What do you consider to be disrespectful in relationships?

[AlexandMorgan]

For me i guess a couple of things spring to mind. Or what do u consider to be an unspoken rule when it comes to dating and or relationships?

Going out with someone else just the two of them. I can handle outings with friends but a male friend and no invite extended to me is a problem. No problem if i know and trust your friend but otherwise hell no.

No man in our apartment/house unless he is castrated, elderly with severe arthrits in his joints and his tongue removed if i am not home.I aint spent the day at work to come home and find a man with his feet up n my home.

 

[femmenoire]

My biggest pet peeve is men who take what you told them in trust, act like they are understanding about it, and then later on throw it in your face to hurt you.

To me that's unforgivable.

Anybody that lays a hand on me is the ultimate form of disrespect and I'll be out.

Talking disrespectful to family members. It hasn't happened to me but I'd flip out if it did.

If we're on a date, I understand you looking at your phone to check to see if you need to take a call, I can even excuse one call, but don't take a series of calls or talk for the duration of the date.

Men who don't call. Alot of men don't use the phone anymore. If you don't call at least text. And I don't mean daily. Just say hi or whatever.

 

[ladyscorpio]

My biggest pet peeve is men who take what you told them in trust, act like they are understanding about it, and then later on throw it in your face to hurt you.

To me that's unforgivable.

Anybody that lays a hand on me is the ultimate form of disrespect and I'll be out.

Talking disrespectful to family members. It hasn't happened to me but I'd flip out if it did.

If we're on a date, I understand you looking at your phone to check to see if you need to take a call, I can even excuse one call, but don't take a series of calls or talk for the duration of the date.

Men who don't call. Alot of men don't use the phone anymore. If you don't call at least text. And I don't mean daily. Just say hi or whatever.

The first one Femme is right on point. Unforgivable indeed.

If you're going to be late please find a way to let me know, first of all its the polite thing to do and it lets me know that you aren't hurt in a ditch somewhere.

If something bugs you about something I may have done you NEED to talk to me about it.

 

[MissStarKitty]

My biggest pet peeve is men who take what you told them in trust, act like they are understanding about it, and then later on throw it in your face to hurt you.

To me that's unforgivable.

Anybody that lays a hand on me is the ultimate form of disrespect and I'll be out.

Talking disrespectful to family members. It hasn't happened to me but I'd flip out if it did.

If we're on a date, I understand you looking at your phone to check to see if you need to take a call, I can even excuse one call, but don't take a series of calls or talk for the duration of the date.

Men who don't call. Alot of men don't use the phone anymore. If you don't call at least text. And I don't mean daily. Just say hi or whatever.

You always on point with it..that irks the living life out of me...
I also don't like when they say they're going to do one then and turn around and do something else...

 

[femmenoire]

You always on point with it..that irks the living life out of me...
I also don't like when they say they're going to do one then and turn around and do something else...

Girlllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I absolutely cannot stand a man to say that he's going to do something and doesn't or does the total opposite. YOU ARE ON POINT WITH IT!

I barely put any stock in men that say they will do things. I go with the "I'll believe it when I see it" philosphy.

 

[Jam_Jam]

What I find disrespectful is a man that stares at other women when he is with you. I had a boyfriend who was always looking at other women. It didn't matter how ugly the women were, he was always staring. One day I gave him a taste of his own medicine. We walked into a restaurant and there were two guys sitting at the bar. They turned toward me and said hi while totally ignored him. I said hi to them and smiled. He asked me if I knew them and I said no. After we left the restaurant, I was driving and he was in the passenger seat. There were two guys on motorcycles at the stoplight next to us. I looked over and smiled at them. They smiled back and waved. He asked me if I knew them and I said no. Then we went to the store and there was a guy standing outside. He started waving at me and I waved back. My boyfriends was really pissed. He said that all he does is stare and that I smile and wave. After that day, he stopped staring and gave me his undivided attention because he didn't like the way it felt to be on the receiving end of disrespect.

