What Is A Parent's Responsibility To A Child...?
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as a parent you are responsible for every little thing that can impact their life in any way shape or form! everything! until they're old enough, mature enough, and logical enough to make these choices from themselves......this goes well into adulthood.
Damn right.... Food, clothing, shelter, knowledge, discipline, truth, and friendship(you don't try to be their friends, but that's how things should end up....hopefully). Nowadays, shit don't end when the child is 18. They need some types of funds for education/job training, and that's on the parents. This isn't like decades ago when they could drop out and turn a screw for a living.
1). There is a often gap in what a parent's obligation should be to a child and what they actually provide. Or, least the degree in which they provide it.
2). You child is your child until the day you or they die. Some people feel their responsibility to them cut off after a certain point.
I left the question open to see people's perspectives on this.
once you grasp the concept of being responsible for a human being
the answer is easy.
the answer is easy.
Every single thing
Didn't like this because that's not true. Feeling loved and liked is important in building self esteem. Self esteem is important to children in the outre aspects of living. That's basic shit. That wasn't something good to to someone who needed to hear something and to pass it on.
That was advice you would give to some nigga off the street. Somebody you took in. And hopefully it's not a chore. A burden. But yeah Dtown and a few others had it right. Not just the hypermasculine bullshit you try to drill into your children. EVERYthing. Their well being as human beings. Food. Shelter. You teach them as well to teach them how to deal with other people. You're responsible for teaching them to be emotionally connected to his wife. And not just blowing a woman's back out. And then complain about how at the end of your life kids have no connection to you.
My husband's father was like this. And my husband didn't want that for his sons. They were left with knowledge to keep it going. To be kind. To be open to their wives(i hope).
Unless it's income tax season, not a damn thing.
A GOOD parent is responsible for virtually EVERYTHING when the child is:
- A newborn.
- An infant.
- A toddler.
- A Pre-schooler.
- School age.
- Adolescence.
- Teen years.
At the age of 18 however; a parent is no longer LEGALLY obligated to care for the child unless there is an existing legal order or statute which demands the parents' continued care or involvement.
- A newborn.
- An infant.
- A toddler.
- A Pre-schooler.
- School age.
- Adolescence.
- Teen years.
At the age of 18 however; a parent is no longer LEGALLY obligated to care for the child unless there is an existing legal order or statute which demands the parents' continued care or involvement.
Damn I watched a show where 2 mothers basically switch roles with their kids. One (White woman) loved dating young men and would go out every night looking for men and her daughter was doing all house work. The other woman (Black woman) was in love with freedom. A Nurse with 5 kids, 3 grown and 2 left. The teenage girl had to cook, clean, and home school for her and her sister. It was as if they tapped out of their role as a parent. Shit fucked me up that people would do that. The kids had to tell they parent that they needed therapy.
That's not something i ever believed in. My child doesn't stop being my child at 18. And i don't like the legally part either. Because then it's like oh i'm in this because i legally have too? That's fucked up and it's not how... other cultures do it. African cultures. You don't just forget your child at 18.
Indeed, my friend.
I completely understand what you're saying.
However, I was not trying to assess the moral, ethical or emotional implications of the law.
I was merely stating what the law is and how it pertains to the OP's question of "parental obligation".
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
Make sure daughter don't get up on that pole dancing to the newest drake song
Our responsibility to them is to provide safety, to them both now and the future.... This means everything form raising them in a safe environment, and making sure they have the tools required to deal with the future world..
As a father your job is to provide discipline, teaching them logic (how to think), while being the guy who says no, when no is best for them... Too bad most parents are stuck on trying to entertain their children, win their hearts over by spoiling them, or showing them off to their family and friends... Whats sad many actually see this as love, even though its been proven that those things can be very detrimental towards the child psyche.
As a father your job is to provide discipline, teaching them logic (how to think), while being the guy who says no, when no is best for them... Too bad most parents are stuck on trying to entertain their children, win their hearts over by spoiling them, or showing them off to their family and friends... Whats sad many actually see this as love, even though its been proven that those things can be very detrimental towards the child psyche.
Wasn't anywhere near what that scene was about, but I am not going to argue the point.
The others here got it more than you did.
This captured the scene better than I could have typed myself.
I told my sons that my job as a Dad is to make sure that you can make a good decision when I am not around. If I'm not around, or dead, or whatever.. and you can make a good decision (whether you're under pressure or not), then I've done my job.
I'm responsible for educating them, feeding them, and making sure that they are prepared to deal with life. I needed to show them how to use their God given tools effectively. Will and mental toughness is what will pull you through unbearable times. Win the war, the battles will take care of themselves.
