What would you do if...

[femmenoire]

your SO's family member, that you absolutely cannot stand becomes ill, and your SO wants to take him/her into your home for care indefinitely?

Would you do it?

What if it is your own family member that you cannot stand and your SO is incredibly good hearted and volunteers your home?

Would you react differently?

Would it make any difference if the person was a troubled teenager?

 

[Blu Diablo]

Depends on the situation, if we are just dating I'd expect my SO to pick her family over me.

If our relationship is significantly deeper than that I'd expect my feelings to be taken much more into consideration but I'd still endorse taking care of a sick loved one even if me and them don't see eye to eye.

If it's my family my SO should know me well enough to know that family decisions are family decisions and unless she has a ring on her finger she's better off staying out of the situation.

It wouldn't matter if it was a troubled teen in either case.

Luckily it's easy for me to be cordially indifferent towards folks I don't see eye to eye with.

 

[Mo-Better]

Black people in general take care of their elderly. I'm going through this now. To force an elder into a nursing home is equivalent to signing their epitaph. When an older love one has done things for you that made your life seem a little more special how can you turn my back on them? I can't! After seeing my first nursing home last year (it was supposed to have been a better one) that decision would be made out of total necessity. The absolute last resort.

If the person is a troubled teenager generally I would say no way but even that would depend on the circumstances. Good kids everyone wants, troubled kids, is a whole different story. Teenagers today can be very disrespectful. That would be a problem for me. I have little tolerance for it.

Now in regards to the morbid picture you painted concerning the SO it would be a difficult decision. But I would hope the person I select as my "SO" would be kind enough and understanding enough to at least give it a try. But I'm not stubborn, if it doesn't work then something else would have to be done. But at that point it can't be said we didn't try to help.

 

[KW13537]

I'd do it for my mother-in-law, but nobody else in her family. Mom will always be Mom. Even though she's done and said some really messed-up things to me, that's still her Mom. If she didn't give birth to her, I wouldn't have my wife and children, so I'd do it. Her brothers and sisters (with one exception) better have good insurance.

 

[DaleMabry]

your SO's family member, that you absolutely cannot stand becomes ill, and your SO wants to take him/her into your home for care indefinitely?

Would you do it?

What if it is your own family member that you cannot stand and your SO is incredibly good hearted and volunteers your home?

Would you react differently?

Would it make any difference if the person was a troubled teenager?

I would definitely consider it. I believe in being a stand up dude for family whenever possible, but I definitely would try and have as solid a road map as possible before pulling the trigger.

I would react differently if my SO volunteered our home for my family member without discussing it with me. We're a team, don't go off calling shots without checking in. I don't like that kinda shit at all. Sets a bad precedent.

With the troubled teenager its more likely it would be a trial run.

You like the hypotheticals huh? Hope you're sketching characters for a book or something