Was Ray Rice Abused by his Wife?

[SPECTRE1]

This typifies the view of the “male” way of thinking when it comes to women and the abuse women dish out. Because of the sexist patriarchy we live in, any male who stands up and says he was abused or raped, is soft, feeble, and un-man-like. He is seen as below the example of what men are. According to this testosterone filled view of the world that is propagated in our society, men are always stronger and more violent than women. Women are soft, and men are hard. There is no way a man could be touched by a woman without him being able to defend himself or “put her in her place”.

With this overwhelming view of manhood – A man who is abused by a woman or his partner, is below a man and will be spoken to as such.

A friend of mine came home to his wife washing dishes. As soon as he said hello she yelled that dish washing was his job. He didn’t think it was that big a deal till a pan skipped off his head.He was shocked and asked why she did that. As soon as the words came out he was berated for everything in the house that was out of place or done wrong. He was pulled by his hair from one room to another. When he grabbed her hand she punched him in the stomach taking all of his air away. Before he could think, she slammed his head into the wall and kicked him in the jaw. When he woke up she was gone and he called the police.

They asked for a full description of her…when he said 5’1″ they police chuckled. When he described what happened….the police laughed and asked,”You mean you got beat up by a 5 foot girl? Yeah, we’ll put in the report. Are you doing ok honey?”

He said the “honey” part was the worst, but the laughing was just as bad.

The reality is that men know this will happen to them when they report the abuse. They know the opinion of all men around. It doesn’t matter how many martial arts belt the woman has, or how evil she appears to be….he will still be seen as getting beat up by a girl. Rape is even worse, because the general view of that is a man is always willing to have sex and someone who complains about having sex is obvious not a man.

So…yes, Men do get abused. No, it’s not as much as women…but the reality is that we don’t truly know what the numbers really are.

How many men will say they are verbally abused, physically abused, etc? Not many, even if they are.

Ray Rice slapping his wife could be similar to a wife killing her husband with a knife after years of physical and mental abuse. This person than claims "Battered-Women' Defense to be acquitted of murder.

Without the proper context and background, this tape could give the wrong impression. She did lunge at him and caused him to react, fearing that she could have scratched him. Many of her injuries could have come from the metal pole and not his slap. The only way to determine the appropriate punishment is to look at the background of their relationship. Was this the first time he hit his wife? Did he fear injury or death from her when she came at him? There are some psychopathic women abusing men and attempt to dominate a relationship through mental and physical abuse.


Look at the number of stories of women killing their husband, after claims of mental and physical abuse. Men, after suffering years of physical and mental abuse lash out. What kind of women spits on her man and father of her child like that? He chose the wrong women and he is paying the price.

Murder Suicide of a Pro-football player


The NFL rushed to judgment because of media pressure.

 

[thoughtone]

Most "men" are immature children.

That's a fact!

On average more than three women a day are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in the United States.

http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv08.pdf

 

[SPECTRE1]

I think he was beat the fuck up and mentally abused by his wife. He was battered and lashed out after being unable to take it anymore.

These women don't care, he will be in the bathroom and she will unload with some bullets at him. Plus they are in Maryland, she is hanging out with other Maryland women picking up their behavior.

 

[thoughtone]

I think he was beat the fuck up and mentally abused by his wife. He was battered and lashed out after being unable to take it anymore.

These women don't care, he will be in the bathroom and she will unload with some bullets at him. Plus they are in Maryland, she is hanging out with other Maryland women picking up their behavior.

You're ridiculous!

 

[Gods_Debris]

What in the furry blue hell? Is my g tryna FABRICATE a defense for Ray Rice? I thought he was going to "rock bottom" her ass the way he kicked her while she was lying between the open elevator doors

 

[marcvoi]

Frankly they said she split at him, whatever strategy to hold her shake her or call security going back home file for divorce I'd stay at a hotel hire a lawyer and security to take my shirt out the home and ill fight to keep the home. Use the tape as evidence. Spitting at your husband or vice versa in life that's crazy disrespect ....uncontrollable disrespect.
By punching her like this makes me think of steroid use ? He didn't need to take it there adam.

 

[thoughtone]

 

[Daddy43205]

cant put your hands on a females no matter what they do

 

[SPECTRE1]

cant put your hands on a females no matter what they do

How are women stabbing their husband 30 times or emptying a gun while he is shaving allowable after claims of abuse? A man may simply strike a women after being abused.

There are some women like this out there, that are vicious. Don't let their small size fool you. A pit-bull weighs less but can kill you.

 

[c_commander]

Most "men" are immature children.

That's a fact!



http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv08.pdf

Stats also say that there is a lot of domestic violence in lesbian relationships. More than the amount of violence in heterosexual relationships.

 

[Naha-Nago]

Yep.

* two cents *

 

[thundercat]

Most "men" are immature children.

That's a fact!



http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv08.pdf

You really think abuse comes down to your level of maturity? There are plenty of anger management needing, insecure, frustrated people who are mature. It's comes down to practicing self control. And lets be clear about one thing, there are just as many abusive women as there are men.....the majority of men don't report it because of the stigma associated with it(weakness). Most police don't even take you seriously when you do...unless you're cut or injured.

 

[thoughtone]

You really think abuse comes down to your level of maturity? There are plenty of anger management needing, insecure, frustrated people who are mature. It's comes down to practicing self control. And lets be clear about one thing, there are just as many abusive women as there are men.....the majority of men don't report it because of the stigma associated with it(weakness). Most police don't even take you seriously when you do...unless you're cut or injured.

It comes down to that you think that alleged abuse by females of males is anywhere near the problem of male abuse of females.

 

[SPECTRE1]

I don't like employers getting involved in our personal affairs. It is privatizing our judicial system, and fascist by having the corporate state decide our fate rather than the government. I don't think the media should cover something like this until the person is convicted.

It can be abused for discriminatory reasons. You have a black quarterback that is performing and you want a white one to increase the 'suburban' fan base, you start digging around in their background for something to invalidate their $100 million dollar contract that you had to give.

 

[Gods_Debris]

I don't like employers getting involved in our personal affairs. It is privatizing our judicial system, and fascist by having the corporate state decide our fate rather than the government. I don't think the media should cover something like this until the person is convicted.

It can be abused for discriminatory reasons. You have a black quarterback that is performing and you want a white one to increase the 'suburban' fan base, you start digging around in their background for something to invalidate their $100 million dollar contract that you had to give.

Now see, this is a reasonable level-headed comment. That other shit you were on was... anyway I don't think he "beat" her per se. In the video looks more like he smacked/smooshed/slammed her head into that railing in the elevator. Todd Kincannon may be a troll if not an outright sociopath