What happened to guys and girls setting their friends up?

[femmenoire]

Does that even happen anymore?

I remember back in the day I was always being introduced to a friend of a friend for the purpose of potentially hooking up and dating.

But now it seems like people just don't do that anymore.

Is it just here in Atlanta maybe people don't see the need? Or are people just not as deliberate anymore?

Is it now just a married couple thing?

Has anyone had a long lasting relationship through a hook up or blind date set by friends or family? Do you even trust their judgement?

 

[OnSlaught]

Does that even happen anymore?

I remember back in the day I was always being introduced to a friend of a friend for the purpose of potentially hooking up and dating.

But now it seems like people just don't do that anymore.

Is it just here in Atlanta maybe people don't see the need? Or are people just not as deliberate anymore?

Is it now just a married couple thing?

Has anyone had a long lasting relationship through a hook up or blind date set by friends or family? Do you even trust their judgement?

Femme, I think it's a judgement call. I believe it has to do more so with the fact that if you look at your friend's relationship, then that is a pretty good gauge for the type of person they are willing to hook you up with. People tend to see qualities in other's that they already see in themselves...for example, I don't normally do this because most of my friends have fucked up relationships and choices in women. However, the one friend that has a long term and healthy relationship I ended up taking his wife's advice and gave a chance to her girl, their maid of honor. The shit didn't get past a fuck because when the lights cut on, there was blood on the condom and even though I know my dick is big, it ain't that big...I asked her ass if there was anything she wanted to tell me before we went through with it, like is she on her period, on birth control, the whole nine...chick ended up lying and that was the last time she heard from me and the last time I took a hook up (relationship wise) from a friend...

Oh, and her bullshit excuse was get this, "I guess you popped my cherry!" Knowing damn well that wasn't her first time...

 

[femmenoire]

Femme, I think it's a judgement call. I believe it has to do more so with the fact that if you look at your friend's relationship, then that is a pretty good gauge for the type of person they are willing to hook you up with. People tend to see qualities in other's that they already see in themselves...for example, I don't normally do this because most of my friends have fucked up relationships and choices in women. However, the one friend that has a long term and healthy relationship I ended up taking his wife's advice and gave a chance to her girl, their maid of honor. The shit didn't get past a fuck because when the lights cut on, there was blood on the condom and even though I know my dick is big, it ain't that big...I asked her ass if there was anything she wanted to tell me before we went through with it, like is she on her period, on birth control, the whole nine...chick ended up lying and that was the last time she heard from me and the last time I took a hook up (relationship wise) from a friend...

Oh, and her bullshit excuse was get this, "I guess you popped my cherry!" Knowing damn well that wasn't her first time...

Ok that is a bad and gross hook up story.

 

[OnSlaught]

Ok that is a bad and gross hook up story.

I know, but it is the TRUTH...had to add my 2 cents

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Well my buddy set me up with a fat chick using a false identity (she wanted to talk to another guy whom she met that night when we were hanging out but did not know his name. He was not interested so he gave her my name and number) because he thought i needed some pussy. I found out from the guy who turned her down and not him. He lied to both me and her.

Before he had set me up with a co-worker of his and me and her had hit it off good at first. We made a date to go out but when i was chatting with her the same day she said something from which I deduced and she confessed that she had gotten fucked the same day we were due to go out by a FRIEND.

 

[Crown&Coke]

I have been set up before. It was the friend of my friends girlfriend. She was cool, we talked for a min but she wasnt really feeling me as far as hookin up. That didnt bother me but the thing that did was that she started acting funny at first cuz she felt like she would hurt my feelings(the whole "You're nice but it aint like that thing"). I told her it was cool, I cant be mad at you for not feeling me just dont waste my time. We stayed cool tho.​

 

[Galvatron78]

I'll tell ya what the fuck happened, I remember when i was tryin' to get with this lil' lady and she hooks me up with her friend instead, over the phone it was soundin' good she sounded good enough to make a nigga's dick hard enough to cut diamonds. Long story short i go and see her and she has a twin sister also right, she opens up the door the bitch looks like Craig Mack with titties. i swear when that bitch opened the door i heard the instrumental to the "Flava in ya ear" remix....i swear Busta Rhymes was gonna jump out the bushes yellin' "HEY HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEY HEY!!!!"....from that point on i dont fuck with no more hookups. I don't give no fuck i dont do hookups.....i do the dirty work by myself or let the "Girl Talk" get her friends interested.