 

[mcguyver]

What I find disrespectful is a man that stares at other women when he is with you. I had a boyfriend who was always looking at other women. It didn't matter how ugly the women were, he was always staring. One day I gave him a taste of his own medicine. We walked into a restaurant and there were two guys sitting at the bar. They turned toward me and said hi while totally ignored him. I said hi to them and smiled. He asked me if I knew them and I said no. After we left the restaurant, I was driving and he was in the passenger seat. There were two guys on motorcycles at the stoplight next to us. I looked over and smiled at them. They smiled back and waved. He asked me if I knew them and I said no. Then we went to the store and there was a guy standing outside. He started waving at me and I waved back. My boyfriends was really pissed. He said that all he does is stare and that I smile and wave. After that day, he stopped staring and gave me his undivided attention because he didn't like the way it felt to be on the receiving end of disrespect.

That was so disrespectful what you did. Maybe he was checking out their hair, he was probably planning to send you to a surpise trip to the salon. What if he was checking out their earrings maybe he was gonna by you a pair.

 

[HoneyDip]

i think its disrespectful when dudes stare at chicks too... i dont do it so i dont expect them to do it. i also dont like when dudes say they gonna do somethin and dont. that annoys me in relationships...

 

[Jam_Jam]

That was so disrespectful what you did. Maybe he was checking out their hair, he was probably planning to send you to a surpise trip to the salon. What if he was checking out their earrings maybe he was gonna by you a pair.

Yeah right. He lived in another state and was visting me. What I did was no more disrespectful than what he was doing. I think with him it was just a habit...but I didn't like it. I don't care who he looks at when I am not around, but when I am right there, he should be a little more respectful.

 

[DigitalAngel2007]

I hated it when guys felt the more they spent on a date the more likely they would get some later.

My pussy aint the damn stock market.

 

[femmenoire]

Yeah right. He lived in another state and was visting me. What I did was no more disrespectful than what he was doing. I think with him it was just a habit...but I didn't like it. I don't care who he looks at when I am not around, but when I am right there, he should be a little more respectful.

I know what you mean. I've met a few dudes like that. They will stop in mid conversation to stare.

I don't mind a glance. I'm going to look too. But staring, losing all concentration and forgetting who you're with is unacceptable.

 

[Jam_Jam]

Oh ok...he was fucking other people anyway. You..do know that right?

I assumed he was, but I wasn't there so I can't prove it. I don't worry about that because I can only control my actions, not his.

 

[mcguyver]

I assumed he was, but I wasn't there so I can't prove it. I don't worry about that because I can only control my actions, not his.

These are words I live by.

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Have you ever gone out on a date with someone and they met up or saw a bunch of people they knew. What happens qucikly afterwards is that you and your date end up hanging out with people u do not know and u are like a fish out of water.

I do not mind you going over and saying hi to your friends but if we are on a date i do not expect to spend the rest of the night with them.

Oh just out of curiousity when i was raised up it was with the understanding that kissing someone on the lips is an intimate act and for lovers. Do any of you ladies see it is ok for your boyfriend/husband or for you to greet friends like that?

 

[femmenoire]

Have you ever gone out on a date with someone and they met up or saw a bunch of people they knew. What happens qucikly afterwards is that you and your date end up hanging out with people u do not know and u are like a fish out of water.

I do not mind you going over and saying hi to your friends but if we are on a date i do not expect to spend the rest of the night with them.

Oh just out of curiousity when i was raised up it was with the understanding that kissing someone on the lips is an intimate act and for lovers. Do any of you ladies see it is ok for your boyfriend/husband or for you to greet friends like that?

Date crashers. I don't like it one bit.

 

[Shadow]

Men who don't call. Alot of men don't use the phone anymore. If you don't call at least text. And I don't mean daily. Just say hi or whatever.

See, now there you go.....

 

[femmenoire]

See, now there you go.....

If the shoe fits...


But seriously, I realize that if a man doesn't call he's "just not that into me".

Cuz when a dude is into you, he's calling, he's texting, he's doing whatever to get with you.

 

[mcguyver]

Women asking you to go to the store and get their feminine products. (you know what i mean)

 

[Izayoi]

I hated it when guys felt the more they spent on a date the more likely they would get some later.

