Single mothers that are dating.......

[stickyfingerz]

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http://thesolsurvivor.podomatic.com/entry/2010-06-09T12_08_59-07_00

some real shit for women to consider............

sorry about the embed..... i tried....lol..... dont know which code to use....

 

[mo_snitching]

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[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I myself don't know how to even formulate the thought that some other male can be in my house. In my husbands house, that my husband built with his hands. These rooms, this bed. Our shower. All that is his. He put it there. He left his being, his energy in this house. I can't fathom some other male coming in here and trying to claim it as his own.

I can't fathom my children being around some other male. Hopping up in his lap. Even being around that guy. And spirits preserve my sanity at the thought of my kids calling aanother man daddy. It turns my stomach.

I'd never be able to reconcile that. Any of it. I'd never be able to justify that to my husbands spirit. I'd never be able to sit here and place my children in the hands of another male. Have them even around another male like that. I haven't spent 20 years with this guy. I don't know what he's capable of.

I don't know what his mindstate is. I don't know how many other little girls or boys he's fondled. I don't know what deep secrets he has lurking in his mind.

So yes i'll say it. I don't believe women with children should be with another man. I know they DO. Of course i know they do. But i don't think it's something they should do. To me it's just something you take as a loss. And i understand the lonliness factor. I understand how powerful it is to such a social creature that women are. But i can't make that fit in my head that this person COULD possibly harm my children and i ALLOWED THEM INTO MY HOME. I practically fed my children to this creature. And then on top of that i've got to kill this thing and move the kids out of their home, the 1 their father built for them. And move them to another country now so mommy doesn't have to go to prison in this unjust ass country.

I can't imagine having to look into my harmed childrens eyes and have them look at me and know how i failed them. How i chose my own feelings, and wants over theirs.

And then the emotional trauma of course of never having the male stability. I vowed there will be no male in this house that these kids are not related too and haven't known since forever. And even the ones they do know they're never alone with at THAT, besides poppop and Great Uncle.

 

[sherminator]

I myself don't know how to even formulate the thought that some other male can be in my house. In my husbands house, that my husband built with his hands. These rooms, this bed. Our shower. All that is his. He put it there. He left his being, his energy in this house. I can't fathom some other male coming in here and trying to claim it as his own.

I can't fathom my children being around some other male. Hopping up in his lap. Even being around that guy. And spirits preserve my sanity at the thought of my kids calling aanother man daddy. It turns my stomach.

I'd never be able to reconcile that. Any of it. I'd never be able to justify that to my husbands spirit. I'd never be able to sit here and place my children in the hands of another male. Have them even around another male like that. I haven't spent 20 years with this guy. I don't know what he's capable of.

I don't know what his mindstate is. I don't know how many other little girls or boys he's fondled. I don't know what deep secrets he has lurking in his mind.

So yes i'll say it. I don't believe women with children should be with another man. I know they DO. Of course i know they do. But i don't think it's something they should do. To me it's just something you take as a loss. And i understand the lonliness factor. I understand how powerful it is to such a social creature that women are. But i can't make that fit in my head that this person COULD possibly harm my children and i ALLOWED THEM INTO MY HOME. I practically fed my children to this creature. And then on top of that i've got to kill this thing and move the kids out of their home, the 1 their father built for them. And move them to another country now so mommy doesn't have to go to prison in this unjust ass country.

I can't imagine having to look into my harmed childrens eyes and have them look at me and know how i failed them. How i chose my own feelings, and wants over theirs.

And then the emotional trauma of course of never having the male stability. I vowed there will be no male in this house that these kids are not related too and haven't known since forever. And even the ones they do know they're never alone with at THAT, besides poppop and Great Uncle.

