These athletes never fucking learn.

[Temujin]

It's not marriage that's the problem idiot, it's his age. 19 year olds are just learning how to tie their damn shoes and don't know shit about life and what the hell makes you think she's such a good woman. Obviously baby daddy didn't think so.

You sound like you chew rocks. This dude making 2-3million a year but can't tie his shoes? He don't know shit about life but already more successful than your ass giving him advice on the sidelines. GTFOH

 

[tallblacknyc]

Do I believe a black man has the ability to be a good husband at 19. Yes. Period. If my son came to me and 19 and wanted to get married I would talk to him and support him. Whether it works out good or bad I respect the balls it takes to get married and to try to be a good husband. Thath's the type of courage we should respect and honor in the black community. We got to get out of this mentality that we can't be good men because we are men. That's not being a steward of our communities. We aren't being fathers if we aren't being husbands.

I support black community and black community starts with black family. The reason marriage is down is because of these exact attitudes. If at 25 he want to fuck something else he an his wife can work that out. But building a family is worth way more than fucking random hoes and the community should support that. Instead we cheer dudes going hoe to hoe but them dudes ain't happy going hoe to hoe at 70. An old lonely playa is a horrible site to see. We should support youngins doing the right thing.

You can be a good man by being a smart man.. not acting on impulse and really thinking about your actions.. what is the rush to get married when you aren’t even ole enough to legally drink yet.. only knowing a chick within a yr.. you haven’t even fully been through shit yet to make “life changing “ decisions.. what do you really know about a person within a yr? What do they know about you? What is she able to bring to the table if you weren’t a 6-7 fig man? Does she help grow your money, decrease your money, or keep it the same? Are you ready to have to take care of a child that you didn’t create? People change during the seasons , physically/ chemically.. you need to go through 4 summers 2 apart and 2 living together to see if you ready for this.. summer is temptation season, lot of asses in dresses in heat , let’s see if you can contain yourself and not fall for it b4 you completely commit, or do you need to release some steam first b4 you settle down… same on her part let’s see how she moves during the season

 

[4 Dimensional]

Do I believe a black man has the ability to be a good husband at 19. Yes. Period. If my son came to me and 19 and wanted to get married I would talk to him and support him. Whether it works out good or bad I respect the balls it takes to get married and to try to be a good husband. Thath's the type of courage we should respect and honor in the black community. We got to get out of this mentality that we can't be good men because we are men. That's not being a steward of our communities. We aren't being fathers if we aren't being husbands.

I support black community and black community starts with black family. The reason marriage is down is because of these exact attitudes. If at 25 he want to fuck something else he an his wife can work that out. But building a family is worth way more than fucking random hoes and the community should support that. Instead we cheer dudes going hoe to hoe but them dudes ain't happy going hoe to hoe at 70. An old lonely playa is a horrible site to see. We should support youngins doing the right thing.

Marriage is down for a lot more reason than that. However, I do respect your perspective.

If marriage wasn’t such a legal trap, then I might would’ve agreed with you more.

But educating 18-21 year olds regularly, these are emerging adults that’s still finding themselves. So for me, it’s less about ho’ing around, but more about establishing identity. That’s one of the biggest struggles I see in that age group.

 

[keith6]

He couldn't find one with lower mileage? No new car smell? The warranty is expired! Rotors are warped!

 

[4 Dimensional]

You can be a good man by being a smart man.. not acting on impulse and really thinking about your actions.. what is the rush to get married when you aren’t even ole enough to legally drink yet.. only knowing a chick within a yr.. you haven’t even fully been through shit yet to make “life changing “ decisions.. what do you really know about a person within a yr? What do they know about you? What is she able to bring to the table if you weren’t a 6-7 fig man? Does she help grow your money, decrease your money, or keep it the same? Are you ready to have to take care of a child that you didn’t create? People change during the seasons , physically/ chemically.. you need to go through 4 summers 2 apart and 2 living together to see if you ready for this.. summer is temptation season, lot of asses in dresses in heat , let’s see if you can contain yourself and not fall for it b4 you completely commit, or do you need to release some steam first b4 you settle down… same on her part let’s see how she moves during the season

And to be fair, a lot of adults still struggle with these questions, but 19 is mad different. It’s the void age we use for experimenting in life. Instead, he decides to get engaged at 19. She already 25 and got a kid, so her life experience is already miles ahead of him. Nothing wrong with that, but young bruh has many lessons ahead of him while still in college.

 

[RUDY RAYYY MO]

With the NIL bread expect to see more of this now

 

[Famous1]

You sound like you chew rocks. This dude making 2-3million a year but can't tie his shoes? He don't know shit about life but already more successful than your ass giving him advice on the sidelines. GTFOH

Let go dummy.... I was speaking metaphorically.
Look.. I'll just put you on ignore before I get a headache. Dumb people tend to raise my blood pressure and cause my head to hurt so I'm going to nip this in the bud. Be well little (man ? )

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

This is just stupid

Where is he from?