My pussy aint the damn stock market.

Women asking you to go to the store and get their feminine products. (you know what i mean)

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Actually that should not be a problem because there are times when she will go out of her way for u.

Now asking you to pick up her favourites or her usual sanitary napkins in a loud voice from the other side of the store or telling you something like that in a crowd is a problem.

 

[dooley76]

Pooting in the bed.

 

[femmenoire]

Women asking you to go to the store and get their feminine products. (you know what i mean)

I rarely ask a man to do anything for me first of all unless it has to do with getting rid of a creepy crawly.

But another sign of disrespect is when a man knows you're in need, and doesn't offer assistance when you know he can. Like if you're sick and you need to pick up a prescription and can't and he's there seeing you in pain. TRUE STORY: My friend and her boyfriend ended up picking up the pain killers for me. I had all 4 of my wisdom teeth pulled and my head was hurting so bad I was delirious.

 

[Shadow]

If the shoe fits...


But seriously, I realize that if a man doesn't call he's "just not that into me".

Cuz when a dude is into you, he's calling, he's texting, he's doing whatever to get with you.

Are you applying that theory to me? If so, we have to talk because you know better.

 

[mcguyver]

I rarely ask a man to do anything for me first of all unless it has to do with getting rid of a creepy crawly.

But another sign of disrespect is when a man knows you're in need, and doesn't offer assistance when you know he can. Like if you're sick and you need to pick up a prescription and can't and he's there seeing you in pain. TRUE STORY: My friend and her boyfriend ended up picking up the pain killers for me. I had all 4 of my wisdom teeth pulled and my head was hurting so bad I was delirious.

I don't mind doing things like that.

Thats fucked up. Those kinda things don't bother me. I do for mine.

 

[femmenoire]

Are you applying that theory to me? If so, we have to talk because you know better.

I think the theory really does apply.

 

[owl]

U know, I rarely if ever post on this joint, and big ups to femme, i'm too busy these days to IM...but we talking about the shit that we find disrespectful in relationships...ain't that kinda backwards...I mean, what, we having a lesson on how far I think I can go with a woman or something? What's up with the black community when we can even have a serious discussion on what I find disrespectful..i know it happens, before one of u ignorant but "real" muphukkaz respond to me, but the sane and rational ADULT, doesn't even consider being disrespected by someone as being in a relationship, that's just a mu'phukka u was kissin' while phuckin'...



YBO

 

[femmenoire]

U know, I rarely if ever post on this joint, and big ups to femme, i'm too busy these days to IM...but we talking about the shit that we find disrespectful in relationships...ain't that kinda backwards...I mean, what, we having a lesson on how far I think I can go with a woman or something? What's up with the black community when we can even have a serious discussion on what I find disrespectful..i know it happens, before one of u ignorant but "real" muphukkaz respond to me, but the sane and rational ADULT, doesn't even consider being disrespected by someone as being in a relationship, that's just a mu'phukka u was kissin' while phuckin'...



YBO

Glad to see you on this side of the house but the truth of the matter is, men and women get involved with people and have LTR's with people who disrespect them.

 

[owl]

Glad to see you on this side of the house but the truth of the matter is, men and women get involved with people and have LTR's with people who disrespect them.

think on this though femme, and I know for a fact you're a low bullshit toleranced woman. why would anyone over the voting age, over the age to be drafted in someone's military, too old to not be careful about safe sex, be willing to even define a situation as a relationship and still be disrespected...how stupid does that sound?

YBO

 

[femmenoire]

think on this though femme, and I know for a fact you're a low bullshit toleranced woman. why would anyone over the voting age, over the age to be drafted in someone's military, too old to not be careful about safe sex, be willing to even define a situation as a relationship and still be disrespected...how stupid does that sound?

YBO

That's not the issue at hand. The issue is what one considers to be disrespectful which clearly by the responses in this post, is different for different people. That's why it is being discussed.

