Real Talk: Can you be friends with you X
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just to echo the obvious, she's NOT the one who's attached, it's YOU.
I know it's hard to let go sometimes, but you have to, for your own sanity fam
take my approach: if I don't see you, you don't exist. If I do see you, you still don't exist. I don't want to hear or know anything about you, period!
Everything gets deleted. I don't want to be your friend, buddy, confidant, non of that bullshit....
Damn, sound like some dramatic break-ups.
Damn, sound like some dramatic break-ups.
naw
sounds like a man who has principles and took control....
Really? It sounds like hate to me. I dont care either way tho'.
None of that SIMP ass chit chat either:
SIMP: "Awww is your pussy still a lil sore from him slam-fucking you last night?
Her: Yeah it is actually {{giggle giggle}} Hey babe, don't slap it rubb it {giggle}
SIMP: Oh, he's rubbing your ass, right now you say? hmmm well,, wow gee, I guess that my que to leave, bye bye now, talk to you later
Damn, sound like some dramatic break-ups.
Dude just accepted reality and moved on. To be honest thats the best way to do things. Even if you had a great friendship with her, it will never be the same afterwards, move on
Damn, sound like some dramatic break-ups.
hate? because I don't care to live in the past? are you serious?
we live life in stages, being "stuck" in your past WON'T allow you to fully move on to new/better opportunities(just my philosophy, gained from disappointments, pain, truths etc. in my 30 plus years on this earth)
most people are afraid of the unknown, so they always go back to what's comfortable/safe. lovers, friends....if our relationship has exhausted itself, ----->adios....!
don't live in your past, if you want a future. leave the relationship and take the lessons learned
None of that SIMP ass chit chat either:
SIMP: "Awww is your pussy still a lil sore from him slam-fucking you last night?
Her: Yeah it is actually {{giggle giggle}} Hey babe, don't slap it rubb it {giggle}
SIMP: Oh, he's rubbing your ass, right now you say? hmmm well,, wow gee, I guess that my que to leave, bye bye now, talk to you later
yo I have no pics or anything I just need to ask "strangers" if this is possible.
I been with my X girl for 11 years engaged for 3 and then we broke up. We both did foul shit to each other but remained friends.
Needed to ask yall, can you be friends with you X? Can you chill with her knowing she is "dating"
Real talk. I know the clowns will have jokes
Being together 11 years she probably is your best friend. Everybody is different I wouldn't feel like a simp because a lot of times she is probably more worth your casual time then any other female. Just know you will have a problem with your new woman and her new man.
nigga, when you was with her ja rule was a star . eminem didnt even release his first album yet . dre said he would drop chronic 2001 and 2 years after that he would drop detox. there was no g-unit and rick ross was rapping with tight ass la lakers jerseys
yeah could be friends
It figures you would turn it into hip hop. LOL
My daughters mom and I are great friends. We meet when we were about 12 years old, and became great friends. We got together when we were 19 and broke up at 24 years old. Our daughter was born during that time. Anyway we broke up and there was a rough two year period, however we were able to get back on track. 10-11 years since we broke up and she still calls me her best friend. There is no real desire for either of us to get back together, however we are as close as we were when we were kids. I am comfortable seeing and interacting with her and her current boyfriend as she is seeing me with another. Odd, considering we both have never loved another as much as we did each other. Anyway, yeah it can work if you both have a respect for each other which eliminates the sleeping with each other and stuff. We also fully respect one another relationships. When we are both single I might get a call from her at 1am because my favorite movie is on or something. However, when with another we know not to do those things.
After writing all this I wonder did I even answer the right question, I read thread title and that was it.
Anyway, I am pretty much friends to a degree with at least 95% of all the other chicks I have dealt with. Not that we talk all the time, but they are all cool when I do see them or we do contact each other. I say the other 5% would be cool also, just that we lost contact for one reason or the other.
OK, just read through the thread. Yeah man that is not simping, this chick calls me about issues she is having with her boyfriends and what not. Damn I gave her a shoulder throughout her divorce, as someone mentioned after having her in my life for 22 years there is no one whom know me better, and no one knows her better. As odd as it may seem she is my best friend. I would never see her out, ever. A lot of that is based on the fact that we have a child together also, I cannot deny that. My daughter loves the fact that her little sister is welcomed at my house. Her little sister I treat like she is my niece or something, I love the kid. Insecurities and foolishness will not come between us being friends, we had our time and its over... we are cool with that.
After writing all this I wonder did I even answer the right question, I read thread title and that was it.
Anyway, I am pretty much friends to a degree with at least 95% of all the other chicks I have dealt with. Not that we talk all the time, but they are all cool when I do see them or we do contact each other. I say the other 5% would be cool also, just that we lost contact for one reason or the other.
OK, just read through the thread. Yeah man that is not simping, this chick calls me about issues she is having with her boyfriends and what not. Damn I gave her a shoulder throughout her divorce, as someone mentioned after having her in my life for 22 years there is no one whom know me better, and no one knows her better. As odd as it may seem she is my best friend. I would never see her out, ever. A lot of that is based on the fact that we have a child together also, I cannot deny that. My daughter loves the fact that her little sister is welcomed at my house. Her little sister I treat like she is my niece or something, I love the kid. Insecurities and foolishness will not come between us being friends, we had our time and its over... we are cool with that.