 

[alloutmotor]

modern day internet!!!

myspace facebook ect. has taken over, if your freind has a friend that your feeling, just hit her up on myspace

the bug never bit me, so i get my girls the old fashion way

 

[Bigmario23]

I asked her ass if there was anything she wanted to tell me before we went through with it, like is she on her period, on birth control, the whole nine...chick ended up lying and that was the last time she heard from me and the last time I took a hook up (relationship wise) from a friend...

Oh, and her bullshit excuse was get this, "I guess you popped my cherry!" Knowing damn well that wasn't her first time...

Damn fam I had a similar situation of a chick bleeding on me
thank God for condoms

 

[DaleMabry]

Hook ups with friends.

When they work, they WORK.

When they don't, it can fuck the vibe up for everyone from then on in.

I think it's the risk of and fallout from failure that causes folks to avoid that nowadays.

I agree though, harks back to a time when you could get a full background check via friends.

Relationships are often a measure of the communities in which they are formed.

 

[JofromthaNO]

My best friends and I all live in different states, so it wouldn't really work for any of us. That and the fact we're all in relationships (one married, one engaged, and one long-term relationship).

Many of my male friends will see a picture of a friend or meet me somewhere and see a friend and ask to be hooked up with them. It usually doesn't go the other direction, though. Usually, when a male friend asked to be hooked up with a female friend, they pick the LEAST available of my female friends to hook up with (i.e., she is MARRIED or dating someone else, or just not looking for anyone else). If a male friend of mine wants another friend's number, and she is available, I'll push it because my male friends are good peoples!

 

[femmenoire]

I believe the internet has alot to do with it.

Everyone's stories seem so different and most seem to have a bad experience.

I guess it really isn't like the old days anymore.

 

[shywriter]

like a lot of folks said the internet makes it easier to step to someone rather than having your friends do the grunt work.

 

[Shadow]

It's funny because I actually just hooked a friend up yesterday. Well, hook him up with some no strings action since that's what they both wanted.

I agree that it's not really the best thing for people now. The interent plays a huge part. I also think that some people just want to hunt their own meat. I'm skeptical of the hookup think now because I always wound up getting the friend that had some agenda, and I was the key to her achieving it. Fuck that.

she opens up the door the bitch looks like Craig Mack with titties. i swear when that bitch opened the door i heard the instrumental to the "Flava in ya ear" remix....i swear Busta Rhymes was gonna jump out the bushes yellin' "HEY HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEY HEY!!!!"..

Hey HEEEEEEEEEYYYYYY Hey!!!!!!!

Classic shit!!!!!!!!

 

[Blu Diablo]

I don't set up friends or want to be set up by friends because good or bad I try to stay out of my peoples personal business.

 

[thoughtone]

With the shitty, bitter attitudes of some of the females I know, I wouldn’t put any guys I know thought the trouble.

 

[doggish_098]

not a good idea because when shit goes wrong you are going to be on both sides of the pole

 

[Adam Knows]

I don't set up friends or want to be set up by friends because good or bad I try to stay out of my peoples personal business.

end of thread.

 

[geist]

I think it still happens. I remember hearing about a statistic that says the majority of couples were hooked up by a third party.

It hasn't happend for me in a while because I've been in a relationship for a while. But the last time it did, I told my boy I would be his wingman on the double date and that was it. That was just from the phone convo, the date itself cinched it. I distracted the chick enough for my boy to put in work and that was it.

 

[Benjamin Check]

With the shitty, bitter attitudes of some of the females I know, I wouldn’t put any guys I know thought the trouble.

And bitches dont try to see through your boys faults. i got a nigga, hes a lil rough around the edges, but he treats women like queens, got bread, a house, dog (beautiful pit bull loooks like a big ass petey from lil rascals) , job, car, good fam. try to look out with friends of my girl, but they fallin for lame niggas with "imaginary" 300's and magnums, literally, its in the shop for 3 months. or the nigga is cheap, or cant fuck, or dresses like soulja boy!

 

[thoughtone]

And bitches dont try to see through your boys faults. i got a nigga, hes a lil rough around the edges, but he treats women like queens, got bread, a house, dog (beautiful pit bull loooks like a big ass petey from lil rascals) , job, car, good fam. try to look out with friends of my girl, but they fallin for lame niggas with "imaginary" 300's and magnums, literally, its in the shop for 3 months. or the nigga is cheap, or cant fuck, or dresses like soulja boy!

