Ive been trying my best to get wifey to workout and lose some weight. Shes constantly complaining bout the way she looks and how clothes dont fit, Ive tried everything in the book including invitations to losing the weight together but that lasted 3 days. And now that ive lost weight i feel a lil bit of "hate" coming my way. I just need some honest advice on how to get her started. any kind of feed back is cool. im all eyes
To my sistas. What motivates you to workout/lose weight.
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Nothing. Before my medical issues i worked out all the time. Because i liked it. It relieved stress for ME. But now, i don't feel a need too. I just don't care. If she's complaining about it there's nothing you can do but be there for her. You can't push her. It's got to be done of her own volition. Women usually gain weight and keep it there because of other issues. She doesn't feel good about herself and nothing is going to change it until she decides to change it. You're not going to get her to decide it. You can tell her how you feel. And say since...she's your wife you tell her how you love her for far more than her looks.
But you also do not want to hear anything about her weight and how she is. How she feels about herself if she doesn't want to do anything about it, because it makes you feel bad too. And that's just selfihs on her part. lol
But you also do not want to hear anything about her weight and how she is. How she feels about herself if she doesn't want to do anything about it, because it makes you feel bad too. And that's just selfihs on her part. lol
Selfish. Exactly. Lmao. Thanks. I just wish there was more I can do. This is a road I looked forward to taking especially with her. Thanks again.
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I agree there isnt much you can do at this point cuz it looks like you have already tried everything ... if working out along side you doesnt motivate her then damn all you can do is keep up your own fitness and health and let her do her
If it was someone I didn't care about easily done.....maybe not. But I can't especially when you have kids. Your health is now for them More so yourself. We both put the weight on together it was like crabs in a barrel and then I got tired, frustrated and mad as fuc. Hoping shell follow suit. Well see. Ill never give up. Just needed maybe to come at her from every angle.
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LoneStar29
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you can't make her or motivate her to workout... people who lose weight do it because they want to no matter what they say... the motivation she is going to need comes from within her and until she has that there is nothing you can do or say that will motivate her. you took it upon yourself to do and the same will happen with her when she wants it to happen if she wants it to happen.
the only thing you can do is be supportive of her when she decides to do it.
I feel ya man. But when u and a buddy go out drinking and he gets drunk do you walk off and say he'll come around or do you offer to take em home or buy them a coffee. Sometimes people can be they're own downfall and not know it. I know it's totally up to her but I'm in no way looking to give up just looking for as many ways possible that "I" can add. Thanks again. I see ya feedback all over doggish you give good advice. She ain't hit rock bottom I don't want her to.
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Only thing you can do is be supportive in a positive way. Tell her you want to go for a walk in the evenings to discuss you day and get some fresh air.
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I liked if too. Did that so I can scratch that one off the list. Right now I feel the only way to get through is to never stop. Thanks.
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how competitive is she??? you can tell her you want to enter the couples mud run in the spring/summer and you two need to begin training for the event.
Your situation is a bit different from mine but the one thing that has motivated me to lose weight/workout has been a bet with my friends . We have a monthly weigh-in and that keeps me on my toes .So I hit the gym daily and have been eating mainly a vegan diet .So maybe if her female friends were to encourage her she would become more focused on her health . Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
None at all. That's prob won of the things that scare me you know. I've gone down that road where all you do is eat, sleep and shit. I know the consequences all too well and that's why "I" decided to change and all I get from her side is a little snappy comments that might sound like hate and a few that are positive. She seems not to be motivated by anything, a few of my friends say lol, it's gonna take another woman to push her. Idk? This is why I showed her and others if I can do it so can they. I'm trying, if she's hungry and I'm on the road ill suggest a salad, get it come and it sits their going to waste and then she's mad at me. When I had my dogs I'd suggest a family walk smh, that turned into a big deal of how tired she'd be b4 even trying. Keep em coming I'm never gonna give up thanks again guys.
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getting another woman is not going to affect her... you bounce i can almost guarantee there will be a line of dudes waiting to replace you. woman of all shapes sizes and colors have no issue finding a man that will give them what they want whether it be money love dick or a combination of the three. so again until she finds that will and want deep down inside of her nothing will change.
as i said the only thing you can do is continue to support her. next time you go to your doctor for your checkup come home and say "you know the doctor told me today by losing only 5lbs i reduced my chances of diabetes by 80%" that is a true statistic too dont quote me on the exact percent though you would have to look that up.
Lmao. Not like that or that sense. More like a friend encouragingly helping her. I already kno
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