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thats real talk
hate? because I don't care to live in the past? are you serious?
we live life in stages, being "stuck" in your past WON'T allow you to fully move on to new/better opportunities(just my philosophy, gained from disappointments, pain, truths etc. in my 30 plus years on this earth)
this is the most intelligent thing i have ever seen you post on this board, i still dont like your bitchass though.
most people are afraid of the unknown, so they always go back to what's comfortable/safe. lovers, friends....if our relationship has exhausted itself, ----->adios....!
don't live in your past, if you want a future. leave the relationship and take the lessons learned
this is the most intelligent thing i have ever seen you post on this board, i still dont like your bitch ass though
. Side note its ironic this was posted today cause i told my ex today that we cant be friends shit hurt but it had to be done
Man, we have been broke up for 2 1/2 years and I have said that 1000s of times
How bout you drop some info on tha bolded first.yo I have no pics or anything I just need to ask "strangers" if this is possible.
I been with my X girl for 11 years engaged for 3 and then we broke up. We both did foul shit to each other but remained friends.
Needed to ask yall, can you be friends with you X? Can you chill with her knowing she is "dating"
Real talk. I know the clowns will have jokes
you can...if youre in a relationship thought you gotta make sure you keep at a distance
My daughters mom and I are great friends. We meet when we were about 12 years old, and became great friends. We got together when we were 19 and broke up at 24 years old. Our daughter was born during that time. Anyway we broke up and there was a rough two year period, however we were able to get back on track. 10-11 years since we broke up and she still calls me her best friend. There is no real desire for either of us to get back together, however we are as close as we were when we were kids. I am comfortable seeing and interacting with her and her current boyfriend as she is seeing me with another. Odd, considering we both have never loved another as much as we did each other. Anyway, yeah it can work if you both have a respect for each other which eliminates the sleeping with each other and stuff. We also fully respect one another relationships. When we are both single I might get a call from her at 1am because my favorite movie is on or something. However, when with another we know not to do those things.
After writing all this I wonder did I even answer the right question, I read thread title and that was it.
Anyway, I am pretty much friends to a degree with at least 95% of all the other chicks I have dealt with. Not that we talk all the time, but they are all cool when I do see them or we do contact each other. I say the other 5% would be cool also, just that we lost contact for one reason or the other.
OK, just read through the thread. Yeah man that is not simping, this chick calls me about issues she is having with her boyfriends and what not. Damn I gave her a shoulder throughout her divorce, as someone mentioned after having her in my life for 22 years there is no one whom know me better, and no one knows her better. As odd as it may seem she is my best friend. I would never see her out, ever. A lot of that is based on the fact that we have a child together also, I cannot deny that. My daughter loves the fact that her little sister is welcomed at my house. Her little sister I treat like she is my niece or something, I love the kid. Insecurities and foolishness will not come between us being friends, we had our time and its over... we are cool with that.
You answered the question. This seems like my relationship with my X. (and we dont have kids) Through the 11 year relationship we were glued to the hip. That made us best friends. I guess you can.
You right. That the battle within my mind. And its hard for her to move on. This shit is crazy
first of all that chick in your sig is crazy
WOW!!!!Nah, that shit needs to be burried. We both went too far. (Ill just leave it at that)
My daughters mom and I are great friends. We meet when we were about 12 years old, and became great friends. We got together when we were 19 and broke up at 24 years old. Our daughter was born during that time. Anyway we broke up and there was a rough two year period, however we were able to get back on track. 10-11 years since we broke up and she still calls me her best friend. There is no real desire for either of us to get back together, however we are as close as we were when we were kids. I am comfortable seeing and interacting with her and her current boyfriend as she is seeing me with another. Odd, considering we both have never loved another as much as we did each other. Anyway, yeah it can work if you both have a respect for each other which eliminates the sleeping with each other and stuff. We also fully respect one another relationships. When we are both single I might get a call from her at 1am because my favorite movie is on or something. However, when with another we know not to do those things.
After writing all this I wonder did I even answer the right question, I read thread title and that was it.
Anyway, I am pretty much friends to a degree with at least 95% of all the other chicks I have dealt with. Not that we talk all the time, but they are all cool when I do see them or we do contact each other. I say the other 5% would be cool also, just that we lost contact for one reason or the other.
OK, just read through the thread. Yeah man that is not simping, this chick calls me about issues she is having with her boyfriends and what not. Damn I gave her a shoulder throughout her divorce, as someone mentioned after having her in my life for 22 years there is no one whom know me better, and no one knows her better. As odd as it may seem she is my best friend. I would never see her out, ever. A lot of that is based on the fact that we have a child together also, I cannot deny that. My daughter loves the fact that her little sister is welcomed at my house. Her little sister I treat like she is my niece or something, I love the kid. Insecurities and foolishness will not come between us being friends, we had our time and its over... we are cool with that.
you sure you picked the right one fam?
that sound like wifey to me...
..this has been my experience as well. Three in particular I feel have known the most about me in my adult life so their friendship/advice/feedback at this point in my life means a lot to me. It's not 'all good' immediately after the breakup (obv), but Im saying, after time has passed to get over the feelings, I've been able to have great friendships with them.
Funny, I just broke up with my girl last week (after a yr and a half) and I'm trying to navigate that same shit. I think how you handle it also depends on if the break up was more someones else fault or decision than the other. Tryna let that time pass so hopefully we can move onto a connection on that level. She aint tryna hear that being 'just my friend' (platonic) shit right now though. So if it doesnt pan like that, oh well..
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