Hmmm I'm not sure how to approach it but at the end of the day it is some great men out there hell if it wasn't for my step grandfather I would not be half the man I am today I owe my sense of fashion , justice and many other traits to him. I feel where your coming from though, just doesn't feel right, but I'm sure if he were here to talk to you he would not want you lonely, take it from a man that had no father I would have killed for a dad in my house to guide me to bounce things off of, hell just kick it with and watch a game with, and to further push my point in the immortal words of Chris rock yea a woman can raise a child by herself doesn't mean she should do it, there are a lot of great men out there who would not only love you but love your children as well, no your not going to know a guy for twenty years but that does not mean he is less worthy and forth right in providing/caring for you and yours. At the end of the day I know a simple conversation on bgol is not going to change your mind but look at it as food for thought. It's not about bringing a stranger into a house that your former husband built it's about a man being their with like minded thoughts being there to share in the burdens and joys of your life, its about him being there to help raise your children and give them discipline and guidance when needed, dare I say it, humbly, it would be selfish not to seek it

 

[onyxfemme]

who bumped mailboxpimps alias? And I know for fact it is him

 

[sherminator]

who bumped mailboxpimps alias? And I know for fact it is him

i bumped it because I read Legacy Infinities post and felt I needed to respond but if your referring to me I am not that self hating nigga mailbox pimp

 

[onyxfemme]

No babe I know your not him-but the original thread starter is indeed Mailboxpimp. Sorry for the confusion.

i bumped it because I read Legacy Infinities post and felt I needed to respond but if your referring to me I am not that self hating nigga mailbox pimp

 

[mailboxpimp]

who bumped mailboxpimps alias? And I know for fact it is him

im the only me here!!!!!!! I TURNDE SON ON TO BGOL.......BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT ...HOW OR WHY IT WOULD MATTER I DONT KNOW... I HAVE ANOTHER USER NAME BUT ITS NOT STICKY...BUT GOOD TRY....

i bumped it because I read Legacy Infinities post and felt I needed to respond but if your referring to me I am not that self hating nigga mailbox pimp

YOU DONT KNOW SHIT ABOUT ME...SO YOU COULDNT POSSIBLY TELL ME OR ANYONE ELSE HOW I FEEL ABOUT ME.... WHAT WOULD BE THE POINT IN HATING ON OR HATING MYSELF????... IVE NEVER BEEN WHAT YOU'VE BEEN THRU... I LOVE ME DONT LIKE FAGS & DYKES....IJS...

 

[tuckdog]

^^^ Oh, he's over here now? Good, this is where he belongs. Ladies, you need your eyebrows done just right? This is the man to holla at! He may try and bag your boyfriend though...

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

im the only me here!!!!!!! I TURNDE SON ON TO BGOL.......BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT ...HOW OR WHY IT WOULD MATTER I DONT KNOW... I HAVE ANOTHER USER NAME BUT ITS NOT STICKY...BUT GOOD TRY....



YOU DONT KNOW SHIT ABOUT ME...SO YOU COULDNT POSSIBLY TELL ME OR ANYONE ELSE HOW I FEEL ABOUT ME.... WHAT WOULD BE THE POINT IN HATING ON OR HATING MYSELF????... IVE NEVER BEEN WHAT YOU'VE BEEN THRU... I LOVE ME DONT LIKE FAGS & DYKES....IJS...

Ohhh what a tangled web we weave....

And for the record............I CALLED IT!!!

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Hmmm I'm not sure how to approach it but at the end of the day it is some great men out there hell if it wasn't for my step grandfather I would not be half the man I am today I owe my sense of fashion , justice and many other traits to him. I feel where your coming from though, just doesn't feel right, but I'm sure if he were here to talk to you he would not want you lonely, take it from a man that had no father I would have killed for a dad in my house to guide me to bounce things off of, hell just kick it with and watch a game with, and to further push my point in the immortal words of Chris rock yea a woman can raise a child by herself doesn't mean she should do it, there are a lot of great men out there who would not only love you but love your children as well, no your not going to know a guy for twenty years but that does not mean he is less worthy and forth right in providing/caring for you and yours. At the end of the day I know a simple conversation on bgol is not going to change your mind but look at it as food for thought. It's not about bringing a stranger into a house that your former husband built it's about a man being their with like minded thoughts being there to share in the burdens and joys of your life, its about him being there to help raise your children and give them discipline and guidance when needed, dare I say it, humbly, it would be selfish not to seek it

Awww. Yes. The BENEFITS of the grandpops. I should make a thread about this, thanks for the idea. Granddads need more credit too come to think of it. I lovvvvvvvvvvvvved my grandad.

