Three Continents

[Lick]

I will be 55 later this month, my son is in school in London, my daughter is doing her last year and will so go to Stanford and now when I was looking forward to walking around the house naked with my wife and enjoying life the way we do, she is now in Africa helping her ageing parents and will be there until Nov. I am missing sex, the love making but more so her. Her loving me and like wise. We now use emails Skype to commutate and see each other but that ain’t helping me in any way.

So my question is, would you allow your spouse to have a sexual release every now and then until you were able to be together again?

I'm sure I'll get the nut cases but I am looking for some type of answers before I talk to my wife about it. I'm looking for that female voice. Other wise I could have posted this on the main board with all of the dumb and underage shit that is there.

Lastly, I am in love with my wife. We sometimes open our love for some play with the female that she likes but it is her that I love and I would prefer her to be here with me or me there.

 

[Mo-Better]

Seriously did you say allow? Are you wondering if she would give you her approval for you to have sex? Is she that open minded? Are you that open minded? Would you give your wife permission to have sex with someone else?

Seriously being apart from a loved one is a strain on any relationship. I know that colleague at work starts looking very tempting, resist that temptation. You really don't want to head down that street, its a dead end.

But to answer your question, the only way I would permit my wife to have sex with someone else is if I no longer cared.

 

[Izayoi]

What you wrote about missing her was really sweet.
Is November really that far away? I know masturbation gets lonely but if you have any ANY doubts that she would not be ok with this (even the suggestion of this) don't do it.
You will explain the situation to her as best you can, but she might hear "wtf you can't wait for me and all you thinking about is sex while I'm over here in Africa being a good daughter?" Caring for parents is stressful. Missing you is stressful. Being away from her home with you is stressful. The last thing you want is for her to feel like she is stressed and sacrificing and you are living it up and getting ass on the side. That kind of resentment really sticks with a woman because women often feel like they give so much of themselves as sisters, mothers, wives, daughters etc.

Has she ever intimated she doesn't mind you having another female partner when she is NOT present? It might be ok to bring up then, but only you know for sure. Sticky situation.

I wish you well.

 

[Lick]

What you wrote about missing her was really sweet.
Is November really that far away? I know masturbation gets lonely but if you have any ANY doubts that she would not be ok with this (even the suggestion of this) don't do it.
You will explain the situation to her as best you can, but she might hear "wtf you can't wait for me and all you thinking about is sex while I'm over here in Africa being a good daughter?" Caring for parents is stressful. Missing you is stressful. Being away from her home with you is stressful. The last thing you want is for her to feel like she is stressed and sacrificing and you are living it up and getting ass on the side. That kind of resentment really sticks with a woman because women often feel like they give so much of themselves as sisters, mothers, wives, daughters etc.

Has she ever intimated she doesn't mind you having another female partner when she is NOT present? It might be ok to bring up then, but only you know for sure. Sticky situation.

I wish you well.

Well... we have rules and one of them is no sex without her or her there. You made a very good point. However, I know or have an idea what she is dealing with. I send about $25.00 per day on Skype talking to her on her cell. We tried Skype ot Skype but the backbone to the internet there is very poor. I have a contact there that is working on a Fiber Optic Backbone but that won't be up until Nov or Dec.

At risk of this sounding worst that it is... I am not looking for a booty call just a little head job once or twice... Just something to remove the edge. I'm not looking for understanding but more or less the female way of thinking. My number one goal is her feelings. I have funded everything. My son in school, my daughter needs and my Wife. The cost to get there, shipment of dry goods, school supplies for my mother in law’s school and random items that is cheap here but costly there and all of her family asking her to take things there. I shipped it all not one person offered any help of any kind.

So I'm thinking of me right but with her in mind.

 

[Lick]

Seriously did you say allow? Are you wondering if she would give you her approval for you to have sex? Is she that open minded? Are you that open minded? Would you give your wife permission to have sex with someone else?

Seriously being apart from a loved one is a strain on any relationship. I know that colleague at work starts looking very tempting, resist that temptation. You really don't want to head down that street, its a dead end.

But to answer your question, the only way I would permit my wife to have sex with someone else is if I no longer cared.