I told them, beware of "Love." Love is a trap. Love yourself first, f*ck what Iyanla Vanzant and these soft serve men tell people to do. You love yourself more than anyone else on this planet. Then, when the day comes that you love someone else more than yourself, you will have found your soul mate... You'll probably be old enough to handle a family then.
I'm responsible for educating them, feeding them, and making sure that they are prepared to deal with life. I needed to show them how to use their God given tools effectively. Will and mental toughness is what will pull you through unbearable times. Win the war, the battles will take care of themselves.
I told them, beware of "Love." Love is a trap. Love yourself first, f*ck what Iyanla Vanzant and these soft serve men tell people to do. You love yourself more than anyone else on this planet. Then, when the day comes that you love someone else more than yourself, you will have found your soul mate... You'll probably be old enough to handle a family then.
Its to teach him how to handle the world, until he is ready for the world, and pass on the sum total of my knowledge on. And eventually be able step back and impart wisdom, and help when needed but not hand holding
Everything till u leave this earth
This is your creation
This is your creation
To raise it off of breast milk and water. Then when it starts teething feed it only raw organic fruits and vegetables and the miracle foods out of the bee hive. That is how you lead a child out of darkness into the light and back to "THE GARDEN OF EDEN". Or else follow the rest of the slaves in poisoning and raising the kids to be slaves instead of God. Only a God can create a God. And only a devil can create a devil. Look at what is coming out of the institutions of the world.
SAVE THE BABIES.
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Not too long after my daughter came home for being born. First child. New experience in having someone else in the house. And realization kicked in fast. I lookeda t my daughter and said "you need me for everything, huh? You can't do anything for yourself being all small and helpless."
At that moment, I understood as a parent my responsibility to my child. You kinda just want them to understand this fucked up world. What sucks is my daughter sees all the good in humanity. At 8, she never had a bad or traumatic experience in life. Everything has been peachy for her. She is very delusional, but I understand that her experiences in life has her that way. I teach and converse about certain truths, but she is just a good hearted child. And knowing how fucked up humanity can be, I can't always protect her from the things that life can chaotically bring.
But as long as she know that her mother and father will do what we can and she grows to be a responsible adult herself, then I will happy with how We parented. I think we do a good job now, probably can improve in some areas, but we're human too. If our mind ain't right, our child will pick up on it.
This parenting shit ain't easy. Just because it's natural to most people, don't make it easy because it's never just parenting. If we didn't have to worry about work, bills, money, and so forth and could just focus on parenting, then I could see how it would be a little easier. But it ain't. It tough, but that's ok. Life is tough, but many people survive it.
At that moment, I understood as a parent my responsibility to my child. You kinda just want them to understand this fucked up world. What sucks is my daughter sees all the good in humanity. At 8, she never had a bad or traumatic experience in life. Everything has been peachy for her. She is very delusional, but I understand that her experiences in life has her that way. I teach and converse about certain truths, but she is just a good hearted child. And knowing how fucked up humanity can be, I can't always protect her from the things that life can chaotically bring.
But as long as she know that her mother and father will do what we can and she grows to be a responsible adult herself, then I will happy with how We parented. I think we do a good job now, probably can improve in some areas, but we're human too. If our mind ain't right, our child will pick up on it.
This parenting shit ain't easy. Just because it's natural to most people, don't make it easy because it's never just parenting. If we didn't have to worry about work, bills, money, and so forth and could just focus on parenting, then I could see how it would be a little easier. But it ain't. It tough, but that's ok. Life is tough, but many people survive it.
As a parent your reeponsibility to your child is 2 fold. 1) you are responsibile for every facet of life for them until they can take are of themselves. 2) you are responsible for nurturing, educating, correcting and guiding them, preparing them for the time they will need to take care of and provide for themselves.
Certain aspects of parenting doesnt end at 21 per se. I still go to to my Dad for wisdom and advice. When my wife was pregnant with my son I had countless sessions with hin where he talked and schooled me on being a father.
Certain aspects of parenting doesnt end at 21 per se. I still go to to my Dad for wisdom and advice. When my wife was pregnant with my son I had countless sessions with hin where he talked and schooled me on being a father.
Yeah man, so innocent. Mine is so Disney with gets that I damn near wanna hold her hand when she's around her hood ass cousins lol. I've seen her at a total loss before when confronted with other kids that were too damn grown.
There's a beauty in all of it though. In the scary parts too.
I know it's a play, but that was a fucked up answer.
It was also an old school answer. My Dad never told me that he loved me until he was old, but I never doubted he did. As long as he was alive we always had food on the table and clothes on our back. If that aint love what is
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