 

[Temujin]

Bro, if you get married to lock down pussy, then you already lost! You get married to build with someone and grow with, her being excusively your is a residual effect of her respecting you, not the primary reason why you guys are married. But folks who think they can lock up pussy are the first ones losing their mind when they find out they haven't.

Well the act of getting married is literally that but here are some other good reasons to get married.

Married men make more money.
Married men have less stress.
Married men live longer.
Married men are healthier.

And the longer you are married the better the advantages.

 

[Temujin]

Let go dummy.... I was speaking metaphorically.
Look.. I'll just put you on ignore before I get a headache. Dumb people tend to raise my blood pressure and cause my head to hurt so I'm going to nip this in the bud. Be well little (man ? )

LOL we don't want your blood pressure raised chewing rocks is hard enough. LOL

 

[Temujin]

One of those lessons could be marriage. When men marry young even if they get divorced they are more likely to get married again. Let's stop using money as an excuse to not create a family. That's what I respect about the brothers decision wayyyy more than any perceived risk to his financial situation. Marriage is not a legal trap. Good legal representation will handle the financial risk for him and I guarantee he is more financially stable and responsible having a wife. Learning how to be in a relationship and be married is one of the lessons of life that I wish young black men didn't run from. Our generation has to do better at making the positives of marriage and a family outshine the dog life. If you talk to a child thinking about getting married and starting a family I would never discourage that.

Marriage is down for a lot more reason than that. However, I do respect your perspective.

If marriage wasn’t such a legal trap, then I might would’ve agreed with you more.

But educating 18-21 year olds regularly, these are emerging adults that’s still finding themselves. So for me, it’s less about ho’ing around, but more about establishing identity. That’s one of the biggest struggles I see in that age group.

 

[Temujin]

You can be a good man by being a smart man.. not acting on impulse and really thinking about your actions.. what is the rush to get married when you aren’t even ole enough to legally drink yet.. only knowing a chick within a yr.. you haven’t even fully been through shit yet to make “life changing “ decisions.. what do you really know about a person within a yr? What do they know about you? What is she able to bring to the table if you weren’t a 6-7 fig man? Does she help grow your money, decrease your money, or keep it the same? Are you ready to have to take care of a child that you didn’t create? People change during the seasons , physically/ chemically.. you need to go through 4 summers 2 apart and 2 living together to see if you ready for this.. summer is temptation season, lot of asses in dresses in heat , let’s see if you can contain yourself and not fall for it b4 you completely commit, or do you need to release some steam first b4 you settle down… same on her part let’s see how she moves during the season

Bro you can't second guess or micromanage another mans decisions about his wife or his dick. That's law. He 19 he can go to war he can vote he can go to jail and he can get married. He is fully responsible adult under the eyes of the law and society. There is no inherent risk to marriage. NONE. From all statistical data married men live better lives than single men. We talk about the importance of fathers. We talk about the importance of family. We talk about the importance of community. Then we tell our young men to wait to get married? When we have an epidemic of 40 year old baby daddies still fucking everything in sight while this dude God willing will be 40 watching his kid graduate high school. Still young enough to really raise his kids. That's gold worth more than money.

If we gonna be what we talk about we got to stop with this marriage bashing to the younger generation. It don't help them in any way. For every dude you can name who had a bad experience I can name 5 who got married and changed their life.

 

[4 Dimensional]

One of those lessons could be marriage. When men marry young even if they get divorced they are more likely to get married again. Let's stop using money as an excuse to not create a family. That's what I respect about the brothers decision wayyyy more than any perceived risk to his financial situation. Marriage is not a legal trap. Good legal representation will handle the financial risk for him and I guarantee he is more financially stable and responsible having a wife. Learning how to be in a relationship and be married is one of the lessons of life that I wish young black men didn't run from. Our generation has to do better at making the positives of marriage and a family outshine the dog life. If you talk to a child thinking about getting married and starting a family I would never discourage that.

I see what you’re saying. And I don’t disagree with some points about creating family. However, I wouldn’t encourage marriage at 19. Not in this current society.

 

[bgbtylvr]

They’re athletes not scholars. The problem is few cacs get caught up like we do. It’s a few cacs per year across all leagues but it’ll be dozens of us per league knocking up hoes and marrying thots.

 

[YoungSinister]

That niggas a plate

 

[Chiyo]

She's light, bright, and damn near white.