But as for me? I understand what you're saying. But there's no way this could happen. This family revered my husband. My older kids like myself see males as they are. We see their multitude of faults and compare them to their dads.

If this was 1958 and you said that to me? I'd be asking YOU to marry to me. But this isn't 1958. The men aren't like they were in 1958. The concept of family doesn't exist to most men. The men in this family like Mo-Better i was speaking to earlier. Are not the same. They're not of the same calibre as the rregular guys you meet out there.

Raised off of loyalty Honor and Good Merits.

But i hear you. Most other women i would agree. But my views are pretty stringent. Thanks for taking the time to reply though. And you gave me a thread idea.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Another thing i wanted to say though, if you have a solid family structure.....of men who knew your dad. That kind of negates the need for a man in the house as well.

I've got a brother in law that lives with me. My brother who is here 6 days out the week. On this block lives a grown male cousin, their grandfather, and their great uncle.

Solid network of men. I don't know what i'd say if i didn't have them really.

 

[baboss2212]

rob iz stickyfingaz jus check out his ock

 

[CT's Finest]

Another thing i wanted to say though, if you have a solid family structure.....of men who knew your dad. That kind of negates the need for a man in the house as well.

I've got a brother in law that lives with me. My brother who is here 6 days out the week. On this block lives a grown male cousin, their grandfather, and their great uncle.

Solid network of men. I don't know what i'd say if i didn't have them really.

And as long as that is in tact, your kids will get the balance they need. They have male and female influences. They're all good.

 

[sherminator]

No babe I know your not him-but the original thread starter is indeed Mailboxpimp. Sorry for the confusion.

Ok no doubt ma

Awww. Yes. The BENEFITS of the grandpops. I should make a thread about this, thanks for the idea. Granddads need more credit too come to think of it. I lovvvvvvvvvvvvved my grandad.

But as for me? I understand what you're saying. But there's no way this could happen. This family revered my husband. My older kids like myself see males as they are. We see their multitude of faults and compare them to their dads.

If this was 1958 and you said that to me? I'd be asking YOU to marry to me. But this isn't 1958. The men aren't like they were in 1958. The concept of family doesn't exist to most men. The men in this family like Mo-Better i was speaking to earlier. Are not the same. They're not of the same calibre as the rregular guys you meet out there.

Raised off of loyalty Honor and Good Merits.

But i hear you. Most other women i would agree. But my views are pretty stringent. Thanks for taking the time to reply though. And you gave me a thread idea.

I can respect that it seems your situation is way different than I thought it is always good to have a network to give your children balance, but it's also good to find love ma it's a wonderful thing but keep doing what you do I'm sure your family is fine

 

[onyxfemme]

You may want to back up and remember who you talking to....Yes I think this is one of your aliases or someone really close to you because I saw this SAME TOPIC ON YOUR BLOG! Oooh you know what blog I am talking about, so dont act brand new. Because I keep your BLOG under wraps because if the rest of BGOL knew about it, it would be game over for real.....

im the only me here!!!!!!! I TURNDE SON ON TO BGOL.......BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT ...HOW OR WHY IT WOULD MATTER I DONT KNOW... I HAVE ANOTHER USER NAME BUT ITS NOT STICKY...BUT GOOD TRY....



YOU DONT KNOW SHIT ABOUT ME...SO YOU COULDNT POSSIBLY TELL ME OR ANYONE ELSE HOW I FEEL ABOUT ME.... WHAT WOULD BE THE POINT IN HATING ON OR HATING MYSELF????... IVE NEVER BEEN WHAT YOU'VE BEEN THRU... I LOVE ME DONT LIKE FAGS & DYKES....IJS...

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

You may want to back up and remember who you talking to....Yes I think this is one of your aliases or someone really close to you because I saw this SAME TOPIC ON YOUR BLOG! Oooh you know what blog I am talking about, so dont act brand new. Because I keep your BLOG under wraps because if the rest of BGOL knew about it, it would be game over for real.....