what u wont do

[nawlinsn931]

i apologize if this thread had been done before but we've all heard the sayin what you wont do for your man another female will and vise versa so i was wondering what ya'll had to say bout this male and females answers my homeboy's lady said"if he can't accept that i don't do those things we don't need to be together" so i told her well if u not even willing to consider it let alone give it a try aren't u being selfish to his needs. and this is not just bout sex its other things some women will refuse to watch sports with their man they think its pointless but the next female will so just wanted some feedback from the board

 

[swiftandsilent]

My 2 cents.

Well, do they live together or have kids together? Is she supporting him financially? If there are no strong ties then.....

Your homeboy has to evaluate the good and bad side and if there is too much bad, then tell her SEE YA.

Easy as that.

 

[nawlinsn931]

wasn't meant to be just bout their relationship i'm talking bout relationships in general

 

[Jam_Jam]

A couple should have things in common, but there's nothing wrong with having separate interests. I wouldn't want my man to be interested in "everything" that interests me. I need time to myself. As far as sex goes, it is essential that people be compatible. But let's face it, some people are just freakier than others. You can't force a person to do what they don't want to do. If it's that serious then it is better to just part ways.

 

[Steelwill2006]

A couple should have things in common, but there's nothing wrong with having separate interests. I wouldn't want my man to be interested in "everything" that interests me. I need time to myself. As far as sex goes, it is essential that people be compatible. But let's face it, some people are just freakier than others. You can't force a person to do what they don't want to do. If it's that serious then it is better to just part ways.

I agree with you. Which is why it is imperative that people become really good friends and learn each other. That way, there isn't any suprises.

 

[SuperGenius]

Just answering based on what u stated:

I'm an open minded person, so I would have no problems coming into her world and experiencing her interests with her. (something within reason) I may not totally dig some things she may be into, but i'm willing to experience some of them with her atleast once. That helps a relationship to grow imo....if she's not willing to come into his world, and share with him some of his interests then he really needs to re-evaluate their relationship.

 

[nick177th]

Sex wise, what she won't do, someone else WILL do. A relationship is all about compromise. She doesn't need to watch a football game with me as long as she doesn't roll her eyes or anything if I want to watch a game. In the same respect, I don't need to watch Lifetime with her but, I shouldn't get upset if she wants to watch it. It may be just me but, if you freak your girl right and she is really feelin' you, ain't too much that you can't persuade her to try. At least try. within reason. Me for example, I'm not much in to toys. But, if my partner wants to try this that or the other, unless it's really offensive to me, I'll try it. Someone earlier in the thread said "you have to have like interests". And they also said you don't have to be clones of one another either. compromise, compromise, compromise. That's the key.

 

[ladyscorpio]

Just answering based on what u stated:

I'm an open minded person, so I would have no problems coming into her world and experiencing her interests with her. (something within reason) I may not totally dig some things she may be into, but i'm willing to experience some of them with her atleast once. That helps a relationship to grow imo....if she's not willing to come into his world, and share with him some of his interests then he really needs to re-evaluate their relationship.

Agree 100% SG....