Yeah Bruh I did say allow. I posted this in this forum because I know what dudes have to say. And the fact that I am asking ladies from this board and not the women I know should suggest that I am looking to hear ideas from people that are a bit more open sexually. Our marriage is not an open one. However, every now and then my Wife and I will have a three-way of her choosing. I don’t know anyone else that is Black, in America and has this life style so I came here.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Yeah Bruh I did say allow. I posted this in this forum because I know what dudes have to say. And the fact that I am asking ladies from this board and not the women I know should suggest that I am looking to hear ideas from people that are a bit more open sexually. Our marriage is not an open one. However, every now and then my Wife and I will have a three-way of her choosing. I don’t know anyone else that is Black, in America and has this life style so I came here.

Lots of us out there broski. Just gotta know where to look. And i say go for it. If she allows you then do it with some chick. Are you willing to allow her? If you are and can handle it. Like a grown up instead of a insecure child, handle it. I'd have no problems with my husband doing it. I'd encourage it. But then i also believe sex is a energetic balancing act as well. People need it. Human beings need it.

So if you can go and do it without being silly about it? Please do.

 

[Lick]

Lots of us out there broski. Just gotta know where to look. And i say go for it. If she allows you then do it with some chick. Are you willing to allow her? If you are and can handle it. Like a grown up instead of a insecure child, handle it. I'd have no problems with my husband doing it. I'd encourage it. But then i also believe sex is a energetic balancing act as well. People need it. Human beings need it.

So if you can go and do it without being silly about it? Please do.

Thanks. As far as acting like an adult then I’m not bad. She have had sex outside our marriage and I have not. When I found out about her infidelity, we talked about it. I listen to everything she had to say and then I reminded her that she was the mother of our kids and no other female. She is the one I’m in love with and the one I want in my life until it ends. I forgave her… we were not virgins when we met so her having sex with another guy is not something I like yet it is not a deal breaker for me.

Before her I was a whore and when we met I was seeing five other women that I was intimate with. So our relationship is not like anyone I know. She started the three-way thing and being the freak that I am it is a cool think that we enjoy.

I cannot stress enough that I love her and her feelings are important to me. I’m looking for some sort of barometer before I bring up the subject.

 

[Izayoi]

Well... we have rules and one of them is no sex without her or her there. You made a very good point. However, I know or have an idea what she is dealing with. I send about $25.00 per day on Skype talking to her on her cell. We tried Skype ot Skype but the backbone to the internet there is very poor. I have a contact there that is working on a Fiber Optic Backbone but that won't be up until Nov or Dec.

At risk of this sounding worst that it is... I am not looking for a booty call just a little head job once or twice... Just something to remove the edge. I'm not looking for understanding but more or less the female way of thinking. My number one goal is her feelings. I have funded everything. My son in school, my daughter needs and my Wife. The cost to get there, shipment of dry goods, school supplies for my mother in law’s school and random items that is cheap here but costly there and all of her family asking her to take things there. I shipped it all not one person offered any help of any kind.

So I'm thinking of me right but with her in mind.

It sounds like you are the one that has sacrificed a lot and wants to take just this bit of pleasure for yourself.
If it means that much to you perhaps consider framing it that way. You know her better than anyone.

 

[Rossini]

what she dont know wont hurt her. yo ass 55, you bout to die soon, get out there an have some fun

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Thanks. As far as acting like an adult then I’m not bad. She have had sex outside our marriage and I have not. When I found out about her infidelity, we talked about it. I listen to everything she had to say and then I reminded her that she was the mother of our kids and no other female. She is the one I’m in love with and the one I want in my life until it ends. I forgave her… we were not virgins when we met so her having sex with another guy is not something I like yet it is not a deal breaker for me.

Before her I was a whore and when we met I was seeing five other women that I was intimate with. So our relationship is not like anyone I know. She started the three-way thing and being the freak that I am it is a cool think that we enjoy.

I cannot stress enough that I love her and her feelings are important to me. I’m looking for some sort of barometer before I bring up the subject.

Lots of older couples get into it because basically its....well we've done everything we've can with each other.......and it's so ESTABLISHED. My husband didn't mind me going out and being with women. He knew where my heart was. He knew above all else i'm dutiful. He knew above all else i would not put the family at risk.

There was trust. Do you believe these things about your wife?

