Secrets....

[ladyscorpio]

Situation

You have just been given some confidential information, or a friend has shared a personal secret with you. Your partner asks you a question that could potentially mean, you'd have to reveal this information that was given to you in confidence. Would you feel obligated to tell your partner with whom you have no secrets or do you remain the loyal friend and keep that confidence?
And if you reveal those secrets should your partner trust you anyways. I mean if you could reveal something that was said to you in confidence why should they trust you after that?

 

[SinaminDelite]

A secret is a secret. I've known my friends for decades, and if they've trusted me enough to tell me something, I would keep it to myself. If it was something that I know will definitely harm them or someone else, I MIGHT share it with another close friend so we can figure out something. But I wouldn't tell the person I'm in a relationship with. It's ultimately none of their business unless it will affect them directly. I'd try to avoid the conversation with him, but I won't lie either. If he asks, I'll tell him something to the effect of "I know someone doing XYZ, but I'm not at liberty to put their business out there. If it were you, you wouldn't want me telling anyone either." If he don't like it, oh well; my friends have been around forever, and they're not going anywhere.

 

[kjxxxx]

Situation

You have just been given some confidential information, or a friend has shared a personal secret with you. Your partner asks you a question that could potentially mean, you'd have to reveal this information that was given to you in confidence. Would you feel obligated to tell your partner with whom you have no secrets or do you remain the loyal friend and keep that confidence?
And if you reveal those secrets should your partner trust you anyways. I mean if you could reveal something that was said to you in confidence why should they trust you after that?

I am always of the belief that people should not share everything. There are information that when shared will make the relationship worse than better and for the good of the relationship it shouldn't be shared. If your friend shared something with you and you believe it's information that would do more harm than good if your partner knows then don't tell them. If it is information that will hurt your friend if your partner knows and it has nothing to do with your partner then it's none of his/her damn business. He should trust you enough to know that if you decide the information shouldn't be shared with him/her to leave it alone.

I don't want to know everything my girl knows. Sometimes its some bullshit petty shit that I just don't want in my brain.

 

[SWATLANTA]

My word is my bond. Once I tell you (or you tell me) it's between us, my lips are sealed !

 

[shanebp1978]

I know I had a thread about secrets in here!!

Naw, for real though. Keep it to yourself. Don't tell no one. Don't make anyone carry your secrets, don't carry anyone's.

If it's really a " Secret ".

 

[ladyscorpio]

A secret is a secret. I've known my friends for decades, and if they've trusted me enough to tell me something, I would keep it to myself. If it was something that I know will definitely harm them or someone else, I MIGHT share it with another close friend so we can figure out something. But I wouldn't tell the person I'm in a relationship with. It's ultimately none of their business unless it will affect them directly. I'd try to avoid the conversation with him, but I won't lie either. If he asks, I'll tell him something to the effect of "I know someone doing XYZ, but I'm not at liberty to put their business out there. If it were you, you wouldn't want me telling anyone either." If he don't like it, oh well; my friends have been around forever, and they're not going anywhere.

Precisely sis, I would never reveal anything that was said to me in confidence. That kinda makes the friendship null and void.

My word is my bond. Once I tell you (or you tell me) it's between us, my lips are sealed !

I wanna tell you a secret... uhhh ooops damn I got a lil distracted sowwy

I know I had a thread about secrets in here!!

Naw, for real though. Keep it to yourself. Don't tell no one. Don't make anyone carry your secrets, don't carry anyone's.

If it's really a " Secret ".

Sorry Shane I forgot that you had that thread. My apologies. I am with you on your statement though.

 

[onyxfemme]

Ya'll gonna be mad at me but....I always confide in my husbad. I know that if a secret someone has told me is waying me down, I can tell him and it is left w/ him. He knows stuff that I wouldnt tell another soul not even my mother.
So yes I would tell my partner/husband.

 

[bigirl]

I tell nothing to anyone.

 

[SWATLANTA]

I wanna tell you a secret... uhhh ooops damn I got a lil distracted sowwy

You can trust me...
*licks lips*

 

[Noir]

Ya'll gonna be mad at me but....I always confide in my husbad. I know that if a secret someone has told me is waying me down, I can tell him and it is left w/ him. He knows stuff that I wouldnt tell another soul not even my mother.
So yes I would tell my partner/husband.

I understand and agree with you in a sense. If Person A is telling a friend a secret, and that friend has a spouse/significant other, then Person A should not expect the friend to keep the secret alone, but may tell the spouse/SO. However, the spouse/SO should keep the secret as well.

Depending on the secret or dilemma Person A has, and if it weighs on the friend (who might be thinking some action is required or they may need to break the secret to protect Person A), who else would they get advice from but their spouse/SO?

 

[INVICTUS3RD]

HERE IS A SAYING THAT I LIVE AND DIE BY. IT KEEPS ME IN THE GOOD GRACES OF ALL THAT I DEAL WITH IN MY CYPHER AND KEEPS ME FROM LOOKING OVER MY SHOULDERS AS I WALK THESE COLD AND UNFORGIVING STREETS OF NEW YORK CITY:

"WHAT IS SAID AMONGST MEN, STAYS AMONGST MEN."