Can someone translate this in to english?

 

[xfactor]

Does that even happen anymore?

I remember back in the day I was always being introduced to a friend of a friend for the purpose of potentially hooking up and dating.

But now it seems like people just don't do that anymore.

Is it just here in Atlanta maybe people don't see the need? Or are people just not as deliberate anymore?

People I know still do it all of the time.

Maybe your friends and associates don't feel as if you'd be an adequate hook-up for one of their single friends

 

[JofromthaNO]

Can someone translate this in to english?

I can't do it, and can someone explain to me why he had to refer to women as bitches?!?

 

[femmenoire]

People I know still do it all of the time.

Maybe your friends and associates don't feel as if you'd be an adequate hook-up for one of their single friends

I only have one friend and she moved to NJ, so STFU.

 

[xfactor]

I only have one friend and she moved to NJ, so STFU.

Why you mad?

When I was growing up:

In high school, you hooked your homies up with the girls that were goin'...

In college and young adult hood, you upgraded to hookin' your homies up with young women that were intelligent and ambitious (but still knew how to have fun).

I assume it keeps going as you get older with traits changing.

No need to get bent out of shape because you fell out of the loop

 

[femmenoire]

Why you mad?

When I was growing up:

In high school, you hooked your homies up with the girls that were goin'...

In college and young adult hood, you upgraded to hookin' your homies up with young women that were intelligent and ambitious (but still knew how to have fun).

I assume it keeps going as you get older with traits changing.

No need to get bent out of shape because you fell out of the loop

I wasn't simply referring to myself, in fact I specifically said people in Atlanta. You chose to single me out, as the men on BGOL generally do...so clearly this was a personal attack.

 

[xfactor]

I wasn't simply referring to myself, in fact I specifically said people in Atlanta. You chose to single me out, as the men on BGOL generally do...so clearly this was a personal attack.

And who do you think I was referring to? People in Atlanta as well.

You asked a question and I replied to it, so how was ita personal attack?

As much as you attack males on BGOL, don't try to play the victim just because I made a response to your question.

If you can dish it out, you have to learn to take it as well.

 

[femmenoire]

And who do you think I was referring to? People in Atlanta as well.

You asked a question and I replied to it, so how was ita personal attack?

As much as you attack males on BGOL, don't try to play the victim just because I made a response to your question.

If you can dish it out, you have to learn to take it as well.

"Maybe your friends and associates don't feel as if you'd be an adequate hook-up for one of their single friends "

Were you not referring to me?


My thread specified people in general. As this was a discussion with my best friend who said the same thing. I rarely single people out in a thread unless they single themselves out on their own or make feeble attempts at e-beef.

And believe me, I can take way more than I dish hon.

 

[thoughtone]

I wasn't simply referring to myself, in fact I specifically said people in Atlanta. You chose to single me out, as the men on BGOL generally do...so clearly this was a personal attack.

I’m sure most of the intelligent males on BGOL don’t single you out, per se. You are clearly the most opinionated female on BGOL and you draw most of the attention to yourself. You obviously have a dominate personality and like to be heard. This not a criticism or a bad thing, just an observation. You are bound to receive the most responses, whether you deem them positive or negative.

...and then again, I could be talking out of my arss!

 

[xfactor]

Were you not referring to me?


My thread specified people in general. As this was a discussion with my best friend who said the same thing. I rarely single people out in a thread unless they single themselves out on their own or make feeble attempts at e-beef.

And believe me, I can take way more than I dish hon.

Why would I e-beef with you?

YOU asked a general question, but then you said this -

I remember back in the day I was always being introduced to a friend of a friend for the purpose of potentially hooking up and dating.

I = personal pronoun. You were speaking in first person (singular) meaning that you were referring to yourself.


Then I answered it.

If you were speaking generally like you claimed, I would have given a general response...

 

[femmenoire]

Why would I e-beef with you?

YOU asked a general question, but then you said this -



I = personal pronoun. You were speaking in first person (singular) meaning that you were referring to yourself.


Then I answered it.

If you were speaking generally like you claimed, I would have given a general response...

I know what I stated which is why I asked the question. I simply used myself as an example but I was speaking about people in general and that is why I made mention of Atlanta because perhaps there are regional differences I may not be aware of.