 

[Red_Camel]

What I find disrespectful is a man that stares at other women when he is with you. I had a boyfriend who was always looking at other women. It didn't matter how ugly the women were, he was always staring. One day I gave him a taste of his own medicine. We walked into a restaurant and there were two guys sitting at the bar. They turned toward me and said hi while totally ignored him. I said hi to them and smiled. He asked me if I knew them and I said no. After we left the restaurant, I was driving and he was in the passenger seat. There were two guys on motorcycles at the stoplight next to us. I looked over and smiled at them. They smiled back and waved. He asked me if I knew them and I said no. Then we went to the store and there was a guy standing outside. He started waving at me and I waved back. My boyfriends was really pissed. He said that all he does is stare and that I smile and wave. After that day, he stopped staring and gave me his undivided attention because he didn't like the way it felt to be on the receiving end of disrespect.

Honey, if your story is true, then I can see why he's your "boy+friend". You have a boy, you don't have a man. No dude I know with any head on his shoulders will let shit like that slide. damn. My apologies to your dude. peace

 

[owl]

That's not the issue at hand. The issue is what one considers to be disrespectful which clearly by the responses in this post, is different for different people. That's why it is being discussed.

What I find disrespectful is a man that stares at other women when he is with you. I had a boyfriend who was always looking at other women. It didn't matter how ugly the women were, he was always staring. One day I gave him a taste of his own medicine. We walked into a restaurant and there were two guys sitting at the bar. They turned toward me and said hi while totally ignored him. I said hi to them and smiled. He asked me if I knew them and I said no. After we left the restaurant, I was driving and he was in the passenger seat. There were two guys on motorcycles at the stoplight next to us. I looked over and smiled at them. They smiled back and waved. He asked me if I knew them and I said no. Then we went to the store and there was a guy standing outside. He started waving at me and I waved back. My boyfriends was really pissed. He said that all he does is stare and that I smile and wave. After that day, he stopped staring and gave me his undivided attention because he didn't like the way it felt to be on the receiving end of disrespect.
Honey, if your story is true, then I can see why he's your "boy+friend". You have a boy, you don't have a man. No dude I know with any head on his shoulders will let shit like that slide. damn. My apologies to your dude. peace

I know you got a forum to sponsor, but what jam said is my point exactly, the original poster should just post what they wanted to ask: how far is too far?

YBO

 

[kwazdog]

everything is forgivable, even unforgiving behavior. life and even pain is just a vivid illusion.

 

[cameo]

My biggest pet peeve is men who take what you told them in trust, act like they are understanding about it, and then later on throw it in your face to hurt you.

To me that's unforgivable.

Anybody that lays a hand on me is the ultimate form of disrespect and I'll be out.

Talking disrespectful to family members. It hasn't happened to me but I'd flip out if it did.

If we're on a date, I understand you looking at your phone to check to see if you need to take a call, I can even excuse one call, but don't take a series of calls or talk for the duration of the date.

Men who don't call. Alot of men don't use the phone anymore. If you don't call at least text. And I don't mean daily. Just say hi or whatever.

I guess I'm really old school, open the door ( so I can see that ass after you walk by ) , hold the seat ( hoping i get a quick feel on ya curvy ass ), but really, when you care about someone, you should act accordingly. A real man doesn't compete with his woman. To this day I don't know why I'm not married. I'm so confident in who I am, I won't care if my wife ran everything, ( within reason), my woman, ( if I had one) could always come in 1st place, when it came to dealing with me.

 

[femmenoire]

The first one Femme is right on point. Unforgivable indeed.

you women need to give me an example of this...what u mean?,...u talking about secrets, or things like revealing insecurities to your man.

Anything that one tells in trust.

I guess I'm really old school, open the door ( so I can see that ass after you walk by ) , hold the seat ( hoping i get a quick feel on ya curvy ass ), but really, when you care about someone, you should act accordingly. A real man doesn't compete with his woman. To this day I don't know why I'm not married. I'm so confident in who I am, I won't care if my wife ran everything, ( within reason), my woman, ( if I had one) could always come in 1st place, when it came to dealing with me.

That's what I like. Old school philosophies.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

Being Unfaithful.