Single Guys....I feel kinda bad for'em

I feel where Clarke is coming from. There aren't too many women that take pride in these things, and even if they do it's not like we can't do these things for ourselves. It would be nice if a woman offered to do these things without then reiterating (holding it over a dude's head) that they did it over and over again.

Like I said before:

Being single is not bad. Like you agreed to disagree with me about loneliness, or rather better put, being alone, I feel it is an integral part in the development of a male becoming a man.

If you ever think about indigenous people, especially our ancestors, the men would go on vision quests and walk abouts for days, sometimes weeks. They had to hunt, kill, cook, clean, live off the land and provide their own for the duration of these tests of manhood. It's only in modern times that man has become accustom to the care of a woman 24/7.

My grandfather taught me how to cook, shoot a gun, box, sew, fix cars, garden and suture, and clean, even though my grandmother did most of the cooking and cleaning.

My point is that I don't think you can be truly appreciative of a woman doing those things you mentioned Legacy if that man hasn't experienced being alone/single himself.

As far as companionship and intimacy, I mean you can find that in a woman without being married to them. It's just how long the woman is willing to be content with that set up. Most aren't down, but men certainly are. IMHO, at that stage, you may as well become married, but to alleviate all stress, get you a will and a prenup and you both will have a peace of mind...


But most women would NOT want to do the last phrase I bolded and highlighted in red...:smh:

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'Nuff Said!
 
If you think the main benefit of getting married is to have someone cook and clean for you, I agree. Your ass should stay single and sleep with jump offs for pussy. You have no business being ANYBODY'S husband :smh:

In your case, yes. Because obviously you are going through something to have posted that lame, random-ass comment in this thread. You emotional issues have nothing to do with the OP's question. All this 'woe is me' mess is not cutting it. A man is supposed to be a man.

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Ooohhh, I am so hurt!:(:rolleyes:

One more time, there is no benefit that outweighs the cost of marriage to men! NONE!
All of your slick comments won't change that fact! Oh, by the way, manning up to SOME OF you means nothing more than "being a gullible-ass herb"to think shit is so sweet, I'd and others would just let our guards down and remove our sense of self preservation just because you say so???

Men man up in many different ways. Most men nowadays are ultimately deciding that "dems just plain ol' ordinary crackers," and that a real man first stays true to himself AND his NEEDS if he is responsible for none but his self!

No real man wants to deal with a childish, selfish, egotistical, lazy type of woman who has a perverse sense of entitlement.

With your dour attitude Ms Followup, you'd better smarten up and read the tea leaves out here! Please hold on to what you got, IF you even have someone!
 
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The OP started the thread with a suggestive title that would draw folks in (typical thread starting strategy, nothing new here) and pretty clearly stated her OPINION about the situation (made sense to me where she was coming from) and asked the fellas to chime in. This aint "War of the Roses" but ya'll go ahead and draw whatever conclusions or inferences of intent that makes you feel good and while you're :smh::smh::smh:-ing, here...

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the original post sounded like pity towards folks that were self-sufficient, or those who can't miss what they never had.
if you think that's terrycloth soft, so be it, difference of opinion.:dance:
 
Is this thread the reason I havent seen my homey on here in a few days??? LI where the hell are you???:confused:
 
Well, last night I was working and dude was home and I had bought some of those ready to bake cookies the raw dough kind and I told him there are clear instructions just follow them and even told him about preheating the oven and all that. So I get home and see this big mass of still raw cookie dough on the counter and just started :lol:
He didn't realize you had to separate the individual cookies :smh:

So anyway I was wondering how he made it on his own if he can't even make heat and eat cookies in a package!
 
the original post sounded like pity towards folks that were self-sufficient, or those who can't miss what they never had.
if you think that's terrycloth soft, so be it, difference of opinion.:dance:
why would someone have pity for someone else who's self sufficient?:confused: doesn't make much sense to me and that's not how I read the OP but ok ...
 
the original post sounded like pity towards folks that were self-sufficient, or those who can't miss what they never had.
if you think that's terrycloth soft, so be it, difference of opinion.:dance:
:smh:

The first few responses were 'Why should we miss it when we can do it for ourselves?'. I agreed with that and my first post shows it. But when people start trying to bash and say 'I do it because black women can't or won't', it's a different story. That's what the tissue is for.
 
I don't know how old are you but I think it is somehow attractive that you still have women out there that would feel sorry for men who are doing domestic duties.
 
Well thanks for all the posts you guys had some interesting views. And i admit i had a momentary lapse i guess. I know people in this day and age should be single. And there's no benefit for you guys to marry. I agree. I think i was just missing my husband and being emotional.

I will say this though. lol he hated doing all those things and liked having me around. :yes:
 
My mother made sure that i would never have this problem... I can cook better than any woman that i have ever dealt with.... I clean & do my own laundry..... Actually you gotta be on the a list & in the top 5 to cook for me ... Especially if im not there when you cookin.....the sock fairy lives @ my house... He also brought the underwear fairy with him.... My shit keeps on disappearing!!!!!!!!!!!! Wtf???? I only had 1 gf & 1 jumpoff that cooked for me.... My cousin do all the shit you talkin about for her husband...... They have a huge ass house!!!!! No house keeper..... She cooks everrrrrrrrythaaang!!!! Bakes, laundry...... & wks...... Dude dont do shit!!! But come home from wk...... He only goes to the kitchen to get something to drink or snack on...... His moms cant even cook in the kitchen.....

maybe i'm just ovulating right now...and i'm pretty smoked up. But why i got told by this single guy that he had to go iron his clothes(i assume for work tomorrow). And earlier another friend fella of mine was telling me how he had to make himself spaghetti. And when i heard this i was just like "awwwww".

I felt bad for them. They had nobody to care for'em.

So, how do you guys do it? What do you tell yourselves? Have you ever experienced a woman doing those types of things for you? If you did, did you miss them when they were gone?

I cooked just about every meal my husband had for years. Ironed his clothes. Washed his clothes. Magically made his socks appear. Lol "they're just there. The magical sock fairy puts new socks in my drawer." :hmm:

And i remember his friends would always be like, "i wish i had that." so when you no longer have it what's there?

Is it a deep longing? Is it something you just sort of? Push to the back of your head?

Married guys how does it feel from having to do those things yourself to not?
 
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