What you expect the Bama to do? He has enough NIL cash(along with a future NFL contract) to waste on her and the previous kid before he gets tired and replaces her. Hes playing it right long as he dont seed her up.

He can have his fun with her now, replace her in 2 years, and be better off for it before he even gets a big contract if he is any good at the next level. No kids means she wont get anything after either.

 

[tallblacknyc]

Bro you can't second guess or micromanage another mans decisions about his wife or his dick. That's law. He 19 he can go to war he can vote he can go to jail and he can get married. He is fully responsible adult under the eyes of the law and society. There is no inherent risk to marriage. NONE. From all statistical data married men live better lives than single men. We talk about the importance of fathers. We talk about the importance of family. We talk about the importance of community. Then we tell our young men to wait to get married? When we have an epidemic of 40 year old baby daddies still fucking everything in sight while this dude God willing will be 40 watching his kid graduate high school. Still young enough to really raise his kids. That's gold worth more than money.

If we gonna be what we talk about we got to stop with this marriage bashing to the younger generation. It don't help them in any way. For every dude you can name who had a bad experience I can name 5 who got married and changed their life.

Do pilots get to fly passengers on their first day of training? How about train conductors? It’s a process right? Lots of training, lots of practice, lots of guidelines, you wouldn’t give a top gun mission to a young wet behind ear rookie, you give it to the best of the best.. they don’t let fresh out of high school kids in the nfl cause it’s a process to get into the league and they tell them they need a bare minimum of 2-3 yrs of college or other experience to get in.. so if it’s a process to do certain duties such as certain careers that can change your life, why wouldn’t you go through a thorough process on a big decision that will change your life.. it’s funny how people will accept patience and discipline when it comes to choosing careers but will rush into big decisions such as getting married.. the 2 biggest personal decisions a man can make that’s not career driven is who you have a kid with and who you gonna get married to.. once again why does he “need” to get married.. if they love each other isn’t that enough for the time being… “love” is underrated, “marriage “ is overrated, why cause 2 strangers can easily get married with zero love for each other, but when you love someone and they love you it’s a genuine experience.. so if both parties is genuine why does they need a piece of metal on their finger to prove their love? That piece of metal don’t guarantee success, longevity, faithfulness, etc.. so why don’t they delay the eventual process just to see if both parties truly are into each other.. I don’t hate marriage, I just think people need to make sure both parties are completely on board and realize this is for the long haul… certain careers they look for yrs of experience b4 elevating certain positions, how about that young man wait another 2 or 3.. if she really love him she would wait unless cough cough

 

[PliggaNease]

Where is he from?

Saraland, AL. Just north of Mobile.

 

[neptunes007]

Im mean at least she fine, he knows she experienced, and she down for the long-haul. She probably stays fit too. Not necessarily a bad look.

Are they still together?

 

[RoadRage]

Well the act of getting married is literally that but here are some other good reasons to get married.

Married men make more money.
Married men have less stress.
Married men live longer.
Married men are healthier.

And the longer you are married the better the advantages.

I never said don't get married, shit, I'm married myself, what I am saying is if your reason for getting married is to lock down pussy, then you already fucked up.

 

[Temujin]

I never said don't get married, shit, I'm married myself, what I am saying is if your reason for getting married is to lock down pussy, then you already fucked up.

When you got married did you lock the pussy down or Nah? lol

Dude I don't care if it's wednesday is your reason for getting married. If you are black in America get married!!! Period we should never spend any reason giving any young man a reason not to get married because they all are stupid. We fearmongor marriage so much that these dudes is waiting until they are 40 and 50 to get married. None of the shit stacks up to the benefits of getting married.

Why?

It is essential that if we are to continue to progress in America we fix the black family problem. Marriage rates in the black community have declined every decade since we could get married.

We have the lowest household income and we have the lowest rates of marriage in america. Who has the highest household income Asians who has the highest rates of marriage Asians. Who lives the longest Asians who has the shortest life expectancy black. Money Health Family all benefit from getting married why is the fear of the invisible hoe so strong that we have the lowest rates of marriage in America.

Marriage is a means of social empowerment in the black community. We have to stop instilling fear in our young kids about the dangers of marriage because they are bullshit. It doesn't help the individual and it sure as hell don't help the community. If our marriage rates were close to those of Asians, we would be as successful in America as they are.

