According to Canton, Ohio health statistics, 65 of the 490 female students at Timken High School are pregnant and 104 of the 586 babies born to Canton residents had mothers between the ages of 11 and 19. And so the cycle of poverty and victimhood begins -- or perhaps it is more accurate to say the cycle continues.
The statistics are not new to us. So familiar are they that we can recite them in our sleep: 69 percent of black children are born out of wedlock. Over 50 percent of black families are headed by a single parent, the overwhelming majority of whom are women. The marriage rate in the black community is 35 percent. The figures are so ingrained in our consciousness that the collapse of the black family has become standard cocktail party conversation.
The problem is that too often the discussion is conducted in the abstract. What do we mean by family? The single mothers of Canton will be families with their children, will they not? We couch our discussions in the generalized rhetoric of “loving parenthood” because we are reluctant to make the value judgment that traditional marriage is preferable! Yet without clarity, all the discussions and statistics become little more than barbershop intellectualizing. So, to be clear: when I talk about strengthening the family, I mean the traditional two-parent family with fathers in the home.
With so many single parent homes, divorced parents, stepparent and step-stepparent combinations, suggesting that the traditional two-parent family ought to be held up as the ideal to which we aspire will not win many friends. Yet, as Bill Cosby travels the country conducting his call-outs, it is just this kind muddy morality he is imploring us to reject and the type of frank talk he is insisting that we have.
Over the last 40 years, our society has been awash in cultural liberalism. Traditional mores have given way to the notion of freedom as the refusal to be bound by anything greater than individual desire -- “if it feels good, do it.” What we are witnessing in the black community is the impact of this loss of moral footing, of exchanging the idea of family principles for family values -- “Different strokes for different folks.” We have made divorce too easy, glorified single parenthood and when it all began to fall apart, looked not to reason and principle but to the administrative state to solve our problems. The result is Canton, Ohio.
There are very valid reasons for replacing the almost heroic status of single mothers with an embrace of abstinence and marriage. Strengthening the marital institution provides stability and safety for women and children, and it socializes men and encourages them to live responsible lives.
Marriage is the most effective anti-poverty program ever created! If a child finishes high school, marries before having children and marries after the age of 20, there is only an eight percent chance of ending up impoverished. Study after study shows that children raised in homes without fathers are more prone to sexual and physical abuse and are more likely to experiment with drugs and sex at an early age. Married women also suffer fewer instances of physical and sexual abuse. Studies also show that married men have lower rates of almost every social ill on which statistics are kept: criminal behavior, crime victimization, unemployment, drug addiction and suicide.
The solution to breaking the cycle may not be easy, but it is not all that complicated. It must certainly begin with a readjustment of our cultural sense and the outright rejection of the relativist ideology that separates sex from love and love from marriage that has hijacked the principle of family and turned it into “whatever floats your boat.”
http://www.blackamericaweb.com/site.aspx/sayitloud/phillips1011
The statistics are not new to us. So familiar are they that we can recite them in our sleep: 69 percent of black children are born out of wedlock. Over 50 percent of black families are headed by a single parent, the overwhelming majority of whom are women. The marriage rate in the black community is 35 percent. The figures are so ingrained in our consciousness that the collapse of the black family has become standard cocktail party conversation.
The problem is that too often the discussion is conducted in the abstract. What do we mean by family? The single mothers of Canton will be families with their children, will they not? We couch our discussions in the generalized rhetoric of “loving parenthood” because we are reluctant to make the value judgment that traditional marriage is preferable! Yet without clarity, all the discussions and statistics become little more than barbershop intellectualizing. So, to be clear: when I talk about strengthening the family, I mean the traditional two-parent family with fathers in the home.
With so many single parent homes, divorced parents, stepparent and step-stepparent combinations, suggesting that the traditional two-parent family ought to be held up as the ideal to which we aspire will not win many friends. Yet, as Bill Cosby travels the country conducting his call-outs, it is just this kind muddy morality he is imploring us to reject and the type of frank talk he is insisting that we have.
Over the last 40 years, our society has been awash in cultural liberalism. Traditional mores have given way to the notion of freedom as the refusal to be bound by anything greater than individual desire -- “if it feels good, do it.” What we are witnessing in the black community is the impact of this loss of moral footing, of exchanging the idea of family principles for family values -- “Different strokes for different folks.” We have made divorce too easy, glorified single parenthood and when it all began to fall apart, looked not to reason and principle but to the administrative state to solve our problems. The result is Canton, Ohio.
There are very valid reasons for replacing the almost heroic status of single mothers with an embrace of abstinence and marriage. Strengthening the marital institution provides stability and safety for women and children, and it socializes men and encourages them to live responsible lives.
Marriage is the most effective anti-poverty program ever created! If a child finishes high school, marries before having children and marries after the age of 20, there is only an eight percent chance of ending up impoverished. Study after study shows that children raised in homes without fathers are more prone to sexual and physical abuse and are more likely to experiment with drugs and sex at an early age. Married women also suffer fewer instances of physical and sexual abuse. Studies also show that married men have lower rates of almost every social ill on which statistics are kept: criminal behavior, crime victimization, unemployment, drug addiction and suicide.
The solution to breaking the cycle may not be easy, but it is not all that complicated. It must certainly begin with a readjustment of our cultural sense and the outright rejection of the relativist ideology that separates sex from love and love from marriage that has hijacked the principle of family and turned it into “whatever floats your boat.”
http://www.blackamericaweb.com/site.aspx/sayitloud/phillips1011