything from my last ordeal I've learned that it takes two to tango so to speak. No one person can salvage anything between two people. No matter how hard they work at it.
A relationship is only worth saving if you can identify the problems that YOU have in it and try to fix it. If you can't see your (or believe you don'have)problems and you have to question, beg and plead for someone else to fix theirs then you have already lost.
A relationship is only worth saving if you can identify the problems that YOU have in it and try to fix it. If you can't see your (or believe you don'have)problems and you have to question, beg and plead for someone else to fix theirs then you have already lost.
Totally evaluate the person, if they never change who they are right now, would you be okay with that for the rest of your life?
Even if you love the person, do you love who you are when you are with them?
If the answers are yes, try to stick it out.
Even if you love the person, do you love who you are when you are with them?
If the answers are yes, try to stick it out.
Your are the 1st one to express how I truly feel on this topic!
Normally these threads are full of mediocrity and I choose to not waste . . . . but this right here . . .
Well said Andey. Way to be introspective.
Well said Andey. Way to be introspective.
hmm
i tend to disagree with this as a measure because not seeing your life w/out a person CAN be b/c of love or it could be b/c of fear, comfortableness and all that jazz.
i mean i've seen ppl fight hard to keep good dick/ poom poom in their life so iono
so i guess it depends on the situation
I agree juju, but disagree that the "not seeing your life w/out a person" crap is just foolish and has absolutely NOTHING to do with love and more with self-hate or some kind of insecurity or complex.
You gotta love/respect yourself FIRST.
I'm specifically talking about the qualities of a particular person being irreplaceable. Beyond dick, beyond orgasms, even money/security, all of that. It has nothing to do with having someone just to take up space or be the body there to provide some kind of warmth. If it is just that, then wouldn't it be easy to let go? You can always find another time filler...*at least that's the way I feel about guys that are easy to walk away from.*
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Love the comments above. But know I have a ?
How about when a unborn is involved? Im going through it now. Seems like since we found out that she was expecting shit went downhill and also the fact that Im looking for a job at the moment. And she is a member of the board also, so I hope she see this thread!
How about when a unborn is involved? Im going through it now. Seems like since we found out that she was expecting shit went downhill and also the fact that Im looking for a job at the moment. And she is a member of the board also, so I hope she see this thread!
oh damn this will not end well.
your gonna use the board to talk to your expecting girl?
Sometimes you & the person you're with both want the same goal ... but you don't realize how to get there... that's worth fighting for...
When you want 2 different things, one wants to leave & the other wants them to stay, you can't fight for that...
When you want 2 different things, one wants to leave & the other wants them to stay, you can't fight for that...
Well at the moment we arent talking. Just a hey and bye type of shit. It's other problems that I wont go through on here but shit is getting tiresome. I still am in love with her but damn this shit is depressing. I would like to know what others think.
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes one is looking at it from a point of anger and need to step back and evaluate. And even if it and when it has deteriorate you still have to step back and examine and see whether the deterioration is your fault and if it is not, you still have to examine what has changed for it to have deteriorated to the point where you believe your only option is to quit.
I am realizing that I am growing rather intolerant of this quitting relationships mentality where not even the fact that there are kids involved is important. I am tired of women quiting the relationship during the poorer phase and low phase when the guys needed someone in their corner. Seen it happen too many times and hear it from too many women and too many men. The women are pretty upfront and proud of it too.
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Relationships are built upon a foundation of interlocking interests and compromises. If both partners respct and understand this reality, then they're likely to have a good relationship.
If not, and they're prone to allow their egos to run rampant then the relationship will be relatively short-lived. (Or drawn out and tortured depending on endurance levels)
If not, and they're prone to allow their egos to run rampant then the relationship will be relatively short-lived. (Or drawn out and tortured depending on endurance levels)
I agree with you..but alot of people don't have relationships built on solid foundations....they are building houses on sinking sand, bad sewer pipes, holes in the concrete...but because they want the house so bad, they dont look at the foundation and area that they are building it in...as soon as a storm comes, the roof starts caving in, the sewage is spilling in their homes, and they wonder what happened..... Building takes time, inspections are needed, you have to make sure you both have the right material for which to make a lasting foundation before you start to build on it.
This is easy....
check your blood pressure and your stomach (ulcers) problems and your mental state...
if any of these are not good, you've no choice other than to let it go.
Your personal health comes first above all other concerns .... even money.
check your blood pressure and your stomach (ulcers) problems and your mental state...
if any of these are not good, you've no choice other than to let it go.
Your personal health comes first above all other concerns .... even money.
broads come and go.......only goofy niggas fall in love.
Relationships take work. You need to decide is it worth the time and effort you are willing to put in. Will the reward outweigh the risk?
Is whatever that's going on worth dealing with? While you might live with him leaving the toilet seat up cheating might be the deal breaker.
Just becuase you love someone doesn't mean that you need to stay with them. Love is unconditional and if need be I will let someone I care about go so they can be happy.
Work the relationship not the person. Communication is critical. Be willing to listen more then talk. Talk with your partner not at him or her.
Any relationship is a 50/50 partnership. If you are putting in more then your getting out then you need to evaluate its worth.
The true test of a relationship is not when things are great but when all hell breaks loose. Are you committed to this person no matter what?
Just my .02 cents. Your mileage may very.
Is whatever that's going on worth dealing with? While you might live with him leaving the toilet seat up cheating might be the deal breaker.
Just becuase you love someone doesn't mean that you need to stay with them. Love is unconditional and if need be I will let someone I care about go so they can be happy.
Work the relationship not the person. Communication is critical. Be willing to listen more then talk. Talk with your partner not at him or her.
Any relationship is a 50/50 partnership. If you are putting in more then your getting out then you need to evaluate its worth.
The true test of a relationship is not when things are great but when all hell breaks loose. Are you committed to this person no matter what?
Just my .02 cents. Your mileage may very.
TOTALLY AGREE!!!!
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