 

[Temujin]

Do pilots get to fly passengers on their first day of training? How about train conductors? It’s a process right? Lots of training, lots of practice, lots of guidelines, you wouldn’t give a top gun mission to a young wet behind ear rookie, you give it to the best of the best.. they don’t let fresh out of high school kids in the nfl cause it’s a process to get into the league and they tell them they need a bare minimum of 2-3 yrs of college or other experience to get in.. so if it’s a process to do certain duties such as certain careers that can change your life, why wouldn’t you go through a thorough process on a big decision that will change your life.. it’s funny how people will accept patience and discipline when it comes to choosing careers but will rush into big decisions such as getting married.. the 2 biggest personal decisions a man can make that’s not career driven is who you have a kid with and who you gonna get married to.. once again why does he “need” to get married.. if they love each other isn’t that enough for the time being… “love” is underrated, “marriage “ is overrated, why cause 2 strangers can easily get married with zero love for each other, but when you love someone and they love you it’s a genuine experience.. so if both parties is genuine why does they need a piece of metal on their finger to prove their love? That piece of metal don’t guarantee success, longevity, faithfulness, etc.. so why don’t they delay the eventual process just to see if both parties truly are into each other.. I don’t hate marriage, I just think people need to make sure both parties are completely on board and realize this is for the long haul… certain careers they look for yrs of experience b4 elevating certain positions, how about that young man wait another 2 or 3.. if she really love him she would wait unless cough cough

I see you have been contemplating the reasons not to get married a long time my brother. LOL I think you are mistaken thinking everybody loves the same and marries the same. I'm sure your system works for you but marriage is an institution if it's going to apply to millions of couples it aint gonna be the same for everyone. Some people fall in love day one some dudes take longer. But it ain't up to me or you to tell another man how long he should date before he marries a woman because that is truly an individual decision and results may vary.

So If we are going to overgeneralize let's use real data. Men who get married live longer, healthier and have more money. Kids raised in two parent household have better life outcomes. Your fear of marriage failure is irational when compared to the data. Everyone who marries benefits even if it is temporarily.

 

[RAY V.]

With the NIL bread expect to see more of this now

Yep! them Instagram hoes are on the prowl

 

[RoomService]

When you got married did you lock the pussy down or Nah? lol

Dude I don't care if it's wednesday is your reason for getting married. If you are black in America get married!!! Period we should never spend any reason giving any young man a reason not to get married because they all are stupid. We fearmongor marriage so much that these dudes is waiting until they are 40 and 50 to get married. None of the shit stacks up to the benefits of getting married.

Why?

It is essential that if we are to continue to progress in America we fix the black family problem. Marriage rates in the black community have declined every decade since we could get married.

We have the lowest household income and we have the lowest rates of marriage in america. Who has the highest household income Asians who has the highest rates of marriage Asians. Who lives the longest Asians who has the shortest life expectancy black. Money Health Family all benefit from getting married why is the fear of the invisible hoe so strong that we have the lowest rates of marriage in America.

Marriage is a means of social empowerment in the black community. We have to stop instilling fear in our young kids about the dangers of marriage because they are bullshit. It doesn't help the individual and it sure as hell don't help the community. If our marriage rates were close to those of Asians, we would be as successful in America as they are.

Too much logic

 

[tallblacknyc]

I see you have been contemplating the reasons not to get married a long time my brother. LOL I think you are mistaken thinking everybody loves the same and marries the same. I'm sure your system works for you but marriage is an institution if it's going to apply to millions of couples it aint gonna be the same for everyone. Some people fall in love day one some dudes take longer. But it ain't up to me or you to tell another man how long he should date before he marries a woman because that is truly an individual decision and results may vary.

So If we are going to overgeneralize let's use real data. Men who get married live longer, healthier and have more money. Kids raised in two parent household have better life outcomes. Your fear of marriage failure is irational when compared to the data. Everyone who marries benefits even if it is temporarily.

If the concept of a wedding or marriage wasn’t created, do you think you would have come up with this ideology yourself? Are you plagiarizing someone else concept and forcing yourself to follow someone else thoughts? Would you have thought of getting a ring, creating a thing called a wedding dress, having a big ceremony in front of people, having a preacher tell you vows, etc? You keep on talking about marriage but why isn’t them being a relationship and in love not enough? I know of people who didn’t follow American society push for marriage that have had lasting relationships for decades, some even had kids, etc.. as I said why does he have to get “ married” so fast how about enjoying the relationship and eventually doing the inevitable if they choose so…. Your parents didn’t have to do a ceremony in order to prove their love to you or give you a piece of metal on your finger to say you’re their child, if you have siblings you didn’t have to go through a ceremony or put a piece of metal on your fingers to say ya family.. so why must this guy have to do all this to show his love for her especially this fast.. nobody on here needed a ceremony with their blood relative in order to embrace them and have true love.. like I said true genuine love is underrated , you don’t need ceremonies, follow society pressures in order to have a life partner.. there’s no need to rush, as I said just wait a few more yrs to make sure this is genuine and ya can survive temptation and other possible roadblocks/ reasons not to go through it

 

[ORIGINAL NATION]

Guess you would call her a business lady. More power to her.