Situation #182 Discuss and debate!!

[onyxfemme]

*Dont ask me how I come up w/ these situation numbers*

Man-Hey babe is it cool if I go out tonight?
Woman-Didnt you go out a few weeks ago?
Man-Yep but I just wanna go kick it...
Woman-Do your thing.

Man leaves at 9:30-10:00pm
Woman wakes up at 1:30 checks phone no calls or messages from her man.

Woman-text-Where are you?
Man-text-On the way home.
Woman-text-Really?
Man-text-Yep
Woman-text-Dont say nothing to me when you get home you fucked up.
Man-text-How?


Man comes home-
Man-whats the problem?
Woman-you call or text everytime why not now?
Man-you said you were going to sleep.
Woman-turn the fucking light off I am going to bed.

Few days later in general conversation-

Woman-so where do you end up going?
Man-I went to X then left and went to Z
Woman-you said you were only going to X??? And what is Z??
Man-Z is a blah blah blah
Woman-Yeah I know because it is always on the radio.
Man-How do you think I got the tickets?
Woman-You had tickets to Z???
Man-I got them at X.........
Woman-Your lying and it's over.


DISCUSS & Debate!!

 

[bigreg2007]

 

[followup]

If dude goes out, why is he calling and texting? Guilty conscience?

 

[HustleHardah]

is that his woman or his mother?

 

[onyxfemme]

Both good points!!

If dude goes out, why is he calling and texting? Guilty conscience?

is that his woman or his mother?

 

[LoneStar29]

 

[Mo-Better]

If I have a steady woman in my life why do I need a night out? Unless..........

 

[Mr MajestiK]

 

[qseal00]

In all reality, if she flipped that time, thats not the first time she flipped. He should have checked her that FIRST TIME and that way they'd be on the same page.

Now whether that meant them not being together b/c she can't handle him going out every now and then or her trusting her man and leaving it at that, it don't matter. They would still be on the same page.

Word to the wise men and women, if your mate flips or gets in your shit behind something trivial, don't let that shit slide, CHECK THEY ASS before it gets out of hand. That way you won't let it get too far before she go psycho-rabbit-in-the-gumbo on your ass.

 

[bigreg2007]

If I have a steady woman in my life why do I need a night out? Unless..........

Your joking, right?

 

[BigUnc]

Good evening Miss(Mrs.) Onyx, Miss Lonestar29 how are you?....Brothers wassup

Situation 182.......my reaction ..............

minor issue(if there is one at all) that gets blown waayyy out of proportion. What else is there to this.

 

[sean69]

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[D-TOWN REP]

is that his woman or his mother?

Exactly

 

[Cleopatra_J]

What kinda woman expects her man to call/text if he is out???

I mean seriously, to expect it?

To react like that? If you suspect someone of lying there has to be a reason ... and his going out is only icing on the cake

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Aight here it go...

I've been in this situation before. I break it down like this...

When I go out I am going out. If you don't trust me to go out and come back to you we don't need to be together.

I will invite you to go to some of the places I go to if you want. Get a feel and a vibe if you want. Don't have to be with me. Go with your girls during the day or the night when I am not there and see for yourself. I won't stop you.

I will invite you to have your own "Girls Night Out". The thing with men is some of the shit we do don't start popping off until around 12 or 1 at night. I may come in at 2 or 3 in the morning but that is because I was out having a good time. If you don't trust me having that time then again we don't need to be together.

I'm not going to appologize for doing nothing and I won't check in while I'm doing nothing. If I'm checking I'm worried about you or worried about me. Either way you should be worried.

 

[onyxfemme]

That 1st pic frightens me

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Good way to look at this!

What kinda woman expects her man to call/text if he is out???

I mean seriously, to expect it?

To react like that? If you suspect someone of lying there has to be a reason ... and his going out is only icing on the cake

Thanks for your honesty and response

Aight here it go...

I've been in this situation before. I break it down like this...

When I go out I am going out. If you don't trust me to go out and come back to you we don't need to be together.

