Yeah, I think we are socially engineered to be separate. But I think we are at fault for accepting it. A couple of points in history we've been on a come up and got smacked down and set back generations. So yeah, that is a form of social engineering.
The thing is, black women have always been able to find work or some way to provide. While black men haven't and that's a detriment to the black family right there, because that's not the way it's supposed to be. That's alienation of the black man from his own family. Society tells you a man that can't provide for his family is not a man. If a white man fucks up, "He's young, we'll give him a pass", if a black man fucks up, it's a wrap. It's like the GZA said "It's like playing a deadly video game with one man."
The show had some serious flaws, but it was honest. That part where dude couldn't find a job moved me. 1) Because they put those fucked up statistics in there (a black man with no convictions is on the level of a white felon) 2) This kat stuck with his family. 3) I got a cousin like that and his wife gives him shit on the regular and I know they left that out of the show.
We can break the cycle, but it has to be a conscious and unconscious decision. Both the black man and black woman have to make it together.