 

[cameo]

man, secrets mean , "TO DA FUCKIN GRAVE WIT IT" Don't tell it, period !

 

[bigirl]

I understand and agree with you in a sense. If Person A is telling a friend a secret, and that friend has a spouse/significant other, then Person A should not expect the friend to keep the secret alone, but may tell the spouse/SO. However, the spouse/SO should keep the secret as well.

Depending on the secret or dilemma Person A has, and if it weighs on the friend (who might be thinking some action is required or they may need to break the secret to protect Person A), who else would they get advice from but their spouse/SO?

and what happens when the "spouse" becomes their "ex" and is on some spiteful and vindictive shit?

 

[KW13537]

Unless it's a life or death situation that affects my family, it goes with me to the grave.

 

[ladyscorpio]

Ya'll gonna be mad at me but....I always confide in my husbad. I know that if a secret someone has told me is waying me down, I can tell him and it is left w/ him. He knows stuff that I wouldnt tell another soul not even my mother.
So yes I would tell my partner/husband.

Never be mad at you baby girl. You can only do what is right for you yes.If a secret someone told me was weighing me down I'd have to talk it over with the person that told me the secret in the first place. Explain how it was causing me to feel. Then let them know that I was gonna bounce it off my partner for insight. Only if it were ok with them.

You can trust me...
*licks lips*

damn....I get the feeling you need help with those lips eh hem I could be wrong but I highly doubt that. I wanna do a lot more that just trust you mr Swatlanta

 

[DarkOne]

Can't be a secret no more if third party is involved.

 

[SWATLANTA]

damn....A.)I get the feeling you need help with those lips eh hem I could be wrong but I highly doubt that. B.)I wanna do a lot more that just trust you mr Swatlanta

A.) You read me like a book, I'd be happy to let you lick them for me, i'll lick yours when you're finished (both sets )...

B.) I believe in giving the Lady what she wants...

 

[Chicutie]

Unless it's a life or death situation that affects my family, it goes with me to the grave.

Me too. I'm good at keeping secrets. . but I am very reluctant to share mine with others. . Unless it's really important advice I need, I keep my own secrets to my self.

 

[ladyscorpio]

A.) You read me like a book, I'd be happy to let you lick them for me, i'll lick yours when you're finished (both sets )...
B.) I believe in giving the Lady what she wants...

Is that all I get to lick? and you can lick me where ever you feel like

so if the lady wants you, you'll give?

 

[SWATLANTA]

Is that all I get to lick? and you can lick me where ever you feel like

I'll give you plenty to lick on, I already know that you are a lady that aims to please her man (a beautiful thing ), and I would like nothing more than to have free reign over what (and where) I could lick on your body. Two people with oral fetishes could be a dangerous combination...

so if the lady wants you, you'll give?

I believe in giving a lady the gift that keeps on giving, and giving...

 

[Pussy Krook]

I don't think 2 people who are in a serious relationship should have secrets.

 

[bigirl]

I don't think 2 people who are in a serious relationship should have secrets.

yeah not your own secrets but somebody elses secrets are different. has not a damn thing to do with the relationship.

 

[DarkCity]

Your spouse should respect the fact that something was told to you in confidence and shouldn't pry to begin with. And if you are not to be trusted with things then you need to let people know upfront . . ."Don't tell me shit that you don't want anyone else to know"

Me personally I don't share secrets or want to know anyone else's so leave me out of it. If you are in some trouble and need some help then let me know what I can do and thats all. I don't need details.

 

[ladyscorpio]

I'll give you plenty to lick on, I already know that you are a lady that aims to please her man (a beautiful thing ), and I would like nothing more than to have free reign over what (and where) I could lick on your body. Two people with oral fetishes could be a dangerous combination...
I believe in giving a lady the gift that keeps on giving, and giving...

damn... i should be ashamed at the thoughts I'm having.... the things I'd......

yeah not your own secrets but somebody elses secrets are different. has not a damn thing to do with the relationship.

Thats what i think as well.

 

[Pussy Krook]

yeah not your own secrets but somebody elses secrets are different. has not a damn thing to do with the relationship.

It doesn't matter. Not like you have to tell your significant other everything but if they ask you shouldn't keep anything from them and no one should expect you to keep anything from them.

 

[Noir]

and what happens when the "spouse" becomes their "ex" and is on some spiteful and vindictive shit?

An excellent point bigirl. Perhaps I should clarify and state that if Person A is telling their friend a secret, then Person A should reasonably expect the friend to confide in their spouse/SO, especially if the couple is close and do not keep things from each other. Yes, there is a risk that the spouse/SO may tell when s/he becomes an "ex", but that is the risk taken in sharing the secret to start.

The best way for Person A to keep a secret is NOT TO SHARE IT WITH ANYONE to begin with. Why share it? Either its:

A) Some problem Person A has and is trying to lessen its burden by sharing it with someone or . . .

B) Something Person A should expect may possibly come out in the future.

 

[DaleMabry]

Ya'll gonna be mad at me but....I always confide in my husbad. I know that if a secret someone has told me is waying me down, I can tell him and it is left w/ him. He knows stuff that I wouldnt tell another soul not even my mother.
So yes I would tell my partner/husband.

Most people do this. That's why people sometimes add, "don't tell anyone...not even your wife / husband..."