 

[Lick]

Lots of older couples get into it because basically its....well we've done everything we've can with each other.......and it's so ESTABLISHED. My husband didn't mind me going out and being with women. He knew where my heart was. He knew above all else i'm dutiful. He knew above all else i would not put the family at risk.

There was trust. Do you believe these things about your wife?

In a word... yes.

 

[Lick]

what she dont know wont hurt her. yo ass 55, you bout to die soon, get out there an have some fun

If I have it my way I will out live you by many years However, we never know when we are going to go so I do everything I can for my love ones and myself to enjoy the time we have.

But not that Bruh. I don't have any secrets from my wife and as far as I now neither does she. We know all passwords to all accounts and the past is the past.

 

[Mo-Better]

Yeah Bruh I did say allow. I posted this in this forum because I know what dudes have to say. And the fact that I am asking ladies from this board and not the women I know should suggest that I am looking to hear ideas from people that are a bit more open sexually. Our marriage is not an open one. However, every now and then my Wife and I will have a three-way of her choosing. I don’t know anyone else that is Black, in America and has this life style so I came here.

Really? That is intriguing....behave Mo.

Wow then maybe "just maybe" she might be receptive to the idea but Izzy's response I feel is very real. She may look at this as a selfish act on your part.

If you elect to do this "secretly" make sure the other party knows there's no chance of a relationship. You wouldn't want them showing up for Thanksgiving dinner.

Still there's so many negatives that can arise from this question I can't cosign on the idea. I don't think I would bring this question up. I would just do it. Downside to that of course is living with your decision.

Good Luck.

 

[Rossini]

If I have it my way I will out live you by many years However, we never know when we are going to go so I do everything I can for my love ones and myself to enjoy the time we have.

But not that Bruh. I don't have any secrets from my wife and as far as I now neither does she. We know all passwords to all accounts and the past is the past.

them africans tearin her ass up over in africa

 

[Lick]

It sounds like you are the one that has sacrificed a lot and wants to take just this bit of pleasure for yourself.
If it means that much to you perhaps consider framing it that way. You know her better than anyone.

Yeah a bit. I spoil her and I love doing it. The time of her infidelity was when money was tight and I was working a job and building my business. She does not work now but when she did her money was hers and she spend it on what she wanted. No sacrificed on my end. I do what I do and that part of me will never change

You are right… I know her better that her brother and she share a lot with her and I know this because he talks too much. I’ll think about it and figure what I will say and when.

 

[Lick]

them africans tearin her ass up over in africa

What Country in Africa? What reigon of Africa? East, West, Central, North or South Africa???

 

[Lick]

Really? That is intriguing....behave Mo.

Wow then maybe "just maybe" she might be receptive to the idea but Izzy's response I feel is very real. She may look at this as a selfish act on your part.

If you elect to do this "secretly" make sure the other party knows there's no chance of a relationship. You wouldn't want them showing up for Thanksgiving dinner.

Still there's so many negatives that can arise from this question I can't cosign on the idea. I don't think I would bring this question up. I would just do it. Downside to that of course is living with your decision.

Good Luck.

The only negative I see is our separation from each other. Whatever she will have to say I will not do anything behind her back. Trust takes time to build and we learned that lesson very well some time ago.

This thing is we talked about us retiring in West Africa somewhere, taking on a wife or two. We don’t look our age and I’m only three years older. We are not on any meds and for the most part we are in great shape. We both believe that I’m like the men in my blood line… fucking until death. This way we can live openly with everyone that know us will then know I have more that one wife and what happens in our bed is their imagination and not ours.

I feel the same about Izzy's response. She gave me what I was looking for.

The thing is this is how I'm feeling now... it may pass. I email, send love cards and call each day. This is not easy on ether of us.

 

[Rossini]

What Country in Africa? What reigon of Africa? East, West, Central, North or South Africa???

where ever the hell she at

 

[Lick]

where ever the hell she at

Okay Bruh…

You remind me of a day when my Wife and I was working out at a park and this dude was staring at her ass then looked at me to get a reaction. The next day she did not come with me and when I was cooling down dude came to me and said “that is a bad ass chick you work out with… man I’ll wear that shit out”. So I laugh as I got into my truck and said, I live your fantasy and you only live a fantasy. I see dude every time I go there but he does not say much.