I will invite you to go to some of the places I go to if you want. Get a feel and a vibe if you want. Don't have to be with me. Go with your girls during the day or the night when I am not there and see for yourself. I won't stop you.

I will invite you to have your own "Girls Night Out". The thing with men is some of the shit we do don't start popping off until around 12 or 1 at night. I may come in at 2 or 3 in the morning but that is because I was out having a good time. If you don't trust me having that time then again we don't need to be together.

I'm not going to appologize for doing nothing and I won't check in while I'm doing nothing. If I'm checking I'm worried about you or worried about me. Either way you should be worried.

 

[followup]

If I have a steady woman in my life why do I need a night out? Unless..........

every one needs a night out. Or a day out. Personal time, time with friends. Being hugged up under each other all the time is one of the biggest mistakes I see in relationships. As long as you all respect the rules of your relationship, it should be fine to have a day or night out with the ladies or fellas

 

[mystacarlo]

Thats bullshit, anyone can see she is a controlling bitch and has a simp for a bf, she talkin out the side of her neck, that nigga should have made her sleep on the fuckin couch.

 

[followup]

The issue I go back and forth over is whether he should tell me and also if I should tell him where I'm going with the girls. It's not like I'm going to go spying to meet him there. But it's happened a couple of times where someone would be like "Oh your man was at such and such." And then I be like "Oh really". Not that I care too much, but it looks like I don't know where my man is... I don't know. Most times I don't ask and don't tell...

 

[RAULDK]

beat her

 

[Andeyhollawho]

The issue I go back and forth over is whether he should tell me and also if I should tell him where I'm going with the girls. It's not like I'm going to go spying to meet him there. But it's happened a couple of times where someone would be like "Oh your man was at such and such." And then I be like "Oh really". Not that I care too much, but it looks like I don't know where my man is... I don't know. Most times I don't ask and don't tell...

I wouldn't say don't ask don't tell. What I would say is you should have a general idea and a general respect for your man to know that it may change and it is flexible.

It still comes down to trust. Now if you thought he was going to the store and one of your girls called and said she saw him at the airport headed to Vegas you might need to be a little concerned!

 

[onyxfemme]

Dead

I wouldn't say don't ask don't tell. What I would say is you should have a general idea and a general respect for your man to know that it may change and it is flexible.

It still comes down to trust. Now if you thought he was going to the store and one of your girls called and said she saw him at the airport headed to Vegas you might need to be a little concerned!

 

[followup]

LOL! He said going to Vegas

 

[sean69]

Womens busyboby lose mouth friends.

One of the main causes of relationship failures.

Disposed of my ex because of that shit. It's disgusting and dispicable. ppptuah!*spits*


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[swiftandsilent]

In all reality, if she flipped that time, thats not the first time she flipped. He should have checked her that FIRST TIME and that way they'd be on the same page.

Now whether that meant them not being together b/c she can't handle him going out every now and then or her trusting her man and leaving it at that, it don't matter. They would still be on the same page.

Word to the wise men and women, if your mate flips or gets in your shit behind something trivial, don't let that shit slide, CHECK THEY ASS before it gets out of hand. That way you won't let it get too far before she go psycho-rabbit-in-the-gumbo on your ass.

I have to agree on most points here.

 

[Mo-Better]

every one needs a night out. Or a day out. Personal time, time with friends. Being hugged up under each other all the time is one of the biggest mistakes I see in relationships. As long as you all respect the rules of your relationship, it should be fine to have a day or night out with the ladies or fellas

I agree but there are extenuating circumstances in this story. It reeks of it.

But I'm not saying were spending every minute together just I don't have the need to be hanging out. Trust me when I need my space I get it.

 

[Penancestare]

insecure psycho woman; she can leave.

 

[Famous1]

one of your girls called and said she saw him at the airport headed to Vegas you might need to be a little concerned!

Not to get off topic but.... what the fuck is up with that shit? Sista's callin other sista's to tell them "girl I saw yo man".