Bruh Rossini, I know you are trying to get a rise out of me and the facts are even if what you said was true, it is my life and if it was yours you would be deeply upset. I wish you well Bruh. I wish you well.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Okay Bruh…

You remind me of a day when my Wife and I was working out at a park and this dude was staring at her ass then looked at me to get a reaction. The next day she did not come with me and when I was cooling down dude came to me and said “that is a bad ass chick you work out with… man I’ll wear that shit out”. So I laugh as I got into my truck and said, I live your fantasy and you only live a fantasy. I see dude every time I go there but he does not say much.

Bruh Rossini, I know you are trying to get a rise out of me and the facts are even if what you said was true, it is my life and if it was yours you would be deeply upset. I wish you well Bruh. I wish you well.

GrownAssManResponse.Com

 

[Rossini]

GrownAssManResponse.Com

you lucky we over here in sol

 

[Lick]

No I'n not luck Bruh. I came here because I wanted a female point of view from females. If I wanted clown shit or to have a post with a lot of replies I know where I could have post it.

 

[Rossini]

No I'n not luck Bruh. I came here because I wanted a female point of view from females. If I wanted clown shit or to have a post with a lot of replies I know where I could have post it.

im not talkin about you, talkin to legacy infinity.

edit: ay nigga you betta calm that shit down

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

you lucky we over here in sol

 

[Rossini]

 

[Mo-Better]

The only negative I see is our separation from each other. Whatever she will have to say I will not do anything behind her back. Trust takes time to build and we learned that lesson very well some time ago.

This thing is we talked about us retiring in West Africa somewhere, taking on a wife or two. We don’t look our age and I’m only three years older. We are not on any meds and for the most part we are in great shape. We both believe that I’m like the men in my blood line… fucking until death. This way we can live openly with everyone that know us will then know I have more that one wife and what happens in our bed is their imagination and not ours.

I feel the same about Izzy's response. She gave me what I was looking for.

The thing is this is how I'm feeling now... it may pass. I email, send love cards and call each day. This is not easy on ether of us.

Seems you have an exceptional woman and a very special relationship. But I can tell you this, I had woman who told me it would be OK to date other women. I didn't take her up on the offer but she later confessed she hoped I wouldn't. They may say it but they really won't mean it. That said I wouldn't ask, tough it out.

 

[Lick]

Seems you have an exceptional woman and a very special relationship. But I can tell you this, I had woman who told me it would be OK to date other women. I didn't take her up on the offer but she later confessed she hoped I wouldn't. They may say it but they really won't mean it. That said I wouldn't ask, tough it out.

Yeah… I was thinking about that. However, she did say a few days back that she wished I was there and that she needed me more than she ever thought she would. I’m not worried about her with some other guy and if she did I know I would have to deal with the looser when I go there. She would have to deal with everyone knowing what she did and that would not be something she would want to go through. Family and friends there would not like that and they would be quick to tell me the World. Some to try to get with me and some just to run their mouth. It’s like a small town.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

 

[melonpecan]

Skype, dude.


November will be here shortly...

 

[Lick]

Skype, dude.


November will be here shortly...

So have you ever Skyped anyone that does not have broadband? SMS Texting works sometime. Easy for you to say. Thanks.

 

[followup]

e-mails, phone sex, skype, sexting...too many options to hold her over for you to be allowing her (LOL) to sex someone else

 

[Lick]

e-mails, phone sex, skype, sexting...too many options to hold her over for you to be allowing her (LOL) to sex someone else

Well... Been doing a lot of & but I'll take in what you said...

 

[melonpecan]

So have you ever Skyped anyone that does not have broadband? SMS Texting works sometime. Easy for you to say. Thanks.

There's a lot you can do if that doesn't work.

It's September now...you only got this month and next month. And you're a member on a PORN BOARD. If you can hold out this long, two months shouldn't mean shit. That's like saving money for that 60 inch LED tv and seeing a sale going "Well, I can get that 60 inch in two months...but I'll take this 27 inch now. It's cheap so when it breaks in a year I'll have more money"

 

[largebillsonlyplease]

try tantric sex
work on your mind

 

[GET YOU HOT]

Well... Been doing a lot of & but I'll take in what you said...

Good for you